Dear Patsy, it is bittersweet to see you in such pain, and I wish you all the best taking care of your health.

Sincerely,

Arina

I was just at a small gathering with Patsy, Dean, Tori and the kids....I live in Georgia and Patsy is doing great! She is a wonderful soul.

To all Patsy's loving fan's. Patsy has had her surgery and is doing well. I have not talked with her since her surgery but hope to soon. I hear from her son how she is recovering at her daughters. I hope she has read all the love you have sent and thank you for all your prayers! I love You Patsy!

It was so great meeting you in Walmart today! You are such a sweet and humble lady. We want you to be our MOM!!! We hope to see you again soon! We love you! We are believing the Lord for favor over you...AMEN!!

Love,
Danny, Kelli,
and Dalton

PATSY, WHY DIDNT THE STAR INTERVIEW YOU INSTEAD OF THAT SO CALLED FRIEND MICHEAL, HE DID IT FOR THE MONEy THE HIPPOCRITE. YOU LIVED WITH TORI AND DEAN AND THE KIDS,YOU KNOW THE FAMILY, I THINK IT WAS IRRESPONSIBLE OF THE STar as usual to talk to some one like him.they should rtalk to you instead

Patsy, we love you! We are sorry to see you leave, but wish you much love and good health with your surgery. We hope tori & Dean have another baby soon so we can see you around. You are like the mother Tori needs!

Dear Patsy:
How dear you are! And, know that God sent you to Tori & Dean and their little ones for this special season. Unlike Candy, who has a choice and does not come and be a part of her daughter's life and her grandchildren, you are leaving to take care of yourself and to get healthier physically.

My husband and I recently made a choice to move and it has been the best decision for us. We love where we are at, and are feeling even better than we had. We are sad that we left one of our son's in L.A. but he is leaving to be on tour with the band he is part of and is at the best part of the rest of his life. So are T & D. They are stronger than they know.... Our other kids live in other states and we talk and email weekly/daily so there are plenty of ways to keep in touch. Communication in today's world is a blast! and an art that we all keep workng on.

Like the saying on the airplane, "put your own oxygen mask on first and then anyone you are traveling with who will need help"...Patsy, revel in the oxygen mask time! Have fun finding the right drapes and gardening...I'll think of you each time I do each of those tasks and ask God to bless you with fantastic health! I have 28 windows to find covers for and it's an adventure!!! with drapery rods, colors and fabrics to match and different styles and ways to do it! and so is picking out plants and flowers and fruits/vegies for our new home.

Love & prayers, m

Patsy, I too cried when you had to go back home. I hope that you are able to stay in the McDermott's family. I can see how you are like a mom to Tori and I know what it is like to not have one. I had gastric bypass in 2003 and although I had a hard time with it, I would recommend it to anyone who is thinking about it. It did truely change my life. I lost 225 lbs.
I know that there are a lot of people that write to you and I know that you can't get to all of them. I just want you to know that my thoughts are with you and I hope that you return to the show or at least to Tori, Dean and family. God bless you and good luck to you.
Lesley Curtis

JUST WANTED TO SAY YOU ARE A VERY LOVING WOMAN. I HATED SEEING YOU LEAVE THE SHOW, I'LL ADMIT IT I CRIED. YOU CAN TELL THAT YOU GUYS ARE A FAMILY AND IT IS A VERY LOVING FAMILY. I WISH YOU THE BEST LUCK WITH YOUR SURGERY.

Patsy,
My name is Alison and I met you at the airport in Atlanta on August 7th. I introduced myself to you and spoke with you for a bit. I jsut wanted to tell you how great it was to meet you and how wonderful I think you are. Being a nanny myself I know how hard it is to say your goodbyes to the chilren. As I had told you I am in the process of saying goodbye to the two children I nannied for, who are moving. I hope that your surgery and your overall life is blessed. I will keep you on my prayer list. I do believe in the power of prayer. I know that you look forward to seeing those beautiful precious babies. Once again just wanted to let you know how important it was to me to meet you. Thank you again for taking the time to read this email.
-Alison Cowan
6642 Forest Grove Drive
Memphis, TN 38119
nanny4eeh@yahoo.com

It is sad to see you leave the McDermott family. It is obvious that they love you so much. Watching this season and the struggles you are going through with your weight has inspired me to do something for me as well. I am getting ready to turn 38 and I am so overweight that I hate to even leave the house anymore. Of course, that is not an option because I work full time and have three kids. So, I am going to a Bariatric Weight Loss seminar on Monday. Good luck with all you do and want to do!!

Patsy,
Words can't express how much I enjoyed watching your easy going attitude. You made me laugh and you made me cry when you left. Hurry back and good luck on your surgery. I love kettle corn too and some day you will be able to have it agian. Keep on keeping on, you are great and the first blog I read all the way through without reading anything negative - yeah ........pat yourself on the back Patsy.

Love you

patsy i love u!!!!! u r the best baby nurse ever u were lik a grandma to liam and stella. It waz sad to c u leave espesially seeing tori cry on your shoulder but i am happy that u r going to c ur real family!!! Best of luck in your surgery and i hope to c u back on the show to c how u r doing!!!!! luv ya!!!

Patsy,
You are too cute. I love you. You cracked me up at the farmer's market. I know Liam and Stella love you and, of course, Tori and Dean. You are down to earth, funny, loving, real and wise. Who could ask for anything more.
I am glad you will be with your family, but hope you will stay in the McDermott's life and see you on the show still sometimes.
Take care of yourself and good luck with the surgery!

Patsy,
Thank you for being more than a baby nurse!! You were just what that family needed. I pray and hope your health continues to improve. I am glad that you are home, and sad that you have left. Tori really needs your motherly support. Call her often and come back soon. You are a beautiful, Godly woman. You are loved and respected by many. Godbless

Patsy, You are truly a blessing! Take care and be sure to come back soon!

Dear Patsy: I wish you all the best with your surgery. You can do this girl! My husband had gastric bypass surgery almost 3 years ago and has lost 180 pounds! I wish you good health and success. You are an amazing woman to have endured so much pain and still smile. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hi Patsy,
Yes, this is a goo time to take care of yourself. But, I will miss seeing you on the show. You are so sweet and nurturing. I hope we see you, again, when the time is right.
Love,
Barbara

You seem like such a lovely person. Bless you Patsy!

You seem like such a lovely person. Bless you Patsy!

hey Patsy! i just wanted to say that u are AWESOME!!!!! thank u soooomuch for sharing your life experiences with us fans of Tori and Dean and as u were leaving, i was crying too because Liam was Crying! ask Dean if he can set u up with a Web Cam and a computer so that Tori,Dean and Liam and Stella can all see you and u can chat via, the internet. so while u are at home with yur family and enjoying being spoiled from family menbers, u can still see Tori and Dean and the kids up close and personal.take care of yourself and goodluck with the surgery.

Dear Patsy - Wishing you all of the best! I teared up as you said goodbye to the family, as I have seen how close you have become to Tori, Dean and the kids.
You are truly a wonderful person, so kind hearted. Please stay in touch with your 'Oxygen' family, so we know how you are doing.
Regards
Elizabeth

Patsy,

I just wanted to let you how much you will be missed! I too teared up as I watched you leave your second family. Please keep in touch. We are all rooting for you. You will pull through! You have blessed us with your goodness and kindness and thus you will be blessed!

With love, Bianca

hey patsi, goodluck on your surgery. Take care of yourself and your faily. Enjoy the time that you have with them. Always call and sheck on Tori and her family. After all you are part of her family. I wish I could hire you as my baby nurse. You have been wonderful to them and have captured my heart. With love from texas.

patsy,i was shocked to hear that u lost more than one child,i lost my daughter at age 21 ten years ago and am still numb, what a strong woman 2 deal with what u r going thru. i could never handle loosing more than one.my heart is with u and your family.god bless patsy!!!!!!!!

I have been watching the show for sometime and have truly enjoyed seeing how close you, Tori, Dean and the kids are. They truly love you like a second mother. I will miss seeing you on the show but, at the same time I am glad you are taking time to have what I call me time. Hope to you back on the show one day. Until then take care.

Going to miss you! So happy for you that you're going to be leaving to take care of yourself - very prould of you for that! I hope you'll keep up your blog! You're a true blessing!

Sweet Patsy, You leaving to go back home was horrible..more so for Tori than you...and you knew it, I could sense it. You have been such a gift to her through these troubled times with her mother issue. Your such a strong woman with an incredible head on your shoulders. I know she needed you way more than the children did. I also know you will be there for her always. God bless you Patsy!!! xoxo

hey patsy,

it's very hard to leave family, put there's always another hello in life. i really feel for you, patsy. always know you have lov around you.

with all my love, maddy

We will miss u pasty. I cried because u was leaving u r a wounderful person and a great nanny
for tori and deans babies. U take care of yourself. God bless u, ur an angel.

Hi patsy

I think you are an amazing the phenominal women. I am so sorry for you losts. I know that the family will miss you a whole lot. I want to wish you lots of love and happiness. May god bless you . Take Care

Hi Patsy, you can tell that liam and stella(tori and dean to)love you like you are family because you are to tham you are truly incredible you rock!

Hello Pasty! I just wanted to see if you had your surgery yet? I had LapBand surgery May 08 and couldn't be happier!! I have lost 94 lbs. I am about 8 lbs. from goal weight. It was the best thing that I have ever done for myself! I wish you lots of luck. And can't wait to hear about your weight loss journey!!

I watch the show and feel the sadness when Tori misses you before you leave her. I felt the sadness when she went to the doctor to find out what you really need to do to improve your health. You are really a big part of Tori and Deans family that it will hard for them. Bless you and may the lord be with you on your journey for better health!!!

I am sorry to see you go Patsy, but like a child you have to let them stand on there own two feet and let them spread there wings. It is not like you are never going to see them again. If you want to be around for them to see the kids grow you have to take care of yourself first so you can be there for the next generation of tori and dean's children. god bless you and my happiness follow wherever you go

Was so sad to see you leave, good luck and may God bless you in ALL that you do!! LOVE YOU PATSY

Patsy, you are such a special person, I was so sad to see you go and wish you could just live there 24/7. I know you have a life too, but you are such a good fill-in mother for Tori, and a great fill-in grandma for those babies.

Good luck with your surgery, please let us all know how you are doing.

Dear Patsy,

I am loving your role in Tori and Dean's lives, as well as their children. You have given Tori great advice and she adores you - it's very moving to watch. Good luck with your health and future surgery!!

Hurry up and come back!!

Tori

Watching you and Dean has become one of my guilty little pleasures. I love the authenticy you guys offer up as you share your lives.
I wanted to encourage you as you wrestle with your heart on how to handle your relationship with your Mom.
I was in a similar situation and there is no easy answer, but I did reach a point where I felt like the bottom line was that each of our lives speaks for itself. Love your babies as you wish you had been loved, build those relationships....you will always have a longing in your heart for what could have been but you can't control your Mother's choices, you can only make better choices for your children.
I'm living what I preach...It's been 18 yrs since I've heard from my Mom, she's never met my children all by her own choice...the door here has never closed. I am sad but I have peace that I did all that I could. The sadness grew when I had kids and knew I could NEVER walk away from them...and wondered how anyone could do that to their babies?! But it's not my road, it's hers.
I love my 2 kids, I tell them the good stories of my Mom so they love her, and they know nothing of the bad. The pain is mine to carry. But so is the reward. I know that by investing in my kids that one day I will be a Mother-in-Law, and a Grandmother...nothing can keep me from it.
I've watched you do what I did; you "make" your family as you go. You choose who gets to be family and who doesn't.
Oh and the whole "Mommy guilt trip" I see you on every week it's part of the female package, whether you work or stay home, you will always worry you haven't done enough...that's what love is for, it lifts us up and keeps us whole and heals our hearts.
Chin up you are doing a great job!

Patsy-

Good luck with your surgery. I know exactly how you felt leaving the family to return home. I was a nanny for a family in Chicago and actually worked for them twice and it was hard to leave both times. I hope Tori and Dean have lots of kids so we can see you on the show more. God bless you.

Pasty,
Good luck and God Bless you. You are a wonderful person. I hope your surgery goes well. I cried when you said goodbye. I hope you keep in touch with Tori on a regular basis because she needs you.

-Patsy

You are a great nurse and it is so sad to see you leave the show. I wish you nothing but the best with your weigh lost and surgery. God Bless you in everything you do. I hope Tori and Dean do have another baby so you can come back and we can see you again.

Patsy, You are the best!!!! I loved you, the way you have cared for those babies, and Tori and Dean!!!!! You have a huge heart.....I wish you the best and hopefully soon we will see you when they have the 3rd baby!!!!! Wish my family would have had you in our home!!!

Blessings.

V

MY DEAREST PATSY: I HAVE BEEN WITH THE PROGRAM SINCE DAY ONE AND I AM SO SAD YOU HAD TO LEAVE BUT AS SOON AS YOUR BACK ON YOUR FEET FROM SURGERY DO COME BY THE TORI AND DEAN SHOW AND SAY HI TO ALL OF US. WE LOVE YOUR DEARLY AND SINCE I AM SUCH A CRY BABY, I CRIED WHEN THE GOOD BYES CAME ON. I LOVE ALL OF YOU AND PREY FOR YOUR RECOVERY ON THE SURGERY YOU ARE ABOUT TO HAVE. BLESS YOU AND LOVE EACH ONE OF YOU.

Patsy,

Just wanted to let you know will be keeping in you in my prayers

God Bless you Lady

Hi Patsy,
Good luck with everything that you will be tackling now that you are out of LA. I wish you the best with your surgery. I shed tears of my own watching the finale and seeing you say goodbye to your second family. I can't even imagine how sad you all were to go your separate ways.

LOVE YOU SO MUCH PATSY, so sorry to see you leave the show. You have been the most refreshing person in reality TV that I've seen.

Whether Tori & Dean have any more kids or not, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE come back and visit them and us as often as you can. Your fans would love to see you come and stay all next summer, bring your hubby, Tori and Dean say they love having family guests. Oxygen knows it will boost the ratings so they can foot the bill. Plan to contact Oxygen and beg for your return, baby or no baby, and encourage other Patsy fans to do so too. Maybe too an episode of Tori, Dean and the little ones visiting you and your family, would love to meet your family.

SO, SO, HOPE, this isn't goodbye. Wish you the best, good luck with your surgery and GOD BLESS, YOU ARE A TRUE GEM

Patsy Dear,
I hope you will be signing on and keep up with your blog even though you are not with your second family physically. We all care about you and wish to cheer you on as you get your groove on again. There's nothing a matriarch can't do, you already proved that.
Hugs,
Nanny Sigi

Patsy... You are such a wonderful person. I was truly upset that you were leaving the show and going home as I know that you also have a family to get back too. But it truly broke my heart after you pulled away in the vehicle and Liam was in Deans arms crying because you had left. I hope you see you on the show again as I know that Tori and Dean want lots more kids. Did Tori every call you and tell you everything she wanted to say to you when you left?

you are wonderful patsy! i bet humphrey is so excited and everyone else in your family too, of course.much love-take care.X.

Pat:

I wish you all the best. Take great care of yourself.

Pats,

You are wonderful!! I hope you get to enjoy being home for awhile, but you know they won't let you stay there for long! Bill and Scout will be calling you as soon as they get their bundle of joy because they are going to need your wisdom as well. Love you Pats and take care!

Xoxo,
Jenny

Patsy, What an "AWESOME", kind, big hearted, gentle,person you are. You are going to be missed!!! Hope to see you when Tori & Deanʻs next bundle of joy arrives...Hopefully it wonʻt be too long. Till then God Bless you and your family and good luck with your surgery. Hope someone as" FABULOUS" as you will be taking care of YOU!!

I too was sad to see you leave. The babies will miss you. I had the WL surgery about a year ago and you will be fine and love the results. When you come back for baby #3 you will be trim and fit and loving it. Everyone will be suprised. Good luck and Congrats on the big decision.

Patsy-tonight was a real heartbreaker but as you said it's time to move on. What a sad ending huh??I will remember you with the kids at all times-IMO I think "you should be adopted as the kids'
grandmother" what do you think?? Tori would just burst wouldn't she :-) So please take care of yourself and come back soon-we miss you and I know for sure that they do. Take care Pat-I love you.

Renate in Colorado

Oh Patsy. You will be greatly missed. You are so great with the kids and Tori and Dean love you. I hope your surgery goes great and cant wait to see you back on the show taking care of the next baby ( wont be too long before they try for another). Good Luck Patsy, we miss you

Tori, you have done a great job with your children and family. I salute you.

It was the right thing to do; inviting your Mom to the birthday party.

I have been in your shoes when I invited my Dad to my wedding. He said he would come and then didn't, later getting ugly about the whole thing. For years he made my life miserable (my younger years) and one day I stood up and said "that's it", no more heartache. He isn't going to change and things will not get better; only worse. So I cut him off. I WAS ONLY 16 at the time.

TORI, you are 36 and have a family to focus your energy on. You have made all the right gestures regarding your Mom. Taking the high road is something you NEVER have to regret. I would give her one more invite to come for dinner; no cameras, just a private family dinner. If she doesn't show up, let that be it. Announce the result later on your show, blog, this website AND BE DONE WITH IT.

Dean is right. You are only playing into your Mother's hands and you are the one getting hurt; not Candy. She jerks your chain because SHE CAN. So cut it off cold, if she doesn't accept one last invite for a private meeting.

Remember this, the one that is the most PASSIVE HAS THE MOST CONTROL.

STOP LETTING YOUR MOTHER JERK YOUR CHAIN. She thrives on it. Accept NO BAIT from her blog, texts, letters, or interviews.

When people ask you about your mother, tell them its a private matter and not open for discussion any more. AND STICK TO THAT. Anything more, just FEEDS your MOM's game. She doesn't communicate/come to see you because she does it via the media. Don't let her - no responses via the media PERIOD.

Now go focus on that great family of yours. It was a great season. Thanks for the show.

Patsy, You are going to be missed.

I cried and cried!! It is bittersweet. Sadly, the end has come and I know that Tori and Dean appreciate you alot. I would have loved to have someone like you for my own children! Fancy coming to Tennessee? All good things must end. We all know that. Bless you all and good luck with the surgery!! You will be remembered!