I am torn... I am disgusted by the way they met and how they broke up their families, but everyone deserves to be happy. I think it is unfair to wish for the demise of this marriage because Liam and Stella will be hurt. I hope that Dean and Tori have both grown up and are now better people than they were when they first met. Good luck to them and their new family!

My partner and I enjoy watching your show and as a gay couple w/o children I commend you and Dean on your parenting. But, also as a man in my late 40's I feel for Stella and Liam as I feel children need Grandparents in there lives too. My wish would be that somehow/someway you and your Mother could bury this hatchet for the sake of Stella and Liam. Don't let this go on. I would love nothing more than to be a Grandparent and love my grandchildren with all that I have.

OMG It is so incredibly sad to see so many horrible attacks on Tori, Dean and even the children! Just because people are in show business and have public blog pages, doesn't give someone the right to judge them, say unbelieveable things about them. No wonder Tori has so much anxiety!
This family has a reality show. If you want to say hurtfull things, start with your own life.
You don't know the truth about this family. Idiots
Tori and Dean stay cool and kiss those babies for me.

Hey tori i love your show just wannaed to know how old is stella and lima and i love you dean tori!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I really love you and dean. what a lucky person you are even though you stated out on the wrong foot i wish you all luck and happiness. ignore the haters they have no sense FROM SMALL TOWN PALESTINE TEXAS WISHING I WAS YOU OR AT LEAST KNOWING A LOVE LIKE YOURS AND DEAN'S MINE DIDN'T WORK BUT I DID GET LUCKY AND HAD FIVE KIDO'S WITH THIS MAN

Hi Tori...I think you look great and healthy. You have always been a twig and I was just watching the movie when you and Dean met and you were just as thin back then. You must have great genes! Turning 35 and facing a divorce with no children opened my eyes. I too always envisioned my perfect life and yet here I am. I would never condone dating a married man but there are extarordinary cir #&@% stances and you and Dean are meant for each other so I am glad you chose your happiness over what others think and judge. In the end you did what is best for you. I dont think you are a homebreaker but life happens..I am starting to see this. If my prince charming came along in the same situation, I would make the same decision. Keep up the good work and enjoy your happiness!!!

Tori I read both of your books and have watched your show from the first season and you are truly an inspiration for me. I have always been on the fence as to whether I wanted children because I am very much a career woman but you showed that you can balance children, work and a marriage and be successful(while also doing so in style!). Thank you for showing me that anything is possible.Keep being you and being true to yourself, and don't let crazy fans or the tabloids ruin you or your family. Keep doing what your doing woman! God Bless.

Tori after watching you mourn Mimi's loss and how much she still means to you, I was wondering if I could help you remember her. I own a monument company in Canada and was wondering if you have a memorial for Mimi. We make a number of pet memorials every year that people will put in their yard or garden. I would like to create something for you that would let you have just a little more closure to the loss of Mimi LaRue. Please let me know if I can help. My family business has been operating for 133 years. Thanks and best of luck with your new book.

I watched your shows and watched them over and over again. I also have read both of your books and I was hooked within the first chapter. I look up to you as a role model, you are beautiful and seem to be such a nice person, and the way you have raised you kids on the show. Liam and Stella are so cute (: You and Dean seem to be amazing parents. Your kids are very lucky to have you has their mom

Hey Tori, love your show. Love your kids - they are beautiful. I can tell you have a big heart. From what I have read you had a wonderful father - I lost my father a year ago and I miss him everyday. Hope u can resolve things with your Mom. Your children need a Grandmother and we all need our mother. Keep your chin up - I like seeing you in the made for tv movies. xoxo

we need you to come back soon because we miss your cut little family. the blogs are hating you guys because they wish they have what you have! i watch all your shows when they come on, and watch 90210!! love the show and want to see more of you and that great family. i also watched the show with dean's ex and she needs to get her self together and not worry about what happened in the past. dean is a great father to those kids even the oldest child and you are too!! can't wait to see more of tori and dean.

I am anxiously waiting the new season. I can't wait to see how big Stella and Liam have gotten..I would of to see the two of you do another music video the first one was so darn cute. Regardless of what the papers say your fans our very true and loyal to you.

Tori and Dean, I do so much enjoy your show, it kind of reminds me of when my children were young. Never a dull moment. Wishing you all the best, continued success in your career and in your marriage. Tori, please do eat and keep your strength up. Hope you make a success of your marriage through all the attention and criticism you have to endure.

Dean's Movie Always and Forever!!! Fantastic 5 stars...You are blessed and loved I can see it in his face.....God bless you and your beautiful family

What is the new season coming back on>?? I can not wait for the new season to come back on!!!!

While I personally do not approve of adultery, I wonder why people feel so entitled to say so many venomous things about someone they have never met. Leave the people alone, watch the show if you choose, that is your option. Enough already!

Tori is a homewrecker who didn't give a crap a bout Deans wife or 2 children. She thought shes a Spelling so she can have anything or anybody she wants. Her father was sick about what she did to another woman's family with children. Everyone knows Dean is a slime. They expected different from Tori. Tori is trash. MJ Eustace is well rid of Dean and Tori will getr what she DESERVES!!

Mary Jo is gorgeous, sexy and very intelligent. She's very witty. Tori looks and acts like a mess compare to her.

It was nice meeting you.

This comment is also for Vicki.

Negativity & jealously is a real bitch !

Hello there!!!! I'm from Toronto like Dean is. And I can totally relate to loving the Snow and the beauty here in Canada!!!

Anyways I was wondering if you sell your jewelery is here in Canada Shopping Channel? The Shopping Channel? I would like to pay in Cnd dollars instead of US Dollars.

Lastly your doing a great job. Don't worry or care what people say.

Your show is on here on Slice Channel. I think Dean would know it. I don't have the American Channel here.

That's it for now!

Take care!

Hi Tori,
I don't know if you read the comments or not but I just want to say I love your show and I think your doing a great job juggling your career and a mom to two beautiful children. I think your a beautiful person inside and out and I can't believe your going into season 5 of your show, Keep up the great work and God Bless!!

I love your show. I can't wait til you are back on. You are what family is all about.
Don't listen to negative people. They are small minded and most likely miserable about everything.
Your show is the hilight of my week.
take care,

Tori, I just read the letter from Bonnie Fuller to your Mom. It was a very moving and heart wrenching letter and I agree with EVERY word of it. I hope your Mom takes her advice. If she doesn't, she will truly be sorry one day. Sometimes a parent and child just need to start over no matter how much hurt or misunderstanding there has been in their relationship. If you both TRULY do love one another, you just need to accept that you have differences and don't waste any more time fighting over the past. If you keep looking back at the past, you will not be able to see and enjoy your future. I hope both you and your Mom realize this soon! I love your show and cannot wait for the next season!!!! Best of luck to you and you family.

wow, people are ass holes, tori doesn't deserve that and I don't think she cares what you immature people have to say, she is way better than that. But anyway I can not wait for the new season I love the show, You guys have the cutest kids! When are you going to have another one? lol

I support you guys!!

-Gina! :)

Hi Tori I just have a question for you. i was just wondering why you havent fixed your deformed crooked nostril that was screwed up during your plastic surgery? you'd think someone like you woulod have enuff money to fix that? and you have cow eyes i guess that cant be fixed with plastic surgery either. Your kids are beutiful its not there fault there Mom's a cow-eyed slutt and there dad is a money hungry doosh-bag....Dean is the male version of a gold-digger He is total pussy and he will never achieve true fame neither will you. How could you sleep at night knowing you betrayed your spouses and commited adultery so you could be together?? I have predicted the future on several occasions and My prediction for you two is that your marriage will be dissolved within 3 yrs or less.

I know that everyone has little "Opinions" and comments. I just want to say "Thank you." I thank you for making me remember what "Love" is.

I just wanted to say people fall in and out of love all the time. It's not Tori's fault who she fell in love with. I think that if Dean's previous marriage was so great he wouldn't have strayed too far away from his ex. There had to have been problems for him to go searching elsewhere. Correct me if I am wrong, but if you love somebody and are in love with somebody you wouldn't even turn your head to look at another person. Children should not be used as an excuse to stay with your spouse if there is no love everyone is better off separated.

Tori and Dean,
You are marvelous parents. You show how much you love each other and your kids. You are truly blessed. I am a 56 yr old mom and grandma of three great girls. I love my daughter and son and grandkids so much I can't imagine life without them. You are doing a great job of living life and creating a great life for your kids. Your a blessed.

Hi Tori ans Dean:

Can't wait until Spring, I am sooo happy you guys are coming back. Your family is great and we love your show.

See you soon!!!!

Tori, I was at the gathering for Patsy in Georgia and had the opportunity to meet you and your family. I must say I have followed your show and love it! I used to live in Hollywood and have met my share of "stars"...and by far you and Dean are truly a sweet, kind, and non-pretentious people. You had no Hollywood aire about you whatsoever. It was a pleasure and thrill meeting you. I wish you and your family all the best and will continue enjoying your show! You go girl!

Love ya!

THIS IS JUST TO SAY I HOPE YOU ARE OK I REALLY TRY TO IGNORE ALL THE CRAP MAGS BUT ITS HARD WHEN THERE IN YOUR FACE AT THE STORE..
BUT I HOPE TO SEE YOUR SHOW BACK ON AND THAT YOU ARE HEALTHY.. LOVE YOUR SHOW AND THE FAMILY..
OOOOXXXXXOOOOO TO THE KIDS
GOD BLESS

ONE DAY DEAN YA NEED TO SET A TRAP TO GET THE POPPARATZE
THE CAMARAS AND THOSE GUYS TO RUN THREW MUD AND FALL AND BREAK THERE CAMARAS...SOMETHING SO THEY GET THE HINT TO LEAVE YOU GUYS ALONE!!

Hi Tori:)

Love your show! And your daughter is So Adorable! I am a stay at home mom of two angels, and I run a business to help put my kiddos in the best Christian school here, it's called "Cutie BOW Tooty." I sell just about everything for lil' girls, and love Custom Orders! I would love to send you some Free Samples for Miss Stella:)

If you would just email me at Mandy@CutieBOWTooty.com your shipping info. I will get you some cute things for her before Christmas:) And if you want me to make a custom bow for her Cmas dress, just send me a picture of that too:)

I hope you and your family have a blessed Holiday Season!

Mandy
www.CutieBOWTooty.com

Love the show, think the family is adorable, and can't wait for next season!!! Please enough with the whole Candy Spelling thing. Everyone knows there are issues, that is no secret but I think it's time to move on from that. Don't want to see you have regrets down the road about what you are putting out there. You all are entertaining and fun enough without that element.

Hi Tori,

Thanks for donating the autographed books (sTori Telling and Mommywood) as well as the signed copy of the box set "Beverly Hills 90210 - The Complete First Season". All three items are listed right now on eBay.

http://shop.ebay.com/much-love-rescue/m.html

--Leon

Hi Tori, Dean & Sweet Babies,
I just love your show, I feel like I'm part of your family when I'm watching it. You are a good mommy and Dean is a good daddy, keep up the good work! I check everyday to see if your new season is on, I JUST CAN'T WAIT for it to come back!!!!!!!! I love you guys!!!! You're in my prayers.

I sit here hoping our girl is feeling much better. Take time to care for yourself Tori. Your true friends can hardly wait for the next season to start. We don't want you to put so much pressure on yourself that you are sick. We love you the way you are you do not have to be perfect for us true fans.

Much love to you, Dean, Bug and Monkey.

Hi Tori: Please I beg of you do not listen to these media mongers, the jealous ex-wife( who by the way ain't no beauty). You and your Hunk of a husband must rise to these challenges for the sake of your wonderful children. They need you healthy, to take care of them. Do it for the Love you and Dean feel for each other. Prove to these morons. You are happy with your great Family and Friends. You and Dean love each other it is obvious. Now Get Well and Grow old together!!!!

Hi Tori and Dean,

I was wondering when your does the NEW season start? My husband and I love watching your show.

Thank you

Nicole

does anyone know where Tori got her gold round necklace? or what kind it is??

umm im obsessed with you and your family! please come back for another season!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I believe the word of God says you are healed in the name of Jesus by the stripes of Jesus in Isaiah 53:5.Ipray you recieve this for yourself. I pray God will continue to give you lots of knowledge,wisdom and understanding to continue providing for your family.May God Bess You and your family!I love your show and you truly are blessed with beautiful children. Jesus loves you and so do I!

Dear Tori and Dean,

I just wanted to write to the 2 of you and thank you for inspiring me as a wife. My husband wanted a street bike and we had been going back and forth about it. We have 2 kids and I was terrified about the idea. Your show helped me realize that I needed to support my husband in the desires of his heart. I cried with you Tori when Dean crashed. I was right there with you when you were terrified of not having Dean with you but when you collected yourself and decided that what he wants is more important, to finish what he started it encouraged me. Hearing Dean say the guy version on the subject, it was enlightening to me. I know my husband would give up the idea of a motorcycle for me, but he shouldn't have too. So I can now say that my husband is a proud owner of a Yamaha R1. Thank you!!

Hi Tori,

Hope the family feels better soon...I love watching your show;...

I too have similar relationship with my mom...hard to understand isn't it, especially when you become a parent, I have a son and daughter and could never imagine them never being a part of my every day life. Still, at age 41, I am unable to accept it or understand it...we are estranged too at this point...am tired of always trying, so now I've stopped - her loss, sad she's missing my children's lives.

Take care

Hi tori & dean
hope you get better soon, love your show, family and you
but i think you should eat a little bit more. you look too skinny.
hugs'

Tori and Dean,
First of all, I am a huge fan of your show. I am 21 years old and I hope to have a family like yours some day. The way you talk about your kids is awesome and I think you and Dean make amazing parents. I even have my boyfriend watching the show, so maybe he can pick up some hints haha. but he also loves it and asks when the show is on. I hope you are on again for next season because I will definitely watch every episode!!!

First I am concerned about the pains that have sent you to the hospital. Please update us as soon as possible. We don't want our favorite girl feeling bad.

Next I have not seen anything about when your show is coming back.

It amazes me that people throw stones
when most live in glass houses. So all you haters keep posting it makes true fans stand more solid in support of Tori and Dean.

Last..... still a loyal fan who wants to know what is happening with you and your extnded family.

Hello Tori and Dean

I just read that Tori was admitted into the hospital because of stomach pains. You might want to get your gallbladder checked. I had the same pains that you described right after I gave birth to my son. It was my gallbladder, which had to be removed. It is very common after having children to have problems with your gallbladder. Hopefully, you will read this post and have your doctor look into it. Also, they may see that your gallbladder is fine. But, what you see is not always correct. My sister in law was going through a lot of pain and they checked her gallbladder and told her everything was well. She finally found a doctor that would remove her gallbladder. During surgery they discoved that it was her gallbladder.

Feel Better & Good Luck!

TORI & DEAN. WE MISS YOU,YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS. WHY AREN'T YOU BACK FOR NEXT SEASON? WE WANT YOU GUYS BACK NOW. TORI, YOU ARE SUCH A SWEET, DOWN-TO-EARTH PERSON. SO UNLIKE SOME OF THE HOLLYBOOBS.
THAT'S WHY SO MANY PEOPLE ENJOY YOUR SHOW. YOU REMIND ME OF ME WHEN I WAS YOUNGER. THAT'S WHY I PERSONALLY CONNECT WITH YOU.

PLEASE COME BACK SOON FOR YOUR FANS!!!!!

THANKS...........

Hey this is about the stomach pains that Tori has been having, hopefully she will read this and check into it. I am 23 years old, and when I was 16 I started to have the MOST UNBEARABLE pains in my stomach. I couldnt eat and the pains would get so bad, they would make me throw up. I went to dr after dr, and had test after test, and finally after 2 years of searching, I was finally diagnosed with Chron's Disease. I had never heard of it before, but lately I have been finding it being a very common disease. I am also VERY skinny, no matter how much I eat, I can not gain the weight on. I have heard the rumors about Tori having eating disorders, I can not begin to tell you how many times I have been accused of the same. Check into it, because if it is Chron's, it is only to get worse due to the fact it is a lifetime illness. GOOD LUCK!!

Tori slept with a married man and d*amned his wife and kids to a broken home. Now she is the one married to him. Does she truely think she or her kids will have a better outcome?

GOD-DOES ANYONE OUT THERE KNOW WHEN TORI & DEAN ARE COMING BACK. IF YOU DO LET ME KNOW. WE ARE BIG FANS AND HAVE BEEN WAITING PATIENTLY FOR THE NEW SEASON. HOWEVER, NOTHING YET AND ARE HOPING THEY ARE COMING BACK OR WE WILL BE SOOOO DISAPPOINTED!!!!!!!

i cant belive you still going whith dean

To all the "haters" out there.......

Why don't you do the rest of the planet a huge favor and just end your miserable lives. You all have obviously nothing better to do than just show your contempt and ugliness through your careless comments.

If you can't stand Tori and Dean and all of the happiness they deserve, then why are you peeking into their lives and catching up on all they do? Get a life then go to hell.

I love Tori and Dean. May God continue to bless them and their family.

Dear Tori:

I read both of your books and could not put them down! I had to send my fiance' out to buy the second one because I was addicted. I love the show and I think you are an excellent mother! You write very well and you are so witty and funny, I just loved the books and the show! Take care!

~Megan From Dayton, Ohio

Tori and Dean,

I really can't wait to find out when your new season comes out. I watch it religiously. I have read some things about you in a magazine and I know that you always say that you have to know what is real from crap, but I really hope that you and Dean are Ok! I love you both together and it kills me thinking that you may split up. =( Anyway, I love your books! Keep writing you have some dedicated fans out there who would love to hear more about your life. ( I am sure that you have plenty more to say, and we are all ears)
Love your fan from Columbia, Missouri
Meg

I have searched every where to find out if and when a new season of the show is coming, I can find nothing! PLEASE, let your fans know, what is happening with the show! I know I certainly miss you all!

Dear Tori,

Me and my roommate are fans of your show. We think you and Dean make beautiful babies. We admire that you and your family are just keeping it real and fun. We like to wish you and your family the best for the future.

We are wondering if you will be coming to Vancouver, B.C. for any book signing. Thank you and please let us know. You are awesome Tori. Your fans Mabel & Kat.

Tori i think you are doing a wonderful job with your children keep up the good work! You know whats best for your family.

dean will leave Tori just like he left mary jo. He left his first 2 kids behind, he will not think twice about doing the same to Liam and stella.

Hi Tori,

I have so enjoyed yours and Deans show. Keep them coming for as long as you can. I must admit that I didn't see the first seasons as my huband was ill and most of my time was caring for him. He passed away a few months ago. Watching you and Dean with your two precious children, and the way the two of you love, makes my heart warm. It reminds me of my husband's life together. You are a very special lady with a lot to give to your family (if they let you). But honey, don't keep beating your head against that BRICK WALL. It won't crumble until it is time. You can't rush it. So just go on living for and with your family. Enjoy all the love that THE McDermot's built. You and Dean are truly an inspiration for true love and meeting your soulmate. I know that to be true, because I had mine for 31 years.
Love & Prayers to you and your family.

HI Tori,

Your family is adorable - there is a lot of love there! I feel your pain with the situation with your mother. I am estranged from both my parents due to there - long story short- passive/aggressive and negative behavior. My husband and I have two wonderful boys and I have tried to make things work several times with my parents only to have my heart broken. As a mother it's hard to grasp how one can be so cruel to there own child......

By not having a relationship with my parents I have chosen to break the cycle and surround myself with loving, positive, caring people. I miss having 'my mom' and do long for that relationship so badly at times............

I wish you well moving forward with your life. Dean seems very supportive of you and wise in his advice in regards to your well being.

Take Care!!!

Hi I'm emilee and i love your shows they are my fav. and i hope i can meet you in person one day............ I hope!!

I once loved the show and adored Tori and Dean's relationship, but as I started to watch the show and read their blogs, I just didnt admire them so much. Sleeping with a married co-worker/co-star on the first date is not admirable. It's not okay to sleep with a married man on the first, second or third date. Is this something you want to set as an example to your children? Does Tori not have any dignity or sympathy towards Dean's now ex wife or their children? The people here commenting about how much they like Tori and Dean are blind to their wrong doing. Its just wrong to sleep with a married co-worker and then bloat about it after the fact. I do feel extremely sorry for Deans other children, what did they do to deserve this? It should have been up to Tori to make a stand and do the right thing by not sleeping with a married man with children. What comes around goes around and Tori and Dean will pay the price for it one day. It makes me sick to see Tori bloat about her "charity work" yet where was her "charity" when it came to Dean's previous wife and children? Get a grip Tori and see the reality of your reality show!

Hi Tori,

Well, i must say i have never been a huge fan of yours,( nothing personal) but ever since i've watched your show, i completely adore you! I wish you guys the best of luck for the future! And just stay the way you are, cause your'e lovely!

Dear Tori and Dean
I read some awful stuff in a celebrity mag and my heart broke that a writer could spew that horrible untrue information. I read, but did not buy the mag and I pray that you, Dean and family can stay safe from all the evil Hollywood sometimes puts out for the greed of money and circulation. I am praying for your family and hope you will also find time to talk to God to help you be strong against evil doers. Your children, friends and fans are counting on you. Remember God is always there an for you.

To Tori,

you are a great person, and deserve happiness. I know that it hard to weather the comments from your mom. I commend you on being the adult in the relationship and urge you to realize you have done a lot to clear things up with your mom. Don't continue to receive this treatment and be careful of letting your mom into your children's lives. I fear that competition she has with you will not go away and children are easily won with flashy gifts. Please be ever watchful of the relationship between your kids and your mom. Who knows, she could cause trouble with your babies. Just be careful. She is not right and can be dangerous if she fears your success. This is coming from a mom/wife and daughter of a competitive mom. According to the Bible, your first priority is to yout husband and children, not your mom. Candy needs to remember that before she loses out. Be blessed and I really enjoy your show. your generosity is outstanding. Toodle, T

Tori,
I absolutely love your show so much....You have a great family and should be so proud of yourself the way you are raising your children. Keep it up. I do have a question for you...can you please tell me where to purchase the mirrored bedside tables in your bedroom.....I can't find them anywhere and since I live in Los Angeles I was hoping you an tell me where to buy them or order them Please help. I have looked everywhere. Please e-mail me back.. Thanks and I think you and Dean are the perfect couple.

hi i was reading a mag. cover at the store one day that said u were in a loves less marriage. that dean was w u for the fame and not cause he loves u. i was wondering if it was true and if you were comeing back w your show. My daughter and i watch your show everytime its on even the repeats we love you guys

TORI & DEAN

PLEASE HURRY BACK. WE MISS YOU GUYS SOOOO MUCH.

KEEP ON MOVING UP AND BEING SUCCESSFUL-YOU ARE GREAT TOGETHER. IT MAKES EVERYONE JEALOUS. THAT'S WHY THEY TALK TRASH. THEY HAVE NOTHING BETTER GOING ON IN THEIR LIVES.

MY BEST TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!!!!!!!!!

Dean married Tori for her last name only. What does he do(Dean) for living, beside living of ner money? what a loser. Please find a real job. You have 2 chlidern to support,Oh I forgot acutually 4 childeren. I don't believe it's a big loss for heis ex wife.

she didn't care Edan ws married and had children when she met him. She slept with him anyway. Tori sucks!

Hey! I don't know if you guys actually read this stuff or post anything about what we say, but Tori I absolutely love your show. I think you are awesome. I grew up watching 90210 and was sad when it went off air. I think you have an amazing, sexy husband. I really hope that what his "friend" said isn't true. I couldn't imagine Dean talking about you in that way. . .or using you to get ahead. I at least hope he is better than that. Anyways looking forward to next season. Take care.

Tori,

I am so sorry but I wanted to express my feelings on the spin-off series of your father. I do not intend to be rude in fact I feel strongly that your father's work is amazing. He had a gift to entertain and know what to do to make top rated shows, riveting, and mind-blowing soap opera types.

As in the first few eps. of 90210, I was hugely disappointed! Even watching the series w/o thinking of original series I felt it fell flat of any other shows I watch! However, 90210 has really improved with time and feedback from viewers. I really like it as an independent series from the original.

The new MP is another story. The characters were not at all full of any kind of depth or defining characteristics. They killed off Sydney in the first eps. - what was the point in having her at all?! Former fans, did not have a chance to reengage with the character and I felt nothing in the bloody pool scene. I had no reaction. Memories flashed over the building being blown up, Sydney and Jane fighting while one is in a wedding dress and they both end up in the pool. That is soap opera drama; riveting, exciting, not boring and not a insult to the original shows writers, creators and producers!
I think it is desecrating the memory of Aaron Spelling with this new creation. I feel sorry that Tori Spelling was witness to such a mockery!!!

Do fans have opinions on this? Surely, there should be a mention of this on next season's Tori and Dean. Thank you. Again, I am loyal to Tori and want whats best for her. Still, leave what is past in the past... or disconnect from CW network (90210 & MP).

Hi Tori:

My friends & I think you are "GREAT" .You seem like a down to earth person, a great wife, mother, friend. You do a lot of Charity work. You go beyond to show yourself as a good person.

"YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL PERSON INSIDE & OUT"

P.S. Do not let the tabloids bother you, your true fans know it's not true. Keep up living your life!

Tori and Dean,
Thanks for the show and thanks for letting me vent about the narrow-minded blueprints for idiots that try to bring you down. Like piles of doggy-doo in the yard, just step over them and keep on with your day.

You have a great family and I look forward to watching them grow. Just think-good comments, bad comments....it all equals more people know about you!

A big fan-
Kat

Hello Tori, Dean, and kids. I am a huge fan of the show.You guys are quirky and fun, the house seems to be full of love. Keep up the good work. also wanted to add that I was watching old episodes of la femme Nikita and guess who I saw. Dean, yes Dean. watched the show years ago before I knew who Dean was but recognized him immediately this time. You were pretty good Dean, sorry the stint didn't last a little longer. looking forward to next season.

A forever fan!

hello Tori & Dean, my husband & I love ur show..we just really hope that the reality TV doesn't seperate u two, just like all the other couples who have done these reality TV shows..
ex: dave navarro & carmen electra; jessica simpson & Nick; the hulk and his ex; the john & kate plus 8..u know what i mean, they have all let us into there lives and some how they ended up divorcing. idk i just would really really be sad if it were to happen to u two..i wish u two the best in life and marriage

I can't believe all you people. You actually believe all that is printed on those stupid tabloids.OMG how stupid.

Tori & Dean are great, they are so in love, and I peronally enjoyed watching their show. They are two beautiful souls with wonderful children. They are an example for all.

Dear Tori,
I really enjoy your show a lot. I think you are very pretty, nice, a great wife and mother. I can't believe that Dean would say the terrible things the tabloids are saying. He really seems like he loves you so, if it's a sham he should get an Oscar. As a mom of two grown daughters, I'm 50. I can't imagine not having them in my life. SO, your mom needs to get over it, the old cliche' life's too short fits. Read your first book and enjoyed it. And, if you broke Dean's marriage up, there must have been problems because if you really love someone you may be tempted at times but do not act on it. I'm not condoning anything but people change. Hang in there.

tori should be ashamed of herself. she deserves all that she gets. Dean is a bum for leaving his ex wife and children for Tori.

My daughter and I watch your show we love it,I have been a fan since the beginning of 90210 watched for 12 years.Now I watch you with my daughter who is 9 she is turning 10 on Oct.11th She has always liked lady bugs but since seeing you show of Stella's B-day she wants a lady bug theme for her B-day.Trouble is I can't really find very many lady bug theme thing,or any nice ones.I am on a tight budget but would like to know if there is a site you can suggest to fine some stuff.I have a few of my own ideas but need to find the themed stuff to make them complete.I would be so greatful if u have and suggestions fo me.I am throwing a big party on Oct.3rd so I need to get started.Thank u so very much again we love your show hope all is well with the family.
Jena and Felicity Wright

I love your show very much. When are you coming back on tv. Where can I get DVD'S of all your tv's shows

I just back from the supermarket, picked up a copy of Star (which I don't usually read at all.)
What is this crap in the article?? I was really shocked and I am really hoping that it is totally untrue.

I just back from the supermarket, picked up a copy of Star (which I don't usually read at all.)
What is this crap in the article?? I was really shocked and I am really hoping that it is totally untrue.

I thought the birthday party show was wonderful. I did feel for you when your Mom didn't show. She's missing out on two beautiful grandchildren You and Dean are great on Oxygen. I can't wait for new season to start. I miss not having the show to watch at night. Looking forward to seeing you and your family!!!!

You're a homewrecker Tori may you get what you richly deserve!! Dean left his first wife of 13 years and 2 kids for you, you will be dumped as well once someone better (and who doesn't look like the horse he said you were!) comes along. ENJOY

I love the show. I wish it was on way more. I can wait for the new season ( if you are doing one?) I have you in my prayers!!!!

Dear Tori and Dean,
I never really watched 90210 growing up, mostly because I was too young and was watching cartoons like Captain Planet!, but I have watched your tv shows and I have read both of your books, Tori. I know its weird but I feel like I know you like my best friend and I have never even met either of you before! I'm really inspired by both of you and your thoughts and actions. Anyways I just wanted to say that I just read the article in Star magazine and I refuse to believe a word of it! I realize that it says this Michael guy is Dean's best friend but how can he be if he's saying things like that about the both of you and your families?? I just can't believe that you guys are anything but completely and totally infatuated with eachother. You're relationship helps me have faith in love. I accept that you probably don't read most of these or somebody else reads them for you maybe but I just have to know that this article is just not the truth. I know that its tv and entertainment and I know that its difficult to have to live life on display but as a fan and as a friend who is concerned please just tell me its not true!! After all the break-throughs you've made with your books and in the shows I just hope and pray that somebody comes forth to defend your relationship! The two of you are truly inspirational to so many people, I just feel like it would be absolutely devastating if this article is sharing the truth; not only to your loving fans but also to Liam and Stella and Jack.

hey Tori: I just wanted to let you know that I love your show. It angers me how people gossip about things that don't even concern them, and attack you about issues that have no basis. I think you and Dean are wonderful parents. You have a very genuine spirit and your kids are going to learn so much from you. I admidre all that you do and that you always put your family first. It's so crucial in a childs life and I admire you tremendously. You are a wonderful person.

Dear Tori,
I had a mother like yours. She was very creative and also made terrific birthday parties - she made the cakes so she would get all the credit.

I look back now and see that she never exhibited the "unconditional love" that a mother is supposed to exhibit. She would say "I love you" and I'd wait for the "but" which was always there.

She sewed a lot of my clothes and really loved the praise that people fawned all over her when they saw me in them. She dressed my brother like me - both in sailor suits - mine was a dress though. She made me winter coats with fur trim, leggings and muffs to go with the coat, purses in the shape of animals I loved.

Once while fitting me for a dress, she told me that I had a fat back and my arms were too big - just like my father's sister (not her side of the family). I was maybe 11 or 12. When I was 35, she had a party for my birthday. I'm a Leo so she made a lion cake for me. She put it on a large cardboard sheet covered with foil. She frosted the cake with gold frosting and used licorice for the whiskers, etc. She wanted me to hold it up so she could get a picture of it. When the photos came back (I was very tan and wearing a gold tank top), she made a statement "Look at your Arms! They're huge!" I ran across that picture a few months ago (I'm now 67) and thought "I wish I had such good looking arms now." For most of my life I've had issues with my arms and my fat back.

I'm telling you all these things because it is amazing to me how easy it is to be hurt by things we are told as children.

As a mother myself, I have been particularly careful to make sure my kids know I love them and I avoid saying critical things to them - especially about things they had no control over. I have tried hard not to repeat my mother's mistakes but, I know I probably just made other ones.

There were years that I didn't talk to my mother. But, when one of us called the other, it was like we'd talked yesterday. It never occurred to me that discussing our issues would do any good, so I never did.

When I discovered she was dying, we made peace with each other. I don't regret that. I have decided that she just did her best and I loved her anyway. It is difficult to "steel" yourself from the negative but if you tell yourself enough that she did the best she could, maybe that will help.

I still have issues with my arms though.

Just a comment. I love the show and am always anxious for more episodes to air. Tori and Dean seem sincerely in love and happy with being a family with their 2 adorable children. That is what is so sweet about the show. That is why I was so very surprised at the aticle in the rag mag re their marriage and Dean just using her for money etc. I sure do hope that it is a horrible lie and that Tori and Dean sue that magazine or somwhow show the fans that it is totally false. I just wish them the best and hope that all can be cleared up---

I am a big fan of the show I grew up watching 90210. My husband and I have a 5 month old daughter and we call her ladybug. I had thought about doing her 1st birthday party in a ladybug theme and when I seen the episode about Stella's 1st birthday I fell in love. Our daughter was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis when she was just 1 month old so more than anything we want to plan ahead and make her 1st birthday extra special. I love Stella's dress and it would be a dream come true if I could find a dress like that for Autumns 1st birthday. I know she is only 5 months old but we have to really plan ahead because we are on a tight budget with all the medical expenses and medicine that has to come 1st. Tori I hope that you read this and I can get feedback from you on where you found Stella's dress and how I could get one that is similar and maybe some ideas you had for Stella's party such as invitations and games for kids.

I JUST READ THE STAR PIECE ON THE TWO OF YOU AND FOUND IT TO BE DISGUSTING. YA'LL SHOULD SUE STAR MAGAZINE AND THAT GUY MICHEL. SOME FRIEND , NOT!!!

I THINK YOUR SHOW IS WONDERFUL AND THE KIDS ARE SO CUTE! ALSO. TORI MEET WITH YOUR MOTHER IN PRIVATE, I DONT BLAME HER FOR NOT WANTING TO BE ON THE SHOW. IT IS A COMPLETLY PRIVATE MATTER BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU.

I AM A MOTHER OF 2. MY OLDEST IS 12 AND MY BABY IS 2 ON 9-14. YOU GUYS ARE GREAT. SOME SAY YOU MAKE IT LOOK EASY. IT IS NOT EASY!!! I DON'T CARE HOW MUCH HELP YOU HAVE. IT'S NOT EASY! DON'T JUDGE UNTIL YOU HAVE BEEN THERE. IT'S HARD FOR THE AVERAGE MOM LIKE ME. I CAN'T EVEN BEGIN TO KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE FOR HOLLYWOODS LIKE YOU. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS.
SINCERLY
THE SCHELL/BLANDIN FAMILY
HERMON NY

hey! just to tell you you and i have somthing in common but its a little bit diffrent... my own Grampa kinda left me.. i cant expect alot out of him he almost took us on a crusie and cancled it and he took my cusions insted he also took a playground from me.. and alot of other stuff like fireing my own dad from his job he went bankruped and we had to move from our mansion to a smaller house... my grampa did alot of things. i still havent forgiven him

Tori,

I have a mom very much like yours so I grew up in an emotional situation similar to you. However, my mom decided that she disliked me so much that she didn't want to bother at all--it's been 10 years since I've last spoken to her. However, since then, my emotional and physical health have improved and I realize what a sick woman she is. I really have to give you credit Tori--you were able to realize fairly early on what your mom was doing and to step away. I spent much of my adult life craving her love and it was only after my dad died and then she and my bro (her favorite) said Adios to me and rode off into the sunset together that I was able to put the pieces together and realize the futile effort that I put forth my entire life. She won't change. I knew I had to...my dad would have wanted me to.
You are such a good example for young girls who have been mistreats by their moms. Maybe this is our burden in life.

Karen

Hi Tori and Dean.

For Tori. I understand the situation with your mom completely. I want to assure you that even though you dont have the mom you "dreamed" of you still have a mother. I know you have probably heard this a lot, but my mother was a lot like yours. It took me realizing that I cant change her but I can change myself to be able to communicate with her.

I have even told her that I dont appreciate the way she acts around me and that I would not be able to see her if it continued. She heard me and was obviously upset because she didnt know what she was doing to upset me.

I explained and backed away for about 6 months. I did this for my emotional well being, more than anything else.

Be happy, and enjoy the world you are both building for your own family. The rest will fall into place at the right time.

Thanks
Marlene

I love your show! I read both your books and they were amazing! You have true talent. I hope you write more books. I couldnt put the books down! I also read your mother's book. She seems so self-centered and trying to be "Miss Perfect." I didnt enjoy how much she was so into herself and no one else. P.S. She wants her mom's recipes back that you stole. ?????

I love your show! By the way, I read both your books and they were amazing! You have true talent. I hope you write more books. I couldnt put the books down! I also read your mother's book. She seems so self-centered and trying to be "Miss Perfect." I didnt enjoy how much she was so into herself and no one else. P.S. She wants her mom's recipes back that you stole. ?????

Hello Tori,

I have to say, I love your family. From the outside looking in you can tell that the love you have for your husband and children is real love. I'm in love with your reality show, you were right, in saying that it allowed so many people to see you in such a different light. Not just as Donna Martin or Aaron Spelling's daughter. I'm sure many would agree with me that we like what we see. I recently got married and i hope that one day soon we too can start extending our family. I've come to look to you as inspiration, as a mentor, and a role model for what a great parent is supposed to be. I love that you show that you aren't perfect, and any of us are not. You show that you can make mistakes and be ok with yourself at the end of the day. Once again i'm so happy for you and i wish you much love, luck and prosperity in your future endeavors. Love Ya!!!!!

Hello Tori,
Still talking about your mother. I understand how difficult that can be. I have issues not quiet like yours ,but things that also bother me, she has done things that hurt me alot in life that also caused my marrige to go bad. Along with my sisters help. Well i have grown mad at them and thougth that i can forget my mother, and i understand that is impossible so i learned to understand her and ignore the things she says to me. It's like when she speaks i think of something else. I don't know if you would understanad any of this, but my point is that a mom will always be your mom and remember that we also have kids that maybe they will do the same as we do to others. What i'm getting to is that i very much believe in Karma. So we teach our children to be better than any of them as my boyfriend says kindness will kill anyone. Well Tori continue having a prosperous life and keep those beautiful kids safe and healthy and of course your husband the same.

Greetings Tori and Dean,
I have been watching your show lately and find it rewarding to know that there are hollywood parents who love their children as much as the two of you love yours. The children are seeing two loving parents and feel the love you are giving them. I applaud both of you.
Tori- I have seen how the situation with your Mom and what she says hurt you. I know that this is very hurtful and drains a persons energy. I wanted to share a little with you that I just went through something like you are with your Mom. Mine never wanted my baby sister or myself when she divorced my father. When I had my babies she never treated them like her grandchildren. We would only hear from her when she needed financial help. Tori it is so hard to explain to your child when they get older why their grandmother does not like them or love them. It has taken me 29 years of marriage to finally say I had enough of the hurt. I did seek out professional advice and I have followed it closely. I will share what they said to me. Ask yourself the following, "What are you getting out of this relationship?" I was just getting pain and reminder of being a no one in her eyes. I have stopped talking to her and my health has improved. Do what you feel is best for your children and your family. When Dean said those things to you I knew they would hurt, however it leaves you with stress each time you are let down by a mother who seems to ignore a wonderful daughter like you.
Dean continue with being there for Tori. She is an exceptional mother. Like myself she has taken the steps to make sure that your children feel your love each and every day of their lives.

It may take her awhile to realize what she is missing. Maybe then she will see how important it is for her to be in their lives. Make sure not to be negative to the children about her behavior when they get older. I had to tell my children when they asked, "Why does grandma hate us so and why does she not call us? I had to answer that question with the truth that "It is not you that she hates but me,"

Just remember you are both wonderful parents raising two beautiful children.

Lots of Blessings and Prayers for both of you and the children.

Tori, Dean and kids, Your show and books are right on the mark. You are one of the very few from a "hollywood upbringing" that is on our level. Thank you for that. Your humor, love, parenting, compassion and at times faults are grounded. I know, who am I to determine that. We call it grounded, and the neighbor next door. You have followed your heart and look what that has given you... a husband who adores u, and children that bonded to you. In the end that is all one needs. The same goes for your relationship with your mother. A mother/daughter relationship is filled with so much emotion. Women in general are moody creators that base decisions on their heart, unlike men that base decisions on their mind. I am refering to "Men are from Mars, women are from venus" Basically women need to be listened to not heard, and a decision is made on how the other person will feel and/or react. Perhaps one day your mom and you will find common ground, and as long as you reach out to her, giving her the opportunity to know your children and you, and she doesn't respond, than that is something that she will have to live with. Stop beating yourself up. Relationships are unconditional and have to met by all envolved. Yes, it may not be that 50/50, but make peace within yourself that you reached out to her with your hand and heart. Barbra Leigh

Golly! Those are some ugly kids!! eww

Hey tori!
i wanted to tell you that i make boutique style hair bows and headbands. They are super cute!! I have tons of pics and things that i would love to show you! I would love to make you a lady bug bow for Miss Stella. I PROMISE that i am not some superfan that is going to stalk you! Not saying that i am not a fan of you and your family, cause i def am!! U will not be disappointed in my bows! =) pleases give me a chance to at least show you some pics, you can check out my facebook page there are a lot of pics on it, i also have a twitter account, but have no idea how to use it, lol! You can email me and i can send you some pics of my creations.
here is the link to my FB
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/pages/Georgetown-SC/Hairbows-N-More/72244404531?ref=nf
if you have a fan club address that i can send the bows to, i will be happy to do that, if you will get them.

thanks so much!!!
Melissa Wilson, Georgetown, SC
Hairbows.n.More@gmail.com

how the heck are you so skinny. can you fill us in on your diet secrets??? please, i have kids and can't loose the baby weight!

Here is my opinion. And it is just that, an opinion. I don't believe any of "us" are in a position to judge Tori for her decisions concerning her mother. The thing is, none of us where there when their relationship, or lack there of, happened. Therefore all we have to go on is what we hear. Reality? Not much of what we hear is factual. My ppersonal experience with my own mother has taught me that we can only control the actions of ourselves. She knows how her mother is, yet still holds out hope for a relationship. It's her ideas of what a mother should be that keeps her hope alive. Not what her mother will actually do. I had to make a decision in my life, that I knew would affect my children's lives, but had to make it nonetheless. I asked myself if I was happier with my mother in my life or happier without her in my life. It took me a long time to honestly answer that question. When I realized that I would forever be let down and constantly upset over something she did or didn't do- I knew that I would be happier without her in my life. I know I can never change her and I would have to accept her and all her flaws as she is. It was something I had to come to terms with on my own. I don't think it's fair that any of us spectators in Tori's life should ridicule her for holding out hope, or wanting her mother to be someone that she isn't. But I do think that she is consumed by it, and it's something that she thinks about so often that it's eating her up. Once she can finally answer her own question of Is she happier with her in her life or without- she will never be able to truly live. It's not easy for a woman to "cut the cord"... But it's also not healthy to stress out over something so much that it eats you alive. With Dean and the Gunkles and Maran and so forth, she has built a truly wonderful family. One she can be proud of. You shouldn't have to work for love from a parent, nor should a parent have to work for love from a child. Blood relatives does not mean they aren't mean or horrible people. We are all born into families that we didn't choose. Some of us are lucky and some of us end up with a sour taste in our mouths. It's what we choose to do about it that makes us better people. I don't think Tori is a bad person for not having a relationship with her mom... If Candy wanted to see those babies, nothing short of a bullet would keep her from them. Irregardless of her relationship with Tori. I truly believe that Tori is past the anger of her youth, and is looking for her children to the relationship with Candy that she didn't have. There's nothing wrong with that... But I have learned that the connection and bond is not automatic. Just because they are biologically her granchildren doesn't mean she feels the overwhleming sense of love and protection. It could be, that she just isn't the grandma type. Or the mothering type. Who knows. What I think, doesn't matter, but I wish Tori could find peace with it. It's a subject I know SO well. I wish I could help her, and guide her with my experiences to help her make the best decision for HER. The rest will fall into place. I hate seeing her chastized for not knowing what to do. It's not something that is easily decided.
Thank you-
Amy

I LOVE YOU GUYS! AND I JUST WANTED TO TELL YOU THAT I WAS WATCHING ARE YOU SMARTER THAN A FIFTH GRADER TODAY AND YOU WILL NEVER GUESS WHO WAS ON IT. JENNY! SHE WON $100,000! WELL, SHE DIDN'T ACTUALLY GET IT, IT WAS A DONATION TO I THINK HEART DISEASE OR SOMETHING. SHE WAS REALLY SMART. I JUST WANTED TO TELL YOU THAT, AND I LOVE ALL OF YOU! THANK YOU!!!

Tori created the family she alwasy wanted at the expense of deans FIRST FAMILY (wifeand 2 chilfen. How nice for tori.

Hi Tori!
I have been a fan for way long time! I just love you and your family! Your kids are way too cute! Dean is the best. I am so happy you have him. It is your Mom's loss that she doesn't have you in her life. IF she really wants that she will find a way. You have really tried. I love the Guncles, Mehran, Suzanne & Patsy. You have a wonderful family, you are blessed to have them in your life. I would love to have them all in my life. They are really are wonderful. You deserve it! You are really wonderful! Please don't let hollywood bring you down. Keep on being you! Luv you bunches! Mary

Dear Tori and Dean,

I have watched you from the beginnig Tori and I have seen just about every movie that Dean has been in. My husband and I have watched your show on Oxygen from the very first episode and I have to tell you that you both remind us of us. I have the same relationship with my mother and my husband tells me the same things that Dean has said to you. It breaks my heart to see you cry about the way things are with your mom I guess in part becauce I have cryed the same tears for the same reasons. I myself also have that little 5 year old girl inside that just wants nothing more then her mom to be a part of her life. My mother has been addicted to many things all of my life. I never had birthdays or special holidays with her. I lived in a different state for many years until I hit my late 20's. I moved back to NY State to really work on having a relationship with her. I have 3 children of my own and I really wanted then to know and have a relationship with her. Things whre good for a couple of months but once again she let me down. She lost her home and everything that she had to to her addictions and her selfishness. The way that she treated her grandchildren was awful. I thought that there may be a chance that she had changed but I quickly found out that she was still the same selfish, uncarring, lying, hurtful, bitter women she was so many years ago but the difference now was she was that way to my children. I as a 35 year old woman had to make a choice. Do I keep holding out hope or do I cut my losses and call it quits. I choose not to have her in our lives. And here is why. I know that shes my mom, but I also know that if she is hurting me and if I have to constantily fight and struggle with all of the hurt and let down that she creates in my life that not only effects my anymore. It effects my children and my husband. You can not give akll of yourself to your family if your mom has control over a big part of you. You do not want to see the look on Liams face when your mom tells him that she will be at one of his birthday partys and then she doesn't show. Just think of what you will say to him when he asked you why diden't grandma come to my party doesn't she love me.. I want you to know that it is heartbreaking. Remember what she is doing to you she is also doing to your children and your husband. I have never had the chance to meet you in person but you are a huge part of our family. You and Dean have the most beautiful children and are teriffic parents. Remember to always let them know that you love them and to think of them as little people. Let them express themselves and to listen to their wants and needs. This is a big one. Let them pick out their own clothes a couple of times a week as it shows their personality and independance. Keep being who you are because we love you that way. With love from us to all of you. God Bless Love the Williams family.

Tori
My sister and I have a propostion for you. When my sister was pregnant 4 years ago w/her first child SHOPPING for clothes was a disaster. First, lets just mention the naseau feeling my sister got like every minute, so i had to search for suckers or some sort of food to settle her stomach. Second, and most importantly, how we literally traveled to EVERY single store that "said" they had Maturity clothes. What A Joke. Sears claims to sell Maturity clothes and my bedroom looked bigger. The Motherhood store, wow, i was naseau, and Target (the one we LOVE so much) failed us. So finally, we break down and drive 20mins to the more expensive, lavish mall, and bam! Pea in A Pod becomes our inspiration. I was amazed, they had 3 departments in one store. From very expensive to reasonalbe. If I would have only know about this earlier I would have demanded we go there first. So, finally, after many weekends spent buying Maturity clothes we decided to somehow open one of our own, BUT it has to be in our hometown (preferably by the time i get pregnant :) Thing is, my sis has already had her second baby, me none, but finally thinkig about it. Sooooooo, time is running out. I lost my job recently (Preschool teacher, so not fair) and my sister said "this could be our chance." I would love to make our dream come true for my sister. I feel she needs her moment in life to shine. Problem is I said o.k. sis you tell me how and do you know what she said "ask Tori". I laughed, but then thought why not. Mommywood meet sisterwood. With your great fashion line and our ambition it's a hit!!!

Hola Tori,
I've been a fan since 90210, and have really enjoyed your show. I have to say, my preception of you has changed since I've seen you and your family on the show.I applaud you for wanting to bring normalcy to your children's lives. I just finished reading your book and in the chapter called Mommywood on Vacation, I thought it was funny that you mentioned West Covina/ Covina, and said something like it was a sketchy part of the city. I grew up and graduated from the high school there, it is your usual suburban neighborhood. You should definitely come back to Covina, the downtown area whenever you or your family go see your husband race at the speedway in Fontana. My family and I own a fabulous mexican restaurant in Covina called Casa Moreno, check out our website, www.casamorenogrill.com, Im the one in a blue shirt on the homepage. If you like great margaritas and delicious homemade food, you can definitely enjoy a meal without being bothered, its pretty low key. Good luck with your upcoming season. Love the show, Liam is quite the character already, has your sense of humor. Susan Diaz

Toris "creating the family (she) always wanted" meant she had to destroy Deans first family (with his help of course)

What wonderful people. We should all look to them as role models!

Hi Tori & Dean Just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate your show. I am a grandmother & greatgrandmother 52 years old. I have learned alot about how you both interact with your children & its helped me alot. My greatgranddaughter is 2 1/2 And its been along time since I have had this age around Both of you have taught me so much. I have been truely blessed by your show. I live in Tn which you are very welcome to have a vacation here,I am a hour from chattanooga & a hour from Knoxville. We are 3hours from Atlanta & 4 hours from Nashville. We own 16 acres Its very private & we have a camper in which You All can stay. We have a ATV & not far from us is Gliderport. WE would love to have you all. So keep us in mind

poor Jack & Lola in a broken home cause you & Dean are both so selfish. Dean cheated WITH you girl, he will cheat ON you. Its a no brainer! Then it will be poor Stella and Liam!

Hi Tori & Dean! I just want to say how much I enjoy your show. I was pregnant with my son when your 1st show aired & seeing how cute Tori was pregnant is what drew me to the show. I quickly became addicted & fell in love with the whole family! You guys are an inspiration & I feel I can really relate to you. I loved both your books & have so many of the same fears & regrets you mentioned. Your children are absolutley beautiful & are lucky to have such loving parents. (I can't wait to have baby #2, but that's on hold for a while!) I wish you all the success in the world & wish I had half your drive & ambition! Keep doing what you're doing because it seems to be working.
You guys rock!!!

I really really want the top that Tori had on (White, w/red & blue) boheiman shirt ... I've looked everywhere ... who is it buy? where can I get it?

tori and dean i love your show and i hope u come out with many more. im a stay at home mother of two boys, a 15mth old and a 27mth old.i'm the wife of a sherrif deputy and its truly awesome to spend every bit of my time with them.u remind me of myself w the kid. i love to buy lots of toys and go to little events and do activities with them and lots of awesome parties.i just wanted to let u know that u guys rock and that i love your show

Tori, how could you help break up Deans first family like you did?? His (ex) wife is a mom like you. You both screwed her (and his first kids) over! I'm ashamed of both of your behavior! How would you feel if it happened to YOU!

Tori-
You are THE BEST!! I absolutely LOVE your show and you. You are incredible. When I am having a bad day, I get episodes from On Demand of Tori & Dean. You guys crack me up, make me smile, and make me cry. This is not a usual thing I do...blog to celebrities. I am not into that sort of thing at all and I consider myself pretty normal! But I am compelled to write something to you because you really are an inspiration. You and Dean work so well together and complement each other. Your kids are great too. You make me feel like I can really have it all and anything is possible. I even got my fiance to watch your show!! He had to admit, he liked it!
I see a lot of similarities in myself...I am an event planner, an aspiring entrepreneur, and I have a crew of my main gays that I couldnt live without. I am getting married next year and I hope to be as happy as you and your family. Thanks for making such an awesome show...PLEASE dont stop!!! I will be in withdrawl without it!!

Hi,

I just started watching your show and I was amazed at how down to earth you really are. God has blessed you with a loving husband and beautiful children and as far as your mother goes, just leave her in God's hands because in the end she will have to answer to him regarding all the lies she has told. Continue to keep your head up and always remember you are a living testimony to someone out there that is going through the same as you.
KaTreese

I think your family is great. You all seem to mesh so well together. It seems Tori and Dean will be together forever and I can only hope to have the same happiness. I hope for nothing but good things for your family.

Doesn't it weird you out...all of these people just talking to you like you are their best friend? I just like you and your show, that's it. Dont't need you to write me or tell you my life story. Keep up the work. You're a wonderful entertainer! You guys make me laugh...I love that!

After reading the message board, I was disappointed
in finding out the cir #&@% stances in which Tori and Dean met. Sleeping with a married man on the first time they met is really abhorrent. I've watched every show on the reality show and I've never seen either one of them take responsibility of breaking up both marriages. They have candy-coated the cir #&@% stances on how their relationship was started.
It is despicable and Tori really has some nerve taking responsibility for "creating the the family she used to dream about." Im not saint and we are all only human, but I would never sleep with a married man the first time we met. Tori and Angelina Jolie should start a club "sleep with your married co-star"

Tori,
I love your show. I kinda know how you feel when your mom didn't show up to Stellas birthday party. Me and my dad don't have the best relationship and I invited him to my daughters 1st birthday party (in July) and he said he would go and then the day came and he didn't show up and he didn't call and still to this day me and him haven't talked. My sons 4th birthday party is comming up in September but I don't think I am going to invite him. You and Dean seem like awesome parents and I love to watch your show!
Me and my mom used to watch 90210 and I have been a fan of yours since then (I am only 22). So I have been a fan of yours for awhile! Can't wait til next season! I hope the best for you and your family!

Tori,

I enjoy watching the show and have been impressed how hard you and Dean work and come across very down to earth. This is random, but I recently saw a picture of you and family bike riding--the children with helmets, you and Dean without helmets. I recently had a friend who wasn't wearing a helmet die from in accident (a car owner opened their door into the bike lane without looking); he had two young children.

If there is one thing I wish upon families riding bikes together, please have everyone wear helmets! Please role model for your children and protect yourselves, so you can be present in the future! It was a heartbreaking accident and I only hope other families will safely bike together.

Best to you and your family, and continue having fun adventures!

Dear Miss Tori, I was wondering if you really reply to messages left on your blog? Because I have some very personal stories I'd like to write about, but they are not for all read (just you & Dean). I know or I hope my stories will help you with your egg donor. I am so very proud of you, and how you have raised your beautiful children, are a very loving wife, and the way you love your extended family. Every time you cry, I cry with you. Miss Tori I don't want to take up any more space. I just hope you reply. Hugs & Kisses to Lil' Mr. Monkey, and princess Lady Bug. xo

you are the best person ever im only 10 years lod and i love you . you rock i watch your show every time it is on. my mom told me what happend between
you and you mom i feel so sorry for you but even with out her you have a great famliy. i wish i could see you in person but i live all the way down in florida. my mom said im not allowd to put my e-mail down. but if you do. i can e-mail you.
i cant wait to tell all my friends about you! you
rock

love skye,

Hi,
I've just recently started watching your show and got hooked right away (and I'm not much of a reality show fan) because of how honestly real your situations are. Here are a few things I just wanted to share in case it does any good :)

1) My husband is also hooked on bike racing. I was sooo in your shoes when that call came in. My husband (fiance' at the time) had a bad crash (not just a slider) while I was visiting some family about 4 hours away. That day was the just the worst ever. I couldn't have imagined it. I would love for him to quit, but like you couldn't take something he loves away from him. So I just pray and hope. Hang in there!

2) Your mom. Honey, I'm barely an adult but have lived 3 lifetimes at the least. I can pass this sense along and hope it helps. The very sad and very scary truth is yes, there are people who are moms and gradmas out there that couldn't give a darn about their children and grandchildren or care so little that they are not near the top of the priority list. These women are fools. They value themselves more but most won't dare be so blunt about the honest truth of how they feel as they will then have a bad "image" and image is more important than the obvious. I know you know better. You know you can't trust your mom. Doesn't mean you have to hate her or wish her ill will, but it also doesn't mean you have to risk yourself or your children by reaching out when you've done your part. It is foolish and dangerous to the mental health of you and your children to keep reaching out to someone who genuinely does not want to take that hand. She is a smart woman. She knows what she needs to do, and only she can make herself do it. No one else can. She knows you love her and are open to her seeing her grandchildren with genuine care, so that's all that you can do! It only feeds and enables her ego to know that you'll keep trying and risking your heart and your childrens hearts allowing her to just bash it down.

Find the common sense and strength for your children and yourself. Put that on a back burner. Be pleasantly and hesitant(ly) shocked if she does do her part of the effort. But don't let it plague your mind anymore honey. Life's too short. That's not what you want to give your children.

Hope this is read by any who wanted to read it, and it's a pleasure watching your show.

Dee *:o)

Tori, I have always watched you, I have the movie Troop Beverly Hills, I was a fan of Beverly Hills 90210 and still watch the re-runs on televions and I am getting the seasons on DVD. I love the Lifetime movies that you do, you are very down to earth and the relationship that you have with your friends is amazing. The love that you and Dean have is very strong and be proud of the fact that he cares so deeply for you and the kids, who by the way are beautiful. You are going to be a better mother then your mother ever was. Sometimes it hurts to hear the truth from family but when a person you dont know tells you that your mother is missing out and you should just forget about sending her invitaions and trying to communicate with her. I could not imagine my mother not seeing or speaking with my daughter of my self it would just kill me. It's her lose. You need to think of yourself and your kids and they are so little they wont remember anything about her because she is not in their life and that is a shame. know that your familiy and friends and of course your fans are there for you 100% love the show and watch all the time I wish Patsy was still there but i am sure that you and dean will have another kid real soon. You are great parents and loving. people and I love you cant wait for next season to start. Live your life for yourself and your husband and kids, you are a fabulous person and such a role model keep doing what ever it is that you are doing

I love Tori and Dean. They're literally the perfect couple, marriage, and parents. Dean is an amazing father and husband... he does everything and anything for Tori and the kids, she's really lucky and it shows that there are GOOD men out there!! He's the perfect husband!

I love your attitude, but I could never see you as a stay at home mom, trust me it sucks big womba. Your the mom you always wanted with the life. You keep it real with the kids and in Hollywood that is a miricle of its own. Take care sending you and your family love.

I just want to say to you Tori that I can totally relate with the Mommy thing. I can also say, no can know how you are feeling unless they have gone through it. At least for me I have days that I say, well if my mother does not want to be part of my life. I can live with it. My reality is that I love my mother. I will never understand our relationship.

My mother stopped talking to me for over 6 years. For her own reasons. Whatever they were. Believe it or not they were the worse 6 years.

I felt embarrassed. What people must think of me, because why would a mother stop talking to her daughter.

I constantly spoke about my sadness others who never knew what to say.

My mother I have reunited. She called my daughter and invited her down to visit her and said bring your mom.

Although, she did change. Nor, her thoughts, views or how she related to me. I had changed. I setup rules for myself. Don't talk about the past. Don't be a victim. Let her say and be who she is. And so and so forth. The best one. When patient's are done smile and go home.

I will tell you. I do need my mother in my life. In some way shape or form she empowers me.

what a cute b-day for your daughter that was a cutie theme i was sad to see your nanny to go are u still looking for a nanny i was a houskeper for six yrs for a dr ran there life my kids ar all grow up going threw empty nest so bad i love kids on your stella b-day she was crying cause she wasnt use to see all those people she dosnt know it so normal i got attach to your show and enjoy very much keep being yourself take your time to be with kids and do fun things when they get bigger take them camping and dean you are a great husband and father keep being adventuresmake life great have a great and health life together thanks for your time debbie

tori and dean i have been wanting to write you and tell you both how much i love your show!!!you guys are my only inspiration right now.i tragiclly lost my fiance' a month ago to a horrrible train accident.your show reminds me of us soooo much.andrew who was my everything is just live dean and great father and loving man to me..he always pestering me just like dean does to you...sex sex sex thats all they think of it makes me laugh so much cuz andrews just like that with me.we have 2 beautiful girls:delaney who is almost 6 and brynn who turned 1 july 7 08 and andrew passed away july 14th of 09...i lost everthing that day.i cant seem to move on but ive got to be positive for my babies.i just wanted you both to know that your show is the only thing that makes me happy for that half hour i watch it...it makes me remember andrew,handsome,strong ,sexy and loving father. i see how much you are truly in love and thats how andrew and i were...i miss him so much but i just try to take it day by day but life sucks without our daddy he held us all together...well i love your show and thanks for being so real and showing people theres still true love out there...thanks for the laughs jamie diercks from a small small town in illinois

I missed the scene about Dean's tattoo what is it. and why did he do it...thanks

Tori and Dean, You guys have an awesome fam and I semi have become addicted to T&D. Just got mommywood and cant wait to get started. Ok ok, so I will be very honest here is the real reason for my post. I have a sweet,delicious little 5 month old who I cant imagine life without. I know it takes some time to get the "bod" back but seriously give me your secret. I know natuarally you are thinner than me (thats ok I would settle for a much larger version of you:) But I gained about 35-ish pounds.(we all know that really means add a few) and I have lost it all but the last 10....stage 5 clingers those last 10. PLEASE give me some thoughts aside from the obvious work out, eat well. I have a brand new baby...extreme work out sessions are not going down so regularly. Any advice is helpful. Thank you a ton and I hope you guys are back for another season . Crazy about you all

Tori,
You are my role model. I think you're stunning and amazing. Don't let any of those hurtful comments get to you. I bet they just want attention. You're a fabulous mother and your show is my favorite show ever! I can't wait for the next season. I really want to see Stella and Liam all grown up. You're really the best and I love you!

Love your biggest, youngest fan (13),
Rachel A. W.

I started watching your show about 4 hours ago with my son for the first time and we are completely amazed and happy to watch a show that teaches about love,caring and family. We are going through some tough time in my marriage and watching your guys show is adorable and makes me realize that I could have a relationship just like that with my husband. Please Tori and Dean always be real.....don't mess up your relationship like most couples in Hollywood. Your reality show is amazing!!!!

Tori

I think you have a beautiful family...Your mother is the loser..She will regret the choices she made....but always keep a open mind....Mothers make mistakes too...remember to forgive is divine....love who you are and the life you have made.....and the friends you have in your life.... connie

I know how it is with mom's my mother is named candy to and she get's funky dunky at times that drives me crazzy! With my mom it's all about her and only her, I know all will work out sending all you love xoxoxox

I am at this moment, watching your show for the first time. Have to say, Tori, that I am blown away at the issues you are having with your mother. I just recently, after spending most of my life dealing with my mother decided to cut ties with her. It was a very difficult decision to make, because just like you I do love her but at some point you have to save yourself. I am 56 years old and I spent all my life trying to wait and see if she would change but to no avail. I have found out that it was that we did not make the transition from parent child relationship to adult adult relationship. This kept me in the child mode so that I could not move forward and completely be who I am without her parental imput. The hardest thing for me to do was sever the relationship after my writing to her and asking her to let me have some time to sort this out and that maybe we could write back and forth to each other until I could figure things out. Well, she wrote back and said that that letter was going to be the last I would get from her, that she did not want to do that. So what has happened since then was for me to really go inside and figure out what really happened and find out who I really am. What I have now realized was that she was so used to getting her way that she couldn't handle not having the control over me. She is also wanting to blame me for our failed relationship but the question is, who was here first me or her? Who is the mother? Who teaches who? I have, by the grace of God, got the most fabulous relationship with both my daughter and my son. Her behavior helped me to do different with both my children. It taught me to make sure they knew that they were loved by me with no conditions. I can say that I do not dislike my mother, I love her very much but it was time for me to make my way and do my life the way I wanted to. To know that there was nothing I did wrong, I was just me. Something I should have done years ago was to cut her off as I have done, but was not able to for fear of feeling that I had abandoned her. But in the long run what I did was abandon MY life for her. I let her have my life to do with as she pleased and in the long run hurt myself and my life by trying to please her in order to get her unconditional love. What we do when this happens is not allow ourselves to count. We don't live our authentic life because we are too afraid of not feeling that we are liked and or loved. I found out that she in the long run did not like me. And that means that she in the long run, has not liked herself.
I have been in a way abandoned by the rest of the family, but I still have my own little world of a family and that means more to me than anything else. It doesn't matter anymore what ANYONE thinks because they have not walked in my shoes or have gone through what I did. Thank God my husband got to actually see my mother in action otherwise I would have thought I was out of my mind. I, like you, felt that I didn't want to give up hope but my suffering under her constant need to be pleased is not going to stop and I have a sincere need to have a life to live...my way. I believe she is spoiled and will not be able to make the transition but that is not my responsibility. My responsibility is to myself and my own family and THAT family is wonderful! I have a fabulous husband and two fabulous children. What more could I ask for? You are doing GREAT and I am here in spirit sending you strength to continue on the path you are on to be that person you are wanting to be for yourself. It is all about you, don't waste the years I did pleasing someone that cannot please her own self. This is why she is unhappy, not because of me but because of her own self. Truly it is very visible you have a gracious heart and your children will benefit greatly from your love and actions toward them. Carry on bravely, you are not alone. Blessings to you always.

Hi Tori an Dean,
Both of us have been fans of your's for years. We meaning, Jo Ann and I are really the 1st Will and Grace....We have been living together for 11 years even before the show...I can honestly say were like some sort of soul mates in a different way and we just LOVE your show and see how your life changed. Reading the books and including your Mom's I find after seeing you have changed for the better. You have gained TORI own person and perhaps it was Dean and you having the love you both share with the world to see. You are so surounded by people who are good KARMA and I do believe in that. Or you call it FATE which ever you choose.I really hope and do believe in your one show you commented it's blood and perhaps 1 day your mother and you will come to terms. I really wonder if you'll ever be able to read this because there is so much to tell and say,but like you say in your book theres another time for that.
We both just want to say thanks for sharing your open house and some good and some bad things you want all of us to know.
It can't be a perfect world and people should know that. But we can live what each day gives us.....
M&J

Tori (: I've read both of your books & haven't missed one episode of Tori&Dean ! I'm only 16 & you are my idol, you inspire me & give me hope ! If there's one thing I would want to say to you it's that you always struggle so hard to show people you are normal, you are, you don't need to try so hard (: When you meet someone new you always subconsciously say "Hi, I'm Tori" ... People know who you are yet you still introduce yourself, that's normal. ((: Thank you for everything!

hey tori love your show, i watched you as donna martin, and this new show with dean and your kids is great, i think your a great mom and your kids are very lucky to have you as there mother, keep up the good work and cant wait to read your book.dean is a great dad too, your marriage is giving a lot of people hope, i love the way you talk things out and work everything out, are you and dean havin more kids??? they will be beautiful like liam and stella, ill keep watchin a fan cindy

Hi Tori, Dean, Liam and Stella:
I am personally blown away by the following and support you have for the show and your family. Reading the comments to your blogs is amazing and I can't imagine what that means to you. I was quickly hooked on the show basically because it was so refreshing to learn that you really are normal people (for one) and that you both are grounded and so in love with each other and your children. I live in Iowa (you the know, the middle of no-where, known as the Midwest full of corn fields) and I'm from a small town area, so it's kind of like being a celebrity since everybody knows everybody and their business. I have had the same parenting fears that you tend to have regarding "being like your mother" at least I think that's part of your fear, is alienating your daughter (or either of your children for that matter) becuase my mom was a single, teenage parent and though she faced her responsiblity and raising a baby on her own as a teenager she wasn't always the most reliable or responsible person and I grew up a lot on my own and very quickly. We moved around a lot, she has been married and divorced several times and has encountered many other life changing events that I've been there to hold her hand and pick up the pieces. Well my relationship with my mother wasn't always great but once I became an adult it turned around for the better and has been much better than it used to be. My relationship with my biological father though was tumultuous as well, he's verbally and emotionally abusive, tries to be controlling and of course takes no responsiblity for any of his actions or mistakes. He uses people and he walks all over them. I defended him for years to my mom and her family, I held out hope that he would change. I first realized the truth behind it all when I was 14 and lost most of that hope. Since about the age of 25 I've cut off all ties with not only him but his parents and siblings who were always good to me and my kids. It's terribly difficult to deny my grandparents access to their Great-grandchildren but I refuse to allow my "father" to be apart of my life or their lives for the horrible way he has treated and disrespected me and anyone close to him. It is hard but there comes a point where you have to realize that the hurt and frustration and heartbreak isn't worth the time and worry and stress. You could be spending that time focusing even more on your children and their happiness and of course your career. Why not worry about whether Liam and Stella would like a little brother or sister than whether or not your mom is going to call or come over out of the blue... She could have at least called or emailed or texted in reply to the b-day party invite. I think she thrives on the attention and the pity she gets from people who believe that you have wronged her and that you purposely try to keep your family away from her. It's a very hard situation and no one can pretend to know what it's like unless they've been there - and even then everyone handles those situations differently - I think that you have dealt very well with the whole thing but really how long can you go on holding onto that string of hope. I am not judgemental but I think I was just as disappointed as you were that she didn't show up for the party and I don't even know the lady! I would support you no matter what and I know Dean does exactly that - he's been wonderful! I also think it's good and healthy that he also tells you what he really thinks and "tries" to put his foot down when it comes to your mom, but he's there to support you no matter what. I can't wait to see what else is in store in your crazy busy lives - take care of each other!

Hi! Tori & Dean
when i first started to watch your show, i thought oh! just another reality show, but as i continued to watch each week i realized that it was nothing like all of the other reality shows. it was real and from the heart, you guys are amazing parents and stella and monkey are the luckiest kids in the world, and i love the way that you treat your nanny because you do not see color you just see another human being and that is so wonderful. I cried with you guys when she had to leave because you were so close. and as for your mother, she is not considered one in my book. I love you guys and keep up the good work!!!

Hi Tori! I'm such a huge fan of yours and your show!! I live nearby Chicago and I was hoping you would have a book signing in that area, hoping you haven't already and I missed it?! I have your first book that I loved and can't wait to get your second book and I would love to get your autograph! You have like the same personality as I do and you are just awesome and fabulous. I love you and your cute family!! Adorable babies, I would love to have a beautiful family like yours, you are so lucky and blessed!! And Tori don't ever give up hope on your mom! I agree with you that you can't just give up on someone that is your blood and your heart. I have a similar situation with my granddaddy. So I'm saying a little prayer for you two to patch things up!! Keep your hopes up!! You are a terrific and down to earth person I don't see any reason why anyone wouldn't want you in their life. You're just awesome. And if there is some way I can find out when and where you are having book signings, please let me know.

Hey Tori,

I just wanted to let you know I absolutly love your show and have been watching it since season 2. I'm 18 years old and I live in Alabama. In case you didn't already know this, I just wanted to tell you that you and Dean touch lives even down South. I've had bad experiences with relationships with guys and I have an even worse relationship with my mom. I wanted to let you know that you are an inspiration to me in more ways than I can possibly describe. In a world where most couples become a divorce statistic, my parents included, yours and Dean's relationship really makes me believe that there are good men out there and happiness is possible. You are also a wonderful mother to your children, and watching you with them helps me believe that I won't be destined to make the same mistakes with my children one day that my mom made with me. You and Dean have meant so much to me and there is no way I can thank you enough for your message. I look forward to watching the upcoming seasons. When your children's book is finished you should consider doing a book signing somewhere in the South because I would love to meet both you and Dean.

hey tori hey dean my name is nathalie i am just an 11 year old girl living in NJ and i LOVE your show. This might sound cheese but i already have my future to think about. I worte everything down and i am willing to tell you it. Since i am 11 i am trying to get an acting carier as well as a singing carier but i have stage firght!!!!! In my teens i am still going to be working on my singing and acting crier after that when i get a well edgacation and when i am out of collage and i am in my 20s i will be acting and maybe i will stop my singing carier i dont know yet but when i and in my 30s and i have my firt born i and going to have a show just like you and while i have my firt born i am going to start my own book about me my family and friends. After i have my second baby and she is 12 mouths old then i am going to strat my own babycoth and while that is going on i am going to do my own jewlery and when i have my husban we r going to do our own movie together and then i will have guy friends i always wanted a guy friend and plan their wedding and everything. I LOVE YOU TORI AND DEAN YOU GUYS R MY IDOL!!!!!!!!! i hope this wasnt borning i just wanted to tell u. hope you write back or u can write back in my gmail thx for listinging luv ya bye:)

I have been hooked on your show since it started on Oxygen.

I love the relationship you have with Dean and you are a great Mother. My daughter is 32 now and I as well wonder where the time went. You are doing a great job, but I do not think you need to be told that as your heart is telling you the same.

I episode where Patsy was leaving had me crying as hard as you where. I think Mehran is a great person. Love the guncles and how they are with your children.

I am recovering from surgery and had a friend purchase both your books for me and I finished both of them in 2 days.

I look forward to many seasons of Tori and Dean!!!

Thank You

I luv the show <3 Tori if u read this could u please answer because i remember u saying on an episode that u need to make srapboks for the babys and i can help you with that.... i have sold and made many scrapbooks for people so if u want contact me i can make those for you... thanks for opening ur life to everyone on ur show.... i love it and u and ur whole family Love always <3, taylor

Love your show. Best reality show on TV.

Tori,
Love your show and your kids. When was Monkey's 2nd Birthday? My grand daughter Cassidy's 2nd was on May 2nd. Perhaps we could fix them up. She's a cutie with blue eyes and curly blonde hair.

I JUST LOVE THE SHOW, YOUR MOTHER IS WASTING PRECIOUS TIME, THAT SHE COULD BE SPENDING WITH THE CHILDREN. SO WHAT CAMERA'S WERE THERE, WHO CARES
KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING. WE GET IT, EVEN IF
SHE DOESN'T

Hey Tori, I love your show it's so enjoyable to watch. I have a baby girl about to turn 1 in 3 months and I loved the Bib you had for your girl Stella. Where did you get it? I would really like to get one for my little one for her birthday party. Thanks so much.

Hi Tori and Dean, since both of you were previously married before you got together, I wanted to know how did you know that you were meant to be together and that leaving your spouses was the right thing to do. I am in the same situation, feel like I met the person that I should be with for the rest of my life but unfortunately both of us are married and have kids... we want to be together but we feel bad to make a decision because we don't want to hurt the kids and the rest of the family. Your thoughts?... should we fight for our love?

I'm new to the show and I love it! I love how you are so family oriented and the way you and Dean pay attention to your kids. I have a just turned two year old and its crazy talk, but i love every second of it!! you are doing a great job being a mom and Dean is a fantastic dad! Good job guys!

Hi Tori,

I just loving watching your show as well as all your movies. It's also nice to have you back on 90210! I have a daughter that is about to turn a year old and it seems like I had her just yesterday! It is really sad when they reach 1 because you know that they are that much closer to no longer being a baby. I think I might cry her whole birthday. Anyway, Congrats Stella for being the big 1!! I hope that Dean and you decide to try for another baby because you make beautiful children.

love ya guys!

Dear Tori and Dean,

I have been following you for about 3 seasons, and I love you both. At 40 years old I totally understand the way you both feel about your parents, and tori you have to listen to Dean, as much as you want your mom to be there, she isnt, please cut that tie, if for no other reason, so you could have peace of mind. When your mother runs out of excuses and the image she sees looking back at here isnt the person she wants to be, only then will she change, accepting her for who she is doesnt mean you have to continue to extend yourself or family to her in the hopes that she'll latch on for the ride... Tori you've had to grow up alone, dont let that lonliness affect how you raise your children in a negative way, you are an awesome mom, you are changing the cycle, the curse that you where left with... hold onto Dean, he is your reality and life preserver, he will keep you grounded and vise versa, you both make me believe in love, I never had it from my parents which makes it hard to give it to someone else. I did change the cycle with my children, as you are doing with yours. Tori keep your head up and keep loving your children as you are doing. Even your uncle was surprised about you being a hands on mom.... Keep up the FAMILY DINNERS... you and Dean need them....

I Love you both, keep up the great parenting and Husband and wife time.... and Tori... you need to give Dean a little more sex... he looks kind of cranky sometimes... and dont be upset when he makes comments sexually, you are a very sexy mother and your husband knows it, he appreciates it and you, reward him, he needs a romantic night with just the two of you and no cameras... if you know what i mean... He's past due for some... and give it more often. Oh, and the bike thing, Tori, u #&@% n rock.... give the man his toys so he can love you more... Man I wish I had a man like Dean..

KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK... BOTH OF YOU. CONTINUE YOUR PATH, ITS ONE THAT ONLY YOU CAN WALK. I HOPE TO SEE YOU AGAIN NEXT SEASON.

Much Love and Respect

Hi - I am a designer in Austin, TX. I have a three year old son, an eight month old daughter, and a 7 year old stepson. My husband and I absolutely love throwing parties for our children. My baby girl, Hannah, will be 1 in December and I have started planning her 1st birthday party. What is your favorite website(s) for party planning and purchasing? You have great taste and throw amazing parties. I would appreciate your feedback, especially on baby girl parties. Thanks! - Jennifer

ps. I don't watch much tv, but I record your show. It reminds me that I can be a great mom/wife and build my own career and businesses.

Your show ain't worth watching. You are one ugly woman(?????)and you should pay your hubby for letting you have his kids.You are vain and empty!Oxygen should clean up its shows starting with yours.Their new show all about beauty is about as sickening as yours.Your offspring is most definitely doomed.

Hi Tori,

I watched your show Tuesday and saw that you were making homemade food for the babies. That is so great. But in the following scene of Liam brushing his teeth I saw a can of Lysol on the counter. I was wondering if you would be interested in using products that would be safer for you, Dean and especially the kids and environmentally friendly too. The company is called Melaleuca. They are the world leader in producing products that are better, safer and greener. They have won the very hard to get Torch Award for being an ethical company from the Better Business Bureau. I would love to give you a presentation over the phone. What your children touch and breathe in is so vital to their well-being. Please consider this.

Thanks,
Gail Gustave
A fan!!

Tori, I think you're an amazing mother to both of your kids. My biggest prayer for you is that you do everything you can to focus on your family and NOT on your mom. I know she's your mom and she's important, but while you're waiting you're emotionally being taken away from all of those people who came to celebrate Stella. You were not comfortable. If you do nothing else, please know that none of this is your fault. You lost your dad,,,she lost her husband. and you really can understand her reasons for not wanting to make the reunion a media frenzy. Just as you knew what was best for your family and you went in that room to protect them(that's all us moms want to do!)at this point she may have been gone for so long and with the banter of the books,,,is it possible that she might be scared to come over? scared that you have your posse of friends and Dean. This is all going to be a big deal for her. I know that you were the child and feel this need to almost overcompensate because of how your mom treated you, but that burden isn't theirs to bare. when you talk about her in front of Liam, he's hearing a lot more then you know and it's amazing how that carry's through into his adult life. unfortunately certain things can be cut out but the show made sound like all you did was worry about your mom showing us at the only 1st birthday Stella's ever going to have. in reality, i believe in my heart that you were having maybe two conversation and they cut them together and used them. over and over. and if there was an actual woman sitting behind you with a voice that sounded like the voice that said "hi candy" i think we may have heard her at some point during the party.
i am 38 and i have a 20 y/o and a 17 y/o who will be a senior in sept when school starts (we live in NY) Being pregnant at 17 wasn't in my plan but i thank God everyday. I truly believe they saved my life. I guess after rambling all this time, what i really wanted to say is please just relax and enjoy them. sooner then you think stella and liam will be running around a store laughing because it's become their fav game and you'll wonder why you wanted stella to talk. it's overrated until they are old enough to stay home by themselves. really, just keep doing what you're doing and STOP LOOKING OVER YOUR SHOULDER!
and start turning things down. you need to learn the art of laying on the floor and letting kids climb all over you and then they drool in you eye you when your holding them up and your mouth is open and out of nowhere it's the loudest, wetest, sneeze you've ever worn. be well

Tori, I think you're an amazing mother to both of your kids. My biggest prayer for you is that you do everything you can to focus on your family and NOT on your mom. I know she's your mom and she's important, but while you're waiting you're emotionally being taken away from all of those people who came to celebrate Stella. You were not comfortable. If you do nothing else, please know that none of this is your fault. You lost your dad,,,she lost her husband. and you really can understand her reasons for not wanting to make the reunion a media frenzy. Just as you knew what was best for your family and you went in that room to protect them(that's all us moms want to do!)at this point she may have been gone for so long and with the banter of the books,,,is it possible that she might be scared to come over? scared that you have your posse of friends and Dean. This is all going to be a big deal for her. I know that you were the child and feel this need to almost overcompensate because of how your mom treated you, but that burden isn't theirs to bare. when you talk about her in front of Liam, he's hearing a lot more then you know and it's amazing how that carry's through into his adult life. unfortunately certain things can be cut out but the show made sound like all you did was worry about your mom showing us at the only 1st birthday Stella's ever going to have. in reality, i believe in my heart that you were having maybe two conversation and they cut them together and used them. over and over. and if there was an actual woman sitting behind you with a voice that sounded like the voice that said "hi candy" i think we may have heard her at some point during the party.
i am 38 and i have a 20 y/o and a 17 y/o who will be a senior in sept when school starts (we live in NY) Being pregnant at 17 wasn't in my plan but i thank God everyday. I truly believe they saved my life. I guess after rambling all this time, what i really wanted to say is please just relax and enjoy them. sooner then you think stella and liam will be running around a store laughing because it's become their fav game and you'll wonder why you wanted stella to talk. it's overrated until they are old enough to stay home by themselves. really, just keep doing what you're doing and STOP LOOKING OVER YOUR SHOULDER!
and start turning things down. you need to learn the art of laying on the floor and letting kids climb all over you and then they drool in you eye you when your holding them up and your mouth is open and out of nowhere it's the loudest, wetest, sneeze you've ever worn. be well

thanks Tori and the same back to you also and I'm sure you are.
Like the song says :Look How Far We've Come" loved that last one :-) BTW-will you be coming back with Dean the kids and your doggies and the rest of your crew?? I/we miss you. Or will this be in the fan newsletter??

Renate

hi tori-

this is my first time doing a blog i am a military spouse and have had my shed of tears with my hubby going to iraq to going korea, so i do understand how important family is. i read over some of the blogs here on your site and i am quite shocked to say the least, i dont think anyone has a right to judge you for being who are. you have family problems everyone does except yours are aired for all to watch. you are your own judge dont let other people get to you with remarks, they are meaningless and i hope you keep doing the show. i love seeing your children and i like the fact you are a hands on mom. i have three beutiful little girls and i think that kids keep things real. they have no judgements and love you for who are. you have a nice family and i look forward to seeing more of you and for all you bloggers out there talking tori and dean you are still watching arent you! take care tori and dean

Tori,
I forgot to commend you on the outstanding birthdays you throw your children. For the haters out there they only wish they could throw there children such great birthdays. Yes the economy is bad but if you have the money to throw parties like that, then why not. So haters keep hating that's why you have the life you have. God is Love not hate.

To all the haters: Grow the fu** up!! You all are just jealous! Tori is blessed with a great family and friends. And to anyone who thinks she is 'ugly'- remember true beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Hi Tori,
Don't pay attention to those ignorant comments it's obvious those people only wish they could have your life. I really feel your pain about your mother. Your mom is being selfish one day she's going to have to answer to God for her actions. Just be the best mother, best wife and individual you can be. Tori you need to seek God for strength. I don't want to sound to religious but reality is that God has brought Joy into my life and he could bring into to yours and your family. All he asks is that you seek him and read his word. You won't be disappointed in the results. Just try it and you'll see. You are a beautiful woman and your children are adorable. I'll pray for you and your family. God Bless you all.

I love the show but I don't like what's going on between mother and daughter. My belief is that Tori is being a spoiled brat. She wants her mother to do things a certain way and that's not happening so she is having a tantrum. Tori time to grow up and make amends.

OMG
get ur head our of ur ass! dont u know that we're in a economy crissis right now? i bet u dont! u just go prancing around like nothing is wrong, spending all of your money on totally tacky birthdays, i mean seriously! get it together! oh and u better buy those kids a mask, their ugly as hell! oh and ur sooo fat! i love you mean momma you are sooooo right!!!

I know someone mentioned this already, but I think an episode or a 2 or 3 part episode should be devoted to Aaron Spelling's life his accomplishments, interviews with people involved with his shows, and of course Tori & her brother, how they grew up together, and are they still friendly. Hope they are, he's Liam's & Stella's uncle.

Hey Tori
Three things that I think you should know-
1.
Remember this sayin - "If it's not one thing, it's your Mother."
(enough said about Candy)
2. Love your books, you are an incredible writer and can pull emotions with words like a composer does with music- now, while a children's book will be great- everyone is thinking easy way out. Not an insult, we'll all enjoy it but c'mon, and please don't wite about a sad rich childhood- timing in the nation couldnt be worse. I know dolls behind glass cases is cruel to a child, but some people can't eat at the moment. Writing about someone in the 3rd person who we know is you is too narcassitic and you are NOT that. Someone isnt beinghonest with you in your great circle.
3. Your next book should be about growing up in Bev Hills.Your famous neighbors, your Dad's friends who we would faint to see and you just hoped they brought gum. A child's perspecive- 3 to 18- and ALL positive- i think you forget how exciting your life is/was to us normies. Myself and all of my friends would buy that tomorrow. Pranks at the mansion- a tell all on people without being cruel.
FINALLY,oh and 4th- WHEN are you going to produce a tribute to your Dad. A television special featuring his reputation as being as gracious to the stars of his show as to the crew of his show. THAT is why you are so emotional and down to earth. You have his heart honey. Now go produce it- he deserved so much more of a tribute. No one comes close to him except maybe, nope, no one. Candy cant stop that- loopholes everywhere. Actors I bet will line UP to speak. You will feel so good after that. Hurry before Candy Corn hires people. Thats my two cents.

I would love to see you do more charity work with your new fashion line. When you had that fashion show you should've asked all of your friends attending to bring clothes to donate to the Ronald McDonald house or a shelter in your area. Instead of just making cute, trendy clothes think of ways to give back to your community.

So much hate out there. Don't let it get ya Tori, love the show and how real you and your family are. You and Dean are amazing parents who truly love one another and your beautiful children! I truly enjoyed your books and can't wait for each episode of the show;)

Hi Tori and Dean, Just wanted to say that im a huge fan and i really enjoy watching ur show.I have been a fan Tori since 90210. My friend and i are huge fans and were really disappointed when we couldn't go to ur book signing in LA. We were wondering if u were going to write another book or if we could have you some how sign our books if we sent them? I remember he was so upset because he really wanted to meet you so bad but he didnt want to go without me but i was in school. I just have to say that you both are truly amazing people. Its funny because whenever my fiance and i watch your show we just laugh becasue your relationship reminds us of how we are (minus the kids). He always has to tell me to relax and try not to do to many projects (but they are so much fun). I love planning parties (and of course like you Tori they all have to have a theme. It wouldn't be a party without a theme). I just hope that when we do get married our relationship will be like yours, solid like a rock, a good bond, and knowing that my partner truly loves me. Seeing you too i know that you guys will be married for a long time. Well congrats on the books, the past seasons, and cant wait tell next season.

just wanted to say that i love your show and i can't wait for the next season. your a wonderful mom. How do you do it, i would go crazy tryin to juggle all the things you do. i hope you mom comes around because she is missing out on your beautiful kids life and that is wrong. It doesn't matter whats going on her life, she needs to put her differences aside and see them. So when are you gonna have another baby? i wish you the best with your mom, I hope she wakes upi one of these days and comes and sees your babys

You have a wonderful family. Thanks for sharing them with us. Being a grandmother myself, I can't help but feel bad for your mother and all she is missing. I am sure she longs to spend time with those babies.

Has anyone noticed that Tori & Dean's son Liam looks like Tori's brother Randy...

You're a train wreck and you'll be divorced in a few years. Your hubby's a total space cadet and bad actor. I was glad your Mom didn't show at the party-you should have a meeting in private if you really want to mend the rift.

hi tori,
i am a 11 year old girl i love to watch your show but all this little problems about your mommy you need to fix them you are pathedic on th camera. and there is now way you should of let patcie go just cause stella is 1 you should of let her go around the age of 5 years or so. dean is good father but i feel the time he is taking off to do race driving he could with is kids.

about candy if she want ot be like that then leave her like that dont waste your energy for her. i will right later please reply thanks.

i missed the 1st season of the show,started watching the 2nd and was hooked.i grew up with beverly hills 90210 ,we are the same age tori and i had an opinion of you that was proved wrong when i started watching the show..wow your a sweet ,deep person.We assume because your rich you have everything and never deal with the hurt or worries the rest of us do but you showed us a different side than that.how lucky are you to have such great friends around you.i'm so jealous you have such amazing supportive friends,so hard to find yet you have them.i can understand your desire to have a relationship with your mom and for her to be proud of the beautiful children you have made and are raising.it will happen...it has too :) i think its great you take your kids with you whenever you can on buisness trips.thats what families do ,they do it together even if its tough.i have 5 kids and of course it would be easier to do things alone but its about time together not what were doing.my husband started watching this last season with me and is hooked too.good luck with everything tori ..your a treasure and we really like you guys alot.

I love your show and your kids are so sweet. I think Dean and you are great parents, so down to earth. You have so much love around you so don't worry about your mother. Seeing the kids...it's in her hands now you reached out and she didn't grab a hold. Can't wait till next season can't believe this one is over already! All the happiness for you and the family. I'll miss seeing Patsy hope she is back soon!

I think your show is wonderful! I caught an episode about a month ago and have been hooked! However with 2 little ones of my own, it is rare that I am able to watch much of any shows. When I do, it never fails... Something takes my attention away and I miss parts. I was wondering if the series is available on DVD? I would love to watch from the start and catch up on everything i have missed! If so where can i find it?

Tori,
Loved this past season of the show and am really looking to next season already. Your kids are just the most precious kids next to mine of course. LOL. Anyways just wanted to send my support for you in your efforts to have a realationship with your mom. You know your mom best so however you want to handle the issues with her is the way you should. Its not like she has never used you in your life for her own benefit. I just think the world of you and Dean. Can I ask you one question? What type of cell phone do you use? My husband and I have a little bet going on this question. Have a great rest of 2009 and look forward to catching up with you and your family next season.

Sincerly,
Spoiled Princess

whoa people are crazy on here

Hi Tori,
I have a great book you should read, Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Will I Ever Be Good Enough by Karyl McBride, Ph.D.
I am in the middle of the book and have learned a lot. I believe it will help you heal.
Good Luck

Tori,

I must admit I thought the show would be awful but after watching a few episodes I really enjoy it. You guys seem down to earth and genuine. I feel you are quite fortunate for finding your soulmate ,having adorable kids and supportive friends in Hollywood. It must be nice to be able to use your creativity and put it out there . Thanks for letting us inside of your life.

I love the peasant tops you where ,maybe you should create your own clothing line .

I wish you continued success !

Yes, I do have kids as a matter of fact, but i don't expose them on national televison, so it's safe to say i don't think anyone will be blogging about my kids. I like to blog when the kids are asleep, and in between doing dishes. So it's not really that i have too much time on my hands I was just watching the show and talking to some of my friends, and we agreed that i should let my opinion be known. boo hoo i know it's mean but i dont care. anyways theres nothing anyone can say to change what i think, you can sit there all day and tell me how mean and stuff i am, but it wont affect me so don't waste your time. oh p.s. those kids are soOoOoOoO ugly. Oh and tori quit whinning about your mommy, get some REAL problems, i know you could afford to buy some.

Hi Tori...
I think that inviting your mother to Stellas birthday was great. The way I see it is that your mother doesn't want to put her part into making this relationship work. However, don't let this get you down. You have a great husband and two wonderful children that love you. Getting off the subject I would like to ask a question that perhaps you could answer for me. After 2 years of trying to conceive a child with my husband we finally got prego. I've watched all of your shows and I really love the dresses that you wore during your pregnancies. What kind of dresses are they? Do you know were I can find similar ones?
Thanx lots....

Hi Tori
I just finished your 2nd book. Last year, I was recovering from brain surgery (sounds worse than it is)and could not put your book down. Today, I read Mommywood in one day. I wanted to write and tell you that I am so surprised how much your situation mirrors that I go through with my mom. When my dad died, my mom died with him in a figurative sense. I was surprised and comforted that so many people on this blog share the same obstacles that we share. I just saw Candy on Regis and Kelly this morning...shame on her...but I know you will stay strong because you have surrounded yourself with wonderful people, friends and family that matter. They say that blood is thicker than water...but I disagree. Its nice to see that people arent immediately saying "she is still your mother" and actually understand what you are going through. I would imagine your father, like mine is in heaven shaking his head at what your mother is doing. Stay strong and thank you for the giggles your show and your book brings!
Best,
Darlynn

I think you guys are great. I was such a big 90210 fan. I have three kids and they are my life. You are a great mother and I still can't get over how much you do and still make sure your family is the #1 priority. I know you can't believe Stella is 1. They say it goes by fast and it truly does. My daughter is 16 and just started her Junior year of high school. It seems like just yesterday we had her 1st birthday party and yes, she was sick for it. I also bought your first book and LOVED it. I haven't gotten the second one yet but definately will. I thought of something last season and I feel it is even more true now. You are a great writer and are business savvy. I think you should start a magazine.

Dear Tori,
I am a big fan of your show, I can wait for next season! I sincerly hope that things with your mom get better soon for the sake of the grandchildren. I wish you and your family the very best!!!!

A faithful El Paso, Texas viewer of your show,
Sofia

Tori,
Love the show watch it all the time..your kids are adorable. My sister-in-law and I have started a little shop with handmade hairbows, hats and more. I noticed you love to put stuff in Stella's hair, we are adding new stuff daily..

Hope you can check it out:)

Thanks!

Tori,
I just wanted to add to the tons of other comments to let you know that you are not alone in your struggles with your mother. My parents got divorced about 5 years ago and since then my dad and I have grown apart. He got remarried almost 3 years ago and his new wife pushed us even further apart. I haven't seen him since Christmas 2007 and haven't talked to him in about 3 months. I recently got into graduate school and called to tell him the good news. All he said was "that's good." This was a huge accomplisment for me and he couldn't even take the time to be happy for me.

My friends tell me all the time what a wonderful woman I am and how stupid my dad is to not want to be a part of my life. It always means a lot to me when my friends tell me this, so I thought it would help you to hear it too. Tori, you are a wonderful woman, wife, and mom. Your mother is really missing out by acting the way she is. She has two beautiful grandchildren, a wonderful son-in-law and an amazing daughter that she hardly knows.

Know that you are not alone in your struggles and frustrations with your mom. Many people (unfortunately) understand exactly what you are going through and the conflicting thoughts and feelings you are having.

Stay strong, you are an inspriation to us all!

Hi :)

I recently just started watching the show. I'm not usually a big fan of Hollywood reality shows BUT after seeing Tori and how she struggled with the relationship with her mother....it really helped me.

I am in the same situation with my mother, father and sister. Seeing how Tori felt and comparing it to myself... it's how you feel....you don't feel so alone anymore. It makes me not feel so sad anymore and made me a bit stronger.

So I just wanted to say thank you and I'm looking forward to the new season!!

Gina Marie

I have never really cared for these reality shows, untill one day I by chance came upon your show. I've always read tabloid magazine as a fun thing to do, But again I read about you, and I knew you were different than all other of these young grils in Hollywood. you never liked the wild life the crowd of you age liked to be. i.e., You never flaunted, when you could have, your wealthy position. You were and still are a very humble and private, loving daughter.

I was so proud of you when you stood up and fought for what you beleived is you Soul Mate, regarless of what others may have said about you. May I say that I was surprised when you and Dean hooked it up, so soon as your first marriage
only because you are such a private person. Not many pepole have the gutts to do what you did.

Now that you are a self-made woman, And for whatever it's worth, I'm so proud of you because you, a REAL private person, have accomplished so much and all with the support of you Soul Mate and that great extended family that are always there for you, and you for them.

Tori, this issue with your mom is tearing you apart, but may I share something of my life and the turmoils of my relationship with my only living parent, my father?

I am still that little girl inside that wants her daddy to love her for what she is and for the things that little girl has grown up to be and the things she's accomplished regarless of his emotional abandoment.

I am a woman of 56 years . Tori I have done every thing humanly possible to get him to respect me and love me , but to no avail. I was willing to accept even a crumb of his left over love.

I was an orphen at the age of 12 years, when my most loving, saintly mother and best friend died. I would be more than happy to share my story with you, on a more personal venue, where there is more privacy. Maybe my story will help you to come to terms with the inner turmoil you are going through. who knows maybe this will help you to close one door in your heart and open another , conserning Candy, letting her know that she's welcome, But please Baby, don't let it take away from you enjoying all those great and loving momments that you share with your friends who are there to support you, and are an extended family your kids have. I'm not saying you should stop loving your mom, but you can pick and choose your battles, so it won't take away from you enjoying your special time with your nucleus family, as well as your great extended family. Every time you react to something that hurts your feelings, and cry on t.v. God only knows how your mother gets the message that you are not a complete person without her. And that my dear you are not. You are one of the success stories Hollywood.
I'll give you a hint of how bad it was with my father, just a little taste. I only saw my father in the 12 years that my mother was available to me, twice. My mother died of one of the most painful cases of breast cancer.

We were two, my most loveing, caring older sister.
When we got to our new planet, that's how it felt, we never even got a kiss, a "I'm sorry for your lost,or a hug. Nothing , girl nothing. By then He had remarried, for the third time, to the wicketest person in the world. He and she made my sister and me the most unloved pepole on the face of this planet.

But, still till the other day I was that little girl wanting to get daddy's true love, instead at the age of 53 yrs, when I went to counsole him after his fouth common-law wife died, he tried to sexually abuse me. That's just the tip of the iceberg. But God has helped me to deal with these issues with my father, and put things into perspective. I got great tips if you would like to hear them.
OK, enough sappy stuff. Girl you don't let anyone take one second of joy from you while you are with your family. Like the song saids "Don't worry, be happy" Sincerly Rose Marrero.

Tori, I am a few - more than a few years older than you. I wasn't sure what to expect when I watched your show but I am now always looking forward to the next episode.

You and Dean are great parents and your family is one to be proud of that you have both nurtured.

I don't know if you read these but you should know there are a few of us with a mom like your's. You have to do what is right for you no matter what everyone tells and advises you to do but more importantly, you may feel guilty for doing what is right for your family but don't.

My parents were married for 45+ years. From the day I can remember, my mom cheated on my dad but we never told him because we didn't want to lose him. In my day, the mother always got the kids in the divorce.

Did we have good memories with her? Yes because like you, she would participate in being a family when she wanted to, on her terms. She could create a happy moment in between her emotional vacany from our family.

One of my saddest yet most awakening moments was when she sent me an email one night, the day before Christmas Eve. She wanted let me know she wouldn't be home when I came home for Christmas because she had "something come up for business".

To her, it meant nothing to sacrifice time with her family in order to do what she wanted. What was she doing that Christmas? Going to Paris to meet a man she ran off with. On Christmas. Christmas. Christmas had always been that holiday that our family could all come together.

It actually was a good thing. It let me see that it didn't matter how hard we tried to make things happy so she would be around, so she would love us. It was her issue and nothing we could do or say would change that. Our relationship with her had to be on her terms or not at all.

I was 40 and it still hurt like I was a little girl. It was at that moment that I cut all ties with her because each time before that I tried to keep our "relationahip" alive, it was exactly as you have experienced ... disappointment and heartbreak.

I remember crying that Christmas so much and my Dad coming in and saying "Honey, we'll always have each other and I love you." It was all I needed. My Dad was always my hero and to this day, I cherish every minute I can with him because I know he will not always be here.

I never experienced that bond I see with other mothers and daughters with my mom. She never played dolls with me, she didn't make cookies with me, she didn't do alot but I guess she did the best she had to give or wanted to give.

I don't hate her at all but maybe the strangest sounding to others is that I don't miss her. People may think that is cold, strange or dysfuntional and it is but it is something I cannot change.

Hang in there, Tori. Some day all the love and devotion you have created in your family with Dean and the kids will be the richest reward you have ever known.

Maybe your mom will come around and maybe she won't. But you know what, it's still going to be ok. The foundation you have built will hold you forever.

God Bless and Smile. Colleen

Tori I just watched you mom appear on Regis and Kelly! I didn't even want to watch and yet I was compelled. First of all if you ever doubted that you mom is the problem DON'T. I love your show and you are a wonderful mother and I am lucky to have had the best so I know a great mother when I see one. If you don't want to know what went down on the show quit reading here and know your doing the right thing. Your mother wouldn't even refer to your father as such. So strange the way she kept calling him her husband we she was talking about your relationship. I truly feel that she is mentally ill and I don't mean that in an ugly way. I am a counselor and I could not diagnosis from a seeing someone on TV but that is my inital impression of her and I just feel so bad your having to live with a mother who appears to be mentally unstable in the public eye. My mother is mentally ill I love her but it is really hard and I can't fathom what it would be like with the media. I'm praying you find peace in your life that you deserve and also that your mother gets the help she needs!

I love love love your show! I make my husband watch your show now too. I never knew you guys were so down to earth especially you Tori. To be honest, I JUST started watching your show (the reruns) probably a couple of weeks ago and I'm totally hooked. I just never thought your show would have had any substance, humor, or purpose! BUT I was wrong. I see myself laughing, crying, really empathizing, and just relating in so many ways. Tori, you are the most sweetest and realest (is that even a word?) person. You are such a great mommy and that really inspires me to want kids. Keep up the good work. Please keep your show REAL and not lose sight of what's normal....Love your show!

Hi Tori, Dean, Liam, and Stella!!!!

Tori, I just have been dying to get a message to you. I hope you really read these because I have soooo much to say. First, you are a WONDERFUL MOTHER AND WIFE. Second, you and Dean produce the most BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN!!!! Third, I'm really sorry about what's going on with you and your mom. I don't know what happened and it's absolutely none of my business or anyone else's except yours and your mom's. However, I wish there was something I could do to make it all better for you. I did do this same thing (blog?) to your mother, and believe me, it was not very nice but I tried to be. She has absolutely no idea what she is missing out on and that is such a shame. I even told her "SHAME ON YOU, CANDY, SHAME ON YOU!!!!" How she could see those beautiful faces on television, and girl you know she watches, and not want to jump in the car or limo or whatever and get to your house ASAP, apologize on her knees, ask for forgiveness, and then hug and kiss on those babies until she has to go to the emergency room is beyond me! I do not understand it at all! I've tried and I've tried but I can't figure it out. I'm 46 and I have a 3-year-old grandson. I can't imagin my life without talking to him on the phone (he lives a few states away), or visiting him at Christmas and on birthdays, and I'm physically ill and unable to get out of my house very much, but to see him, I'll do whatever I have to. And of course, my son and daughter-in-law bring him to see me too, so that helps. It is really so very sad because the woman has or could have anything she wants to buy, but this is free!! It wouldn't cost her a dime to have a relationship with you, Dean, and those beautiful kids. You have the most beautiful heart and it's so big, I swear, you love everyone and everything and it really comes across on the tv screen. Dean's one lucky guy but he knows it. And honey, he is one hot husband!!! Please you two, don't screw this up. It seems like everyone is getting divorced these days, myself included, but my husband didn't like the part in our vows that said "in sickness and in health". It's sad, but I couldn't help that I had to have brain surgery and then got fibromyalgia. Oh well, you guys pick my spirits up every time I watch you on TV! So don't ruin my life and get divorced, okay!

Back to your mom. Tori, I don't know what all she did but you only have one mom, and I told her the same thing, she only has one daughter and one son. I also told her that Aaron left her everything for some reason and it's none of my business but I know he would not want all this fighting going on. I know he loved his family very much and it would break his heart to see how this has turned out. I told her she needed to come down off her perch and do what she knows in her heart is the right thing and put everything in the past and start all over. It is so easy to start all over. I then told her to grab those precious babies and introduce yourself as their grandmother. Then, never leave their lives. No one wants a grandma that just pops in and out whenever they feel like it. I said all of this of course, with you and Dean's permission by all means of course. I also told her I didn't know how Dean would take any of it because he is very protective of his beautiful wife and wonderful children and he has every right to be. But I know he wants what is best for you and it really shows on your show that you do love your mother and that you do miss her. She just needs to get her head out of her ass and grow up. And I couldn't end this letter without letting you know what wonderful friends you have in your life. The guncles are awesome and all your other friends, (sorry I can't remember all their names), care so much about you and your little family. You are truly blessed even if your mother is not in your life, but hopefully she will be some day. You are a beautiful and very talented young lady and you have done a wonderful job at being a wife, mother, friend, sister, and yes, even daughter, whether you think so or not. Remember, a lot of people, especially young women and girls, look up to you, as well as us old women, and we think you're awesome and the planet would not be the same without you! Oh, and keep making those babies because you guys make gorgeous babies!!!! Tell Dean not to get too big of a head but he is a hunky daddy!

Take care and God bless you and your family,

Love,

Karen Bliss

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hey tori, i want to say that i just recently tuned into the marathon of your last season on oxygen and have to say i enjoyed your show very much. It really hits home when i see the relationship with you and ur mom. I have a similar one with my father. I think you are so brave to face that all head on. I myself struggle with a parent that shuts me out and its so hard for others to understand. I have a husband and little girl(step-daughter) as well a wonderful support team of friends and family kinda like you. But i know the pain that comes when the one person you really wished see u for you are, doesnt. Its hard to see how everyone around u loves u and cant understand why your own parent pushes away. I myself dont understand why my dad does. We all make mistakes and need to be forgiven. I think you are doing a fabulous job with your little ones, you are so involved and so REAL. I disagree with your mom that you are using your kids as "props". I think you are setting and example to moms out there. When you I saw you making your own baby food and when you had the baby food jars you had saved I yelled to my hubby "OMG I had that idea for our baby too". I thought to myself in the past I could buy the jars save them and make my own baby food...I just laughed out loud it was great watching that! I just want to tell you keep your chin up and feel blessed for the beautiful family you have created you should be sooo proud of yourself...xoxo

Hi Tori and Dean- I think that your show and more importantly, your family, is awesome. You are so down to earth. I love your babies....they are amazing. Please continue what you're doing and allow us to see your family in upcoming shows. BTW..I feel sorry for your mother. She is going to look back with great regret that she didn't swallow her pride and acknowledge you with unconditional love, not to mention her grand babies. I wish you peace, love, warmth and great goodness.

Hello Tori, I love watching your show you and your family are so down to earth,funny,lots of love in your house and watching you with your children is wonderful. I can see that you are a wonderful mother your eyes just are full of love and devotion, for not only your children but your husband as well. When I watch you I think about my family we are from texas and we believe that you should alway have fun, laugh and love each other, as for your extended family well they are just wonderful as well, my husband and I are just like that our closest friends are considered our family. I just wanted to say that you are a normal mother/wife you exprenice the same things that all of us do and you handle everything with grace and a smile and Dean is so wonderful with you. Watching you two together is just great you can see that you two really love each other truly he is so supporting of you as you are of him. I wish you and your family lots of love and happiness. Keep smiling, laughing and lots of love. May your family be blessed in everything you do. =)

hey tori and dean u have the most beautiful kids in the world next little riley who is mine and yall r some really good parents who really put your kids first it shows what kind loving parents yall r

My daughter turns 1 soon and I loved the personalized bib you had for Stella, can youtellme where you ordered it?

Thanks

Hi Tori!

My mom and I watch your show EVERY week. You're such a great mother and your kids are adorable! I'm sorry about the situation with your mother, but you'll get through it. Ignore all of these other comments that tell you your a bad mother and that your family sucks, because it's not true. Can't wait for the next season!

hey Tori just wondering if you can give me any ideas on a sweet sixteen I want to throw for my daughter. know your busy but it's worth a shot

Hey Tori, Thank you so much for letting us into your personal life. My daughter Kelly (14) and I watch your show every week. I think you're a great Mom. I hope that you and your mom work things out soon. Life is too short. I cherish all the moments I can share with my daughter and all my kids. You can't dwell on all the disappointments and disagreements, put them all behind you. Keep up the good work. We love your little family! Jeanine Schad

Hey Tori & Dean,

I just want to say thanks for letting us peek into your life. While I was a 90210 fanatic in the 90's, I didn't really follow the careers/life of the cast after it went off the air. Until your show. Tori, you look amazing! The show airs alot about your relationship with your mother. But I wonder how your relationship is with your brother. We rarely hear you mention him, and we didn't see that he was at Stella's party--or Liam's, for that matter.

tori
i love your show. my mother and i have the same type of thing going on and she live four house down from me. my boyfriend who i have ben with for nine years told me the same thing dean told you to break all ties. but i cant aand like you i get hurt.i think it would be worst if eveyone knew about it. i am 41 and for most of my life my mother hasnt ben around. most days she will not talk to me when i call. i have to kids one13 and the other is4 and she my have seen them both 18 time in there life time. i still reach out and larry get mad. but i do it for me not for her. i have other people in my life that love and my kids when she dosent want us around. just like you
you are a good mother and a good wife and you love your kids. i know you want to have her near but that my never happend and that ok. because you have dean and your friends and they will never leave you.

IM THE SAME AGE AS YOU AND ALSO HAVE PROBLEMS WITH MY MOM. SAME TYPE OF DEAL, LET DOWN AFTER LET DOWN. SWEETIE DONT BEAT YOURSELF UP ABOUT IT, WE ALL KNOW YOUR AN AMAZING WOMAN, HECK MY 6 YEAR OLD WATCHS YOU ALL THE TIME TOO! SHES THE ONE WHO GOT ME ADDICTED TO YOUR SHOW. SHES SO FUNNY SHE WATCHED THE TORI AND DEAN MARATHONS ON THE WEEKENDS! THAT SHOULD THERE SHOW YOU THAT THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. IF I WAS OLD ENOUGH I WOULD ADOPT YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE A DAUGTHER TO BE PROUD OF YOUR AN AMAZING MOTHER , WIFE AND PERSON AND IF YOUR MOM DOESNT WANT TO SHARE IN THAT THEN SHES JUST NUTS! IT GETS EASIER I WENT BACK TO MY MOM AND TRIED TO MAKE IT WORK ABOUT 10 TIMES TILL I JUST COULDNT DO IT ANYMORE. IT WAS LIKE A MAN WHO CHEATS ON YOU THE TRUST IS GONE, THE RESPECT ITS JUST NOT THE SAME ANYMORE. MY FATHER HAS ALSO PAST ON AND I FEEL HIS SPIRIT IS WITH ME EVERY STEP I TAKE AND I FIND PEACE IN THAT. TEACH YOUR KIDS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAD IF IT WAS A GOOD RELATIONSHIP. FIND PEACE IN YOUR MEMORIES AND IN THE LOVE OF YOUR FAMILY BECAUSE THATS WHERE YOUR HAPPINESS LIES! AND IF ALL ELSE FAILS IM 36 AND ILL ADOPT YOU IF YOU WANT! LOL. ID LOVE A DAUGHTER LIKE YOU! KEEP YOUR CHIN UP THE PAIN WILL HEAL. IT TAKES TIME. KEEP BEING THE MOM YOU WISH YOU HAD BECAUSE YOUR AN INSPIRATION TO ALL OF US IN THE REAL WORLD!

I like this show. Anytime I see responsible, loving parents, I appreciate them. Tori, I know it's hard losing your family, but please pick yourself up by the boot straps and move forward. You are not alone and you do have family all around you daily. Please stop with the constant "poor pitiful me" wining on t.v.
I know that is harsh and I'm sorry for that.

Tori and Dean,

I watch all of your episodes and I dont really know what you go threw, but I love watching you and your kids. Monkey and Ladybug. They are both the cutiest kids I have ever seen!! This is the first time I have e-mailed a "star." I just wanted to let you guys know that I am your biggest fan and that I would go to all your book signings but I have no idea where they are, and I dont live in California. I live in Harrison, AR and thats a little ways for me to go. LOL Tori your really beautiful!! Dont let anybody tell you different! I know people have their own opions, but some people can be really rude!! Im sorry for all your trouble you go threw!! Im just a small town girl who wants to make it in the "BIG" world! If you would e-mail me back? I just want to make sure that you read this. You and Dean,

brittneycheatum@yahoo.com That is my e-mail address to mail me back. I know your both really busy, so dont e-mail back if you dont have the time, but it would be awesome if you did! Thankyou for your time to read this!!

YOUR BIGGEST FAN Brittney!

I just wanted to say I love your show and have always been a fan of Tori's. Hope you all continue to have success both personally and with your careers.

Wow mean momma thats harsh. What is wrong with you? How anyone could be that heartless about BABIES is beyond me. Tori and Dean I think your kids are beautiful! Moving on from that b*tchy comment....Tori your an inspiration and an awesome mother. You seem to kinda put yourself down from time to time on your show but you have made a HUGE impact on my life. There is not one celebrity in the world that has done that. Well except for Dean but I will mention that in a sec. One Ive decided to write a book too. This is more for younger moms since im 23 and have 2 kids of my own. To both Tori and Dean you both are great parents.Ive learned so much just by watching you guys and I've become a better parent. Ifinally understand the importance of "family time". Who knew watching a reality show would teach me something useful.

I absolutely LOVE this family! Honestly i really didn't have a very high opinion of Tori Spelling until i started watching this show and I just cant believe what a WONDERFUL wife and mother she is! I don't know why i didn't really like her before but watching this show has totally changed my opinion. Their kids are SO CUTE and the whole family is just so down to earth. Not to mention that Dean is the most loving husband ever! He's always showering tori with gifts and ALWAYS thinking of his wife and children. I cant get enough of this show and I cant wait for future episodes!

Dude every parent thinks that their (and yes it is spelled their) kids are the cutest and smartest. My kid has no hair at 18 months, I still think she's gorgeous. Get over yourself, so they're (that is correct also, maybe review these rules for yourself)rich, who cares- some people have money and some don't, at least they give to and support lots of charities as well as hold events for those charities.

I completely agree! Whenever someone puts themselves and there family on tv they're fair game. Those kids are not cute! I know it's mean, but it's also obvious!

I'm ugly?!?!?! Oh my gosh!!! I can't beleive you would say something like that!!!...considering the fact you have no idea what i look like. Anyways you can talk crap about me all you want, it still doesn't make there kids any better looking does it? he he..... Karma? what does karma have to do with me saying some rich ass people who have no idea what living a real life is have ugly ass kids, have to do with karma? i believe i'm already on the backlash because they have no idea what it's like to not be able to afford thing for there children. Whats it hurt giving these people who have no real worries a little dish a reality?? Nothing they don't care. They'll just over look this ,because people have said alot worse things about them I'm sure. So get over it

Tori & Dean, I just want to tell you to ignore the comments that are negatively written about your family. I think you have gorgeous kids and I enjoy every show of yours that I watch. Be proud of your accomplishments and enjoy your family.I think you are both great people and great parents.

Wow! I've seen some ugly celebrity kids, but these two take the cake. it's so funny to watch tori and dean talk about how gorgeous there kids are. Those poor kids..... they talk about how smart they are...at one and two i guess. And all they do is wonder around and grunt "uh uh". I usually like shows from oxygen, but this show is stupid. I can't get past how freaking ugly those kids are ewwwww... they gross me out! And what is with the little dudes rat tail?!?!? thats so not cute! ugh! Chelsea Handler has Tori down to a T. I don't hate Tori or anything, i just really wanted to blog about how ugly her kids are. Now i feel better. I hope she reads these blogs it would make me so happy for her to know people just sit around and make fun of her ugly ass kids!

Dear Ms. Spelling/McDermott,
Recently I watched the "Tori and Dean" marathon. I watched because I was being held captive in a hospital bed and had no remote to change the channel. But, let me say I am glad I watched. I wish to express to you my sincere support for you in your ever waging battle with your mother. Your children are NOT something that should have to be placed in the situation of does my Grandma care.... Gandmothers, like mothers, are SUPPOSE to love unconditionally. There should be no one nor anything to keep them apart. So SHAME on your mother.

I am a woman who would "Kill for grandchildren". My daughter does not plan to have children and my son wants to wait until he's closer to 40. So, while I wait another 16 years for grandchildren I shake my head at those who have grandchildren and miss out. If you would like to just "write" your mother off... I would be honored to be Liam and Stella's Bubbe! I have so much Grandmotherly love to give and no one to give it to!

Hi- LOVE,LOVE YOUR SHOW! Your house is beautiful Where did you get your furniture? I saw some pieces that I would absolutely love to have in my home. Thanks!

the kids are used as props.
why does tore always cry? she's overly manipulative, not to mention how ugly she is .. UGLY skinny, face and all.

Tori, I just love your show! I have been a big fan since 90210. I hate that your mom is doing this to you she is only hurting herself, not being with those beautiful children, i have a 2 year old daughter, and it would kill me if my mother didnt see her. I have both your books and I loved them. I cant waint to see what the future holds for you and your show. Hope you and Dean have more kids, and I cant wait to see next season!! Love you Tori!!

OK, I enjoy watching the show because it is entertaining. However, I did have just one thing to get off my chest!! I just watched the episode where Dean is going to Calgary for 5 weeks and was disgusted with Tori's whining about having to keep the kids and work all alone for five whole weeks. Well, as an Army wife, I just wanted to scream "Try doing it for FOURTEEN MONTHS!!!" It's hard on me and I don't have children but there are plenty of families out there that 12+ months alone is the norm as their spouse is in a war zone rather than filming a movie. Really hope this doesn't offend anyone, but the whining just really aggravated me!! And I am not just trying to pull the "I'm an Army wife, hear me roar" thing...I just think there are people in worse situations.

Hello Tori and Dean and family. I want to say that I love your show, your family is so down to earth and real! I can't wait till the next week to see the another episode. The show where you checked Stella's diaper for poop.....oh my I was laughing so hard because that was me!! I did the same with my children when they were in diapers. You show so much love for your family and friends. I am so sorry your mom can't see the true treasure that she has in you and your family, I just hope one day before it is too late that she will see the beautiful family she is missing out on. I am looking foward to the next season of Tori and Dean and the next book. Always remember the love and joy your children give. You are fabulous!!! See you next season.

Dear Tori,
I really admire your hands on parenting after having the Hollywood childhood. I have known my in-laws for 25 years. So many stories you tell about your mom and childhood remind me of my husband. His father is very wealthy. Recently someone called my father in-law a narcissist. I thought it was name calling and googled it. NPD is a severe personality disorder. Please read what you can find on it. I think it will make sense. You can't change your mother but you can change how you react and learn to heal. Good Luck!

Tori
Where did you get those cute ladybug invitations and dress? They were adorable! You throw some beautiful parties.. You guys are great!

I've been watching Tori & Dean since last season and have really been enjoying it. It brings a lot of emotions out of me because I see a lot of myself in Tori (in some ways). I have a daughter who will be turning 2 in September and I adore being a mom. I can relate to Tori that way. The way that she interacts with her children is similar to the way I interact with my own child. I can respect that. It saddens me to see the turmoil regarding Tori and her mom. My daughter had her first birthday last year on September 25th and I had planned a huge party. My mom, who was my best friend, was supposed to be there. We were going to invite everyone, but it was my mom I really wanted there. I was so excited and had planned it for months. Unfortunately, my mother passed away a few short days before on the 19th of September. What I would give to have my mom back.

I highly doubt Tori or Dean read these posts, but if there is a way for the message to get out there, I just want to say that I enjoy the show, you're both excellent parents and hold onto the people you love. You are so lucky to have these wonderful and caring friends and extended family members around you. I made my mom my only friend, which was wonderful, but now that she is dead, I find I am very alone. I don't seem to forge the bonds with friends as others do and it leaves me wondering what life has to hold for me. You're right for being sad about your mom, but Dean is right for worrying about you too. Love and enjoy the friends and family you have close to you and make the best of what you have. You are blessed to have some wonderful people in your life and to be successful. Stop worrying about how your children see you, because you are a good mom and they will know this about you. The one thing I am blessed wtih (besides my lovely daughter) is to know these types of things.

I sometimes worry about how my daughter will see me someday, but then I remember that no matter how awful are parents sometimes are, we always love them, no matter what. Consider your mom and you. Look at how she has let you down repeatedly, yet you still want her attention? With all the good you do for your children, they will know and love you forever.

Hi Tori and Dean and family. I love watching the show. You all are a wonderful family and I'm so happy that you now have the family you dreamed of growing up.
I am so sorry that your mom continues to disapoint you. I'm sure you've heard a million and one times that you just have to let go. I understand why you can't. She's your mother, she is supposed to love and support you and adore and dote on her grandchildren.
But apparently, she isn't capable of that right now. I think you should just let her know that if she wants any contact with you, fine, she's welcome, but the ball is in her court. You can't continue to let her hurt you.
I know a little part of you will ALWAYS hope, but for now, just ignore that little part.
Life is hard enough as it is. Personally, I struggle everyday with the desire to go off on the idiots I seem to be surrounded by.
But I have hope. I am a Christian, believing that Jesus Christ is my personal savior, and that He is with me everyday in every good and crappy situation I face. I know you probably think that sounds a little kookoo, but it is the greatest source of peace and joy anyone can ever know.
I hope and pray that you and Dean and the kids will know it someday.
Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that you are a wonderful mom, a sweet person, and that you are going to be just fine, with or without your mom. And if you ever find yourself searching for answers to life's questions, I know where you can find them. All the best to your family. God bless.

Leslie, Asheville, North Carolina

Dear Tori and Dean,
I dont watch reality TV much, but, I absolutly love your show for so many reasons.

Tori, I am your Moms's age and live in Northern California. Each time I watch your show, and I dont think I have missed any, I always want to call you and tell you how proud I am of you. I have a daughter close to your age. Infact, at one time, we would get stopped on the street asking if she was you. In any event, you are so bright, so intelligent and beautiful. You are grounded and loving and your really a good attentive loving mother. Sometimes I just want to call you and give you a motherly hug, other times, I want to tell you how amazing you are. And there are times I just want to call and let you vent....so I can tell you how special you are. Tori, hang in there, I am in awe of our work ethic and how attentive you are to your family.

Iam also quite impressed with Dean. He is loving and supportive and I always get a kick out of his little surprises for you. I told many of my unmarried friends to watch your show to show them how loving couples act with each other. Your show and your relatioship is truly an inspiration in so many ways.

I was proud of you Tori for getting Deans bike back. I know it took alot of love and courage for you....but you showed unconditional love and you teach others that even though we dont always agree or like our partners choices, that sometimes we need to go beyond what we want, think about what is best, and support what they love. :)

Tori, you and your MOM will come together at some point, if not already. She is not perfect and I know your heart aches for her to be a part of your life. My loving advice for you is to live your life to the fullest and concentrate on being the best you. Being the best you teaches your children how the be the best them...and keep being such a loving supportive wife. Always keep the door open for your MOM, but, dont have any expectations (DaliLama). Forgive her and IF she decides to come around,you only have one MOM. You can be a good example to the world on unconditional love....

As a mother who thinks you are absoulutly adorable,You are a daughter I would be proud of.

Hope you are having a wonderful summer.
Sincerely,
Terri

Dear Tori and Dead
I want to start by saying how much i just love you guys.
To be honest I started watching the show because i was a fan of Dean's.
I have this unhealthy obsession with Canada and Canadaian Films and shows and was an fan of Dean's since he was on Due South as Turnball.
(Honestly I first saw him in Friday the 13th the series, but he wasnt exaclty a nice guy in that episode).
The only thing i ever saw Tori in was Saved by the bell, 90210, and a Lifetime movie.
I started watching your show and i just fell in love with Tori as well as the amazing family they have created.
You guys keep doing your thing, you have so many fans out there that think you guys rock.
Heres to many years of health and happiness for Tori, Dean, Liam, and Stella, and their amazing adopted family.

Tori, I have watched your show every week since I found it by accident one night channel surfing. I think you are an awesome mother and think it's a shame your mum is missing out on the bairns lives - they grow so fast that every moment is too sacred to miss.
You and Dean are doing a wonderful job - don't ever forget it and stay happy.

Take Care of each other

Hi Tori,

I watched your show Tuesday and saw that you were making homemade food for the babies. That is so great. But in the following scene of Liam brushing his teeth I saw a can of Lysol on the counter. I was wondering if you would be interested in using products that would be safer for you, Dean and especially the kids and environmentally friendly too. The company is called Melaleuca. They are the world leader in producing products that are better, safer and greener. They have won the very hard to get Torch Award for being an ethical company from the Better Business Bureau. I would love to give you a presentation over the phone. What your children touch and breathe in is so vital to their well-being. Please consider this.

Thanks,
Gail
A fan!!

Hi Tori,

I watched your show Tuesday and saw that you were making homemade food for the babies. That is so great. But in the following scene of Liam brushing his teeth I saw a can of Lysol on the counter. I was wondering if you would be interested in using products that would be safer for you, Dean and especially the kids and environmentally friendly too. The company is called Melaleuca. They are the world leader in producing products that are better, safer and greener. They have won the very hard to get Torch Award for being an ethical company from the Better Business Bureau. I would love to give you a presentation over the phone. What your children touch and breathe in is so vital to their well-being. Please consider this.

Thanks,
Gail
A fan!!

I think it would be a great idea for Tori and Dean to become the next Lucy and Ricky Ricardo sitcom. They are perfect for the parts and they have the ready-made family

Hi Tori and Dean... I watched the last few episodes of the show recently re Stella' 1st birthday. (Being the Mom of a 3 year old (who is btw named Liam) and a 1-1/2 year old, I rarely get to watch much TV.) I wanted to express my kudos to you both for being such loving individuals to each other and such loving parents to your children. Those episodes displayed raw emotions -- you just kinda let all things hang out there, and that is wonderfully refreshing. Congratulations on a wonderful show and I look forward to watching next season.

Hi Tori, I love your show and you have an amazing family... I had a question what is the name to the song that you and dean sing to at the end of the show?

Just want to say that I love your show! Tori, I watched you on 90210 and I loved you. Dean, I didn't know you that well before, but the two of you together is hilarious. It's nice to see other normal people dealing with daily issues and raising their children, especially celebrities. Hope to keep seeing your show!

Hi Tori & Dean,

I just recently discovered how awsome your show is . You and your friends are just so beutiful to watch. You both have amzing kids. Continue with your good work and love for each other. That makes your show different from others. the respect and love you show to each other and your friends. You show is what every show should be. Positive and with some realistic life incorporated to the show. Beautiful. I can not wait for next season... Tori you have a BIG heart to love your mom the way you do , but eventually you need to just foget it. It will ruin you and the family if you keep hoping . Just let it go and someday you mom will come knocking at you door. She is missing out in a lot good things money can not buy...Take care

Dear Tori,
I must admit that I had my doubts about you. That is no longer the case.
I love your show and love you,Dean and your adorable children. You are what parents are supposed to be. Your fun & loving parents and I have so much respect for you Tori. It's sad that you don't have the relationship w/ your mother that a lot of us do. She needs to quit being so "stoic" and get real. Your children are so beautiful and she doesn't even know them like your fans do! Grandma's are supposed to have relationships w/ their grandchildren. I know a lot of Grandmother's that swear that they treat their grandchildren better than their own kids. She will have regrets.
Keep your chin up. A lot of us are rooting for you!

hello,my name is catalina and i am doctor from romania-europe.i do not know if you will read thsi,but i want you to know that i have spent my last weeks watching beverly hills 90210 with which i have lived my teen years.I love you all so very much,you are really great and i am happy that you have nice husband and nive kids....much happiness ot you1 thank you! catalina

Hi Tori, First I just want to say that I love your show. So many reality shows with the stars are so made up. You know those things can't possibly be happening in everyday life. However, watching you and your family it seems so real. I think it's one of the greatest reality shows on t.v.
I want to comment you on your mothering. You are the BEST mom I've ever seen. You can tell that you are truly inlove with those kids and that they mean the world to you. They have a wonderful role model in you and Dean. Keep doing what your doing and you'll be fine. As far as your mom goes....I really think a private meeting between you, she and the kids is for the best. I can understand your moms feelings about not wanting it advertised on t.v. This is going to be a special moment for her to meet her grandchildren and it should be private. Just the email she had sent you about how excited she was proves that she does indeed want to be a part of your childrens lives. Give her a chance. But do it in private. I think it will all work out in the end. God Bless you, Dean and the beautiful children.
Love you guys,
Jody

Watching your show brings back lots of memories. Nine years ago, my mother told me she hated me and said i could go to hell and to never step foot at her door again.She repeated it several times while hitting me with a spacula. I never saw it coming and still to this day can't figure out why she hates me so much. While she was cooking, she had said something and i said "oh, I don't think so" well, the next thing i knew, she was hitting me saying all these things and she said i always disagree with her ! Eventually, we talked again but in 2004 she married her millionaire husband and she hasnt talked to me since. I have 2 wonderful children and she doesn't even care. My daughter , who is 15 years old wanted to call my mother and talk to her,i told her to call her if thats what she wanted to do. Needless to say, my daughter was crushed by the time she got off the phone. My mother only downed her about not calling her on her b-day and holidays and when she is sick! I was hurting so bad for my daughter and couldn't do anything to make her understand because i can't understand it myself. I can never imagine not talking to my children and would go to the end of the earth to make things right with them if they were ever upset with me. I just don't understand !!! Hang in there Tori, u may not understand but, it will make you a stronger person and a better mother.

Hi Tori,
My mom was my grandmother, my "birth mother" dropped me off when I was 6 days old for my grandmother to babysit and never came back. My grandparents were wonderful, then when I was 5 my father took me to live with him and his new wife. I only knew my dad as my uncle. I remember being so scared. Anyways, as the years went on I was the third wheel to their 2 children. When I got married and had my family, 2 beautiful girls and a very handsome boy, my step mother wanted to be a huge part of their lives. She would take them shopping and out to lunch at least 3 times a week, then her son had a child. From that point on my children were not a part of my parents lives any more. When I got married and had my kids I vowed that I would tell my children every night before they went to sleep that I loved them and that they would never feel as though they weren't important to me. My children are my life. My parents and I speak to eachother about once a year for about 5 minutes just to say yeah were still alive. Please do not make yourself worry about your mother and the relationship between your mother and children. You can show pictures of your mother to your children and make her a part of their life through pictures. As they get older they will understand. I use to beat myself up about it all the time and to be honest it got me no where. You have a great family and you are a great mom. Be proud of yourself for being you.

Dear Tori,

I know you have so many comments to read, but I just had to write one myself. I am so glad to finally see a celebrity who I can really honestly look up to! You are a wonderful woman to have as a role model, and I think your passion for your family, friends, and career is contagious! I can only imagine how hard you work everyday! I love watching the show. Your relationship with yout mother reminds me so much of mine, and I only wish the best of luck for the two of you. Only you know whats best, do exactly as your heart tells you to!

Thank you for the smiles!!
Jennifer

Dear Tori,-I really enjoy your show. Your kids are so cute,Liam always brings a smile to my face with the things he does. I watched your show with my kids who are now teens and remember those days. I'm sorry about your mom, my mom and I don't have that great of a relationship and I know how you feel when you try so hard and always get hurt. Stay strong like you are and focus on your family she's missing so much.

Tori,

Along with all of the other postings, I wanted to commend you on your strength, integrity, purity of heart and your commitment to doing what's best for your children, whatever that entails. As parents, we are often forced to make decisions and concessions that as single adults, we'd probably avoid. It takes a very strong person to continuously put your feelings aside and the kids first, which both of you do on a daily basis. I, like you, did not have the best experience while I was growing up and am also estranged with most of my family. I totally understand your desire to create a sense of family for the sake of your children. As hurtful as it is when someone chooses not be a part of a child's life, its a true reflection of the inadequacies that they themselves must face. Please know that your children will grow up to be healthy, strong, loving individuals because of the love that you gave them and the values you've instilled in them along with their extended family, not because they had grandparents in their lives. You and Dean are doing a great job-stay true to yourselves and your kids will reap the benefits, forever!

I just wanted to say I absolutely love your show. It is a highlight of my week. I have 3 children myself and you seem like the realest mother on t.v. I think you guys are great parents. Your mother should never have commented on your parenting, since it appears she herself knows nothing about the subject. I know from experience how hard it is and I admire you for being so hands on. Thank you for your wonderful show. I cant wait for the next season. P.S. Dean you also are an outstanding father and husband.

Tori,

I know you have so many of these to read. But I just love you guys. You guys are so real, and like I wrote to Dean, you guys remind me of our lives (minus a few things). But I love watching you guys in action. Hilarious all the time. :) Keep up the good work with the family. We don't have a relationship with my mother in law, but we'd rather not deal with the drama that comes with her. She's got her own issues that we can deal without. It was her choice to not be in our sons life and our lives because of everything being about her, so we are choosing to move back to the west coast to be closer to my family who have been more supportive and real than my own in laws. Life is about living it, not sitting around griping all day about what you should have done, or making it about yourself ALL the time. Your mom will come around soon. If she really wants to be there, she will. In the mean time, just stay beautiful and enjoy life's little precious memories. I love watching you all and am sad to not see you guys tonight. But I will keep up to date with your blogs. Take care and be safe.

Tori,
I know exactly what you are going through with your mom. I was in the same situation with mine. All I have to say is that stay strong and take care of your husband and children first. If your mom has no love left for you or your family, then she does not deserve to be part of your family. She is a heartless and selfish person as my mom. Ignore all the bad comments about you and your family from others. Live your life the way you want to, because you and Dean are the ones that put food on those table.

PS--I love your show and you have a beautiful loving family and friends.

Hi Tori & Dean,
Today is my birthday and I was just sitting here watching some of the pictures of your family and decide to let you hear from someone that want to let you know how much you all are LOVED. I have never wrote to anyone I watched on T.V. before so here it is. Let me start by saying I Love watching you guys because you are so real Tori. I was so sad to see that your mom won"t just stop the madness, and let go of the past and start making a future with her beautiful grand kids. Dean said the same thing my husband said to me, that is he does not like to see you hurt, and when family hurts you, that hurts him as well. You and dean just stay strong and keep giving your kids all the love that you have and know that you will always have the support of someone that will say a pray for you and dean to keep making life great for the small life that make you smile everyday. Take care Tori and Dean, Love Always.
P. S. Please tell Patsy I love her as well, she is a special lady, and hurry back.

Dear Tori,
Your a strong vibrant woman and can take a million blows from your mother and still brush yourself off, but breaking a childs heart by letting them down is one time too many. Please protect Liam and Stella from a lifetime of heartache when now they only know endless love. Even though Candy will most likely be a tear that hangs inside your soul forever, stand-up with pride for you have broken that chain into infinity.
Sending you the light, hold it high girl!
Deanna

tori if i were you,i would not worry about your mom,it is her lose,you have two beautiful kids,a great husband and freinds that love you.you already have the family that you talk about on your show. family is not always your blood,it is about the people you share your life with and what you would do to help them and them help you.so the next time you think about your mom and her not seeing the kids,stop and think about all the people that care about you and your family.i'm so sorry that patsy when home,but i hope to hear that you and dean are going to having a another baby soon.

Tori,
You talk about family and wanting to get closer to them. You never mention your brother and to my knowledge he has not been on the show, are you close with your brother? Why has he not been on your show supporting you and Dean?

Tori and Dean,

My daugter and I watch your show religiously!!
We absolutely Love your family.

Tori keep your chin up and follow your heart when it comes to your Mom, I hate to tell you this but it is envitable that you are going to have to make a choice here, either you leave the door open for hurt and accept that is what it is going to be or you close the door and let it go, but before you do that you need to hash it out with her and then walk away with a clear mind.

Just take with you what you do and do not want to be as a parent and Love those babies from the depths of your soul. I have experienced some of the same issues with my own mother so i know how hard it is.

But on another note we can not wait for the new season to start!!!

Just want to say that you guys are great! I myself have a rocky relationship with my mother and she also has not seen her grandchildren except when we go home for holidays. She makes no attempts to communicate with them except for this. I truly feel your pain. Just be thankful every day for the beautiful, loving family you do have. You have a wonderful loving husband and very beautiful smart children enjoy it, life it to short.

Hey Tori, I just love your show, my husband has even began to watch it with me. Stella's birthday bash was amazing. You throw killer parties!! Stella is always dressed so adorable too. I have to know where you get her head bands from?? They would be fabulous to have to put on my 6 month old Ireland. Your an awesome mommy and fashionista!!! Can't wait til the next season

Tori & Dean & family:

We really enjoyed your show this season! My entire family, which consists of me & hubby, 10 yr old son Benton, & 14 yr old daughter, Emilyne, were watching it by the 2nd episode. Your children are ADORABLE! As a 42 yr old Mom who struggles with going back to school for nursing & working after being home for so many years, I am proud of you! BUT, it is okay to slow down, so please listen to your hear and your body and take it easy when you think you need to. I have taken 6 1/2 long years to get through nursing school. It seems like it's taking forever, but one thing rings true in my heart, I will never get these young years back of watching my children grow and enjoy life! My daughter can never recreate the awesome plays on the softball field and my son can never recreate a great block on the football field, knowing that their Dad & I are watching close by! So soak it up & enjoy every moment!! You guys are wonderful & loving parents & I thank you for sharing your experiences with us!!!

Sincerely,

The Peterson's
New Kent, VA

Dear Tori & Dean,

I want to share something with you about my sisters. I spent the first 30+ years of my life trying to please them. I was letting them lead in an emotional dance. A therapist asked me once what they were mad at me for and I thought about it. I didn't know. I was trying to make amends for something I couldn't explain. What it seemed to come down to was jealously. That was the beginning of the letting go. It was hard, it hurt, and there were lots of tears. When I started to emotionally heal I discovered I am a good person and even though we are sisters we don't have to be close.

Even though Candy is your mother watching her lead in your dance seems to please her. I am not a therapist but she acts like she is jealous of your success. Everything you do she tries to top it. She seems like a very lonely person. I hope that some day you realize that you don't need her approval to just be. It is a painful journey. The more time, energy, and thought you give to why is our relationship this way the more time you lose with your beautiful family. The loss is hers. I pray that someday you get to a point where you just remember the good and stay away from the negative. Some people just don't get along, even mothers and daughters. If you can love each other from a distance and try to not respond in a public manner to anything she does soon it will calm down. I wish you and your beautlful family the best. Just know alot of your fans don't listen to a thing your Mom says.

Take care,
Patty

Dear Tori,
Love your show. I wanted to share with you alittle story about me and my Mom. My Dad has been gone over 10 years and my husband and I wanted to help her. We did for 7 years and then when we began to ask questions about her future, she became a different person. As a result, after many years of worrying and wanting her to be a part of my life and all she ahs missed, I had to make a choice: to let her continue to run my life, make me miserable evry time we talked or just let go. So I let go and have not communicated with her for 8 years. It was like a rebirth. She doesn't know anything about my oldest son's marriage, she is missing a whole lifetime, but I only blame her, not me anymore.

I wanted to come through the TV at Stella's party and tell you to move on, you can make yourself sick and ruin you life with your husband and family. You have a wonderful extended family, embrace them and eachday you will get stronger and Mom will get less and less of a pull to you.

I spent my first 50 years trying to please my Mother and to no appreciation, it was never good enough, so move on, gain strength from all the people who love you and most of all be all for your kids and husband!!! Please take care, it will become easier, you are a great person and, Mom is the one who will loose in the end, not you. You are a good daughter, it's just that some women want to always control us, move away from the situation, it is her lose!

Just wanted to write and say how sorry I was to see you so hurt ny your mom not showing up. Im sure she wanted to but things get in the way we get scared but dont be to mad at her it is your mother and im sure she wants to see her grandkids and if she would of came over would that of been filmed? She might not of wanted that and you could understabd that The photogs would of had a fill day and she want willing to do that ' I have no doubt that your mother loves you and she wants to be in your families life shes all alone you need her but She needs you. Dean you should of been a little more sympathetic to your wife she need you and you said you were very protective then why did you say such hurtful thing? because you were being protective com on Dean you know you were wrong help your wife through this for her not you Her Hang In There Tori Im her for you

Dear Tori,

I have found that acceptance is the key. None of my family has been what I want them to be. The serenity prayer has always help me and it is so simple. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change and the courage to change the things I can. You can then make the next move that is right for you and your family.

Priscilla

Tori, Dean, Patsy, Liam & Stella,

I've been watching your lives together for the past few years and have laughed and cried with all of you. You have a beautiful family and wonderful friends. Family and friends are so very important and I feel your pain Tori with the loss of your Dad, but even more with the loss of your Mother. And you never talk much about your brother, what happened with him? I do think that you need to face your Mom, no more e-mail or text messages, a real face-to-face meeting and talk, cry, yell. You both need to get through this barrier that is especially destroying you. And if this does not bring you both closer, then you need to let go and move on as hard as that may be for you. You are all so very blessed to have so many people who love you and care about you...that is what you need to focus on.

Tori, you need to slow down and step out of the lime light for a while. I hear you talk about just wanting to be a Mom and be there for your children, but you are working way too much.....you don't need to be SUPER WOMAN....enjoy this time that you have....cause you only get one life here on earth and it goes by so fast. Leave your expensive Hollywood lifestyle behind. Money can starve even the richest of people of many things. The things that are most important to you, your family.

Please know that I'm saying all of these things cause I care. May tears of joy continue to flow in your future.

Brenda :-)

Hi Tori,

I love your show. I have read both of your books and really loved them. I just finished your mothers book and did not enjoy it at all. The entire book was telling me how shy she was, how she put everyone's happiness ahead of her own and how much of everything she owns. I also got the impression that she just wanted some way to take shots at you. I just couldn't believe how she referred to you children like she is really part of their lives. If I had not seen your show or read your books I would have thought that she was a very involved grandma. My mother was a wonderful grandma until her death 6 years ago when my children were 6 and 9. They really miss her but luckily my dad is a super grandpa and his new wife loves my kids and they love her. However, she will never take Grandma's place.

It is just a shame that your mother doesn't realize what she is missing!

I watch the show every year and you are really a great person and family. I love all of you.
A word of advice I have been where you are with not having a relationship with your mother. I patiently waited and had hope and things turned around. Keep your faith and maybe she will realize what she is missing. Once you have kids they say it turns around.
Love you guys

Tori,
I love your show, books and everything else you are involved in(fashion, jewelry, etc.). I can relate to your relationship with your mom. I, too, seem to have not gotten acceptance from her. No matter how hard I try -- succeeding in my career, raising my kids, my husband, my home, my choice of hobbies, I will never be good enough in her eyes. The rest of the world says I achieve at all I do but she doesn't see it, want to see it. Oh, well. I continue to love her but I treasure my family, friends and life anyways.
I love your honesty, creativity, energy, thoughtfulness and beautiful family. My husband is similar to Dean and my kids, now grown, are also doing very well.
I wanted to try one of those m&m-covered caramel apples! Yummy. I will continue watching and reading and would act as aunt if you lived near me. If you tour in my area I will come and see you.

Hello, Tori i just wanted you to know that watching your shows and your beautiful family puts a smile on my face. I admire you and i see what a strong and confident woman you are. I enjoy your show very much because it shows what the real life obtacles some of us need to deal with thank you for being real just watching these Hollywood stars making it look so unreal is a joke. I wish the best for you and your wonderful beautiful children and you also have a great husband. Best wishes Tori from me and my children.

Ok Tori,

I know you don't know me; but I hope and pray this post reaches you. I totally understand how you feal about your mother, and it is painfully obvious that you love your mom, and you want to have a relationship with her, but it is clear that right now, her heart and her mind is not in the right place.

You see, I would be willing to bet my right arm at the hand of a very sharp axe; that Candy....In her devious mind thought that the reason you invited her to Stella's birthday party was to boost tv ratings. You couldn't have just been a loving daughter reaching out to your mother to come and spend a fun filled day with the family, and celebrate Stells's one and only 1st Birthday.

Nooooooooooo! in Candy's mind,she thought you had to have had alterior motives for inviting her. Which is a crying shame. She will never be able to get that time back. I hope she will be able to live with herself because of that.

Anyway, I could go on and on. I just wanted to say that I applaud you for choosing to be a better Woman,Wife, and Mom to your family- then Candy could have ever hoped to be. Continue to love as hard as you can, and you will see that god will continue to bless you and your wonderful family. At least you will be able to stand before god on judgement day, and say that you did everything in your power to assign her honor, and to give Candy-her due respect as your mother. You have done all you can do. It is now up to her to reach out to you. Whole heartedly and honestly.

From one mom to the next, with love,

Trina

Hello Tori I am one of your biggest fans. I have read both your books and your tv show is one of my favorites. I love you and your beautiful family. I also have a infant son like you and I have learned a lot from your show. On one of your shows you were on HSN and you were selling a beautiful bracelet that expanded into a watch. It was so gorgeous and I cannot find it anywhere to buy it. Do you have a store in LA or a website that sells all of your jewelry? Your collection is to die for and you should have a place where your fans can go to purchase your items.

Love you lots,

Nasim

Hello Tori I am one of your biggest fans. I have read both your books and your tv show is one of my favorites. I love you and your beautiful family. I also have a infant son like you and I have learned a lot from your show. On one of your shows you were on HSN and you were selling a beautiful bracelet that expanded into a watch. It was so gorgeous and I cannot find it anywhere to buy it. Do you have a store in LA or a website that sells all of your jewelry? Your collection is to die for and you should have a place where your fans can go to purchase your items.

Love you lots

Okay, I love you and I always have. Now I love Dean, the kids, Mehran,the Guncles and Patsy. Although Dean may come across "harsh" regarding Candy, he is right. Just a few things to think about....

1. If you were going to enter a room knowing there was a snake in the room and it could bite you, would you enter the room? Would you let Stella or Liam enter?

2. You divorced your first husband, people get divorced all the time. Some, because the other person is abusive, toxic or whatever... it is okay to divorce your Mother. Save yourself, your marriage and your kids.

3. Candy will NEVER be the Mother you need her to be, or that you want her to be. She will NEVER be the Mother you deserve. Now repeat and repeat often. Now try this: repeat but replace the word 'Mother' with 'Grandmother' and the word 'you' with 'the kids'! Repeat often!

Remember, you can protect yourself as an adult and still get hurt. Your children are just that, chilren. If the kids grow up and want to reach out to their Grandmother let them. But for now you are the parent, you should protect them from Candy like you would from any other danger or "stranger"! Besides, what has Candy done out of love(send a card, flowers or message of any kind) to deserve the unconditional love of her grandchildren?????

Yes, life is too short and anything could happen and the moment to put everything behind you gone forever....Candy should know that better than anyone and make a sincere effort to get to know the kids, but she won't because she does NOT WANT TO! In some odd way it is another way to hurt and punish you for whatever "wrongs" she believes you may have comitted.

One last thing, try to put yourself in a place with one of your best friends talking and sharing personal situations and feelings. Your friend, broken hearted and crying explains to you everything that you are experiencing with Candy...what would you tell this friend to do??? Keep trying, it will all work out?!!! I don't think so.

I am a mother and grandmother. I love my girls and love to spend any time with them that I can.
xoxo,
Sheshe

Tori,
I have been dying to try and make that "casserole" you made with the hot dogs, cheese and elbow macaroni! Can someone please tell me all the ingredients?? You threw it all in so fast I am just not sure how you made it and what all went in it. Thank you!
Love the show!!

hey Tori, i am trying to find out about your bracelet from the last episode of "Stellapaloza",when u were sitting on the couch with Scout and the e-mail came through from Candy, u had your arm up and i saw this clever designed bracelet, I WantIt!! is it your own design?? where can i find it? im going to try to Twitter you soon.Thanks for any help andinfo you can give to me about the bracelet.

It really pains me that Dean is so selfish. If it wasnt for Tori what would he have? Really? She asked him to support her with regards to her mother and he was a jerk. Tori supports his scuba diving. motorcycle riding the Inn and she asks him for this and gets his mouth. She even went out of her way when they moved into the first house with Liam and infant stella to get his son Jack over for a surprise. What else does she have to do for him. Its her jobs that are supporting him. Go out and get a real job Dean and stop relying on this beautiful woman to be the bread winner. You've done what 2,3 movies its not working go out and work!!!!

hi!
listen. i've watched your show since the early days and the way your mother goes back on what she says is ripping you apart. i know wat it is like to have little family and the ones you do hold out hope for dont hold their word wen they say they're goin to do something...it feels like your a small ant being stepped on and hurt every single time... doesn't it...but now instead of being stepped on you have to be the one to put your foot down...the next time the press asks you -o ur mom wants to see the kids wats ur response- u should say - hey i've invited her to things she cant get over it ...if she wants to see the kids hey! im not stopping her go rite ahead but dont say- text, call me or email wen all she does is crush me:( honestly dean is rite you have to go 1 way or another..wish you all the best!

I just want to tell Tori, please listen to Dean. I am 43 and I have a very simular relationship with my mother, she has spent NO time with my kids, my son didn't even know she was grandma till he was 4-5 yrs old, that is how little she saw us. now with the help of my mother my 17 yr old is in a very bad place. Just because they have titles does NOT give them the right to treat you like this. My mother claims I am the one stopping things, but i have proff when the time is right; of all the lies she has said & done. My son is in a very very bad place and I am lossing him in everyway because of the selfishness and evil she lives by. Just be thankful you have wonderful friends and Deans family. They will make up for any loss you might have had with her. I wish I could talk to you or see you in person, I understand both sides but when it comes to children i am a lioness, i will protect them from anyone family or not!!!!!! i live in ND and my family is less then 10 min away and unless it is a holiday or birthday or they need something from me i never see or hear from them. yes the phone works both ways, but cir #&@% stance do too. I do as you, invite them to Birthdays with hopes it will be differnt. Both my kids b-days she came but didn't even tell them happy birthday until she was leaving. they are teens now and they are the ones who told me this with a very hurt heart. I do not have the support from anyone in my family other than my dad who is hours away, but we talk on the phone daily. BUT He is dying and it wont be long and he will be gone, making things even more similar. It is hard and My heart breaks often,with the absent of my family, but the flip side is worse. the pain me and my kids go through when we are together is so much worse than the pain i feel missing them. Until they can respect me and my life and can love me unconditional they have to stay at arms lenghth.

Tori, ]watched all your season and I am a grandma of many. Its time for you and Dean to let your mom go, do your thing enjoy your lives, she has demonstarted a cruel person who is very selfish. Your children are around loving friends and that is more than she will offer so, let her go and get on with life, we never know when the good Lord will take us home,you have nothing to feel guilty about, you have tried over and over. Her loss
Love you and Den and kids, they are darling
Dean is there for you always
Hugs Di

Hi Tori My daughter and I watch your show all the time we have all your books..we just love you...I am 35 my daughter is 15...the crazy thing is my mother has never seen my daughter when I was growing up my mom and dad use to hit me so when I turned 16 I ran away and got married so my mother has nothing to do with me but in lots of ways I would want mom there for so many thingd like when I had my daughter I wanted her there for me I was really scared and you always will have that feeling I still do but she has never tryed to fix things between her and I...which really hurts now I have tryed and god knows I have tryed and to be honest my daughter now does not want anything to do with her cause my mom has never wanted to make an effort...so in many ways I understand how you are feeling...I really hope you read this I have never had the chance to meet you me and my daughter would love to meet you.I really hope you and your mom work things out..I hope one day my daughter and I will have that great chance in meeting you ...SUZY AND TAYLOR

Dear Tori and Dean ...
I've only seen your show a few times, but applaud you for your candidness in telling your story. How nice to see the real side of those in entertainment; to see that you're not ashamed to admit that you are only human.

Tori... as far as your mom goes, I see a lot of me in you and can so much relate, although I am about twenty years your senior. I have been through what you have, and when I heard Dean try to support you and was so tired of seeing you get hurt... It was just like my life had once been. One thing I did hear from Dean was, not that he was telling you what to do...or telling you to forget your mom... He was just telling you that you had choices. You can either say, "that's enough, and I won't take it anymore", or you can just accept you mom for who she is, and try not to have any expectations. If she comes thru for you, then great! And if not, then so be it. That would be the healthiest thing for you, your husband, and your children. It took me way too long to learn that lesson, and I spent too much time crying, hurt, or with regrets. By the way, there is nothing wrong with therapy if it can help you through this issue. I won't go into why I now feel this way, as it was my personal journey that I don't want to share with the world. But just know, that for your own sanity, try to make your choice, then, as Dean put it... "let it go". Put it back in your pocket, and don't let it be an issue anymore.
And Dean .. you are a wonderful husband. There should be more like you around.

Good luck to both of you, and oh, you have two beautiful children. Enjoy every moment ... because if you blink ... it's gone forever.
Mine are now almost 24 and 25 and I still try not to blink!

Be well..

Tori,
This has been a great season!! You and your family make me laugh,cry, and realize that we are all the same as mom's. (doing our best)
I don't know what to say about your mom. My mom drives me nuts, but she is here when I need her, or when my kids need her. You gave the "olive branch" and she didn't take it. It didn't have to be awkward, she could have shown up and I know that you would have been the gracious host (as usual), but she didn't. Her loss!! Dean is sorta right, move-on, it is her loss not yours because you have people that love you and your family. Pats is a great role model and mother figure. I know you miss her, I already do too!! Best of Luck and Love always.

HI Dean, Tori, Monkey and Buggy
I only been watch for a short time. But its great show. I can help but feel all kinds of emotions. I laugh at some of the silly things and cry at the other ones. I even cried with Patsy leaving and I don't even know her. I recenlty moved away from all my family and friends when I got married. So it hit home. Its been a hard move and now I live where I don't know anyone. So I watch more tv then before. It is weird I never thought I would like a show like this. I think it great to see people and not characters. Thanks for sharing your lives. Oh and I loved the mushroom issue at Stella's birthday party. My husband came in to see if I need anything. Just as Dean started talking to the idiot lifeguard guy. It was so funny cause my husband start making comments about this issue. LoL don't worry he totally agree with Dean.

Tori, Dean, Monkey, and Buggie.
I just finished watching the birthday episod and I wanted to say Tori you are a person with love and blessings around you. I think the love you share with each other and your children (and us your fans and viewers) is something that makes this world a better place. I truly enjoy your show and it will it makes me just plain HAPPY!!!
I hope your family vacation is what you dream it would. Good Luck with making baby number 3

Hello Tori, As I was watching the show it bothered me that people want you to forget your mother and go on. The reason it is still lingering is because she is your mother the one who brought you in the world. Love your mother unconditionally, even when it seems that she does not care. Pray for her, love her for who she is not for who you want her to be. It is your turn to have wonderful moments with your children. Seek God first and everything else will be added.

tori

i love your show i cant wait untill the new episodes come on. I hope there is a new season please

liam is sooooooooo cute so is stella

I too do not have a relationship with my mother and you were the last person on earth i thought i could ever relate to but i just love your show, you family and your values. You are probaly the most real person on tv and i love to watch you and your family every week. I to from not having the relationship i prefer with my mother strive to be the best mom i can be. Who knows what makes our mothers act the way they do. Is it jealousy, probably, women of their age tend to be a different breed. Mothers now are stronger and independant and i think mothers get jealous in a way. Tori you just keep being the person you are and the mother you are and we together will change the cycle of our families and be there for our kids kids and be damn good grandmas! Remember all the wonderful people in your lives, if your mom doesnt want to conform then too bad for her you are already blessed! You did nothing wrong there is no flaw in you that makes you a bad daugther there is a flaw in your mother and thats not your fault, all you have to think about is do you want her behavior around your kids. because thats what counts the most thier well being!Thanks for sharing your fun and crazy life with all us suburban housewives! Your adorable, your family is wonderful and keep your chin up. OUR MOTHERS ARE SO OVER-RATED!

HI Tori,
I'm sad to see this season end, but then you guys need a brake. I'm sorry your mother is not sharing these precious moments with your children I think they are the cutest two I've seen, they are adorable, they are also in their learning stages which is an awesome time to be part of their little lives, hope you and Dean enjoy every minute of it, and as for your mom she'll regret every minute someday. Keep our head up..
I wish I had grandkids I would spoil them rotten. I think you and Dean are great parents keep it up. Sorry to see Patsy go she is so caring.

Yasmin

Hello Tori,
Thank you for letting all of America see what a great Family you have. Watching your show helps me through the lonely times right now. Stella's birthday party was awesome and gave me some great ideas.
This summer has been very hard with my husband in Kuwait and our daughter; having her 6th birthday, learning to swim under water and starting 1st grade in a week. I do not have much of a support system. My mom and I do not talk much and my sister is the same.
I look forward to next season. Blessing to you and your Family.
P.S. You Rock!!

Hey Tori,

My son also just turned 1, on August 4th. His party wasn't quite your scale but it was great.. ;-) It is so very amazing how quickly the time goes by. They grow up so fast, so enjoy every moment. I also have a 12 and a 3 yr old who is about to turn 4 on Sept 11th.
I think you are a wonderful mother and I love your show!!!!!

I've always heard about Tori and Dean reality show but never really seen it until yeterday, where oxygen had a 3 hours marathon...yup, i watched all of the episodes. I just want to give Tori a much deserved complimets:

you are a good wife, loyal and generous friend, strong and smart celebrity(who does not give a f*** what other people say) including chelsea ???can't even remember her last name (she has a late show on E!), humble daughter and most of all a wonderful very loving mom. God bless you, dean,monkey and buggy.

Dear Tori: My heart goes out to you. I had tears in my eyes watching Stella's 1st B-day (and when I read your first book). I have had an uphill relationship with my mother my whole life. You have good friends and a loving husband, but unless they have experienced a bad relationship with their mother, they can never truly understand the deep desire in us that maybe as we get older, it will be different, that she will look at us differently. I know this need became stronger in me after having my twin daughters. Unfortunately, things never changed for the better and when they did, it was only temporary. (Leopards don't change their spots) I have had long periods of time when we didn't speak, the last of which was after my Dad passed away and I finally left California in 1997 to rebuild my life. My guiding force in my decisions (whether right or wrong) was if my children asked why they don't see Nana, what would I tell them and how do I make them understand? Why it would not be okay to do the same thing to me when they are older. That last part is the real magic trick! My twins are now 27. My Mom and I reconciled this last time a couple of years ago. I had mixed feelings about starting again, but my husband encouraged me to try one last time. She is 85 now, and it has not been easy, and a lot of old wounds have ropened. But at the end of her life, I don't want to have any regrets that I should have tried one last time. I give you a lot of credit, it is not easy to do this in the eyes of the public. I admire your courage and your strength. You are an accomplished woman who made your own way in the world and were successful. I envy your multi-tasking skills! If your Mom is anything like mine, she is jealous of your achievements because you have surpassed her. I don't get it though, I kvelled at my daughters' accomplishments, never felt jealous. I wish you and your family good health and much nachas!!! Look forward to watching next season and I will keep good thoughts for your resolve always. Mel

Tori -

I've been the biggest 90210 fan since forever - continuing to watch it daily from 5-7pm on Soap Net (only reason I have that channel). I recently started watching your show this season and found myself so excited to read your books. I flew through Stori Telling and I am taking my time on Mommywood because I want you to write more. I sit there on the beach literally laughing out loud at your stories, your jokes... and then I cry at those personal moments. You have a true special gift in your writing, reaching your readers in a way that makes reading your books fun. I recently moved back from LA after working in the TV world - so hearing your stories about your father, being on set... just brings me back to my first passion. Now at the age of 25 I have a huge career change - becoming a teacher this year! However, much of your books brings back those memories of what it was like to live out there ... its not easy.

So thank you for writing your books and this is me asking you to keep on writing!
Thanks,
Erin

Tori,

I am sorry that you have so much trouble with your mother. It is hard to be happy, when a parent refuses to be part of your life.I believe it leaves a hole in your heart, that cannot be filled except by the absent parent. Dean will not truly know how you feel, but he is protective of your heart which is pretty cool. I have a similar situation. My father left my mom when I was 13 for my best friend who was 15.He divorced my mom, and decided that he could not have kids around that were the same age as his girlfriend.He totally kicked my brother and me out of his life.It hurts me every day, and it has been 30 years. My husband was protective of me as well, and wanted to knock on my dad's door and tell him to stop hurting his wife. It was and still does eat me up inside. My husband died in December 2008, and believe it or not I wanted to be able to tell my dad, but I did not have a phone number for him.It would have been nice to have my dad hug me and tell me everything will be ok. My father does not know his beautiful grandchildren, and probably never will. If he showed up at my door, even though he has hurt me deeply, I would probably invite him in and tell him that our love is unconditional.This is the first time in my life that I feel totally alone.Please cherish Dean and your children, and just give them the extra love that you have been saving for your mother. When you think about it, we are the kind of mother's that could never turn our backs on our children. Although I am a single parent again, I know I can do it alone, and will love my children more and more every day.I wish you and Dean many years of happiness, and what ever will be will be.

Hi Tori and Dean,
I totally agree with Dean regarding you and your mom. He is so in love with you and wants to prtect you and the children.I am happy that you are determined to be the best mom to Liam and Stella. You go girl. You need to be with people who afirm you, love you unconditionally, and accept you for the wonderful people you both are. Continue to be with those who love you and accept you - nothing less that that. Tori, loving Dean and your children. You be the one to break the cycle of negativity. And, I think you might want to print out these comments, put them in an affirmation book and read them frequently.
Love ya,
Barbara

Kaleigh Hall | August 7, 2009 3:30 PM | Reply
Tori and Dean,
I love your show i make sure i watch it every day! You have really ADORABLE KIDS. Dean you are a really good racer! I love how stella is called ladybug aka buggy and liam is called monkey how cute. I am going to try to read your books even though i am only 12! But they sound amazing and really interescting cause i would love to learn more about your family. I especially love your clothing line Little Maven i think that is how u spell it i dont know. But u and Dean nad your children have great style. Your shows are amazing. You guys r my favorite reality show. You guys are cool and fun parents.The wedding for your Guncles was amazing it was so beautiful! They are such a good couple. HAve they adopted yet? Well i hope your Nanny comes back on i miss her too she is great. Well you probably won't read this but i really hope u do i think you guys are amazing and i would love to actually meet all of you if i cant see all i would at least like to meet tori if it is possible. you are the best hope to see you someday!!!!
Your Biggest Fan,
Kaleigh Hall

I think you are doing a great job as a mother and wife you have enough love for ten people i am hoping to get both of your books i have to save up the money so i can get them what do you do with your baby clothes when they out grow them I dont have much money but my daughter is haveing my first granddaughter i would love to surprise her with some real nice clothes i would love to pay you for some of them on payments If you are interested my email address is pennybonogofsky@yahoo.com Penny Bonogofsky po box 503 miles city MT 59301 Thank you hope to see more years of your family they are beautiful thank you for letting us be a part of your family

I hate watching people try to guilt you into having a relationship with your mom. There are great Mom's out there, and there are bad ones: most are somewhere in the middle. Don't listen to the guilt trips - you know what's right. I also wonder why people assume it's all or nothing - there's nothing that says that you can't stop talking to her now, and reunite with her in a few years--or on the flipside, talk to her now and stop talking to her in a few years. Whichever or both - it's your decision. I don't think you should be guilted into any decision. Your children will have long happy lives, and there may be a better time for a reunion - if that's the right thing for you. If you feel that your Mom doesn't treat you with respect - there's no reason to expect she will treat your kids differently.

I enjoy watching the shows. i have a 20 month old son so it is nice to know you are not the only one who deals with the "terrible 2's". I love the clothing line. i think you are a beautiful and amazing mom it is easy to get dicouraged. keep your head up.

Tori,

I was flipping through the channels when I came upon your show. It broke my heart.

You are right you only have one mother and she only has one Tori. Somehow we let the things in life come between those we love. But I know from experience that only forgiveness can heal your heart. I do not know what happened between you and your mother. I only know that the bond between mother and child cannot be broken. As you have found out yourself. Don't stop reaching out but perhaps do it out of the limelight. It really doesn't matter who did what to whom.

Dean was hurt for you. He does not want to see you hurt and his response was out of not knowing how to make it better.

My son has not spoken to me in almost nine years and to be honest I do not know why. If he offered any sign of wanting me in his life nothing could stop me from him. He has three beautiful daughters and it breaks my heart that I will never know them. They will never have me in their life. What I do know about myself is that I may have failed at many things but I am a terrific nana. Even the time I spend with my daughter's chilren if marred by knowing that I will never have this time with my other grandchildren. There are so many people hurt by this situation. But I have not given up.

I will pray for you and your mother. It took my mother and I over 40 years to form a relationship. We have it now that she is dying and I think of all the time wasted because we were both too proud and stubborn to reach out to the other. But I am so thankful that we have found our way back.

Remember it is not about her and not about you, it is about your chilren.

May God bless you and your family. And my you all find forgivenss because in the end it not the money, fame or who was right, it is only about loving the people in your life.

Hi Tori, I watched the birthday show today, I never wanted to watch your shows before, but now I am impressed I wish you all the happiness and I hope you and Dean always stay in love like you seem now. I enjoy the show so much and will continue to watch it now. I live in Orange county, and I hope you show contiues. I did also watch 90210 love it also.

Tori, I know this is long, but I hope you read it to the end! I want you to know I've had so much respect and admiration for you for the last two decades. I remember first hearing about you with the bad press of 90210 (yes, high school). I ignored the press and judged you for myself - and my interpretation was that you were a sweet, good person, with an awesome sense of style! I think people want to judge you harshly because you were born into money, while most of us aren't. I don't know why people are so envious - you didn't choose your lot in life any more than the rest of us did. We are the same age, and I have to say, that, in our thirties, I still think you're as great a person as you seemed to be in your teens. I feel for you with this situation with your Mom. I've actually been in a similar, but worse situation, and I ask you to listen to my advice. No one, not your family, friends, or even your husband, know better than you what you need. I think, that if you're still needing your Mother, than you should make things happen to see her again. I say this because I know that when you're done, you will really be done, and that will be it. There will be no more worries about whether you should see her or not, you will just not feel any desire to see her at all. Ask your husband - I'm sure he'll agree with that. Also, don't try to push her one way or another with regards to your children - this should be between you and her only. Any relationship with your children will have to happen if she can prove to YOU that she is worthy of your trust. Take care of yourself hon, and enjoy the blessings in your life. I'm very happy for you! :)

hey all you Real Tori fans, Tori is going to be on HSN Tomorrow for her new jewerly line for this fall, check your local listings. don't miss it ! 8/10/09

TORI,
Make peace with your mom. Your hurt and your mom is hurt, so who's going to hold the grudge the longest! Listen nobody's mom is perfect, but she's the one that GOD gave you. Your dad would not want this happening. If you want the kids to know who grandma is, then make it happen. Tori maybe she doesn't want to do it infront of the camera's. I know you miss her, I can see it in your eyes when you talk about her. Go to your moms house just you and the kids, ring that intercome thing and tell her your here to see her and spend sometime with her, don't be afraid, she's your mom, laugh alittle cry alittle. Go see your brother too. Don't wait till something happens then you'll wish you had. Try to mend your family back together again (your mother and brother), who knows maybe they really need you in their lives but are to stubborn to admit it. I can see that Dean loves you, but he must be more supportive when it comes to your mother. Girl, pray on it. Good luck!

I just wanted to say that I have watched Tori on TV throughout the years and I've seen the headlines on covers of tabloid magazines and I've always thought in the back of my mind that a lot of things didn't seem to add up. I'm so glad this show and the book came out because it is proof of what an incredibly wonderful person she is. Tori you are such an inspiration to me. I could never imagined having grown up in a spotlight like you have and I think it is amazing that you are such wonderful person throughout it all. Through the show I can see that you are such an awesome mother, wife, and friend. Your strength amazes me. Thank you guys for allowing us the opportunity to have a glimpse into your lives. You guys have taught me a lot through the examples you've set and I hope that one day I can affect peoples lives in the positive ways that you guys do. I wish your family all the health and happiness in the world...you guys more than deserve it!

ok i love your show it rocks and ur kids are the most adorable kids i have ever seen and that lady you saw at the market was weird... anyway im really sorry for what happened.. did dean really give up his bikes for you.. he really loves you and if you don't know that you should.. your mom is mean for making a book saying you didnt invite her everyone knows you did... you are soo beautiful.. !!!

Tori: I love your show. I grew up watching 90210 during my high school years!!! I loved you on that show. You should be so proud that you have a wonderful family & wonderful husband. My heart breaks that your Mom hasnt seen Stella. Maybe one day she will realize what she is missing, a great daughter & great grandkids! You have come a long way, and should be very proud. Keep the faith! Enjoy your kids & Dean!!!

Tori - I'm sorry that this is happening to you. My father walked out of my brother and my life when we were very young and thought he would come back when we grew up. I am not going to clear his conscience because it is now convenient for him to act like a parent. I don't think that Dean intends to be cold - I think he is just angry FOR YOU. I would be angry if someone hurt someone I loved no matter who they are. Stop measuring your worth by your mom's attention. You are a special person and the people who showed up for your daughter's birthday demonstrated that. You have given an open invitation for you mom out of respect for the fact that she is your mother. Now it is time for her to show respect for you. Enjoy your family and if she chooses to be a part of it - lucky her. You have done what you can and should have respect for yourself to move on from this. You are right, "...but she is my mom." - now it is time for her to act like it. Thank you for sharing your family with all of us!

Tori - I'm sorry that this is happening to you. My father walked out of my brother and my life when we were very young and thought he would come back when we grew up. I am not going to clear his conscience because it is now convenient for him to act like a parent. I don't think that Dean intends to be cold - I think he is just angry FOR YOU. I would be angry if someone hurt someone I loved no matter who they are. Stop measuring your worth by your mom's attention. You are a special person and the people who showed up for your daughter's birthday demonstrated that. You have given an open invitation for you mom out of respect for the fact that she is your mother. Now it is time for her to show respect for you. Enjoy your family and if she chooses to be a part of it - lucky her. You have done what you can and should have respect for yourself to move on from this. You are right, "...but she is my mom." - now it is time for her to act like it. Thank you for sharing your family with all of us!

Well first of all I have to be honest and say I am not a fan. I have never watched the show before but ran across Stella's first birthday party episode and felt compelled. I am 40 and have three beautiful girls, Olivia 12, Elise 11 and our baby, Emilie who not only was adopted at birth but turned one on July 22. I have to say that in my 20 years of marriage to my husband and in the 12 years I have been a mother my father has never been there. After divorcing my mother I guess he divorced me too. He has never met, held, kissed, loved or even purchased a birthday card for any of my three beauties. I am sure he does not even know of the birth of Emilie. For years I would cry about this and tell my husband how I can not imagine a parent having no love for their grandchild...than one day Gordon (my husband) said...."Jackie...I love them." He is right! 12 Years later I can honestly say that my dad is missing these precious, brilliant, beautiful girls of mine. I see them everyday as a stay at home mom. I am not missing anything! Keep your chin up. One day youre going to look back when Stella is 12 (Like my Olivia) and say either "Wow I wasted so much time wishing Mom was here loving my kids" or "Wow my children are loved by their Mom and Dad"....which truly is the ONLY love they need....

Hi Tori- love your show .. i am have a 2 year old and a 2mon old we be 3mon old now i am a mother. and your show can help me on how children are .. your baby girl is 1. have a baby girl will help you on the why..I am sorry about your mom your mom is missing lot on your baby girl.. you and Dean to me you to are amazing parents and reall cool people.. now are you and Dean going to have a new baby??? .. i love you and Dean and i am a big fan.. all mommy can e mail too babykids441@ymail.com

hi tori,
love the show,but your mom is to going look back at this and she is really going get hit with what she missed.you and dean are great with the kids, you
show so much LOVE, MY mom was great but dad was ajerk and when she passed away in 1994 from cancer,i called him and he would not even talk.
my mom never spoke bad of him to me i found out on my own what a ass he is. so it is lost not mine. it"s your mom biggest lose. and the kids will see it one day.but tell hem about her and letr go at that. keep up with the show and the books.your are a loving and kind person.

Tori,

You need to ask your Mother to a private Lunch or dinner with her fanmily. Or a private lunch with you and your Mom. Going to a b'day party that would be on TV may be way too much for a strained relationship. Try baby steps with your Mom Tori and you will hopefully grow together again and be a family! Maybe just take the kids to her house?
Nobody can turn down grandbabies :) How about a back yard fanmily BBQ no frills, one on one time with each other?

Tori,
I think you did the right thing inviting your mother, that way you wont wonder later if you made a mistake not inviting her. Your concience is clear. I love watching whats going to happen with your children and what kind of party you are going to plan next lol. Dont worry about your kids not having your mother around you and Dean have created a happy environment for them. As long as they know you love them thats all that matters.

Hi Tori, I just started watching your show this season. You have an awesome husband Dean who supports you and two beautiful children. They grow up so fast. I read your first book. I personally think you were a cute little girl growing up.It's to bad your mom continues to have issues. It would have been nice if your mom could have arranged in private possibly to have seen Stella in honor of her 1st birthday. I'm looking forward to reading next Mommywood! Enjoy when you and your friends get together so warm and personable. Wish you and your family continued success and good health.

WOW I have learned so much from you and your family I need to say THANK YOU!!!! I have read your first book and I'm reading the second one now I love it and can't wait to see your next show. Thank you for writing about how you met Dean and how hard it was to do what you needed to do, but you did it because your love for each other is so true and strong. It has helped me make some hard choices and it has made them a little easier. I hope that I will find true love like you have. I have 2 kids and have been married for 5 years but I'm young and I want to be happy. Thank you for showing me that it is still possible. Good luck to you and your family your kids are beautiful. xoxo
Nicole
Florida

Hi Tori, Dean, Liam and Stella,
What a wonderful show. I cried so hard when Patsy left. I hope you have baby #3 so Patsy can come back..About your mom..don't be so worried about your mom..she will come around..it may take awhile but in the end she will be a great grandmother to your children..I truly love your show because it is real..and you and Dean have a wonderful relationship..stay the way you are and you will be the one to reap the rewards! You and Dean keep up the good work with your children. They are beautiful! Looking forward to your next show.

Hey Tori & Dean
Just wanted to say I love the show..my friend keeps telling me that my husband and I remind her alot of you guys..I just laugh!
Anyways, I love the way you dress your lil' ones..I just started a line of hats & headbands, like the one's you put on Stella (I have 2 little girls) I would LOVE to make some for Stella..please let me know colors if interested!
My website is being built right now, but will be PrincessNPetals.com ~ just send me an email (if u read this) with what colors u like for bands, hats & flowers & I can get them to ya..
Thanks!
Stacy

Tori - I have just recently stumbled onto your show and it quickly became one of my faves! I got caught up on last season and what I missed of this season during a marathon one day. You and Dean seem like a wonderful couple! Your children are precious! I read both of your books and thought your mom's idea of putting shells on the beach for you was so funny and actually stole that idea! My son keeps asking, "Mommy, remember when we found all those really cool shells at the beach last week?" LOL

God Bless,
Melody
Jacksonville, FL

You and Dean are wonderful parents. I know what you are going through with your mom. I tried to have a relationship with my mother my whole life. She passed away when I was 45, but the only thing that got me through was that the summer before she passed away, she was admitted to the hospital and didn't want anyone else, including my sister who lived with her, to care for her.
When she got to feeling better, I was told again to stay out of life and her business. God gets me through. My husband never understood the relationship I had with my mom because he is very close with his parents.
All I can say is that you need to remember the good times and TRY not to get hurt when things don't go the way you want them to. Explain to the kids that this is not the norm, but that it happens. Keep up the good job!

Tori and Dean and Liam and Stella... and our Patsy,

I am so excited... why you ask? I have a new laptop which is so much better and I can see this page now and view segments from your show.... IS that not awesome? well it is for me....

Plus I can skype my kids now and family in Ga.
I can get my business running and hope to make a few smackers as well... Most of all is to see ya'll more...

NORTH CAROLINA loves you and would love for you to do a book tour here next book you send to press.

You are an awesome family..... you have opened my eyes and views on things in life more.. and I am an old goat.. lol 52..... lol

love you all

bunns

I just want to say that I have absolutely fallen in love with your family. You guys are adorable and the love you all share is refreshing to see. They have the most ridiculous shows on television now, but to be able to watch a family who is so close and loving, makes you just want to be a part of it. I hate to make judgement against the issues you have with your mom, because I try to give everyone at least some benefit of the doubt. However, I can't help but feel so sorry that you don't share a relationship with her. My mother is my best friend and I don't know what I'd do without her. Her and my grandmother don't have the best relationship, but it's not the worst either. With the distance in closeness my mother and hers' share, it has made her realize how she wanted to raise her daughter. Which it seems, it has done the same for you. From a daughter with the best mother in the world, you and Stella, I'm sure, will one day be the best of friends. Having that and appreciating it, will make the harshness of your mother a lot easier. Enjoy what you have, Tori. You are truly blessed. Karma is a bitch and your mother will come to face with that. My father is the "bitch" in the family, who always seems to hurt one of us in every action he takes. So I can somewhat relate to how you feel. I have made the decision to cut him out of my life. As much as it hurts, and I hope one day he'll come around, it's not worth the pain and heartache he continuously puts me through. I hope you find some kind of common ground that will put the situation at ease and you stop getting let down. It's like that song "how many times can I break til I shatter?" I've reached my shattering point. Not to say that you will, but I at least hope you reach a point where it no longer hurts. So here's to you and your family! Congratulations on your success! We look forward to the new season. By the way, Monkey is the most well-behaved 2 year old I have ever seen. You and Dean should be so proud of you the beautiful children you've created. Cheers!

hi guys just love you all, I just would love you to no my baby gairl who is now 36 yeas and has 2 baby boys and I just love them , but now I am geting off track ,when your dad was sick my lisa took care of him for a long time she worked out all his treatments and a lot more , so as the wonderfull man he was took lisa to dinner along with your brother to say thank you for all she did , and she is still smilling about it she had not been in city off hope very long when she got your dad she loved him so much for just taking time out for her when he was so sick dont even no if you read all this as looking at all the blogs , hay if you are looking for someone to fill in for patsy give me a call i do have a lot of experence with children also I AM A NURSE WELL EX AS I AM NOW 50 BLUBBBBBBB. BLESS YOUR GANG .

Hi Tori,
I was really surprized that I enjoyed your show, I am not usually a reality TV person.
I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in your battle to find common ground with your mom. I have struggled myself I am the oldest of 9 kids and my mom went into depression when the last baby was born. So I was left to raise them and nothing I did made my mom happy. Beleive me I tried for 18 years always cleaning thinking if she comes home and sees the house she will be happy. Not so much. I had to learn that I would never receive my mothers approval. I do not have fond memories of my mother and so I say enjoy the few you have. I have beautiful children that are now 18 and 20 years old and we have a very comfortable life my husband works for the fire department and I am very proud of him. Enjoy your success with your family and your work everything will fall into place after that. Thank you so much for inviting us into your life you are so fun to watch.
Kim O'Grady

Hi! tori i just want to know where i can i buy your baby clothing line, Specifically the dress that you're dauther had for her birthday, my daughter is 17 months old and i really like the way you dressed estelita. thank you.

Hi! tori i just want to know where i can i buy your baby clothing line, Specifically the dress that you're dauther had for her birthday, my daughter is 17 months old and i really like the way you dressed estelita. thank you.

tori, im glad that u decided 2 go more private and talked 2 your mom in private,u know that this meeting was never supposed 2 b in front of the camera, let alone at a big party, its 2 personal 4 that .

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=vl_other_1&listing_id=23860808

Tori,
One more link for lady bug items, lady bug bowls a set of four. Enjoy!

Jessie

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=vl_other_1&listing_id=24724429

Tori,
I am not sure if you read all of this but taking a chance anyway. I love your show, I think you are amazing! What a wonderful family you have! You are a devoted mother and strong woman.
The link about is to an etsy shop, I thought of Stella (buggy when I saw them), lady bug mugs. Check them out. You might enjoy.

Sincerely,
Jessie

Hey tori and dean im looking forward to seeing you and the kids and i hope patsy comes to visit you guys soon!

Dear Tori,
I admire you so much, I watch your show and have read your book. Even though I've never met you, you seem like such a down to earth person and a wonderful mom and wife. Like you I have some of the same issues with my mom and will never understand her but am trying to accept it for what it is. My husband's mother is also passed on and I miss her dearly. Be strong and it is so true what you said, "No one hurts us, we let them hurt us" (something along those lines). Thank you for sharing your lives with us, I enjoy seeing your babies grow and the love that you and Dean share.
Colleen

Tori,
I have been watching your show for some time now and wanted to let you that what you are doing is truly amazing. You and Dean show so much love toward each other and your children. The show that really got to me was when you had Stella first birthday and you wanted your mother to be there to celebrate it with you. I was heart broken for you but, when Dean spoke to you and let you know how he felt the words may have hurt but, what he had to say was true. It is her lost and I pray that one day she will come to you and ask for you and Dean to forgive her for not being there for you and her grand-kids. If that day never comes just know that you have all the love that you will ever need. Dean loves you more than anything in the world and I would like to wish you many years of happiness.

Tori,

I watch your show and it's humbling to see that other people have some of the same "Mom issues" as I do.....and a husband who is supportive, but has a hard time truly understanding our angst, since he has an amazing relationship with his mom. We will always house a piece of our soul that aches for the love and acceptance of our mother....so we keep putting ourselves out there - and we keep getting hurt. Our husbands have to be there to pick us up and dust us off....and remind us the next time and the next time not to get our expectations up....again. It's a vicious little cycle and although we can't control what our mothers do, or don't do, we have to learn from it and find new ways of reacting to it all. Isn't it hard to even comprehend how your mom can treat you the way she does...now that you're a mother? I can't imagine a day going by without talking to my daughter (or son). You can only vow to be your daughter's best friend and love and support her - and let that be enough to fill the void that will forever be in our hearts. I hope you find peace and acceptance with the current situation. K :-)

Tori- where has your brother Randy been? You made an appearance on his show, I think you did a cartwheel! Are you two still close or is he siding with your mother? Inquiring minds want to know.

Dear Tori & Dean, I watch your show all the time and love it. You have such a love and support each other like no other I have seen in a long time. I was married for 38 years when my husband was taken from me by cancer. I miss him and when I see the two of you I see alot of what we had. No matter what you do or do not like what the other is doing you support them and that is what marriage is about. Now, Tori, your mom. I think what you want is something she can't or won't be able to give. She seems to want everything her way and thats not good for you. You are a better person and you gave her a chance. The e-mail she sent you, it should have been sent earlier than it was. To me it seems that she is a very selfish and self center person. I would crawl over ground glass to see my grandchild. YOU ARE THE BETTER PERSON for trying! Be proud of who you are. You have everything you need righ in your own back yard and If Candy Spelling isn't part of it, well that is her lost. Someday she will look back and say "I wish I could go back!" Be strong, Tori, and and wrap your love around that family, look into Dean's eyes and know you have everything you need right there with him, Monkey, and Buggy. You are truly blessed!

Tori and Dean,
I think you two are absolutely perfect together. I think that it is so wonderful to see a relationship like yours in Hollywood. Your children are beautiful and I have been watching 90210 since I was a teenager. I grew up with the cast and I still watch it now. (Old and New) In fact my friends make fun of me because years later I am still watching all of the reruns from when I was younger. I just wanted to let you know how truely amazing you are Tori. I hand it to you for doing everything that you do and still are so hands on with your children. BRAVO!! Lots of love and support,
Elizabeth

Oh Tori hun, I want to shake you! You are a great wife a spectacular Mommy and a success in your career!! You do not need the validation of the evil hateful woman that gave birth to you. You have proven over and over that you are so much more of a woman than she is. That is why you care that she isn't there because you are you human and you are a loving caring person. But sweet heart I hope that you realize that her continuing to do this to you will turn into her doing this to your babies!! I want you to picture their 5th birthdays when they are the ones watching for their Grandma to show up, and you and you kids hurting because she once again abandoned you. Oh Hunny I cried threw the whole birthday episode I am sorry she sucks you deserve better!! and more than you Stella and Liam deserve even more than that!! You have an amazing family and supportive friends work on that being enough!! Focus on the ones that love you back unconditionally!!!!

Is it true your Mom didn't come to Stella's party, because they were taping the show and she didn't want the publicity?

Tori
I am so proud of you not giving up on your relationship with your mother....

Tori just put your kids in the car...drive over to her house with no cameras ...ring the bell ...if they say she is not home say thats ok we will wait in the house.....and just work it out....Someone has to be the bigger person....I am an older mom like your mother and sometimes we just can't see the forest from the trees.

Tori and Dean,
I just want to say I love your show. I love the fact that its not all about you, and money and fame, but about your family, beautiful kids, and just everyday life.
I don't have kids (yet), but I hope my hubby and I are great parents just like you two are!
Thanks for creating such a magical show!

Tori, you are such an inspiration. I have hope for my life every time I watch an episode. You do it all and I admire you so much. Seeing you with your well behaved children and working on so many projects keep me going. I hope to achieve the work ethic that you have. Being disabled for the moment worries me that I will not achieve much for it takes so long to heal after an accident, that I lose hope, but you help so much. Cheers to you and your family!

Hello Tori, Love your show and Dean is amazing.
Kids are blessings from above. I wacthed one of your shows where Dean gave you an initial ring (you were in the tub) is there any way you it can be shown, I could not see it too good on the TV and where it was bought?

God bless to you and your family!

Hi Tori ( and Dean)

I have a question Tori. I know you have issues with your mother and I believe you are a doll for the continued effort to begin and maintain a relationship between her and your children for your childrens sake. That is truely your answer to will you be a good mother , that I've heard you ask Dean and friends so many times thru out the show. Yes, you are an amazing mother. Sometimes a bit overboard with the things you worry about,. but that's love that's what us Mom's do. My question is you have a brother correct?? Why is he never mentioned? Why do you not have a relationship with him and want your kids to know thier Uncle?? I've wondered the whole time I've been watching your show.
Congrats on a great show, a beautiful family and such a great relationship. Dean is a truely wonderful husband and you can see how much he loves you. BE THANKFUL.
Take care
Michelle

Hi
I just wanted to say thanks. Wacthing your shows and reading your book have really helped me to be a better wife and mother to my 2 children. I just wanted to say thanks. I hope there will be more book and shows. THANKS Melissa

Tori, I love the show. You and Dean have a special relationship that shows. The kids are just so cute to watch. I enjoyed the ending of Stella's 1st Birthday party with the Lady Bug Theme. Very Cute! By the way, you did do the right thing to invite your mom to Stella's party. Unfortunately, the out come of her not showing up did hurt and it may have been a blessing in disguise for you and your kids from getting hurt. When kids get older and family come in/out of their lives it hurts them deeply. What they don't know wont hurt them. Keep up the good work. Your a doll to watch and your all fabulous to watch.
P.S. I would love to know your recipe from the last Homesweet Hollywood family dinner you had with the pasta dish?

I absolutely love your show - I enjoy "being a part of your family" every week. I wish you and your family years of happiness. Keep doing what you are doing, you are doing it right. I am enjoying reading your first book - I will be getting your second one after I am finish. Please let us know if you are ever in the North Florida area for a book signing, I would love to come just to tell you how proud I am of you. Take care and the best of the best to you all.

Hi Tori and Dean! I am a retired school teacher of 33 years, the last 15 years teaching gifted ed. in the University Place School District in University Place School District, Washington State. I have been retired for 4 years...I have enjoyed watching your show very much since "monkey" has been born...You two are just like my daughter and son in law who aren't famous like you two, but work just as hard and have the same work ethic. My daughter is a high school enlish teacher and my son in law works for a computer company and coaches for an elite soccer club in Washington State...FC Washington Premier My grandaughter's name is Olivia (she just turned 4,july 23rd, and my grandson's name is Jackson,who turned 2 May 3rd. What your're going through with your mom, reminds me of me and my mom before she passed away a year and half ago..Invite her to your home without anyone around...have a great dinner...let her play with the grandkids...change their poopy diapers...let her give them a bath and read them a story...lay down with them....You and your mom will be together forever again.trust me...Call me ...E-mail me ..I would love to have your family visit ours....

Hi Tori & Dean. Frist just want to say what wonderful parents you both are and thank you for letting people laugh,cry and say omg with you:)Tori you crack me up!

I think you are a great mom Tori you love both your childern equal. I just got done watching the last show and it put me in a place that I know to well. My mom and me have never been on the same page and I would be so upset. Like you I kept going back. One day I called my dad to tell him that my husband was not supporting me in trying to mend things with her. He told me that it was because he couldn't fix it for me & that seeing me sad made him sad and being a man he would need a tool LOL or something to make me happy. So seeing Dean get so upset really did show how much he loves you:)

One more thing you have an amazing family around your children! Always love and you will always be loved!

I love your show i am 13 and started watching it this season with my mom. I want to be just like you. You are a great role model Tori!

Hello Tori and Dean, I have to first admit that I just started watching your show this season (Homesweet Hollywood). I AM NOW A HUGE FAN!! I am going to search to see if I can find your other season's so I can watch them too. The love you and Dean have for each other and your children is so genuine and beautiful. I'm married and my husband and I have three beautiful children (one girl and two boys) and we cherish our family time together. Unfortunately, right now my husband and I are apart because he was stationed overseas for a year while the kids and I remain in the states. We're both in the military and well sometimes these things happen. So BELIEVE ME I understand how you felt when Dean left to film a movie in Calgary. Anyway, I love your show and I will be praying for you and your family to find peace with the situation between you and your mom. Take care and I look forward to your next season:-)

Hey Tori and Dean!! I love watching your show. You guys have the absolute most perfect marriage...sooo cute!! My boyfriend lives in Sweden and I only get to see him every few months. It gets really lonely at times but I know I wouldn't ask for anything more in my future, except for us to be together. When I watch your show, it reminds me a lot of my relationship with my boyfriend; the support, the payfulness, the care, the funny little comments, and just seeing all the qualities constantly that make you realize how great you are for eachother. I had a rough last few months, and now rebuilding and trying to get things paid off so I can go be with him. It is weird because watching your show helps with the times that I am feeling really down and missing him. Seeing your relationship, the similarities with mine gives me the constant reminder that no matter what we can make it!!! Thanks for sharing what you do with all of us. You really are an inspiration!!!

Tori and Dean-
I love love love your show!!! I have been watching the re-runs and cannot wait for the new season to start. I was also stoked to see you on the new 90210. I just wanted to tell you that it is so nice to see someone as busy as you guys still staying so involved with your children. I honestly don't know how you do it, but I am inspired by watching your shows every single day. I laugh at the things you guys talk about because it is so real, just like me and my husband. I cry when you cry because I feel so connected to the relationship that you two have. I just wanted you to know that you guys inspire me, and make me want to have the same type of relationship with my husband as the two of you do. It seems like we all get so busy with kids and everyday life, and you two have this perfect balance and are still so into each other....that is really awesome. Keep up the good work and I can't wait to see the new season!
Much love from one of your biggest fans,
Leslie Mccaa

Hi Tori,

I just love your show with Dean and your kids. You are just like any normal family out there trying to make a life of your own. I'm so sorry you are going through all this turmoil with your mom. I am having a similiar situation with my own mom and can totally relate. Just be blessed that you have an amazing family and that is all that really matters in life. Best of luck to you always! I look forward to watching the new Season of Tori and Dean in 2010! Good luck to Dean if he makes it on Dancing with the Stars! I'll be his #1 fan!

Hi Tori I love love the chairs you have in the kitchen the white wicker syly ones I have been looking for some just like those ones could you please let me know where you found them. Love love your show. Thanks sherrie

Tori,

I just want to say that it takes a strong person to forgive over and over again the way that you forgive your mother. It takes great strength to be able to do that. It's easy to be good and considerate to those who are good and considerate to us, but it takes a special person with a big heart to do the opposite of how we are treated. I believe that your never give up spirit and your determination to never give up hoping will be remembered by your children which will help them to be strong and never give up on whatever it is that they are seeking in life. Keep being such a great example that your kids and others watching you can learn from. Never stop hoping. Miracles have been known to happen from time to time.

I LOVE your show. Please don't give up on your mother. We all remember the bad parts of our life, but there are always good too. Once I forgave in my heart my feelings and placed the way a parent was on the way his parents raised him to be (without lack of feelings) it opened up a whole new way of thinking and feeling and moving on. Whether a parent shows it or says I love you or gives you a hug or is not capable of that, then you just accept it and have the best moments you can with them because they won't be around forever. I just have a feeling if you got together with your mother and both apologize for the way things were and move on, you will see and have an amazing relationship. Best of luck in all you do.

Tori,
I love your show, but I would like to give you some motherly advise. I think you need to meet your mom on a very personal basis. You and the kids and if that goes well then add your husband. I am sure she was overwhelmed to go to your party and had good intentions. Please dont ever give up on her and YOU wont have the regrets. She may not be the motherly mother you want but she is YOUR mother. Have her in your life in anyway she feels comfortable. Remember you cant change her. Ill be praying for you. Robin

Tori

What is the recipe for that caserole you made? It looked amazing!

Hi
I've read both of your books; well done, they cracked me up and made me think about some things as well. Love the show hope you do Season 5 at some point. I just read something about Dean possibly doing Dancing With the Stars, I think you should both go for it; if they ask you. FYI Terrible Two does start around 15 months and is just the warm up; the real fun starts at 3 yrs. Good luck and blessings.

Tori, I applaud the way you take care of your family. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for what your doing. We, as your fans know that this show is mostly just for the outside world to get a small look at how you live not an exploitation of your kid's. I know that you said before that your mom was the real party planner in the family; But I think you have some wonderful Idea's. I think that you should write a book about party planning. Giving tip's for how to get your expensive look's on a budget. I know all of my friend's and myself would buy it.

HEY TORI AND DEAN
I'm not some obsessing fan but i am a fan of the work you do but i just wanted to let you know i know how hard it is not to have that relationship with someone's parent and just want your kids too have everything you had and didn't have, but just remeber no matter what anybody says you have your husband and three great kids in you guys family and lots of love and after everything that's all that matters.

Hi Tori - -I am a Stay at home Mom of 3 (2 girls and 1 boy)I am a Girl Scout c0-leader of my girls troop, so I know it is hard to be a Mom and juggle every day life.I son now 4 1/2 used to loves Pixar Movie Cars.
We have almost every car and case. It is sad that we have to sell them on craigs list for his new love Star Wars.I love the Lighting McQueen cake you had at Liam's birthday.

I love your show it is nice to see a show that has a loving family with every day events. and I a fan of the old 90210.

I have your first book and I love it, I will have to buy your new book ( Mommywood)

hey tori, dean, and beautiful little ones! u are all awsome! dont worry to much about your mom situation i've been there before and time realy does heal all if it is meant to be u all will reunite when the time is right

hey tori i wrote today and i hope you read it, it is somewhere in the beginning of hte page if you didnt!
lov ya jk,
kaleigh Hall

Hi Tori, thank you for always being so true to yourself and as a mom of 4, I can tell that you're a hands on mom and truly enjoy being with your children. You're an amzing person - thank you for sharing your life with us. I enjoy your show, and love to see how sucessful you've become! Glad you're enjoying life, and we'll miss seeing patsy!

Dear Tori,

I just wanted to tell you how I can't get enough of your family and your show. I have been appreciating you and your work since Beverly Hills 90210, and your lifetime movies. I am 55 and watched every episode of Beverly Hills 90210 with my daughter who is now 30.

My heart goes out to you with the relationship you have with your mother. I am very blessed to have a unbelievable relationship with my daughter and my mother. Although, I will let you know that things weren't always perfect in my family. In my opinion, even though it is painful you can't give up. You do have to resign yourself to the fact that it might not ever be like you want it. I find it heart warming when you in your private moments that they shoot, that you say it wasn't all bad. That you forget to give her credit for the good things she has done. I think you are on the right track even though Dean doesn't want you to get hurt. The things I didn't like about my up bringing I made sure I broke the cycle and made changes in the way I handled life.

The payoff for me is that my 30 year old daughter who's life is full and very busy always makes time to have one on one with me. I don't ever have to ask for the time. She is my best friend, and she say I am hers. I know that is what you want with Stella and also Liam, but the mother / daughter relationship is what you missed, so that is what you have to have.

My daughter coined a phrase regarding a close family member who give us all problems. "You have to love him for what you can love him for." It sounds like that is what you might have to do with Candy. Obviously, you have to protect your kids from getting hurt, but I don't think you should give up yet.

I can't wait for the next season.
Cindy

Tori, I am a 42 yr. old mother of 2. I am a 5th generation jeweler and I can SO relate to your problems with your mom, (but mine is my dad). You are wonderful. I never thought I would be addicted to your show, but girl, your a wonderful, loving, sensitive human being! I've even got my husband watching! I would LOVE to make you a handmade custom designed pendant just for you. How would I make sure you'd get it? Or even if you'd want it...
Keep being you and thank you for sharing your lives with all of us.
Kelly Rae

TORI I THINK YOUR GREAT YOU SEEM LIKE A REAL HANDS ON MOM AND A REALLY NICE PERSON

Hi Tori! I LOVE YOU! We have soo much in common- First I wanted to tell you that My dad has never seen my 2 children (Justin 6 and Bella 3). He has tortured me my entire life. The Puck stops there! I will not expose my children to his wrath. I know you say but "shes my mom"...I realize that- BUT we are human beings too. I've prayed about this, sought counseling, etc. I love him and pray for him "at a distance". I told him 6 years ago when he threw a plate of spaghetti at my pregnant belly, that this will be it. I meant it. I needed to "turn the page", forgive him in my heart but not allow myself, my husband or my children be exposed to such behavior. I wrote him a letter around that time explaining what he needed to do to see his grandchildren (couseling/medication). Unless he does these things, I cannot expose my precious jewels to his volatile and bipolar personality. Anyways, I would love to tell you more about it or email you personally. I totally understand if you are too busy- etc. But if you want to chat, my email is: myamy13@aol.com
Hugs! Amy Korn

Hey Tori,
I have been watching your show and I think that you are absolutely amazing at everything that you do. I only hope that my Fiance and I can have a relationship as strong as yours and Dean's. Dont let anyone bring you down ( like the haters) because girls only talk bad about girls that they envy. I am very happy for you and wish the best to you and your beautiful family. Out of all of the reality TV shows there are out there now, your's is the only one worth watching ( my opinion) I think that the world would be a better place if there were more people like you and Dean. I have a daughter that is going to be 2 years old in December, and she watches your show with me. I just got done watching the show when you had that creepy fan come up to you at the farmer's market. OMG! that girl was really creepy. I would have just kept walking and ignored her. That was so rude how she was like questioning you about your personal life. Fans like that are the reason that I am happy I am not famous.lol. But you are a great person and deserve nothing but the best. Keep up the good and ignore the bad. You and your family are inspirational.
Sincerely,
Heather

Hi Tori,
Are you and Dean going to do a new season of Tori and Dean home sweet hollywood???.
And when will it be on Oxygen???.

Tori and Dean,
I love your show i make sure i watch it every day! You have really ADORABLE KIDS. Dean you are a really good racer! I love how stella is called ladybug aka buggy and liam is called monkey how cute. I am going to try to read your books even though i am only 12! But they sound amazing and really interescting cause i would love to learn more about your family. I especially love your clothing line Little Maven i think that is how u spell it i dont know. But u and Dean nad your children have great style. Your shows are amazing. You guys r my favorite reality show. You guys are cool and fun parents.The wedding for your Guncles was amazing it was so beautiful! They are such a good couple. HAve they adopted yet? Well i hope your Nanny comes back on i miss her too she is great. Well you probably won't read this but i really hope u do i think you guys are amazing and i would love to actually meet all of you if i cant see all i would at least like to meet tori if it is possible. you are the best hope to see you someday!!!!
Your Biggest Fan,
Kaleigh Hall

Tori...I almost blew a gasket on the last episode when your mother r.s.v.p.ed and didn't show up. Man oh Man...I'm at a loss for words. I emailed Dean and I so hope you read it Tori. Bottom line..Dean adores you, when you hurt, he hurts. A husband that truely unconditionally loves his wife wants nothing but happiness for her. He does an incredible job of doing so but, this is one area that he hasn't been able to do that. It sortof makes him feel as though he is doing something wrong when he's not...it's a man thing Tori. Gonna wrap it up now and hope you read the lenghty letter I wrote to your husband..he is right and I am right on this one. xo p.s. my mother went to SMU with your daddy

I cannot believe I am writing to someone I do not know but in a way, we all feel like we know you. :) All 3 kids are taking naps and I just watched your final episode on DVR. I cried. I am so into your show and I am so sad it is over. Please tell us that you are doing another season. I look so forward to putting the kids to bed, grabbing a glass of wine and watching your show until my husband gets home from work. :) We miss you already!! :)

Dear Tori

You are an inspiration to me im a 40yr young woman and i watch your show and it helps me know that real love and having a wonderful family like yours can happen to me i want to thank u so much for your kindness in letting us all see and witness your life , Dean's life and your beautiful children. You are an amazin person and u always make me smile and cry when i watch your show . Its so great that no matter what u still enjoy your life and always have your children's best interest at heart what a great mother you are and because of you your amazing children will go out in the world and do awesome things.

Kisses and hug, Ms Tori
friend& Fan, Holly

Hey Tori! I am hooked on your show. You are so real and I understand so much of what you go through. I literally cry every show with you. I am 30 years old and my mom died almost two years ago. Ours was a difficult relationship as well. There were times she cut me out of her life for years. And I do feel like I was cheated out of a mom and my kids out of a grandma (she never got to meet my 3 youngest) and now it will never change because she's gone and I miss her everyday. So when I found out last Oct. that I was having twin girls I was so worried. I had two boys already and they are mama's boys. So easy to love, but girls... I am determined to do better than my mom. Turns out it's not so hard. My girls are 4 months old now and when they see me they smile so big. They already love me and I love them just as much as my boys! You have beautiful children and are a great mom! Only you can change things!

I just wanted to thank you for being so open and honest about your relationship with your mom. I have an estranged relationship with my mom myself. It hurts and I think it will never stop hurting. Your mom is supose to love you and be there for you no matter what. I am so sorry that you have to deal with all of the emotions and drama that a bad relationship brings. But thank you for being so honest. It really has helped me to know that I am Ok-there are other mother/daughter relationships that are complicated. I also have a 4 year old daughter. Not a day goes by that I don't second guess my parenting with her. I don't want to do to her what my mom did to me. I never think twice about the way I disapline my son, but I am always thinking of it with my little girl. My dreams have come true. I have a wonderful husband and the cutest little monsters on this planet. The only thing that is missing is my mom. I will always hope for a relationship with her, but I have stoped expecting it. Thank you so much for letting us into your lives-you really have made me feel like there is nothing wronge with me. I will be ok, and I will adore my family that I made. Sometimes you are born into an amazing family, other times-you make one. I can't be the only person who you have helped. so thank you again.

Dear Tori,
I've never sent a fan letter/e-mail in my life and I am 43yrs old! I am so moved by what great parents you and your husband are and all the things you go through. We share one huge thing in common and that's dealing with the mother issue. You try so hard to raise your daughter with a realtionship you yourself never had and I so get that. I two have the same problem, the last time I spoke to my mom was three years ago. The tie had to be cut in order for me to raise my children with unconditional love. You had mentioned in an episode on T.V. that you felt that you had no family connects left. That's the same for me and it breaks my heart every day. But the outcome of it all is that we get one chance to do it right by our kids and they are the most important thing we could ever do. If we have to cut some people out of our lives to better theirs than its all worth it. Never second guess your decision. You made the right choice just like I did. Our family that we have is now our husband and kids and that's the family connection. You have a great husband, nanny, and friends. That's family!!! Good luck and I wish you and your wonderful family the best that life has to give. God Bless,
Cindy C.

Dear Tori,

I don't care what your mom or the paparazzi say you are an excellent mother! Sometimes you are a bit too protective, but that is your motherly nature. I don't believe that it is genetic to not bond with your child. I think some people are just too selfish to be parents. Despite your lack of a mother daughter reationship as a child you are forming a lasting one with your daughter. You are adorable with both of your kids. You are everything a mom should be. There are mothers and there are moms. Candy is a mother, you my dear, are a mom! You go girl! By the way, I call my son monkey too! How weird. He's 6. Love your show! Thnaks!

HEY Tori and Dean!
I cant even explain how much i love you guys and your show! Your family is a family i admire.The love you and Dean have is just so admirable for everyone. Your kids are the cutest little sweethearts i have ever seen!Liam just cracks me up and is SO CUTE! And whoa, Stella is the cutest little angel and a mommy's girl! Your family has so much love for eachother and with all of the working that is going on between you two, you always find time to spend with your family. I think you would do great wth raising another little spelling and i am sure he/she would be just adorable and i think everyone would agree that "we want to see another little baby!" You have so much loving arms around you; your guncles, mehran,and its also an excuess for you to get back the one, the only, PATSY! I cant wait for another season! Well...I hope there is one! =) You are so awesome and i am a huge fan! I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!

Tori and Dean,
I was looking for good children's music for my 10 month old son and ran across a great album that you might like too! Check out:

Elizabeth Mitchell's You Are My Sunshine- there is a sweet song for your ladybug Stella called "Ladybug Picnic"- so cute! Love your show!

Hope you stressful life is going well. I could not image everything that you go through and still at the end of the day still have it together. I think it is great how much you too are meant for each other. I am going to be honest I watch 90210 growing up but I just saw you as your character. Personally I think you are much better as the real you. I like how you are with your fans and how you and your husband Dean show that family always comes first. I have two children as well a boy and girl just like you. Mine are 8 and 5 thought. It is crazy how fast they grow. I just wanted to say congrats on showing the world that loves over rules anyone and anything. Thanks for the both of you just being your selves. Just wanted to say good luck in everything you do. I am sorry if I am writing to much. So times you can have so much to say and do not realize it. Well also congrats on your little girls 1st Birthday.

Thanks

Hola Tori and Dean,

First of all love watching your show and nice to know just because you guys are celebrities doesn't mean you don't have problems like we do.
Just wanted to give you my point of view about you and your mom.
I had a best friend that wants a relationship with her mother like you. And she was not getting it she was taking muscle relaxers and pain pills for back problems but, she ended up taking more then her prescribed amount to numb out the hurt she was feeling and mind you she has a daughter that is 3yrs old.
She was seeking her mothers love and approval on everything. She tried taking her life. I tried to help. And it has ended our friendship. I told her basically what Dean told you. You need to stop seeking your mothers approval. She is a stumbling rock onto your path just put her a side, don't forget her just pray for her.
I know how it is to be hurt must of all disappointed in someone you love you, all you want them is to step up and prove you wrong.
Just enjoy your children and husband and focus your relationship with them.
I pray that in the near future you can eventually have a relationship with your mother.
May God Bless You and Your Beautiful Familia!

Hi Tori-
I know your a very busy woman & most likely will not get to read this, but just incase you do, I wanted to drop you a quick note. First, I love watching your show & look forward to seeing what you have going on every week. I think your an incredible mom, with a great husband & kids. The episodes you speak about your mom, touch me the most, because I haven't spoken to my mother in nearly a year. I have 2 small boys, 5 & 2 and they haven't seen their grandmother since December. It's sad that she hasn't reached out to them, inspite of the disagreements we have had, but it's ultimately her choice, and I cannot do anything about that. Like you, I could never imagine shutting my kids out of my life, no matter what, & it's a very emotional subject for me, as I know you understand. When Dean got upset and walked off in this weeks episode, I felt as if it were my life, because it's exactly how my husband is too. Of course I saw his point, cause I've lived it myself, but when you told your friend that all you really wanted was a hug...I completely understood what you meant. I hold out hope that one day, my mother and I will be on speaking terms, but until that day comes, I am enjoying my time with the family that I've created & put all of my concentration and love into them. I wish all great things for you and your family.

Tori,

I just love your show. You, Dean and those precious kids are a joy to watch. You are so down to earth and obviously enjoying your children.

I know that your relationship with your mom is strained. I can relate since I have the same problem with my daughter. We had a big blowup about a year ago. We have since made up and have a relationship that is almost as good as it once was. Candy needs to be there for those kids, and probably thinks that there has been too much public display to turn back the pages of what she has done. Do what is in your heart Tori, you will find the way to reconcile with her on your terms. I have learned to take my daughter as she presents herself and not expect more from her than she can give. That has really strengthened our relationship.

And no matter what, continue to be the sweet, loving mother you are. Stella and Liam are very lucky to have you as their mother and Dean as their father.

God's blessings to you.

Holy sh*! there are a lot of comments on here!
I love love love this show! Watching Tori and Dean with their kids warms my heart. I feel like watching them gives me a fresh look at being a mom, wife, and member of a family. I'm a stay at home mom of a 2 1/2 yr old little girl. She's been going through the "terrible twos" for a lonnng time (hitting, kicking, tantrums, etc etc). I have just been at the end of my rope wondering what is wrong, but after watching how Tori and Dean react to it, I've been able to relax a bit. Having friends TELL me it happens to every kid didn't seem to help, but SEEING it on tv was so helpful. I could go on and on about how I can relate to their different experiences, but I imagine, so can a lot of people.
Thanks! I hope we can be a part of another year in your lives!
Sincerely,
a fan

Tori, you are a true person and i love that you just want what most of us do. A family and a loving husband and household. There are reasons why God puts people on this earth and one of yours is to give hope without knowing you are doing it. Your show and books truly inspire me to be able to want and believe in that family and true love. It's wonderful to know that if you can go through some of these issues and still come out with what you desired the most makes me absolutly greatful. I hope life continues to satisfy you and thank you to being a true testiment to whot love can be.

Dear Tori,
Obviously tv does not operate in real time, so I don't know if your family status has been resolved any but I just wanted to give you a little possible "flip of the coin". I have been married for almost 15 years. My husband is great, his family is awful. His mom and I don't get along. And I could put up with her except she treats my husband horribly. I am telling you this not because I want or need your empathy but because if someone treats someone I love badly in private or public I become very protective so I sometimes get where Dean is coming from. We have made the choice that when we adopt our children (we are unable to conceive on our own) they are not going to be exposed to his side of the family because we cannot allow people to affect our children that do not respect us with basic human consideration. IF they cannot even be civilized to us what will our children be exposed to. Thanks for listening. I enjoy your show, never really watched 90210, and to be honest this show has really changed my perception of you.

hey tori,
IT WAS SO SAD to see the finale of tori and dean!!!
I hope yall sign for another season and stella looked really cute in her ladybug dress!!! AHHHH!!!

I have never submitted to something like this but I have to tell you that i loved you on 90210 and absolutley love you on your show. I have twins of 2 months and watched your show before I was a mother and watch your show now. You and dean are so much like the personalities of my husband and I and just want to let you know you are an inspiration to me and my dialy life. keep up the good work. thank you so much.

hi tori,

i just wanted 2 say hi and that i love how u throw parties, it's like a wonder land party every time.

thanks, all the love

maddy quinn

hi tori
i NEVER write to people on these things, much less celebrities. i completely admire your strength, and style. i love your show and am inspired by your love for your family and the fun and humor you share with your husband. i enjoyed watching you and dean since you owned the inn, and i thought wow! what an undertaking! good for you to put yourself out there and make a living when i'm sure so many people underestimated your capabilities. you have proven a lot of people wrong, including myself--speaking as someone who watched you grow up on 90210 and loved it. it was so fun to watch you and dean work as a team. he is great. and i see so much of myself in you as a parent--just trying to enjoy your children all the while trying to be a good parent. it's such an amazing ride. i look forward to more shows and i hope you and dean will continue to invite us into your lives. thanks again. i'm not even sure you will read this, but i'm so glad you have opened up your life to everyone. it brings a smile to my everyday routine. your children are beautiful. take care.

hello tori my name is courtney i lllllllllloooooooooovvvvveeeeeee ur show if u need a baby sitter just yell lol

Tori,
I must tell you that I have never written to a show before. I am a mother of three girls. I have a simaliar relationship with my mother. She hated the relationship that I had with my father. My father passed 5 years ago I miss him terribly. I also had a brother that my mother was very close to as well. He too passed.
So it is like we are stuck with just each other. My mother favors just one of my childern and that is hard as well. I deal with all the pain and hurt from my mother with a grain of salt. I love her because she is my mother,but we wouldn't be friends if she wasn't. When I watch your show I want you to know that it touches me because I to want a happy family and want to have a happy place for my children and when your children get older as you will see things don't always turn out that way. My girls 18,16, and 13 have there own ideas. I watch your show and think to myself that I dont' want to have a relationship with my daughters the way your mother has with you or that I have with my mother. I want a good loving fun relationship.So Tori even through all of your pain it isn't in vain because you are help, and nurtruing(sp) other mothers. You touch me and have shown this very independent girl how to appreciate my girls and Family and I thank you!!!! Traci

Not all mom's are hurtful! My mother flew all the way out here to Chippewa Lake (Cleveland), Ohio from Tuscon, Arizona to see my son graduate from high school! She is awsome! Maybe your mom is just not into little kids.....maybe she's just waiting for them to grow older so she can spoil them then! Yeah! I think maybe that's what she's doing! (or not) Well...it's a thought. Anyways...love you guys and I love your show! I can't wait to see what your children look like in 19 years! Mine turned out to be a pretty good kid! Thanks!
Jamie from Chippewa Lake, Ohio

Hi Tori,

I'm a huge fan and I thought the kid's fashion show was amazing! I have a dad who isn't part of my life, either, so I can totally relate to the situation with your mom...Dean is totally right. Some folks you can't make happy, and you don't need to beg people to be your friends or your family, either.

Hope you have continued success w/everything.

Hello Tori,
I don't know how many of these you actually read but here goes. I was surprised how quickly I became addicted to your show, I can't get enough. Its weird that I don't know you but I can't wait to see what you or your kids will do next. Even though you have been in Hollywood all your life you seem so down to earth. You seem to be a great mom and I respect that because as you know in Hollywood hands on parenting doesn't always happen. You and Dean crack me up you seem to have so much fun together and you can tell that you are madly in love. I have to say the episodes when Liam was acting out with tantrums and hitting had me crying I was laughing so hard. My son is a couple months older and went through the exact same thing. Two year olds are crazy but you got to love them because they are so darn cute. I often tell my 2 year old he is only alive because he is so cute. Any way just want to say keep up the great work and I wish you and your family all the happieness in the world. By the way I loved your first book and can't wait to get to the bookstore so I can read the next one.

hey tory and dean,
i read about your mom's comment and i think its dispicable for your mother to keep making hurtfull commnts about u and your familly.i love you and ur show and i think u r the reallest person i've seen on tv in a long time.i think your children are beautiful and u have to remember that its her lost not yours and certainlly not those beauiful kids of yours. you need to jst let her be and hope that someday she'll snap at of and do what ever necessessary to be apart of theirs lives.
keep being you, you guys are awsome
p.s dean u are the best husband ever.

Tori ~ My heart breaks for the pain that your Mother causes you. I am another one in the club of Mother's who are alive but don't have anything to do with their grandchildren, much less her own daughter. I think there are more women out there in this club then you would imagine. My husband tries to be very understanding, but like Dean he hates to see me hurt.

I think it is something that we are just born with, our parents are supposed to be in our lifes until they die. There isn't supposed to be excuses not to be there for their grandchildren. I was always told by my mother when I was a little girl that blood was thicker then water, she proved herself wrong. I don't know if the pain ever truly goes away, especially when special occasions come around. Even after I thought I made peace with it and moved on there are occasions I fall back into that wanting my mother around. It does happen less.... My advice is to mourn the loss of your Mother, and then go and be the Mom for your children that you wish you had. Time goes by too fast, and in the end it is truly her loss, not yours.

Hang in there.

Every time I watch your show I absolutely crack up...you are so stinkin funny...I just watched the last show..the sheets!!!! Hahaha

I have to tell you that I never watch reality tv shows but your show is just fantastic! You are an awesome wife and amazing mother!!!!

Don't be so hard on yourself....it's probably one of the most difficult thing in life to cut people out of your life that you care about. I've gone through it and know all about it!!!! You are strong and you have soooo many amazing friends! One of the best quotes ever: "Friends are family we choose for ourselves!" The only family you truly need is Dean & the babies (& the pups of course)!!!

~Cheers bitches!!!!

It is weird. I often find myself thinking "why" do I watch this show about people i dont know??
But, I love it! When it ends I wish there was more. Tori you seem like a really nice person, very sweet! Dean is hot, and your children are adorable. I love the interaction!
I hope you really are what we see on screen......

Hi Tori - I just want you to know that whatever you decide to do about your mom will come when you are ready. I completely understand Dean's point as my husband felt the same way about my mother. It had to be my decision and he finally understood that. As it stands (and of course it is sad) my mother does not have a relationship with my children but it came to the point that I had to protect my children from her and the hurt that she caused. You and Dean are wonderful parents to your children and in generally just great people. Keep up the great work you both are doing and just be happy. P.S. I've never commented on any thing before.

Hi Tori and Dean,
Just wanted to write to say how much i love your show! I think it flew by this time around I was sorry to see that it was over with! It seems like it just came back on. Can,t wait for it to come on again!
Your such a good wife and Mom Tori. You work very hard still make sure you have time with your family. Just wanted to say I love your show you and Dean and the kids are so darn cute.
Take Care
Dawn

Tori & Dean,

When you think about it - seems weird that I am watching people I do not even know conduct their lives. While I know a lot must be edited and you pick and choose what you want us to see I really believe for the most part this is a fair portrayal of your family and friends and I totally get it, you seem to be pretty normal :-).

Many reasons why I watch but one of my fav is Liam "walking or running" OMOGSH it doesn't get any cuter than that!!!! I now have children in their 20's but never recall them running like that maybe they did but it is too cute! Liam could truly have his Own Show!!!

Stella is beautiful as well - they both look like Dean - You too of course but definately him... He has some strong genes & a beutiful Wife!

Season finale was good - recapping everything - will miss watching you on Tuesday nights! Smart move leaving in the part about Dean upset and walking away - shows you guys are human like us all.

Take care & hope to see you sometime in the new season - When does it start??? :-)

Hi Tori omg u are awesome u are soooooooo pretty it looks so fun on all the family parties and other parties u guys did anyways, u are so talented and smart good luck with creating more new jeweleries GOOD LUCK You rock I love all ur shows.

Tori,
I do love your show and I just want to let you know that I think Dean and you are wonderful parents. I do agree with everybody else that you need to meet with your mom one on one without cameras and hash it out and if that doesn't work that you will know in your heart that you have done everything in your power to make it right. If she chooses not to see your children and it will be her problem not yours.

Hello Tori & Dean,
I just wanted to say how much I enjoyed your show this season. I've been a "Donna" fan since I was a kid & I have to say, Tori you are absolutly BEAUTIFUL!!! It's so nice to watch a reality show that is real & hilarious! You're little ones are so cute. As a mother myself, your right...the time flies by way too fast. Anyhoo, I wish you both & your little ones all the best.

Hi Tori,
I've enjoyed watching your show and can identify with many of your family dynamics. I, too, have a wonderful husband who I'm crazy about and who's crazy about me.. a son who's now 3 and a daughter who just turned 2. Kudos on Stella's party - awesome!! My daughter's first birthday was a garden fairy party - the girl's were all little fairies and the boys frog princes... I even made my own toadstools, similar (but smaller) that the one's at Stella's party :)

Sadly, I don't have a relationship with my mother and have hardly seen her in several years. She has missed all of my special events - wedding, childbirth, and all of the kids birthday parties... I love her with all of my heart and always want her to be there and I do have hope that maybe some day it will be different... but what I know and have finally come to terms with is that for now this is the way things are and if I want to be happy and healthy I have to let her go. It's probably the hardest thing in the world to do because you only have one mom and you love her...hmmmm... giving you a hug.

I also wanted to comment on the son/daddy relationship in your home... it is EXACTLY the same around here. Daddy is the hero in this house which I absolutely love, but I have to admit that my feelings get hurt sometimes... everything is about Daddy with my son... he even told me a fews weeks ago that he wanted Daddy to stay home and for me to go to work (I cried) but I know he wasn't trying to hurt my feelings - he just loves the heck out of his dad and really misses him during the work week (little does he now I'm a stay at home mom with my own business - working when they sleep). What's interesting, is my daughter is a real Mommy's girl... so maybe that's just going to be our family dynamic for now - I'm just rolling with it! :)

I wish you the best for your beautiful family and appreciate you letting us get to know you and your family. Good Luck & God Bless! ~Tracy

I love the show.

I just had an idea that I wanted to share with you. Both you and your mom are missing out. Yes I understand you both have your own feelings and hurt. It would be a shame to have something happen to either one of you and never have these filling resolved.

I have a sense that you mom is really not someone who is comfortable being infront of the camera. In fact given her hoarding issue, I would sense that she really has some anxiety about being on tv. Yes she promoted her book, but that's different than sharing sharing personal moments with her family. Please try to reunite with her without a camera. I don't want you to have a situation that I have where my dad has been gone for 20 years and if only I could talk with him.

Do it for you and your kids. I know the show is your business, your income, but do what you can.

HUGS.

Debbie

Tori, Did you really expect your mom to come to your daughter's party that was being televised? It would have been a very awkard situation for the two of you and those attending the party. Her visit should be private and not a media circus. I was glad you responded to her privately on the show. Hopefully, your family will reunite. LIFE IS TOO SHORT!!

Hi Tori, Dean, Liam & Stella! Congrats on another season of your show and happy very belated birthday miss Stella. Tori, I have read both of your books and I also read your moms story. I have to say I felt she simply wrote a book to take anything negative thoughts she could think to say about you and put it on paper. I also noticed she totally twisted stories from your first book to make them better suit her purpose of playing victem and for this I am truly sorry. She did nothing but hurt herself by not showing up for Stella's birthday party. It is simply only her fault that most of America knows her grandchildren, via the show, better than she does. Not only did she miss out on the oppertunity to make wonderful memories with her beautiful grandchildren, it confirmed the simple fact that she is at fault. Regaurdless of the relationship status between you two that day was all about Stella and had she been thinking of Stella instead of what was best for her she would've seen that and attended. Anyway, I love the show, you are an amazing mother and as far as I can see need not to worry about repeating the past. Your children know they are loved and will you will always be their number one fan and that is all that matters. With love, Jessica

Hi Tori , I wished you were my daughter. Iam 71years young and i have two son,s Iam more your grandparent,s age i live in caseyville Il. Watch show every time your on I love your family and how hands on you and Dean are put your problems iun god hands and it will work eventually.Don,t mind my spelling. Take Care and god,s blessing,s

Hi

My family and I have watched your show since tge start, and I have to say that I really do think that you and Dean are such great parents to your 2 beautiful childeren. I and my wife have a 2 year old son and I can only hope that I show him as much love as what you and Dean show your children. I also wached the mommy wood series and I must say that they episod that you talked about beeing a mom and how you had some reservations about how you would do, I feel that I can relate to that. See I have ceribral paulsy and I always said that I didn't want to have children because I didn't think I could be a good dad to them. Now that I have my son I don't know how life could be any better, when I hear him say dada it just makes me melt. I hope that God continues to bless you and your family and give every thing that you wish for. GOD BLESS

I've watched both this & last season. You have a sweet sweet family and are surrounded by so many loving, truly caring individuals and yet, every episode shows you crying or being fearful over something. I hope you can reach a place where not everything is so dramatic & emotional for you because your children are watching how you handle life! Seriously, you need to learn to COPE better in general and not make everything so huge...like Liam getting out of his crib on his own. Please do not instill your insecurities in your darling kids. As for your mom, this should not have played out on t.v. or in the media, on either end. As a grandmother myself, I am appalled at her behavior but you also need to stop putting everyone thru your emotional grinder and figure some stuff out.
And I couldn't help but notice that both Liam & Stella at times seem to struggle & feel overwhelmed at the enormous productions their parties turn into. Sometimes, less is better. You don't always need to 'duplicate' your own good memories or 'make up for' what you feel you lacked.
P.S. I hope Dean will soon stop with the potty mouth in front of the kids as pretty soon they'll be repeating what they hear.

Tori;
As I watched Stella's party show's; I once again was reminded that you and Dean are awesome parents; that are hands on and love love your kids and spouses. You mother might not ever come around; but you have something special and you have made your own family with the friends you have and your kids. I love watching you cook dinner. You are starting a tradition that I hope you will keep. I love your childrens clothing line;wish I had kids to put them in. But will just have to buy them for my niece and nephew. CAn't wait to see the next season. I will miss Patsy; she also is a part of your family.. Great great show. Thanks for showing that "hollywood types" are very normal people with the same wants; hurts as the rest of the world. Thank you for letting us see and be a part of your family.

Dear Tori,
I have to say that I TOTALLY get you! I haven't spoken to my mom in almost 2 years. I feel you and I share the same inner battle of doing what is right when it comes to our moms. I hate that my 2 children are missing out on a grandmother! I'm sure you and I could get together and swap horror stories of the hurtful things our mom has done to us. She IS my mom, so I still get that tinge of guilt for not having her in my life. But, everytime I get in anyway close of given in to call her, she does something that totaly validates my decision to keep her out of my life. It would be totally awesome to meet you! I think you are a strong, kind woman, who has absolutley adorable children. You and your situation reminds me of myself! I'm sure you get this all the time, but it would be an honor if I coud meet you! P.S. My sister, who is the only one who understands my situation with my mom, loves you too! Keep it rockin'!Can't wait until the next series premier!

btw if you ever needed to talk/email about theses issues you can always email me Tina

Tori,
I have the same relationship with my mom. Or at least, tried, like you did. For almost 47 years, it has been a rollercoaster of sticking your neck out there, only to be "set up" for disappointment. I literally didn't figure it out until this year. It was Kharma. My brother happened to marry someone just like my mother, only more extreme. During a time when I was talking to my mom, all she would say was how much the daughter in law was hurting her feelings. The DIL would ignore her or say mean things or be superficial. My mom finally was able to diagnose "the situation" as ADHD. Funny, she never saw that in herself.The inattentiveness, the lateness, the manipulation involved in ADHD, leaves a daughter, especially, wondering "why can't I get my own mother's approval. Like you said, "a mom should be proud of her daughter" just because she's her daughter. Another factor that figures into the problem is that I think she is really very insecure. She only responds favorably to people who seem to need her help, or they at least allow her to help. I am fiercely independant-I'm Irish, like Dean. I also threw many many a themed birthday party, like you. I have to say, the birthdays are the killers. I think we have so much "want" tided up cause we are so so proud of our kids. If our parents can't be proud of us, they should be proud of our kids-supposed to be, anyway. The parties put too much pressure on someone who feels insecure to start with. And if you are able to pull it off without her help, she would be jealous instead of proud of you.
I finally had to say enough, for my own sake. But more importantly for my child. I don't want him to be treated the way I was-I don't want to allow any chance of that to occur. I had given her the chance initially, but after many. many disappointment, decided that nothing would change the situation. People don't change. Actually, in my mom's case it got worse. She's 74 now and I am 47. She has three sisters and they were all competing with each other and manipulating and they all grew up being diagnosed with ADHD and other compulsive behaviors. All sisters had daughters. At least one daughter for each sister has problems with their relationship.
So, I have to agree with Dean. Enough setting yourself up for another disappointment. Think of the kids. Will she treat them like she treated you? I couldn't bear to let that happen to my son.

Hi Tori I am just watching your finale episode of the season and Dean was just telling you to let go of the 5 year old child......I grew up watching you we are the same age and I have the same issues with holding onto hope with my mother and iit is soooo hard you have to comfort and love that inner child and you cant ignore her she needs your love....I sat her crying thinking of my mom and my relationship and feeling your pain and also understanding it.I am sure you get alot of emails/blogs like this but I truly understand and feel what your going thru I am in the process of working thru it now.I wish you luck and dont give up because that 5 year old inside you needs your love.Btw I love your show yall are great it is lucky to have found true love you and Dean give hope to others who havent found it I have also been blessed with a wonderful husband.Continue to love and nuture your kids ..you are doing what I did to make sure that our kids dont grow up like we did.Take care of your beautiful family and God Bless.

Hi Tori,
I feel like you and I could sit & have a big cup of tea and do some girl talk:-) I think you and I would click well, we've got a lot in common...one of those things being great husbands that are SUPER protective over us...I love it!! The main reason I wanted to email you was that I really feel for you concerning the relationship with your mom. I see you talk about it & my heart aches for you. A little over two years ago my entire family disowned me (except for 2 people) due to whom I chose to marry...it still hurts. As cruel as they were to me I still miss them. My husband and I are expecting our first baby & I wish so much that they would be a part of this exciting time in my life. I just wanted you to know I pray for you often & the feelings you have are normal...it says you've got a heart. I personally don't think those feelings will ever end until the relationship is mended. I think it can get easier & you learn to deal with it better, but family is always family. So as I pray that God will help me, I also pray that He gives you the wisdom & strength you need. Luv ya girl!! T

i love you dean you hace the grastest body

Hi Tori and Dean,
I watched Stella'a Birthday party with mixed emotion's.....You see my grandson's first Birthday
is aug 12th and we can't even afford a cake, let alone a party. I just don't understand a world where
one child has everything and others get nothing.
Your children are beautiful and you guy's work hard for them... I just dream of the same for my grandson.

hi TORI i just sended u a letter

T,
I don't know if you actually read all these yourself, since you are an extremely busy woman.
How you do it all. Please remember to take care of yourself! Dean, Monkey and Buggy need you. I have a lot to say, but I'm not going to, since it has all already been said in previous blogs. I will tell you I totally agree with all of them. I never missed any of your shows. If I couldn't watch, I taped them. I LOVE you all (Patsy included). You are so down to earth. PLEASE tell me you'll continue with more episodes. Give the kids a hug and kiss for me. Say hi to the Guncle's, they're great. I hope all their dreams come true. You'd be a terrific Aunt as you are a mother and wife. You are in my thoughts and prayers. May God bless you and your family.

Donnalene

Hi Tori i love to watch your show. It's amazaing how those lil children can light up your worst day. I should know i have a 3 year old and 1 year old. My daugther and Stella are just a couple of weeks apart. mine was born on May 15, 08. C-section. is is scary, but as women we have to learn how to be strong for our children. I cried my heart our on the final episode, especially when patsy left. You see i live in C C Tx my mother just moved back home and well i know what you werer going through. My children are so attached to her and it is so true what you said how do you tell them that she's gone. How knew that becoming a mother was so hard. I feel so bad that Candy couldn't make it. It upsets me so bad that she couldn't just put all the tabloids and rummors aside to attend. I mean who really cares it's her grand kids who are important. OMG!! I know it hurts you especially cause she's the only living grandmother. Maybe you all should meet up with out cameras. I love the Guncles hope their wish comes true they would be great parents. My Blessings go out to you and your family and friends. Bye monkey and buggy.. Keep doing the reality show i would love to see them grow..

I was sitting at home watching miss stella's party marathon on tv and i was thinking to myself you should open up a website for mommie's where we can all chit chat with you and share ideas and motherhood tricks of the trade. I watch your show and i feel such heart ache for you. I know living in a world where lies and distrust run deep has to be hard. I just hope that you always surround yourself with TRUE honest friends in your life who care more for you than your status. Your children are precious. I cried with you when you were talking about stella growing up so quickly. You have an AWESOME husband and from what i can tell great friends. My husband and I watch you guys show every moment we get! Keep up all your good work and keep your head held high. You are beautiful inside and out. No matter what is said about you. Jealousy is a very ugly thing! Love the haters and embrace the honest people in life. XOXOX!

Tori,
I have a magnet on my refrigerator that says "Anyone can be a mother, but it takes someone special to be a Mom".
You are a wonderful mom - you don't have to prove anything to your mother-if she watches the show she knows you are.
I am a widow with 2 boys and not a day goes by that I don't thank God for my kids, because they are my source of strength and my reason to get up in the morning. You are strong and you are doing a great job with your kids. I love your show and hope you guys continue it. Liam's shuffle is hilarious.

I just wanted to say that I love the show. It doesn't seem scripted as many of the other reality shows do. I have been a loyal fan since 90210 and Saved By The Bell. Even if I had never watched those I would still be a fan because I can see what a truly sweet and caring person you are. I'm glad that Hollywood and fame didn't ruin you. Your kids are beautiful and I love the way Dean takes care of you all. You two are so down to earth. I loved your cassarole!! I definitely think you will be one of the Hollywood/reality marriages that will survive. You are perfect together. As for your mother I can relate because I also didn't speak to my mother for a while and then my husband made me call her on Thanksgiving because he could see how much it was hurting me. I still thank him for that. Even though we just put it all behind us and didn't even talk about the incident (I know some would disagree with that method because you're supposed to have closure) But it worked for us. I just realized that no matter what she had done she was my mother and that if you truly love someone that love is supposed to be unconditional. She even still taks little digs at me now and then but I have just accepted the fact that is who she is and I choose to ignore them because family is important to me. I hope you and your mother will have some kind of a relationship soon. Good luck with everything that you do in the future. Looking forward to baby #3.

Hi Tori, I just wanted to say i love your show.You have 2 of the cutest kids i have ever sean. I was sooooooooooooo sad when the show was over i almost cryed. I hope you do another show with Dean and write that childrens book! I wish i could meet you in person. I think you are an incredible person and an evan better parent(dean to). You Rock! I am only 13 but when i grow up i want to name my kids liam and stella. I just wanted to say you and dean are incredibe, and an insperation.And i think you look FABULOUS for having 2 kids.
YOU ROCK!!!!

Hello I just want to say that you are the perfect family. You have really made a change and are a wonderful person even after all you have been throug. I just want to say I sit and watch your show all the time and just wonder how you hold up and be such a wonderful understanding calm forgiving person. I sat and cried watching Stella's birthday party episode. I am going through something simular and just cant handel it as gracefully as you do. I get my strength and energy from you Tori. I feel your pain and understand Deans concern. You are so blessed to have a wonderful healthy happy family. There are few women out there who can say they are as loved as you are by their husbands. I think Dean is a perfect man. You are lucky to have someone to help you and support you thorugh every thing. I am a single mother of two children and go through it all myself. He is also so lucky to have you. You guys are perfect for eachother and balance eachother out. I only hope wish and pray for something like that one day. Good luck with all you do in the future, you have an absolutely beautiful family.

Love the show and watch it religiously...but it is driving me nuts, has anyone noticed that when Liam's name comes off the refrigerator in the opening montage that it looks like it says "Lian"? Everytime I see it I spend the next 10 minutes wondering why they have it like that, does it actually say Lian?

Anyhow, Love you Tori and thank you for all the parties you throw that give me great ideas and for all the fun I have watching your family grow!

I just want to say I enjoy watching your show very much! It gives me comfort and my husband some insight on what it takes to take care of two kids so close in age. My girls are 7 1/2 months and my oldest will be 2 years old this month. It's great to see what Liam is doing so I can see what my oldest will be doing. It is also great to see how your two interact being so close in age. While your full-time job entails A LOT more hours than my 40/week, I am very appreciative that you and your family open up your lives each week to show it's a always work to grow and maintain a family but it can be done and it's worth it!

Tori, your mom has exploited her mother/daughter relationship to get what she needs. It's time to let her go. Not showing up for Stella was not only hurtful, it was downright vicious. She's In this for herself, and noone else. Time to let this relationship fall, and watch her continually stir the pot in hopes of exaggerated book sales. Let's face it, not everyone was meant to be a mom, just thank God that you were.

Hello Tori!! I just wanted to drop a note and let you know that I think you are a wonderful mom!!
Also, I love your clothing line BUT, I sure wish you made it in bigger sizes. I have 2 girls 5 and 7 and they love your clothes. PLEASE make them in bigger sizes!!! Let me know if you do start making them bigger. Thanks!

Hi Tori!
I love your show, you guys make such a great couple and both are great parents. Its so cool that there can be great couples who have such great communication and love in a bussiness that is so busy. But you are amazing on making it all happen , even the great parties you have. I had my first baby 5 months ago, she is my world ! I can't believe how much I love her!! I saw the fashion show for your kids clothes line it was so fun. I am also interested in having my baby in modeling or commercial, she has that carisma. Can you give me some advice? Well I think I have to go. Take care. And don't worry to much about your mom, things always work out one way or another. Just keep enjoying your life with your beautiful children and husband.

Tori,
i just watched the episode of stella's first birthday party..it put me in tears when your mother didnt show and how much we are going through the same thing..instead its my sister..she disowned me it has had me upset for 2 years now..crying my eyes out..i miss my neice and love her so much and i always wanted to never lose her..i know that i might have never called much..i am so not a phone person and she knows that..and i was young then too and i was having fun with my friends and working a lot so it was hard to see them..i never got invitations to Emma (my neice) birthday part....so its not all my fault..she never even gave me a chance or even said anything to me that something was wrong and that she was going to do this..i hurt me! i'm still hurt and i was so close to my neice and never wanted to lose that..so i know what your going through...its my sister as it is your mother...well i love your family and think your amazing..i wish i could find a friend like you...i wish i could look as good as you too after your beautiful babies! i had my first and i dont think i can ever get my body back! lets hope but its so hard..i never dieted and i have been feeling down..cant stand to look at my tummy and it just makes me think how fat i am..but i do know one thing is that i have a beautiful and wonderful son! thanks for being real!
Kylie

Tori,Love the show. Hope there is a next season. I normally don't watch reality shows,but yours is so creative. Plus, you are inspiring to all us mommies out here that is trying to have family,friends and work. You show such loyalty to people around you and even to us fans. Thank you Tori.

TORI:
YOUR FAMILY IS AMAZING! YOU ARE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL PERSON, INSIDE AND OUT!
DEAN, YOU SHOULD BE PROUD, WHAT AN AMAZING HUSBAND AND FATHER YOU ARE!
LIAM AND STELLA, WHAT LITTLE HEARTBREAKERS THEY ARE! THEY ARE LITTLE ANGELS FROM HEAVEN! WHAT BEAUTIFUL BABIES!
TORI, I WISH I COULD BE HALF THE WOMAN YOU ARE,YOU ARE TRULY, TRULY, INSPIRING!
I LOVE HOW DOWN TO EARTH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ARE! YOU SET SUCH A GREAT EXAMPLE FOR ALL OF YOUR FANS AND VIEWERS OUT THERE!
YOU AND DEAN ARE SO WONDERFUL TOGETHER, THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR ONE ANOTHER IS SOOO AMAZING!
I REALLY LOVE YOUR SHOW BECAUSE IT TEACHES YOU ABOUT THE IMPORTANCE OF LOVE, IT SHINES THRU YOUR BEAUTIFUL BABIES AS WELL AS YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY!
AND WHEN WE ALL LAY OUR HEADS DOWN AT NIGHT, THE MOST IMPORTANT THING WE ALL HAVE, IS LOVE!! SO THANK YOU AGAIN FOR BEING REAL!
I LOOK FORWARD TO NEXT SEASON.

LISA T. SEATTLE, WA

Hi Tori & Dean,

I love your show..I watched the last episode and
very disappointed.

your mother not showing up to your baby girls 1st b-day..and where is your brother for support??

I never ever write blogs or written any type of letter regarding tv/movie stars. So this would be the first.

Tori..I lost my father to lung cancer in 1992
He was the bestest dad ever.I think about him everyday of my life. I was only 23 years old at the time.I have a mother that I never really had anything in common.I sensed jealousy when I was younger.I was dadddy's girl.my brother was closer to her than I..even til this day.The day he died
I was at my closest friends house to get support.
I was in denial of the cancer. My mother never called me or to let me know that my dad went into a coma. I was devasted. They both said good bye and I found out from a family member that he was asking for me. I wish that I had more time with him..but my mom made it impossible and uncomfortable.I arrived at the hospital when my mom and brother were there and released them to go home for an hour,but before they left she made me feel guilty for not being there earlier. I just let it go.
They finally left and i went to my father's room
which he was in a coma , I was frightened to see him that way.I told him if I can do anything for him but of course he was in a coma. He made a sound like he was trying to tell me something. Til this day I think about it.So I left to go get the nurse. When she pulled the curtain and told me that I could go back into the room to see my dad.
I noticed the biggest smile on his face. He passed away. My whole world fell apart. I can Never ever forget that smile..but worse of all
I did not tell him that I love him. It was too late.
I only have my mother and brother in my life
my only living relatives in California. My husband too.I haven't talked to my brother in years and mother has never changed. I will always be there for her..even though she has this vendetta and jealousy against me. I don't know why she is that way. My mom calls and I'll drop everything to spend time with her and it's gets bette.My husband is my rock always
there listening and giving me support.What I guess I'm trying to say..live life..you have A beautiful Family and a wonderful loving,caring and supportive husband.no matter what you do have 1 mom and she has 1 daughter. Hopefully you and your mom can do this private. Your great Super Mom to your children:-)
Dean too!!

Your mom will come around some day..I hope soon for you and your family. Life is too short.

Sorry for this long comment,

I don't watch to much tv..I love your show and some of the reality shows. When I do I just comment on what I see..I don't want to judge anyone.

Sincerly
Hope

P.S. I was a nanny for 17 years for different familys. The best 17 years ever.
when I see your nanny with your children it really reminded me of all the years with my families and i cryed so much on the scene when she went back home. That has to be hard.Ishould know.i have contact with all my families and pretty much all the kids have graduated high school.I love the fact that they send yearly pics and how their doing/going in life.
I see lots of love between your family and your nanny and that is great to see. It's always great to have a relationship(honest/trusting).
She so wonderful.

Tori,

After seeing this episode I couldnt help but feel so sorry for you that you havent had the best mom. I heard somewhere that your mom has clammed that you dont put out an effort. Clearly this is not the case your mom seems to enjoy the drama that is between you and her. I just cant believe what she did to you. I am upset with your mom. Im sorry to say this to you but I think the email she sent is bull #&@% . It seems like she likes to string you along and make you believe that she cares and then hurts your feelings and blames it because of your current situation. I really think your mom needs to grow up. Her pride is getting in the way of spending precious time with her grand kids.

Tori youre an amazing mother and an amazing wife. I love how you and dean are together. What you have is true love that only hope and dream that one day I will have. I know that what you have experienced with your mom will make you into the best mom you can be. You are strong and you will get thru this. Dont let someones pride get in the way of living your life and being happy. Dont let her control your emotions and your well being. She is lucky to have a daughter like you even though she does appreciate you. Let her say what she wants about you because in reality she is the one who is looking dumb. She is the one who is taking cheap shots at your family when they dont have nothing to do with her drama. She seems like she needs the attention and will do anything to get. You are better than that. You do what you do best and that is take care of those babies and your man.

Hi, Tori: I unfortunately read your mother's letter on TMZ. I don't usually watch reality tv or TMZ but I caught your show's preview once and have started watching. You seem like a sweet person and have great friends around you. We can't pick our family but we can pick our friends. Friends are your family and that happens for a lot of people. I work in the mental health field and was curious about this so I looked up the letter. I was very saddened to see but not surprised. I believe that your mother has personality issues and that Tori, has nothing to do with you. Be carefully about how much expose your children have with someone of those issues. As a mother you'll protect your children but you could get hurt. I would talk with a professional around this to support you and to learn how to deal with someone of that nature. It could help you figure out how to have a relationship you want instead of feeling like you have to keep responding to her. I am happy for you and your family. You are lucky to have a great husband and family and friends but it is isn't luck. It is that you deserve to have love and are a good person. Keep your chin up and have a relationship with on your terms not hers. I feel very sad for your mother missing out on such a person. I don't know you at all but it comes through with your words that you are. I'm sure it is very tough for your husband and friends to see you get hurt. Remember that your daughter birthday party was filled with loved ones and not having one person there does not make less so. Be kind to yourself and don't blame yourself for the relationship. You mother mentioned issues with her parents so she is not able to see that effecting how she parents. I wish you all the best.

Being a grandparent is a privilage not a right. I am a grandmother and I had a wonderful, unselfish grandmother.
My mother was very similar to your mother regarding those good memories along with the inconsistant and disappointing memories. What it comes down to is, "It is when YOU have had enough" no one else knows that. During Christmas my 22 year old daughter came to visit me (I was 40 years old). Again, my mother disappointed me but my daughter began to cry because she too was disappointed...again. She said, "Why does she always do this? She has always done this...why?" I realized then, enough! It was one thing to disappoint me but over the years my pushing resulted in my children feeling that pain and disappointment. Enough! I have not communicated with my mother in 12 years and I know I did everything I could to work at the relationship but when it came to my own children, I had to stop. Good Luck..it is hard but again, it is when YOU have had enough and you will know. Beth

Hi Tori, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in this battle that you are having with a mother who feels above all. Im sorry that this had to happen to you once again and just know but DONT be discouraged, that it will be a never ending cycle of wants and wishes that she will one day come to her senses and be a part of you and your families lives. I could share with you some stories of what I have been through with my mother but I wont. I too lost my father when i was young and it was one of the roughest things that could have ever happened however I would not be who I am today if it was not for what I went through. You are a wonderful mom and wife and it is because of what you had to go through as a child that makes you that wonderful human being. So for that just thank her. She will forever be your mother and you are right she is the mother that you were given and nothing happens by accident. It is because of the things that we have experienced as children that make us such wonderful moms and wives. have as I am sure you have too, told yourself that you would not EVER be that person that she was and because of that look at what wonderful people you have been given to share this awsome adventure we called parenthood. Keep doing such great work in every aspect of life and try and slow down a bit and cherrish these days because there will come a day when your children are grown and you dont want to have any regrets. My 3 children are 18 boy, 17 girl, and 14 boy and there are times i cry because they are soon to be moving on to their new adventures in life and starting their own families. I am only 39 and it makes me proud to see and know that no matter what my children love and care for me deeply as will yours and this is because we take the time to let them know how much we love and care for them. I cant wait for your new season and PLEASE do not let your moms comment hinder you in doing another season. She is the spectacle and she will have regrets. I think that you and Dean are PERFECT for each other and love the way you each look at each other with the utmost LOVE and TRUST. Your children will have these memories and will pass these same feelings along to their loved one when it is time. Keep staying strong and keep loving those babies they are so very precious!!! Sincerely
Janine

Hi Tori and Dean, Love your show. You had a beautiful necklace on it looked like a purple cluster of stones with a gold chain on with a beautiful purple dress. May I ask you is it in one of your collections of jewelry on HSN? because I did not see it there. I saw the one that comes in black and white and also blue, purple color but I don't think it was that one. If it isn't for sale it should be it would be a great seller. Thanks for your trouble and even a grandmother such as myself loves your show and look forward to it every week. I lost my mom on my 16th birthday need I say more. Love to you all.
Joan Marie Bloom

Hi Tori - just was able to watch the last show-- thank you tv gods for the dvr.. been home sick and not able to watch my tv shows.. The birthday part was the coolest birthday I wish I am able to throw my daughter a part like that I am like you and don't have alot of family around for me and my daughter I am blessed to have my mom here with me but I too have lost a father and everyday wish he was here to see her grow. The only grandparent my daughter knows is my mom and her grandparents on her other side do not see nor do they think of her as part of there family so being a single parent you always try to make you child's life as happy as can be.. It is hard to sit there and keep looking over your shoulder to see if your mom is going to ever be a part of your family but you have to remember as long as the door is open for her to be part of your family that is all you can do and one day she will have to answer to Stella and Liam for what she has done and things that have been said.. You are mom and our job is to make sure our children are happy and healthly and loved and protect them for those to can hurt them do you really want your children to live there life's doing the same thing you are doing looking out that window hoping and wishing she would come see them do you want to see the disapointment in there eyes when she says she coming and not showing up cause she doesn't want to be on a TV show and knowning you could have put a stop to it along time ago.. I know it hurts bad to realize your mom is not the grandparent you want her to be but we can't make people do want we want them to do we can only insure the people that in our in our children's life are those who we can trust with our children and know they love our children and will always look out for the best instrest of our children. And from what I can see you are a very wonderful mom and have a wonderful husband who has got your back. You just have to open your eyes and see the wonderful people that are there with you they may not be blood but they are in the true sense family!!! Much love and wonderful wishing for your family and I can't wait for the next season!!!

Hi Tori. My Mom and I love your show, we watch it every Tuesday. You are such an amazing Mom and person and I just love your family. Your kids are so beautiful.
It was funny because I love you guys so much, I was at Target a few days ago and saw a sweet, plush ladybug blanket and I thought it would be perfect for Stella so I bought it and I also have a monkey for Liam. Now my question is, where can I send it? Obviously, not your personal address but is there a fan club or anything that can get it to you. If not then I will just have to keep it until your next book signing but I would love to send it. Please let me know!
You inspire me everyday to be a better person and Mom!

Tori and Dean, I love your show. I like it that you are regular people. You belong together. You are a lovely couple.

Tori, about the situation with your mom. Someone needs to be a hero and step up to mend your relationship. Why not put your kids in the car and drive up to her house and knock on the door. The worst that could happen is that she wouldn't let you in, but I don't believe she would do that. This way you would know that you have done all you can do and who knows she could be waiting for something like this to happen. I can't imagine that your mom would turn you away. She is missing out on seeing her grandchildren grow-up. Good look to you.

If you were my daughter, I would be proud that I had raised such a kind and caring person as you are.

Great wrap up to a great season of programing.
I actually hate reality TV but your program seams to be very different. Your program offers a real exposure to an American family in an unusual time and place as your family goes through their day to day routines; I really enjoy the insights into married life.
It is so sad and silly of your mother to be avoiding Her grandchildren. I can only guess, and this might be a wild one but it seams She must really be in some terrible place or in a very confused surreal world to go this long and not see the babies, you or Dean.
All I can think of is that she is alone in that Hearst Castle of memories and your father is no longer around her. She may not have the interpersonal skills to be alone after the years she was with him and is to isolated from some non-yes-men type of people to tell her to get her ass over to your home, say she is sorry, see her grand babies and then go about working out what ever issues she has with her self and you and a later point. A dose of family therapy (off camera) might really help everybody to move onto the next phase of life. HUGS to you all, have a great summer and I hope to see more next season.

tori,
I love your show you have been an inspiration to me to do some of the things I love, I love how you come up with an idea and just go for it, I have never been that sure of myself but I'm getting better. I know your heart is being ripped apart about your mom, I truely believe you should have a private meeting with your mom, just the 2 of you at a park or something. Then maybe include the kids. If she is sincere the meeting will be rough but end nicely, then you won't have to put the kids in the middle, in the meeting set bounderies, she what she expects. But you don't want to put kids in a situation where you push for a relationship for them, because in the long run they'll wander what is wrong with them, and be heart broken. My daughter is 20 and just a month ago she cried eyes out wandering why her fathers family didn't love her, and she feels is mean to her, but she holds on to that hope. I should have pulled the plug when she was little, but I held on to the hope her father would stand up for her, after all she is only daughter. I love her and it rips my heart everytime I talk to her and she's been over there. I try to reassure her its not her she's a gift from God and I couldn't be more proud of the person she is. I also have 4 other children 9,7,5 and 4. Crazy as it is their grandmother on my husbands side is the same way and I am very upfront with them, and I have told them you can go with their dad to see her, but they also know she and her daughter called welfare office to have them taken away and thet did not care that a stranger had them, they did this so their dad could leave me and not have to pay child support. If they don't want to go I step in, because I will not go near them, nor will I lie to my children why I don't go. You love them children and its obvious you would do anything for them, sometimes it means we have to let go of our ideal of how it should be or could be if we just hold on, I often been told by my friends, I live in a fantasy world, I look at life with rose colored glasses meanwhile my daughters emotions and heart was being crushed. if I hadn't pushed so hard for the relationship with my daughter and her dad she wouldn't be so hurt because they both would have been done long ago. I believed they needed each other. I WILL NOT DO THAT TO THE OTHER 4. I also would hate for you to have that guilt. Really the only thing you can do is leave in God's hands, and let him make the decision and give you the incredible peace of knowing you have made the right decision. God Bless You and your family and your Mom. My prayers are with you.

Tori - Somehow you and your family have burrowed yourselves into my life. Maybe it is because I was pregnant at the same time you were with Stella. Maybe it is because I see some of you in me (or me in you) or because I have similar wants for my daughter or for me as a mother. I am not sure, but I find my self bummed that the season is over. I feel as though a friend has gone. I have become a fan and want to thank you for a great show. Not that you are asking, but if I had to impart anything to you it would be that you cannot control other people or what they do (or don't). You can only control how you react to them and their actions. Can you accept your mother as she is? She may not be what you need or want but if you can see her for who she is (good or bad) you may be able to have a relationship with her, deep or superficial. I feel for your own piece of mind that you will benefit from confronting your mom and asking what it is that both of you want out of your relationship. I think Patsy hit the nail on the head in that you are stronger than you realize. You will use that strength to power through this and rise above. Okay - enough said. I meant to write two lines and here I am lecturing.

Tori-I forgot to say that I really enjoy the "Jumits" they're awesome-very lively and fun. And the Hansen's Cakes I didn't know-keep up the family tradition ok.

Renate

I love your show and your family, I mean the family I get to see on the show...eh hem.

Well I think you still is fabulous. I also am loving the kids clothing. Can you post your children clothing website on here? I would love to get some great beautiful baby stuff.

Keep it coming!!!

Candy
In Illinois

Tori,
Love the show! Your mother is weak! Listen to Dean and just cut her off! Pain sucks! Just enjoy your lovely children and husband. What really matters in the end? In your heart you know.

Take Care,

Sherri!

I have never got into reality tv,but I adore your show. I look forward every week to watching it.
As much as I would love to see a reunion with your mom on the air, and to know whats going on with the whole thing. I think that you are right. It should be done in private between you and your mom. I am sure that she loves you very much. All the press would be very intimidating place to try for a reconcilliation. I wish you the best of luck with your family. I hope that you and your kids can have grandma included in your life.

Hey Tori,

I jjust wanted to let yu kno that i love yu and yur family. I think yur doing an amazing job at balancing work, motherhood, and yur marriage. Keep up the good work!!!!

P.S. Plz do another season.

Torri & Dean,
Just want you to know that I think your show is great, and an inspiration to many parents out there.
I know how you feel with the mother issue, & in the same breath I can say my husband would comment just as Dean did on how you need to cut ties. It is easier said than done, & men think different. Hang in there, remember we cannot choose our family, but I can also tell you I strongly believe your dad is watching over you, & so very proud !!!
Enjoy your mexico vacation, & take some time out for yourself !! I know us viewers cannot wait to see what happens next season ;-) ~Kim~

Tori,Wow i dont even know where to start.... Hmmmmm... Oh,Stella's Birthday, i understand she is your mother and you always want to give out hope,Right! i would be the same way if that happened to me,i will come running to you so you could lift me back on my feet again. Tori you have the most amazing life...!!! i love your show so much i watch reruns over and over...CRAZY,Right i am so much like you... i love to plan parties i am a big planner oh,no did you say fast things so not me either... oh and sorry to bring it it up again but i cryed so hard in the last episode were patsy leaves:( and the way you cryed it made me cry even harder and again i hate goodbyes trust me i been through a lot but they dont ever come back... oh and another thing your books...AMAZING!!! lovin them...LOL oh and you cant 4get the shopping i love to shop till i drop and i am so hopeing that i will so be able to meet you at a store or a gastation or even at a book sighing tell monkey and buggy that they are sooooooooooo cute well you guys are !!!!!!AMAZING!!!!!! I sooooooooooooo love you guys have a grate vaca.... and come back pregent....LOL. Cant wait for next season yah yah yah well you it getting late and i have to get up in 6 hours so i love you guys xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo...LOL

Just wanted to know if you ever get tired of all the surprises Dean presents to you! It seems as if he is "so perfect"! It would be so annoying to me that there would be that many surprises all the time....and sometimes you show it in you reaction....."another surprise?"...

Hey, Tori
I love your show!!! I just found out I'm having a baby and fell in love with Liam and if I have and boy I would like to name him Liam.
Tori I feel that you are doing the right thing regarding your mom. Your husband is great, but somone once tolded me that you have to keep trying for your children's sake, so that one day they do say "Hey mom it's probably your fault"

this is just my opinion, but maybe you should go to your mom's house and take your children with you and handle it behind close doors.

My god bless you and your family and I pray that everything works out for you, for you. Your great and your babies are beautiful.

Hi Tori,
I watched your shows since the very beginning. I think your such a great mother. I thought you through a great party for Stella. I wouldn't mind throwing a grand party like for my 1 1/2 year old daughter Lexxi. I give you credit with dealing with your mother. My mother is not a big part of my daughter's life. So, pretty much you and I are in the same boat. I just love your clothing line. I want to read your books. But, just haven't had the time. Your a great mother to Liam and Stella. You and Dean make such great parents. I look up to you as a mentor. Well, thanks for everything. Just keep your head above water and don't listen to what the press is saying. You are Fabulous!!!

Tori, I wish you the best of luck dealing with your mom, I know how you feel when you want nothing more than to have a loving relationship with your mom and the harder you try the more the door is slammed shut in your face. I am 34 and going thru the same thing. My children are older now, But the birthdays never change. They have never spent the night with grandma or went to the park none of the things most grandmothers love to do. My children are 16 and 19 and the one thing that they both know is I will always be there no matter what. I guess what I am trying to say is try hard to stop looking back and live the best way you can for those beautiful children you have. My whole life I dwelled on trying to make my mom love me, She was never really a mom to her 6 children, She gave us up when I was 11 yrs old and from that time on I tried everything in my power to get her to be here to see what great grand children she had. When I seen the episode with Stella's B-Day I thought back to my own kids I remember my mom sending a gift card always late. I know its very hard to not have your mom but you really have a great family without her at this time who knows maybe one day it will be better. But for now cherish what you have.

Hi
First, I have to say that I am not a big fan of yours since 90210. That I don't know every piece of your life. I am not a celeb groupie or anything like that.
But when I was flipping channels some while ago I had to stop and watch your show and Liam is to blame. He is so darn cute! And Stella... she is as cute as a button! God bless.
And I am not gonna lie. I was dragged into your show because I could see that we relate. You and your husband can be actors and famous and busy but you know what? You screw up as parents just like the rest of us do! You try your best, sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't and that is where you got me. And as I was watching this season I was so perplexed with so many coincidences between you and I that I had to keep watching: I have two kids too (a boy and a girl), I have issues with my mom, I have a generous, supportive and hot (!!!) husband, I love to organize get togethers, I love having family around and God... I am such a perfectionist! Details are my thing and I thought Stella's bash was beautiful!
And talking about coincidences... man, even our eye glasses match. I had a baby sitter when my daughter was born and we moved from Florida to Colorado and that was huge for me. I miss her (she was latin but chubby and warm, just like Patsy).
Well... if you guys ever decide to come to Colorado, stop by. We're from Brazil (that's why my english sucks!) and we would be more than happy to prepare some Brazilian food for you all to taste. I'm pretty sure that my little man (he is 14 months now) would love to have Stella as a playdate... and my daughter would be happy to show her toys to Liam (no way he is gonna kiss her on the lips!!).
XOXO
Adriana

Hi Tori,

The baby's party was AMAZING! It is a delight to watch your show.

I wish your mom had made an effort to be there for you and your baby girl... it is very sad that she didn't... BUT DON'T GIVE UP. There is nothing like family... a MOM is a MOM and we have to forgive ours and accept them for who they are. Your mom doesn't seem to like the spotlight. Just respect it. Have a private family get together and celebrate LIFE.

Sincerely,
Ms. Happy

Hello Tori and Dean

Tori, you did what you needed to do to bring your family close. Do not blame yourself, your mother chose not be at Stella's 1st bday party and there was nothing you could do about it. Wish her the best in life and go on with yours. You have a wonderful family and Patsy loves you like one of her own. What I want you to do is keep on inviting her to all the gatherings that you have and be prepared for her not to show up. when you get tired of it STOP! You are giving your children everything that your mother did not give you so please do not feel bad about it. You are a very good mother and Dean is a very good father don't you ever forget it.

God bless you and your family

Hello Tori and Dean

Tori, you did what you needed to do to bring your family close. Do not blame yourself, your mother chose not be at Stella's 1st bday party and there was nothing you could do about it. Wish her the best in life and go on with yours. You have a wonderful family and Patsy loves you like one of her own. What I want you to do is keep on inviting her to all the gatherings that you have and be prepared for her not to show up. when you get tired of it STOP! You are giving your children everything that your mother did not give you so please do not feel bad about it. You are a very good mother and Dean is a very good father don't you ever forget it.

God bless you and your family

Tori,
I do so enjoy watching your little family each week. I feel your hurt for your mother, however; you can only do so much. I lost my mom this past January, and I spent most of my life trying to please her. Just keep sending those invites etc., if she does not come around, it is her loss. Patsy makes a great fill-in grandmother in my opinion. You have a wonderful husband and two precious children. You are blessed.
I cannot wait until next season. Let us know how Patsy does with her surgery. I care.

Hi Tori,

I just started watching your show this season but i watched all the reruns of the the other seasons...lol
I feel like i can relate to you with the whole situation you have going on with your mother. I too am in a situation with my mother to where i have/am getting hurt by her alot and i want to as in deans words "cut the cord" with her but then it is so hard because she is my mom...my flesh and blood....i just don't know what to do.

Tori,

I was watching your last episode this evening. I too had a mom that didn't care and also, unfortunately, had a dad that didn't either. I compared myself to you in that scene where Dean was attempting to get you to stop trying to woo your mother into having a relationship with you. You have to let that go. Yes, you need a "mom". But I think that you are confusing that with wanting to be nurtured. The image that you have about being a mom is so different than what you grieve over where your mother is concerned. It doesn't sound like your mother has one ounce of a nurturing nature in her bones. Yeah, she can get to the nail salon or get her roots done and worry about a wardrobe change but she doesn't want to be around her daughter or grandchildren or a son-in-law who, if he's anything like he seems, is just a great guy. Granted, you need a chance to let her show you who she is. But when you are done, you are going to realize that you spent a lot of great time and energy worrying about someone who doesn't and isn't capable of caring about anyone. That time and energy will be better spent on people who do love you, who do care about you and on those children that you and only you are responsible for creating a wonderful childhood...as their mother. The only mother they have. I think you are doing a fabulous job and they will grow to be great adults. And, they will adore their mother. Understand?

The only thing that will matter in the end is how well those we leave behind speak of us and where we live in their hearts.

Live and let live.

I just wanted to say that you are a superwoman.I admire the strength you have.You are an angel in disguise.

Hey Tori, just wanted to let you know you made the right decision in keeping your decision about your mother and your relationship with her private. Only you can make that decision and only you can live with it. I admire both you and Dean for who you are and how you handled the situation. YOur children are your first priority and responsibility. If your mother has made the choice to not see your children that is her choice and so be it. You have opened your door to her to allow her to come to Stella's party and she was a no show. She will regret it someday. I have a daughter in law whos parents disowned her when she came into our life due to religion. Silly but so. They will not have a thing to do with her because she joined our church and as long as she is with my son they will not allow her to talk to them but they feel they should have a relationship with teh 3 girls and a brand new son. NO you cant have your cake and eat it too. You call the shots. You have to protect your children at all odds. Even if it means not having the parents in their lives. My daughter in law is a wonderful person. Her parents dont know what they are missing. Their loss is my hugest gain. You make the decisions that best suites your family. YOu take care

OMG!! Stella looks just like her daddy!

I found it funny that Tori and Dean call Stella, Buggy or ladybug. Because that's what I started calling my neice when she was born. She reminded me of a ladybug and now she is 5yrs. old. They do grow up very fast. Cherish all the moments.

Hey Tori. Just wanted to say I'm a huge fan of your show. I think you are such a wonderful mommy to your little ones, and they are precious. I also love the relationship you have with your husband. It is very clear how much you love each other. I had a question for you. i saw your line
little Maven and wondered if you had incorporated headbands and bows. I make both, very similar to the kind you put on Stella. And just wondered if you'd be interested in seeing some of my work. I started doing this after the birth of my second daughter. I'm just a stat-at-home mom trying to start a business for my family. Let me know. If not, no worries.

Tori, I want you to know that as I watched Stella's birthday party last night, my heart went out to all of you. My family and I are in the opposite situation. My youngest sister is married and has an adorable 9 month old little boy. Her husband doesn't like us, so she dropped us to make him happy. Anyway, the baby is my parents' first grandchild, and we're all crazy about him. Due to the cir #&@% stances, we're rarely allowed to see him or her. The only way we can find out anything about him is to get the info from my sister's MySpace page. All of those milestones and "firsts" we have to read about online. It breaks our hearts because we so badly want to be a part of their lives. Your mom is so fortunate to have a daughter like you and those adorable grandkids. I really don't understand her choosing to not be there for you all. Just having that opportunity to be involved is such a blessing. Not being allowed to take part in a loved one's life is such hell, and she doesn't know how lucky she is not to be in that position. I really hope that she'll come around and things will get better for you all. I'll continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Dear Tori,

I love your show!! For some reason it stands out from all other shows for me. You guys seem to have a great family unit full of love and happiness. God bless you and your family for that, what a blessing!! Keep up the great work!! I look forward to seeing more of you and your family.

Hi Tori I just started watching the show last season. I am enjoying it every minute. If your mom cant be a part of your life then she is missing alot. You have 2 great kids and super husband. You did what you could Your mom is just being ignorant you dont need that

Tori,

Hi just wanted to say I know where you are with your mom and all that I have the same situation in a sense and no matter what anyone says its goin to always hurt thats your mother and you should not have to want her around she should want to be there. Anyway just remember how blessed you are and you have a beautiful family

I want to start off by saying how much you have changed my life.Every week i wait 2 watch your show.Every time i do i say the same thing im not gonna cry.Lol and i always do.I am a 20 year old married women with a 1 year old daughter.I felt it so hard when you cried about how fast stella was growin.I feel like that every day that i see my monkey lol.Oh yeah thats what we call my lil princess.I just want to thank you because you truly have made me become a better wife,a better mom,and even a better person. When i see what a loving and what a big heart you have it just makes me want to do more.I love your family.You and your husband have to be the best couple in the world hands down. He reminds me alot of my husband STRONG but loving when we need it lol.So thank you tori. For giving me and everyone who watchies a chance to get a little of you,your husband and your beautiful kids. God bless them.With much love congrats on everything you have done and for whats coming next GOD BLESS YOU! (SUPERMOM)!!!

Hi Tori,
I was so sad for you that your mom did not come to Stella's 1st birthday party. I also heard about the letter from your mom on TMZ. I hoped that that was just a rumor.
You are right to figure out how to best handle the situation in private. Try and work out the differences between you and go from there. In the end, whatever you do, I hope you have peace.
You have a great family and I enjoy watching you each week. My son, James, is a little younger than Liam. Stella is a little doll. See you next season.
Blessings to you all.
Kim

Tori-I just wanted to say how I enjoyed seeing your uncle Danny and your aunt I think it was?? Also DEan's sister and her husband-a real family.

Renate

ps do you ever reply to your blogs or does everything come in the fan newsletter??

Tori-

I love your show- and the true feelings you all share! I met my "Dean" twentyfive years ago- and it is still a wonderful life, with three grown kids now. It is obvious you have "true love" there and because of that- you will always persevere! The 'family' you make- is all that matters!

You will have bumpy rides along the way- but with good health and love - it will all smooth out.
Remember: friends are the family we get to choose!!

Tori
Bless you and your family. You have the family anyone would dream of. As far as your mother, you need to do whatever makes you happy. Don't let waiting for her come between you and your family. I waited for my father and the day I washed my hands of him was the best day of my life. It opened up a happy and furfilling life ahead of me. It was like a huge weight lifted off my shoulder. Good luck and god bless any decision you make. Oh and hurry up and have more babies so Patsy can come back. I was a nanny for 5 years for a family of 2 and that was an experience I will cherish for the rest of my life. Thanks for opening up your family to us your fans.

Hi Tori -
I just watched the finale and you are correct, you have created the family you dreamed of. I know that Dean seems hard on you sometimes when it comes to your mom, but having an alcoholic for a mother myself, I know where he is coming from. It's not the same situation, but the hurt is the same. My mom is here now and it's hard. She's drunk every night and my husband stays later and later at work. She will be here until Sunday - all I want is for her to go... all you want is for your mom to come. Ironic, ain't it??? You seem so sweet and kind, I have a hard time wrapping my head around your mom not wanting to put the past in the past and just get on with life, but I am not her, and have not walked in her oh so beautiful shoes! Just keep being you. If you want to keep reaching out, do so. It just means you are that sweet, caring woman you appear to be. We all have to deal with what is, and dream of what we'd prefer it to be. I wish you all well, and kinda hope you have another little one in the next season... I live vicariously through you! :) Head up, smile on.

Tori,
I just wanted to thank you for your wonderful show and I hope that you continue with another season. You are such a wonderful mom and you and Dean show and abundance of love to your children. I hope other parents watch and see how its supposed to be. I am a proud Italian and family is everything to me. It has been a pleasure watching Dean, because I am so proud at what a wonderful dad and husband he is. I am getting a divorce right now. I have learned from watch Dean with you, that I dont need to settle and that good husbands are out there. Your marriage is an inspiration and I wish many blessings for you and your family. Thank you for all that you do for others and for being "real" and such a sweet heart. May God bless you abundantly.

Hi Tori-
I just started watching the show this season and the first episode I saw I had to keep rewinding it when I heard what you were calling your babies - my husband and I call our 3 year old boy Monkey and our 15 month old girl Buggy (ours is short for Lovebug) - so when I saw it, I was shocked-I'd never heard people calling their kids those names! You show is so touching, and you can really see that you are a genuine and sweet person. Best wishes to you and your family!

Hi Tori,
I have been watching your show since it started. I truely feel you and Dean are so in love. The kids are adorable. I relate a lot too your show. Even though I am 24 years old with a 4 yr boyfriend, I look forward to kids and marriage and a close bond that you guys have. I love that all you want in life is a close family, because that is all I want also. I really hope that you have a great life and fun years ahead of you, it seems you have many people that love you so much. I really felt bad for you at the last episode because sometimes it is so difficult to make every family member happy in life. Whatever is meant to happen will. Either way you have tons of great people around you it seems, so enjoy yourself. You are beautiful, smart, so funny, and very passionate and that equals a great person! Keep smiling and take time for yourself. :)

Hi Tori, first I absolutely love the show, been a fan from Tori and Dean Inn Love. I am sad to see Patsy go. Now I know I don't know you from Adam, but I feel compelled to say the situation with your mother is so sad. I lost my mother to cancer 5yrs ago and it hurts to this day, but I am thankful and blessed I still have another parent alive, who I adore. I couldn't imagine not having my dad around especially after losing mom, and my dad losing his best friend. My sister, my dad and I along with my sister's children have become the 5 musketeers. You and your mom really need to find somewhere in private, to patch things up. I understand her not wanting to meet her grandchildren on camera, but this open letter stuff is ridiculous. You both are adults and need to start acting in that manner. I think you should try, one more time, in private to reach out to your mom, no tips to the paps, or a scene for the show. Just you two, talking from the heart. If she still does not reach out, and takes her comments to the public, then I agree with Dean and you should let it go. That would be her loss. But I think if you try this in private, you to may finally make amends. (oh and she seriously needs to apologize for being on Chelsea Handlers show, that chick is rude to you and your mom should know better) Anyway, I wish you and your adorable family all the best. And I will stay tuned for the new season.

I understand your efforts and hearts desire for that mother connection, but Dean is right, cutting the cord is healther in the long run of your life, you have loving friends and extended family, pursue those relatiohships as there is where you will find that which you are looking for and needing. Take it from one who tried for 64 years and just got the dregs from my mother & family. I read the real truth when the will was read & I was eliminated with venom from my mother. Hence I divorced them all and now tell people that my 9 siblings died of greed in 08. I would share the dreadful story but you are in the living throes of it right now.
The disease of hatred was passed to my daughter by my mother and now I am not allowed to see or contact my granddaughter (age 4). The one time I did see her it was loudly announced that I was not her grandmother and she was wisked away quickly. So I have no contact with my only daughter and her child. Beware of what you think the connection would bring, it may not be what you have in mind.
I enjoy watching your show, but it is sometimes painful for me to see your pain as I identify with it so much. I know you are in my area every time you sell your creations on HSN. I'll keep you all in my prayers.
love & light
K

Tori,

I'm not sure where to start so I'm going to dive right in. I want to make a comment, statement, observation, and give a potential different view on the situation with your mother. Here we go... My father, when I was very young, was a good dad. As we, meaning me, my brother and sister, grew older things started to change. Somewhere along the way he began a life, outside of our home, that involved drugs and alcohol, oh and other women. We didn't know but felt the end result of his frustration in numerous ways. He was always a little harsh and too outspoken but soon the abuse started. Now he was verbally, mentally and physically abusive. When I was 12 he left and to be honest that was a great day for all of us because he was not a lot of fun to be around. I'm keeping this as G rated as I can. Regardless of feeling a sense of relief that he moved out he was still my dad and I wanted to have one of those. So, for about two years I continued to try to keep a relationship with him regardless of the abuse that occurred. I soon realized that it wasn't healthy for me any longer and that I did not need to lower my personal standards to mentally allow him to stay in my life. I made a decision that I needed to protect myself and not allow him to continue to manipulate me. His manipulation and poor me's had always convinced me to come back and make me feel like I was wrong somehow. I was just tired of the constant guilt trip and immaturity. He was the adult and he had done some unforgivable things yet why did I feel like the one that needed to fix things or that I was at fault? So, at about 14 I decided that it wasn't a healthy relationship and I was no longer willing to subject myself to his behavior. It was a difficult decision, it did hurt, I did miss having a dad, I did feel cheated and I was angry!! But in the end I realized that just because someone is family it doesn't mean that they are good people or good for you or have good intentions. I mean if that were the case there would be no Jeffrey Dahmer's, Richard Ramirez', etc. I decided that my "family" would be my choice. I can chose who I feel good about and surround myself with. I don't have to feel nor should I feel obligated to anyone because they are "family". If anything I should feel the safest I can because someone is family not have my guard up so I'm not hurt AGAIN. He was the adult, the parent, the protector and he should have been the one to fix things and make them better. I was the kid. I shouldn't have ever been given or felt that responsibility of fixing it. What a horrible thing to do to your child no matter how old they are you are still the parent and your words and actions cut deeper then any other. The best thing I ever did was take control of that relationship and decide on my own what it would be! For me it was a choice not to be. Which by the way was the same for my brother and sister. Years later I came across something on the internet called "Narcissistic personality disorder" and there he was in black and white. I wasn't crazy after all!! He died just over three years ago and I was given the opportunity to see and told I "should" because he's dying. It may sound harsh but I don't believe it was mine to fix and I'm sure he secretly sent his sister to escape the "embarrassment" of other family that none of his kids came to his side. Hmmm, out of three none showed, who's the common denominator there? I am at peace with the decision that I made I have no regrets. I now know that I cannot judge people because they don't meet my standards they are my own. I cannot implement my standards on others but I can make a choice as to where a relationship goes based on those standards. Sometimes it hurts to much and is the wrong kind of hurt to be close to people. Emotional pain should never be destructive, it should be constructive so we can learn and grow not cower in the fear of losing.

Tori you are the kindest, sweetest most gentle soul you would ever meet. She loves her children so very much and her husband adores her. She and Dean are absolutely fantastic parents and thank God Tori is nothing absolutely nothing like the kind of mother her own mother was and is. Come on if Candy can't go to her granddaughters birthday for THAT reason (cameras) she doesn't want to see the baby that much. Isn't it ironic that your mom Candy, is living off the millions and millions of dollars that your Dad made through the medium of television and yet Candy refuses to see her own granddaughter just because television cameras are there? Congratulations Tori on making your own success through television just like your Dad. He must be so proud of you. Then with all your other successes like the books and fashion lines just show you have your Daddy's talent in you and you will make your own way in life while your Mom has to live off what your Dad made. Candy wants to cause a stir for attention just like my mother. Since when is being in your mid 30's middle aged? Tori is still in the prime of her life not a senile old bag like her mother Candy is. Honestly Tori has tried & tried to reach out to her mother but each time Candy has used the media as a forum to spit our her hate for her daughter. Tori's husband Dean has it right. Sometimes no matter what you do you just can't relate with a parent. I know it has just happened in our family as our mother is very much like Candy Spelling. OMG is she like her. Well all of us have suffered strokes and heart attacks in the past 6 months from our mother until finally our mother called the police & told them that we all had come over & stole from her & beat her up. Thankfully the police knew it wasn't true as our mom lives in a guarded community & there was no record of us being there for over a month because several of us don't even live in the same city as our mom (for that reason) and we have very busy lives too. We tried to be good to our mother and bent over backwards for her but nothing absolutely nothing was good enough. She wanted more and more! The things she has said and done are unforgivable. We have all now had to cut her out of our lives for good because she will kill us. We lost our brother last year and his family is so convinced our mother put him in the grave much sooner that they haven't talked or had anything to do with her since the funeral. They are probably right as my brother would call out of sheer frustration either in anger or crying because our mother was pushing him over the edge with her neediness. No matter how much time you give her it's never enough. If she doesn't get it she will make up lies and stories to convince people her grown kids are no good. She has spent all our lives trying to keep us all apart from each other with lies about each other. Funny thing though now with this latest attempt for attention by calling the police and falsly accusing us like this she has brought us together so close like we should have been all our lives. Darling Tori needs to forget about her mom too before her mother kills her from the stress of everything Candy has done and said. The woman is pure evil. Dean you need to protect your wife from this woman for the kids sake.

I just finished your book. It was better than the first. I think that if you lived on the East Coast we could be friends. Well that could be bad cause I have the same fears as you. I am always worried that something is going to happen. With my son, hubby or the sky is falling!! My son was sick with h-pylori an infection of the stomach lining.. he was only treated after having an enocospy(spelling?) Well that morning I was a wreck I was saying"what is he doesn't wake up? what if that pokes his stomach lining and he bleeds out. Well all went well and I'm the one who is the worry wart. Now he wants to be more indepentant "Mom your smothering me" He wants to go for walks alone (he is ten) I dont care I worry all the time What if's again!!!

Tori & Dean, Love your show. I actually hurt for you when your mother didn't show up. TV or no TV how proud I would be to attend my grandchilds party. I just had my great grandson with us for almost 3 weeks, we were on a go everyday trying to show him something new and different, eventhough, I was worn out. We took him home (out of state) Sunday and I miss him so much. I spent so much time with his mother, my granddaughter, from the time she was a baby until those dreaded teenage years when friends are the only people they want to see. A few months ago she said, she will never forgot those times with us and neither will we. Your mom is missing out on so much, and she will regret it one day! On the other hand Tori, you are such a good mother, and you're making your way in life with hard work..just don't burn yourself out with work. You seem to have a solid marriage..a beautiful family and maybe your mother is jealous of what you do have! You also have a beautiful extended family. I wish the very best for you and your lovely family...and I LOVE your show!

Tori, you are so blessed to have such a wonderful husband. He shows you the love you deserve. He goes out of his way to take care of you and your family. Not all men do what Dean does.
God bless you all!

Hi Tori - First I want to say that I really enjoy your show and your kids are beautiful. Next I wanted to reply to what you said about Stella's first birthday and how quickly it came. I have been married for almost 18 years now and my husband and I have two daughters. It seems like yesterday that I was holding them and bouncing them on my knee, but in reality my older daughter is going to be a freshman this year and is already talking about driving and my younger daughter is going into fifth grade.
Enjoy the kids as much as you can, because in a blink of an eye they grow up and you wonder where all the time went.
Take care!

Tori and Dean, I think your show is great, your children are adorable, your marriage is solid, and you are wonderful parents too boot.

Something I learned a long time ago, family does not automatically mean loving and supportive, and when your family is not loving and supportive than they aren't worth you wasting your time or emotions over. You have wonderful friends, and friends can be more of a family than your biological family. Your mother is poison, she does not deserve to be a part of your family. Surround yourself with people who truly love and cherish you, your husband, and your children.

Let Patsy be your children's grandmother, let the 'guncles' mother's be their grandmother's, choose people who truly appreciate you and want to love you and make you happy, not who judge and condemn your choices.

I wish the best for your family, and that you are always happy and content in the knowledge that you have people who love you. And if your mother hasn't figured it out by now she never will, and you are better off without her in your life!

i never, ever write on anyone's blogs, but felt so bad for you, when your mom didn't show up for your daughter's party. I am a mom of an adopted daughter (open adoption) and we are grateful everyday for our daughter, even the crazy teenage "SYBIL" years.. (get ready) :) because, i have tried for over 40 years to do something that MY mother would approve of, be proud of, etc.. you know the drill. She would always say" That's nice, that's good...BUT. everything always ended with a "but". I'm 52 and still trying to please her. My brothers can do nothing wrong. I have almost realized, that nothing is going to change her opinion of me. I was a special education teacher, not a "real job" as she says. bottom line. I will always keep trying, because she is my mom. Maybe one day she will not finish a sentence with the word BUT. Because of her actions, i have become a better mother, i have learned from her mistakes. And I know that NOT giving up on her, and getting slammed every time she speaks isnt easy, but it is the right thing to do out of respect, even though it is not returned. I am not religious by any means, but i think its the right thing to do, in God's eyes. I may have a hard time finding someone to pawn her off on in her really old years..i have a wonderful, loving husband of 20 years who has also dealt with her #&@% , and he is a protective soul...still. So I think you need to keep doing what feels right for YOU. Tell you babies about the good times, not the bad. You are much richer than your mom will ever be. Good luck....

The party was cute though I did shiver a bit when Lil Stella got her pretty new, and obviously expensive, red shoes into the cake...I'm old...things like that make me shake my head, lol. Anyway, as for Tori's mom...it was odd, I think, to expect her to attend what with cameras rolling and people watching for her and waiting to see what happened!! I wouldn't have gone either!! I found it strange that anyone seriously thought she would attend. It would be so much better if she were to be invited for lunch, or burgers on the grill at dinner time, or ... anything. A time and a place where she could get to know her precious grandbabies and they get to know here...not with a gazillion people around!!!! Family time is what its all about in such a situation, not a circus...I really enjoy the show and I like Tori and Dean and the kiddies a lot, but this was a mistake...the grandma could have been invited, sure, but also an alternative meeting should have been offered...thus giving everyone a chance...I think this was a bad bad choice and I am pushing to the back of my head that they were "setting this woman up"...I don't think I especially like this Candy/Candi person, but hey...if Tori really wanted her mom to see the kiddies, invite her to lunch or dinner...watch the sunset, laugh, run and play, act normal.

Hey Tori:
Tina and Betty from Florida again. We were just saying how we wish we knew you and Dean better so we could invite you to my wedding (Tina's) next year! :-)

P.S. Please give kisses to Liam and Stella 4 us!

Tori...Love the show, you have a very beautiful family! After watching the final episode and seeing your hurt because your mom didnt show up for Stellas B-Day...I too like others am compelled to comment. Although I do not have the "hollywood" up bringing you do I too have gone through some of the same as you are with your mom. No matter what her reason is or who is right or wrong I do not feel that your reunion with her should be on camera. If you REALLY REALLY want to get your mom to a place where she can feel comfortable coming to see you and the kids then you BOTH have to keep it out of the media. This is a very personal matter and you cannot blame her for not wanting to be on TV as I am sure she feels bad enough already and doesnt want to be picked apart by the press. Think about if this were you and Stella or Liam. How would you approach connecting with them. I hope you and your mom can put aside any animosity and remember it is about the kids 1st and the 2 of you second. No matter what be kind toward each other. Keep your hearts and doors open for the kids! Like Dean said, he would give almost anything to share Liam and Stella with his mom but he will NEVER have that chance and you will NEVER have the chance to share Liam and Stella with your dad! Do not let media, the paparazzi or anything else get in the way of "FAMILY". Open your heart (not the camera) to your mom and you will see she will come around. Bless you all!!

Tori, my name is Deborah, I will be 52 next month. Also next month it will be 7 years now since my dad died suddenly of a heart attack, right after my Birthday. I say this because I would never have thought he was going to die, yet it happened. Growing up my father was very abusive, it was so hard on me, I didn't feel I ever had a dad. A lot of people told me when I became an adult to never have anything to do with him. But in my heart, even with all my fears of him, I, like you, felt he was my parent, my dad, and I had to give him a chance to make it work. It took years, but I never gave up on him. Tori, my father turned into a real daddy to me, and we became so very close, to the point near the end, he was my everything. I do NOT regret giving him a chance he had his hurts too inside and because I showed my love to him, he changed, changing into a teddy bear, to be honest. And when he died, it hurt so badly, as I finally had my dad. But, if I had not given him that chance, I would have felt so devastated when he died of never having that chance.

What I'm trying to say, is even thou Dean thinks he is protecting you by telling you to let go of your mom, you must follow your heart. I think your mom has her issues too and all of the cameras are what is holding her back. I heard her say that in an interview. She, like a lot of people, don't want their dirty laundry televised, but to be dealt with privately. If you could in private, set up a date to meet her alone, just the 2 of you, and talk, giving it a chance, I have hope. It's just hard to manage it all with cameras. I know my dad surely was private about it with me. And because I gave him that chance, he was able to share with me his pain from his own past which made him who he was, and just us 2 worked together to make it work. And I am so glad.

I have hope for you, please don't give up..no matter what, that need will stay with you, needing a parent.
Best of luck, you are a sweet strong woman that you should be proud of yourself.
Deborah M. (Roseville, CA)

Hey Tori,
KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!Stella looked beautiful for the party. I cried when Patsy left and I felt your pain when your mom didn't show up. I am so glad that you finally realized that no one but you can make decision regarding your mom. In the long run you can you are the only that can decide what is best for you and your children when it comes to that situation(LISTEN TO YOUR HEART GOD WILL GIVE YOU THE ANSWERS THAT YOU NEED:)Whatever you decide make sure you stick to it. I wish you,Dean,Monkey and Buggy all the best.

Tori, I feel compelled to write to you about your Mom. You don't have to decide whether to "cut her off" or not. The decision to be made is much simpler, yet harder too. You will not change her, or how she behaves, but you can change how you react to those things. Expect nothing from her, and you won't be disappointed. As for forging a relationship between her and your babies- consider if it would be healthy for them. I know you want for them to have the ideal relationship with their grandmother, but she is not/hasn't been the ideal grandmother. I know you wouldn't want them to feel the same disappointment you continue to feel as a result of her actions. Keep loving your babies and your husband and the family of friends you have created, and your children with have the best in life...even without your Mom.

Tori,
I love your show! I feel your pain with your mom. Don't ever give up hope, because hope is what keeps you going. You have a very loving husband who supports you and expresses how he feels about the issues. That is something I wish I had. I love you guys!

Tori, cut your mother loose. That is not how a mother treats a daughter or grandchild. That's not even how you treat a friend. I should know, I have (2) daughters and (4) grandchildren. Cut your losses and count your many blessings instead.
Take care.
Debi

hey Tori!
first off im not going to write a paragraph but rather a nice hopefull little message. I absolutely love your show and both books! you are just so down to earth and real and thats what i love most about you and your family! ha; but ive been a big fan of you for some time now and it would just make me extremely happy if you could reply back even if its just "hey kayce!" but im not for sure if you can do that. but it would just make me smile from ear to ear <3 K.

MY DEAREST TORI AND DEAN: LOVED, LOVED, LOVED THE SERIES THIS TIME AGAIN. I ADORED THE ENDING BUT VERY SAD PATSY HAD TO SAY GOOD-BYE. THE WORST WAS FOR EVERYONE TO BE WAITING FOR YOUR MOM TO ARRIVED AND SHE WAS A NO SHOW. IT WAS A TEAR DROPPER. I LOVE YOU ALL AND HAVE A WONDERFUL VACATION. KISSES AND HUGS TO LIAM AND BABY STELLA AND PREYERS TO ALL OF YOU AS ONE. SEE YOU NEXT SESSION. CAN HARDLY WAIT.

HI TORI I WANNA COMMEND YOU FOR BEING SUCH A WONDERFUL MOM, DONT WORRY SOOO MUCH ABOUT YOU AND YOUR MOM, FROM WHAT IVE LEARNED FROM HAVING A DIFFICULT RELATIONSHIP WITH MINE FOR SO LONG THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO IS JUST GIVE THINGS TIME, EVENTUALLY THEY USUALLY DO BREAK DOWN AND SHE WILL COME TO SEE THE KIDS, MAYBE NOT ON YOUR TERMS BUT MOST LIKELY ON HERS. SHE SOUNDS VERY SELF ORIENTED JUST LIKE MY MOTHER. JUST TRY NOT TO STRESS ABOUT YOUR MOM AND JUST PUT IT ON THE BACK BURNER FOR NOW AND FOCUS ON YOUR BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN. I HAVE 3 KIDS MYSELF MY LIL GIRL IS 10 GOING ON 16, I HAVE 2BOYS A 2YR OLD AND 1YR OLD AND MY TIME IS ALWAYS FULL WITH THEM AND LIMITED WITH OTHERS ESPECIALLY SINCE I JUST BOUGHT A HOUSE IN NEW YORK AND I TRY TO MAKE MY TIME SIMPLY ABOUT MY KIDS AND MY HOME AND IF MY MOM WANTS TO TAKE OUT TIME FROM HER BUSY DAY TO COME TO VISIT SHE KNOWS WHERE TO FIND ME SO I DONT HAVE TIME TO OBSESS ABOUT HER so take care and try not to worry too much

Tori,
I do not know where things stand between you and your mother now, after the show has ended. But from my experience I always yern for my mother to be apart of my childrens' lives. I think as a mother it is only natural to want your own mother to be there. My mother does not even know she has grandchildren. I belive it is hers and your mothers' mistake. You know how wonderful your children are!! I love the show and hope you come back for another season. You are an AMAZING FAMILY!!

o i 4 got LOV HANNAH I LOV U

hi i am 11 years old. i lov u and i think ur kids r the cutest and i watch ur show all the time. when i grow up i want to be like u. the thing i want to do the most is meet u and u and ur famliy r the best. i lov ur partys i wish i could hav one ur party that would be the best i lov ur show. i rated it the best show i watch it every tues. I LOV U!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! u rock if u ever hav time to reply that would be one of the best things that happen to me. i also lov ur style and ur hair is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo pretty i will be going to be in the 6 grade how was urs cause am scared

Tori-

You are an amazing woman. You have over come many things in your life that has made you what you are today. You are a wonderful mother to your children and very determined worker. I will miss being able to see you and your family every week. I wouldn't worry too much about your mother. She will do anything to make herself look and feel good even if its going to make you feel horrible. Some people in the world only worry about what people think of them and doesn't care who they hurt doing that. You and Dean are lucky to have a great relationship and two beautiful children. May there be many fortunes for your future.

Dear Tori,
I always liked you as Donna Martin and was obsessed with 90201 and watched every single episode, than I saw that you had your own reality show and started watching midway through your show when you had the Inn. Now I am addicted and love your show.
I read both your books in 4 days and could not put the book down, but as you know with kids you always get interupted.
I love how you love your family and friends and cant believe you never get really mad at your kids...I am a screamer sometimes and know that does not help the situation so I just want to know how you make it look so easy. I have a 5 and a 3 year old and they consume your time.
My husband is a lot like Dean and a lot of converstations end up with him making a "Dean remark" as I call his sex remarks.

Keep thinking positive and hopefully one day and I truly hope soon your mom and you can put your differences aside and have a relationship, not just for you but for the kids. Your mom is going to die a very lonely woman in a very big, lonely and empty condo. So I hope that that does not happen.

Have become a fan of the show. I love seeing the caring, loving & nurturing relationship you have with Dean & beautiful children. Went through similar situation with my mother as a young married mother. Very painful at the time. It will pass. Be grateful for what you have & enjoy your kids. They grow up way to fast.

Tori,
Many people have offered advice on your personal relationship with your mother. The truth is only you can decide what is best for you and your family. I will ask you these questions. Is all the anger, pain, and disapointments you are feeling now emotions you want to project on to your children? Are you willing to take a risk and maybe have your children hurt (emotionally in the long run)? We as parents do everything we can to protect our children. We as parents have to try and see the "BIG" picture. When having children life stops being all about us and starts being all about our children. So when trying to decide your next step try to remember you are making decisions for your family as a whole. I have been in your shoes and it is one of the most difficult, emotionally and physicaly draining decisions I have had to make! Remember also you are not alone many of us have had to deal with this type of situation. Be thankful you are blessed with such an outstanding support system around you.

Hi Tori. I have just recently been watching your new tv show and I have to admit I am hooked. It is great to see how you have grown since 90210. You have become such a beautiful woman. Your life seems so perfect, you appear to have a very loving husband and wonderful children. I am sorry, for whatever reason, that your mother has chosen not to be a part of your life. I am sorry for you but even sorrier for your children, they will ultimately be the ones to suffer for not having known their grandmother. Dean is right, you have done everything you can, you need to move on and leave that part of your life behind, as hard as it seems right now. I have made similar choices in my life, although they were tough, ultimately they were the right choices to make at the time. I just can't tell you how I enjoy how involved you are in your children's lives. You take them everywhere with you and Dean is right there to help. You are such a joy to watch. Keep it up, and you look WONDERFUL. Have many more babies Tori, you and Dean will do well with as many as you chose to have. Best wishes, Kathy

I too am a mom tori and u are living the life i only dream about!! with ur family it's not about the money but it's about the love,the connection between a mommy and her daughter and a mommy and her son! My son is 13 he's energetic and beautiful on the inside and out he's giving and strong helpful and brave he is the most important man in my life! My daughter is 12 and she brings "DIVA" a whole new meaning she to is very caring and impressionable, so smart and whitty can bring a smile to ur face no matter what she is me and i love it! i am so proud of them and as a mother the pride just grows and grow! I don't know u or ur mom but i live that intensity between my mother and me. I can count on one hand how many times she has seen my children she could'nt even tell u thier names and that sucks the good thing is that she's missing out on everything but u are'nt u need to pull those boots up and keep going u can't always get what u want u have amazing babies an awesome supportive husband u should feel lucky some of us are all alone wishing we were u, as ur husband would say get over it "t" time to move on good luck in all u do i'm proud of u and ur family and i don't even know ya u r fabulous! P E A C E

Tori - it breaks our hearts that you are having to suffer through all the 'falsity' of your mother's relationship with you. As an adopted child, I realized after becoming a mother that some women are just not meant to be mothers. My adopted mother has been gone for a number of years, and in the past 10 years, any feelings for her are no logner there. A friends son has had to totally 'cut off' his relationship with his father because of the step-mother, who appeared loving on the outside - but was different inside. You apparently made your decision as to what you needed to do on the last episode of this season's finale. As someone else mentioned - sometimes a decision has to be made based on the suffering and uncertainty - but you did what you believed you had to do - - - which every way you decided - it was your decision. Enjoy your show -

Hey Tori,
i Love your show, and your books, been a fan sees 90210 and i love to watch your family, you guys seems so happy and show that being in a marrage is hard at times, but all some at times,you make me laugh, and i have a daughter and i just wantted you to know that i named my daughter after u, we call her tori,
you and dean are great parents, and you will have a close realationship with your daughter i see the way she lights up with her mommy,
love your show good luck next season and waiting for your kid book to come, so i can read it to my daughter write it soon

Dear Tori:

I've loved your show since day 1. Hopefully you won't think this crazy but someone lent me a book titled "The Afterlife Connection: A Thereapist Reveals How to Communiate with Departed Loved Ones" by Dr. Jane Greer after my father died unexpectedly. Seeing your Uncle Danny there for Stella's party and how you talked about your Dad made me think of how you could benefit from this book. I know I have!! She talks about "little coincides" that happen and that we normally brush off. She suggests that they could actually be a loved one connecting to us. For example, listening to the car radio and your dad's favorite song is played on a station that doesn't play that format - that's him saying hello.

Hopefully you'll read the book - it is truly inspiring - and that it will bring you closer to your Dad.

All the best!

Is there gonna be a new season ? And if so, when does the new episodes start ? Also, to the people who have to keep writing such HARSH THINGS REGARDING THIS SHOW/CANDY"MOMMY DEAREST" THIS SHOW IS SUPPOSED TO FOCUS ON TORI & DEAN'S REAL LIFE AND EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS,EMOTIONS,BAD/GOOD AS THEY COME. So I keep trying to understand why these haters come on here & write such dispicable crap.Like the old saying "if you have nothing nice to say don't say nothing at all." Can't wait until the new episodes!!!!!!!!!

Please read "Jaime"s comment I totally agree with her, go to your mom without the camera, its between you and her and Dean has given given and given support and its time to get where he is comming from....Love the show and the kids are adorable BUT you gave them such great names and the "monkey" is getting to be tooooo much, do you really want his friends to call him that, because it will happen...please please use Liam its a great name and he is a wonderful child as is Stella...nicknames are great but listen to your show, there was one show I should have counted the "monkey" it was wayyyyyyy to much...you and Dean are great parents and you just need to calm down a little and not be so paranoid over every little thing....you have this great life you have wanted forever don't ruin it by over stressing over every little thing....just go with the flow and don't sweat the little things....your life will be much calmer....and stop the "Monkey" thing ....good luck to you both and keep on loving each other and those great kids !!!!!!

Dear Tori, About your bacon wrapped hordovre, place an almond in the center of the date where the pit used to be, then put your feta inside on top of the almond. Then wrap your bacon around the hordorve. You will love the results. The crunch of the almond with the creamy cheese inside of the sweet warm date inside the salty bacon is divine. Hope you try it! Love your show, and I hope you guys can work something out with your Mom. Love, Lori

Love you, Love Dean, Love your kids, Love the show!! I have read both your books and they were great. I hope to see a 3rd book someday!! Congrats on all your success.

Ms. Tori,

I'm convinced that you can do anything and create your own reality as you choose. I'm happy for you.

I just checked in to say that Liam flirting with the fairy dancers was absolutely wonderful! What a guy! I rasied all boys and the little guys tickle my funny bone big time.

Stella's cake adventure was beyond precious and I love how she poses for the cameras. She is a Princess Warrioress like her mother. I think your daughter is going to be a dazzling woman.

Congratulations,
Nanny Sigi

Dear Tori and Dean,
I am so happy that you have your family. As a child I too suffered the hurt that you describe with your mother. I learned long ago that as an adult you have to decide whether the toxic relationships in your life are worth the effect they will have on your present life. I know this is your mother and that it "should" be different, but it isn't. You have a loving husband, two beautiful children, family and friends who would give you the world for you. Please be happy with what you have, the rest will come to you; if they don't then you hold your head high. It is not healthy to continue on this path with your mother. Know in your heart that your world will be different. You have it all...you really do! Much love to you all, Jamee

Look, you have your own family now & are apparently succesful in your own right. The babies are really happy babies-that shows.
If 'Mummie' wants to be part of your family then she needs to be the grown up she say's she is and just do it. She's opposed to all the cameras yet she goes on the internet & interviews trying to express her sadness. There simply comes a time when you have to back off. YOU made the last attempt. I wouldnt go another inch.
And please don't let this be the reason you and Dean end up divorced. He's rightfully bitter & IF your Mom comes into your life, it may be without Dean for a while. Don't push him into a relantionship w/her until she proves herself.
T

Dear Tori and Dean, Me and my husband watched the season finale last night and we were so saddend by your mom not showing up, I know it hurts. And, when Patsy was leaving, I was crying with you too. We love Patsy, she's a wonderful woman. I hope you do another season soon, I have watched all the season and LOVE them. Your children are beautiful and so are you and Dean. Your a talented, wonderful woman,mom,and wife. Just know the Allen's in Florida Love you:) God Bless your family.

If you read the comments below, that's everything I was going to say, all except trying to make up w/your mother. I don't know what happened, but I've seen enough of the show to know that you've done everything in your power to have her in your life, and she's not accepting of it and is not going to be. My mother was like that, she didn't even attend my graduation. No tears were shed and have not been shed over her since her funeral and I have had no regrets and that's been 35 years ago. Sure, I have wished and still do that I had had a mother - like the mother I am to MY daughter. Think of that - you said that you believe everything happens for a reason...What kind of mother would you have been had you not had the mother you had? Probably not the loving and devoted one that you are now. I think it's a blessing on your children that you and your mother AREN'T and WEREN'T what you wish it was or had been. They would not have the centered, nurturing mother they have in you. You have "family" with the friends you have. They stick by you no matter what and they tell you the truth, even though you may not want to hear it - but that's "framily" (friend family together). They are more deserving of your time and devotion than your mother. She doesn't want to share any of herself, so don't keep asking for it. Blood is nothing when it comes to the unconditional love you desire - you have it with your husband and the many friends and family that did show up at Stella's party. Give it up and don't waste any more of the precious time you have trying to get someone to do something they're obviously not interested in doing. I love you and will be waiting for Patsy to come back and take care of the next little one. Why doesn't she just live with you all the time?

Stop with your Mother already. So tired of seeing you ball about that woman. You are a mother. You do the same exact things you bitch about her doing i.e., over the top parties, dressing up your little girl then letting her jump in her $1000.00 cake. Stop it! It is boring! If you continue I won't watch anymore. Last nights finale, I wanted to gag. The only interesting things were Patsy leaving and firemarshals making Dean move the #&@% ing mushroom. Love you.

I enjoy the show, have for a long time. I have to honestly say I never expected your mother to show up.I do beleive she wanted to, but with the camera's their she just couldn't do it. Please if you really want a relationship with her, remove the camera's. We do not need to see you and your mother attempt to resolve your relationship issues. It's time to grow-up Tori, you can handle what ever happen's. It's time to keep this between you and your mom. Dean has nothing left to give in terms of emotional support on this subject. Men can only give so much, trust me, been there, done that. It's up to you to resolve this without expecting Dean to constantly pick up the pieces. He's not