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Hi! tori i just want to know where i can i buy your baby clothing line, Specifically the dress that you're dauther had for her birthday, my daughter is 17 months old and i really like the way you dressed estelita. thank you.

NARCISSISM. Read all you can. If you want your sanity in dealing with your mother it sounds like she might be a little like a narcissist. I was in my 30's when I figured things out. Don't wait that long. I wish I had never let her be around my daughter, now she is trying to come between us. Stay out and be happy, you look like a great mom who has already broken the cycle....

I enjoy watching your show, and I understand drama is part of having good ratings but the same thing over and over complaint here or their it gets annoying. I love watching the kids they look well developet and smart. The guncles look like they will be wonderful parents, I wish them all the luck. I think Tori and or her mom should stop throwing rocks to one another threw the media if one of them truly wants to reach out and its genuine it will be done privately of camera. Then offcourse we will love to here who made the genuine first step. I have a distant relationship with my mom but I realize it is because we are to much a like I didnt want to admitt it but it is true I love my mom and I would never speak bad of her.

MY HEART BREAKS FOR YOU I HAVE A MOM AND TWO SISTERS LIKE YOURS. FOR MY WHOLE LIFE I HAVE TRIED TO GET THE LOVE I WAS DADDYS GIRL. I HAVE BEEN GOING THROUGH A VEERY BAD 3 YEARS AND MY FAMILY LAUGHS AND WONT HELP ME. I CANT UNDERSTAND LIKE YOU THIS IS MY BLOOD MY MOM, I AM A MOM OF 5 I WISH I CAN TELL YOU HOW NOT TO MAKE THE MISTAKES I MADE FROM THE HURT. YOUR LUCKY DEAN LOVES YOU.HOLD THAT AND BUILD ON THAT CAUSE YOULL NEVER CHANGE YOUR MOM. BEST TO YOU ALWAYS

PS YOU HAVE FRIENDS THAAT ARE FAMILY TO WHICH YOU ARE SO LUCKY FOR. I WOULD HAVE GIVEN ANYTHING FOR THAT I WAS ALONE AND I STILL AM ALONE

Tori, I have to admit, that I never initially used to be a fan of you... but yet I also never had gotten a chance to "know you." either. I just wanted to tell you that I am now totally addicted to your shows and your books!--I think its so easy to just form preconcieced notions of people from the media that are totally not even close to reality and I just think its been such a great idea you had to go into reality tv and book writing...from sharing your life and your past....I have truly seen and believe that although you have had a weathy lifestyle....you are so so down to earth. You keep working to provide a great future for your family, but you also never want to not be with your family. I am so impressed by how much time you do spend with your children, it is so refreshing to see a famous couple appear so "down to earth and normal". I am in college, but for a job currently nanny for an amazing family and in the past three years feel like I am a part of their family..and you have no idea how happy it makes me to hear you talk about Patsy the way you do, and to hear how much you loved your own nanny, to the point where she was there with you on your wedding in her own special way..that brought tears to my eyes. That just shows how caring of a person you are, not just a "rich brat". Patsy is so lucky to have gotten to work with you and your children..sometimes it seems the richer people are, instead of treating their help better, it so often goes the other way--but your not like that. I think you and Dean are so amazing together as well...your both always there for each other and such a huge support system for one another. I am only 21...but every episode, and all of your books...just inspire me. I think you are so sweet and down to earth and such a great wife and mom....and im sure u hear this all the time, but you are definitly a role model figure. Dont change...dont ever change how down to earth you are and your priorities in life. If you are ever in the new england area again doing book signings etc, let me know!!

i read somewhere that tori and dean had 3 nannies? is that true they only show patsy in some episodes.

I caught a couple of episodes and have to say am hooked. It is very cool to see behind the scenes of an actor's work life. The truely amazing part of the show is that parents are parents no matter what your name is, job is or how little or much money you have. I have a 18 month old son and I can relate to your life. You and your husband want the best for your children, as we all do. Children are the great equalizer in this world.

Oh Tori, you're such a loveable Gal. I'm addicted to your show, I too have many problems with my mother, my heart and brain often struggle like yours. I have a 3 yr. old and a 6 mo. old. I feel like your show was created to help me better understand my situation with my mom. I think you're great, I love the relationship between you & Dean!

First, let me say that I do enjoy your show. My only complaint is - please stop complaining about "not being able to be a stay-at-home mom!" It is insulting to those of us that ARE! Listening to you complain about having to work is ridiculous! Stop buying multi-million dollar houses, driving $60,000 + cars and buying $600 shoes and maybe you COULD be home with your kids! You enjoy your lifestyle and that is fine but quit crying about having to work. Most stay-at-home moms don't live like you do and they do without things in order to stay home (without nannies, by the way). You would think that you could "get by" with the money from your books and show. Get your priorities straight and admit that other things are more improtant to you than staying home with your kids. At least be honest about something and stop whining. If you are serious about being an example for your kids then teach them what is TRULY important in life - not your wardrobe, house, cars etc. but the fact that your parents put you first in their lives and not their hobbies and "things". Teach them to be kind and compassionate and to do good things for others- not to be full of themselves and surround themselves with people who suck up to them and feed their egos. I don't know how much more of the phony I can take from your show!

I just wanted to tell you I would be proud to be your mother. You are such a wonderful wife, mother and friend. Your mother is missing out on so much. I enjoyed your books so much I cannot wait for the 3rd. I just love your show as well. You have such a sweet and loving family. I wish you all the happiness you deserve.

Tori, I love the show. I think you are hilarious. You have a fabulous husband and father in Dean. And your kids are beautiful. Good luck in life and all you do. Keep your head up and do not let people get you down.

Tori first off i just want to say I LOVE THE SHOW!!! The kids are so cute. But to the book I havent read it yet but ur r just so amazing i have to. It doesnt matter what everyone else thinks about u and ur mom, your a great parent and a loving wife. Just keep being u

Congrates on Mommywood. Just wish it wouldn't be bogged down with talk of your mom. This is your time to shine, don't let her stuff get you down. The more she creates drama, it doesn't look good on her. Posting an open letter on the internet just makes her look like she's trying to get in on your success and doesn't put her in an attractive light.
But enough on that subject.
You and Dean definately have something that very few people have. It's a relief to see Hollywood can be real, with the same issues that we all have in daily life. From runny noses to supportive partners....You go girl!
Many blessings to all in your cirle...

Tori, I watched a recent episode, one that I was truly heartfelt about. I too was estranged from a parent (my father). It was not until I had my own children, and being a single mom, when I realized what was most important in life. That's family, at the age of 33 I decided to write my father, after the birth of my second daughter.... a single letter, stating that this was the last time I would reach out to him. I also let him know that, the past is in the past, I was only interested in the future, a future with my father and grandfather to my 2 girls. I let him know, this was all I wanted, I didn't want money, or a hand out, just a chance to build a realtionship with him, and for my children to know their grandfather. At the conclusion of the letter, I did state, that this would be the last time I would reach out to him, and it was of his choosen as to what he wanted to do with this information. I told him I loved him and he would always be my dad.
We talk every Sunday now........so don't give up on your mother, reach out to her, because at the end of the day, she is still your mother.

Dear Tori,

You are so strong and continuously cheerful and positive. What a blessing and a great life you are giving your babies! An inspiration for us all.

Keep being true,
Brandel

I have always thought that you are not a talented actress either on BH 90210 or any movies that you made. You are a much more likable person on your reality show and should stick to writing and stay out of the acting business. Your also an animal lover which is wonderful-thank you. Not trying to be mean-just honest-

Hmmm, you always say your Dad somehow put you and your Mom in competition- Im not accusing, I'm just wondering,did you have major attitude towards her and think it was ok because your Dad didnt stand up to it? That happened to a friemd of mine and when I told her that "my Dad could never have made me turn against my Mother no matter what games he played", she looked inward went to therapy and realised it was her fault in a lot of ways! Her mother felt very betrayed. You love your children the same but you can like them different, and if she always felt you could say and do what you wanted to her with your Dads turned head- that could be the root. Just a thought as it happened to my friend. Now they are close and worked out. Each took the other's respnses and attitudes the wrong way. Moms are human, if their daughter has attitude and is mean and acts like they dont care to protect themselves, they cant figure it out on their own and they react. Maybe.......

Tori, Tori, Tori..I love the show, love your kids, love you, love Dean. That said lemme pass on some words of wisdom. I'm 50 y.o.--that means I'm still a daughter, I'm a mother of five, and the grandmother of 7. My relationship with my mom has been painful, rocky, and sometimes hateful most of my adult life. My relationship w/ my adult daughters has been painful, rocky, and sometimes hateful. My relationship w/ my grandchildren is the single greatest pleasure of my life-- they are not only very very important to me but I *know* that I am important to them. I am the grandma. No one, no where, at no time, can ever fill that space that I have in their little life--they will never get what I can give them anywhere else. Ever. And visa versa.
I've had long long periods of times when I didn't speak to my mother (sometimes years) but I always made the first move to reconcile. I am the daughter--I owe her that much. No matter what she's done wrong, right, or otherwise-- I owe her the respect due to the woman that gave me life. Here's the thing to never forget, Tori. Nobody--nobody except the clinically insane go into mommyhood with a plan to fk it up. Everyone is hoping they're doing it right, everyone is hoping that they do better than their mother did, and everyone believes with all their heart--while they are in it..that they are succeeding. And no one really does. Believe it or not--as much as you love Liam and Stella and you and Dean live for those precious moments with them..someday they are going to want to raise their children differently than you did. Someday they are going to voice where they think you failed. NO ONE is perfect..and no one escapes the painful reality of knowing that you children felt that you failed them at some point, in some way, on some issue..no matter how significant or minute. No one gets the perfect childhood, child, or parent.
Call your mother. She's not perfect, she didn't give you everything you needed as a child and she certainly can't now- but let it go because you're her daughter and you need her as much as she needs you. And more than that your children NEED a grandma in their life. Don't let that be the one way that you failed your children. Give them a grandma and allow yourself to be the adult, loving, caring, successful, beautiful, DAUGHTER, that your mother helped you to become--in her own ways. You'll be surprised at how easily everything else will fall away when you see the mutual adoration between your children and your mother. Be the hero-- not for your mother's sake but for your children's sake. Do it-- make the first move-- it doesn't hurt nothing but a little pride-- and you'll feel like the better person. And when it's your turn and Liam is mad over the face you made at his wife-- he'll forgive you and make the first move too-- because you are the mother. NIKE Tori. Just do it.

Hello there...I have to say you and your family are almost exactly like mine...minus the celeb part...lol Anyway, I must say I understand the confusion and stress that goes along with an estranged relationship...There is always that hope. I have a similar relationship with my mother where she was there when my first daughter was born but now I'm on my third and I can count on both hands how many times in the past nine years she has seen my children. Sometimes you feel like you should cut the cord but you just have this knot in your gut where you think you should just hold on for some hope. That maybe not for you but for your children...let me tell you for your sanity and probably the sanity of your true family make an effort to communicate to her. I know I know you think I'm crazy...hell you're probably not even reading this but for you to KNOW that YOU have done everything possible for you two to have a connection whether it be for the children or yourself if there is no response then YES you can leave/cut that cord with a clean slate knowing that you did everything possible to have that relationship. BUT if she does respond take it with a distant arm but yes let her have that relationship with her grandchildren BUT ONLY if no false promises are being made or diappointments...cause that is more damaging to a child than anything. But you already know this. Anyway, Im done on my soapbox and cant wait til your next episode. Good luck with whatever decision you make but just make sure it is for YOU and YOUR children not anyone elses decision. If you are ever in Evansville Indiana look me up!!! LOL Take care and God Bless!!

I do not usually write blogs or anything else to celebraties, but I had to tell you that I love your show! I was not a big Donna Martin fan and I think your real persona is a lot more interesting.
I love, love love Liam!!!! He is so cute and charming, he must get the show biz gene from you and your Dad cuz he is a little ham. I love it when he does his little dances and he is even cute when he is being nauhgty!!
Stella is also darling and obviously a Mama's girl. She is starting to get her own little personality. I loved the clothing shoot she did, especially when she was on the little couch.
You and Dean are obviously great parents and spend a lot of time with your kids and it shows. I hope you do not let your Mom or the media or the fame and fortune get in the way of your family.

Hi Tori,
I'm going through a similar situation with my Dad, I have not spoken to him for 8 years! Oh my has my life changed in that time! Yes, I miss him, NO, not enough to forgive him and leave the door open for him to hurt me or my children emotionally just like he has done my entire life. I see a lot of my feelings and confusion in you, it's hard for me to watch the show at times but you all make it hard to stop watching lol! My Daughters are Megan 17 and Katelyn 12 and I'm 37. I feel that when you have children of your own you need to make the choices of whats going to be in their best interests, not whats best for yourself or the people around your kids or my want to be around them! Your the Mommy & Daddy you have to make those hard choices until they can do it themselves! You have to trust your gut feelings on most of it but you are VERY fortunate to have your husband to help you through it ALL!!! Please never second guess what feels right to you both! I hope with all my heart this helps a little and I hope you stop stressing sooooo much about the things that need to work themselves out if you know what I mean? I've never written a person of your leisure before but you have made me feel comfortable enough to share how I feel! Thank you!

Tori,
I have watched your show faithfully since it began. I see you in such a different light. You make me laugh and you make me cry. You should look in the mirror each day and love who you see. You have come so far in your life from the top Hollywood child to the bottom and earned your own place back now in Hollywood. I loved both of your books and am really sad when your seasons end. Your show takes me away from my crazy world and gives me light and hope. I wish we were friends, you are like me and devoted, honest, true and kind. Thank you for giving me my hour of laughter. I wish nothing but the best for you and your family. My mom died when I wsa nine and I have two girls. Make the move with your mom. Anytime she spends with your children is at least time. Whether she flakes again or not, you know you opened the door and Liam and Stella will know that too someday. Follow YOUR heart. Look where its already taken you.Fondly, Lori-Ann Russo

Tori,

You probably don't read these, but Congratulations on the launch of Mommywood! It is great as a parent you and Dean have opened up your life. Your second book looks awesome.

I feel for you and the relationship with your mom. I had a very estranged relationship with my dad. If you reach out to her, do it in private, forget the emails, phone calls, etc and just show up at her doorstep. Speak to her heart to heart and just work it out. Don't let it eat you up like I did, and the next thing you know that person is no longer around.

Finally, the best advice I can give is to focus on the relationships you can control, your kids, Dean and your friends. Those people are the ones that really matter.

Sending you my best wishes.

Kevin - More4kids
http://www.more4kids.info/

Tori,
I just wanted to say thank-you. The problems you are having with your mom I had some of the same.I was abused by both parents and watching you on t.v. and seeing how strong you are during all this with your two wonderful babies. Lets me know that i also can be stong through these rough times with my two wonderful kids and the tough times with my parents.Again thank-you and keep being such a great mom your kids are lucky to have a wonderful mommy like you.
Sincerly,Dianna
(Sadmom)

Dear Tori,
My mom and her mother have a very similar relationship as you and your mother do. They really have not spoken in years and contacting each other is very rare. My mom is a wonderful person like you and tries very hard to show her mother she loves her but it is just very different now. My mom's mother calls her "estranged" from the family which is very very heartbreaking to hear especially for me cause to me my mother is amazing! I am only a teenager and I may never know the reason why I dont see my mom's parents every holiday or get special birthday wishes but what I do know is that there are many loose ends that need to be tightened between them. I have to say for your kids sake it is sad not to have loving grandparents to see everyday! I know its hard for my mom and now for me cause I kind of understand what is going on and its awkward on my part seeing them, I just dont feel like were family. So for your kids let them have a grandmother in their life at least now why they cant feel the tension or fully understand why they dont have a stable relationship with their grandmother! Love will always be in a family no matter what. Family is a relationship that can never be broken.
Lindsay ;]

I just want to say I really admire you. You are a wonderful mother to your kids. I feel like I can really relate to you based on your family life and fears. I too, have a difficult relationship with a parent and fear that I will make those same mistakes. I recently had a daughter- who we call Monkey.. It really makes me have hope and makes me feel at ease knowing I am not the only person out there dealing with these issues. I see how you try with Stella and I can see it is possible to break those barriers. That is why I watch your show. You have a wonderful family life and I pray God will be with you all always. Please have a book signing in Nashville, T.N. I would absolutely love the opportunity for you to sign my books.
Lots of love,
Emily

Dear Tori,

I am not sure if you read these or not, but I wanted to tell you that you have become a staple in my house. My five year old daughter is always asking me if it is Tori & Dean night. I have to keep the episodes taped so we can watched them over and over each week.
I have watched you through 90210, other movies you have done, and now Tori & Dean. We have adapted your "guncle" name for my two dearest friends. They had not heard of that nickname, they really love it.
I also have to agree with you on the motorcycle story. I would have just as freaked out as you were. I would not have done it differently.
You and Dean are wonderful parents to monkey and buggy. I and my daughter look forward to many more years of the show. Best of luck and Best Wishes to the Guncles!

Tori,
I love your show and your babies are so cute. I just want to share that I know how you feel when it comes to your mom. I cry every time you talk about it. I Don't have a good relationship with mine ether.I left home when I was 17. Nine years ago(age 21) I gave birth to my beautifull daughter. I also feared to repeat the same mistakes that my mom did, so I commited myself to be the best mom ever for her,to love her and also be her friend. When my mom foud out that I was pregnant she "wanted to mend" our relatinship. The problem is that we have never really resolved any of our problems from the past. Besides putting me down and critisizing me my mom is competing for my daughtre's affesctions. This puts me in a verry difficult place. I fear that my mothers behavior will only get worst,as time gose by. Even though my daughter and I get along graet, she really loves her grandmother.More and more I regret having welcomed my mom back in my life and my family. By the way, my husband tells me the same things that Dean tells you when it comes to the Mom issue and I answer back the same way you do. What are we going to do with this crazy mothers!!!!!!

Tori,
It never ceases to amaze me each week when I watch you and what an amazing mother that you are. I hope that you give yourself the credit that you deserve. I have two boys myself and do everything to raise them in the exact opposite way than how I was raised.
I hope that you read this and know that someone out there is behind you.
Niki

Tori,
When you and Dean got married, I really did not want to like you. After watching you both on your show, I have to say I was wrong. You are a great Mom and Wife. You both really are soulmates!
I think your Mom is wrong in not trying to have a relationship with her grandchildren, but don't have the same regrets you had with your Dad, step up and try and make it work. Then, the ball is in her court, at least you can say you gave it your all. I love your show, and wish you and your beautiful family, all the best that life has to offer.
Warm regards
Sue

Tori,
I am a big fan and like so many others have a strained relationship with my mother. I wanted to write to you about the motorcycle thing though because you and Dean love each other. When someone loves you, you have a responsibility to that person to NOT drive like a maniac or do dangerous things. It's really okay to ask him to give up something that puts his life at risk. When he married you he gave up sleeping with other women AND doing scary dangerous things! That's how it works. He would not want you out there doing anything that could risk your life for fun, either! I already wrote him about this, too. Tori with my mom I've just had to accept that this is the way things are - your being open is the best thing you can do. I wish much happiness for you and your family.

I DVR your show everyweek and enjoy it. The last episode promoted me to blog you for the first time because my friends and I totally made those nails out of cheese wax! I used to have my mom buy the cheese everytime and at the playground, we would actually roll the wax on the cement (in sunny San Fernando Valley) to help it mold better. The funnier thing was that I used to hate cold cheese and never ate it, I just gave it away and kept the wax.

TORI,

I absolutely love your show, I watch it every week.... You and Dean are great parents and I love how you just keep it real. Don't ever worry about what the press says about you because you are a great person and you obviousely love your children very much... By the way, your children are absolutely adorable.... As far as your relationship goes with your mother, life is short, I lost my mom when she was only 64 due to cancer and I miss her every day, we have had alot of ups and downs over the years and now that she is gone, I wish I could go back in time and fix alot of the downs.. I think you need to look into the future with your mom and try to have a relationship with her for your kids and yourself as well because someday she will be gone and you will have alot of regrets like I do.. I just watched an episode where you said that you wish you could back to the 9 months that you did not see your dad before he passed away and do it over, think about going through that with your mom.

I live in Boston Mass. and I hope that someday I can meet you..
Take care, Love Lisa

Hi you guys! I'm 15 and I watch your show every time it comes on and haven't missed an episode. It's a great show, I love your books and you are a gorgeous family! :)

Tori,

You are such an inspiration to me! I read your first book in one day! I loved it! I have not gotten a chance to read your second book yet, but I will. You are a great person and I am amazed how you are so down to earth.

You and Dean are so good for each other. On your show, it shows how much you both love each other. Your kids are beautiful! Please do not give up the Tori & Dean show,my little boy who is 3, loves you and your family and wants to watch the show all the time.

By the way, I think that you look great, the media does not know what they are talking about. I would love to have your body!

Take Care!

Tori; I think you are wonderful and especially admire your approachable, unaffected personality. I have been watching the Tori & Dean reality show for a while. It is more than evident that you are best friends, partners for life; lovers and exemplify all that is good in a marriage. Your children are well loved, very well adjusted, and healthy. There is a wonderful bond in the four of you. "Little man Liam" is so mature. Don't worry those terrible twos will be a thing of the past before you know it. I love to see how diligent he is in many ways. Let's forget those mini meltdowns! Watching the four McDermotts swinging in the backyard, Lili swinging the baby doll with such focus; then moving to push you in your swing. Ahhhdorable. Then, as you all were walking toward the house, Lili bent down to pick up the baby doll's blanket laying on the grass. Now that is diligence- and surely what he sees in his mommy and daddy's conduct. A considerate and respectful gesture if you ask me. He looks so much like your Dad. No doubt that Aaron looks down from heaven and takes great joy and pride in seeing his legacy continue. Baby Stella is definitely daddy's girl- she looks like Dean- a girly version of course. I will probably not get the pleasure to meet you in person- but during those moments when you might need someone to ecourage you and pray for you; I will be there in spirit. One last comment~ Patsy is a definite blessing in your lives. She is very special, loving, and dedicated caregiver. God bless her and give her health and strength. All my best to you always.

I have watched your show for only two seasons. But I was shocked I always thought everyone in Hollywood was rich and probably stuck up. It's crazy that we all (moms) go through so many of the same things. I have actually 6 children as well as a step child, and daughter in law. I am also gonna be a grandmother in September. My daughter in law and step sons baby I think it's a girl but we don't know yet ha ha. Anyway, we go through ups and downs and after my kids started acting up and causing me trouble it really brought me and my mother together. I have always loved my mother but her choices didn't inspire me to be close to her. Watching the mess with you and your mother has inspired me to stay close to my mom so I just wanted to say thank you. Your kids are adorable and seeing you deal with terrible two's is pretty inspiring ha ha. It's like I thought hollywood and any stars or actors didn't have to deal with the same child hood things that I did. My kids are older now oldest is 14 youngest is 4 but it's fun to watch a new mom go through the things I struggled with as a young mom. I have been married for 15 years and love to see you and dean compromise and try to work it out and succeed in staying together. Een though I am gonna be a grandma at 32 (tell me that's to young ha ha) I still love my life, and wouldn't change my husband or children for the whole world.

I love watching the show because my daughter was born the same day as Liam and so we were going through the same kind of things at the same time as you guys and that made it fun!

I just wanted to say that I so understand what you are going through with your mom because I go through it with my son. We have this unconditional love that will never go away and no matter how they treat you, you are always willing to take them back. They are both the closest people in our lives (mother/son). Nothing will ever change that. I know I've done wrong with my son in his early years but I also put him and my daughter's needs ahead of mine my whole life and gave them what ever they wanted most of the times. But he disrespects me and my home. Everytime he has moved out of my home, I always say, "That is it no more he I am never allowing to live with me again." And now once again he is living with me. I didn't speak with him for six months and this has been going on for the past few years. I guess I keep hoping that he has finally grown up and realized what he has put me through emotionally and things will change. I just want you to know that there are people out there that are not so quick to judge your relationship with your mother and people that understand the feelings you have inside. I wish you the best and hope your mom just picks up the phone or rings your door bell one day and says, "Hello, I'm sorry and I love you. And I want to be a part of you and my grandchildren's life." I too have a grandson who will be turning 1 in August and I never get to see him not even pictures. I love your show and your kids are just the cutest. Your doing a great job at juggeling work and a family. Even if your mom doesn't make an effort to be a part of it, you still have a great family and MANY loving friends.

Where can I find info about your Mi Mi La Roo Foundation? I watched your episode last night and I wanted to look it up but cannot find it anywhere on your website?

Great show, I met you once in Hawaii...back in I think it was 2001..I think.

Anyway, info on that foundation would be great!

Girl, (like we know each other!) I love your show!!! I have turned on several of my friends!! You are the coolest. I have two little girls of my own and they are the best!!! I also have some mommy issues myself. I relate to alot that you talk about. I think you are wonderful and what you and Dean have done is wonderful!! Keep it up and you will be the best mommy in the world as well as the best wife in the world. You two have inspired me to be better in my marriage as well as in my life. I thank you for that!! Tori, you are a beautiful person who needs to live her life for her. You have wonderful friends and a wonderful family and wonderful life. Don't sweat the small stuff, trust me, I know. Keep on keeping on girl, and I hope to get to meet you one day...

Mali~ | July 16, 2009 3:35 AM | We love the special bond you have formed with bff's/guncles.Can never have too many close freinds that you consider family, In every episode, it is obvious in Tori's eyes just how special Bill & Scout are to her and her family. On the Candy issue...hmmm, well, all I would like to say is that on SEVERAL levels from different and sometimes similar aspects, I have lived thru the same thing that Tori & Candy are passing by. I say that because I am now 37 yrs old, and My Mom passed away un-expectedly 8 yrs ago, when she was only 50 yrs old. We thought we would have forever to work thru our obstacles, since I have three daughters, they longed for the grandma-however, forever ended early for Mom, and I havent been able to forgive myself for not making the first move, and also for not being more consistant. I have followed Tori for a long time, as we are about the same age, and both Mommies, I adore her and the whole clan (fam) Either way, we all know Tori will have all of her friends there to support her when she finally makes a decision about Candy, & which direction to take; you will all need to be her "Safety Net" Love the show!Im very very ill, have been for 5 yrs, but I NEVER MISS AN EPISODE-Thanks to all of you for "giving me something to look forward to" and most of all for "keeping me going"

---PLEASE READ--- Hey Tori, Just love how "REAL" you seem and love the show. 5 years ago, I finally had to make the hard decision to cut all ties from my mother. I finally had had enough with all the ups and downs; I kept the hope alive of having a "normal" relationship with her and would continuously be let down. My son was just 1 year old and my daughter was 5 when I last talked to her. Since then I have had another little girl (now 4) which my mother has never met nor even known about. Let me tell you that being a christian is the hardest thing when dealing with parents-- because you are supposed to honor and obey your parents, but when your mother is who she is , how can things be right? You may just need to do what I have done and end the relationship with her, which also means the relationship between your mom and your children. This is by far the hardest thing in the world. From my experience, my mother tried playing "sides" and making herself look better and trying to control my then 5 year old daughter. My mother even went as far as asking my daughter if she wanted to live with her and tried putting my daughter against me.(My mother in my opinion is not worthy of my childrens love) How can a mother be so cruel? I don't know exactly what issues you have with your mom, but I'm sure they may be similiar. If you are anything like me, its better to cut all ties and enjoy your life. After all this time, I finally am 99% glad I did. Yes, I will always have a piece of me that wishes that things were different, but when in your heart you know there is no hope, its time to let go and LIVE ! Reply if this hits home...

Omg your show is ahhh mazzinggg!! =D
and you seem sooo normal. i wish i could meet you! haha.
anyways, im really sorry about your relationship with your mom..my dad only talks to me to make himself look good. im only 15 so yeahh..it sucks.
and about the racing with dean i dont know how you do it! lol, my boyfriend, i dont know if i could handle it lol.
but Good luck on everything! =D
Love ya!!

I found it interesting that Dean asked Lisa at the book signing "would you hold me too? what did that mean.

Tori and team,

A big fan of the show. You and Dean have great chemistry together and it's quite entertaining to watch. I have one mommy-related question for you. I'm watching these episodes and Stella's got to be 10 months old at most and she's eating whole fries, hot dog slices, buns, etc. I just tried feeding my 9 month old Gerber Puffs for the first time and she started to choke immediately. How was Stella able to eat table food so well at that age - I'm in total awe? If anyone on your team can answer that, I would be so appreciative b/c I'm basically becoming obsessed watching your show to see what Stella puts in her mouth next.

As one with a fifteen month old "self feeder", I am extremely curious about this: You put such beautiful clothes on your babies and I never see bibs! Why? I know how crazy it is to get stains out so, I cringe when I see Liam eating a red snow cone in a white shirt or Stella eating pureed food with no bib. It seems such a shame to ruin the pretty clothes.
Big fan BTW!!! I watch and DVR every episode and love your attention to the children but am really confused by the drippy food situation.

Tori,

I had my first baby 3 1/2 months ago. I normally ignore reality tv, celebrity lifestyle magazines, etc...Not really my thing. Then something funny happened to me: I left work for a 12 week maternity leave. Well, being at home alone with a sleepy, lazy baby is cause to watch a lot more tv than usual. I happened to catch your show. I grew up obsessed with 90210 as most people my age did (33, never missed an episode, still watch the re-runs, still randomly chant when with friends "Donna Martin graduates"). I haven't stopped watching since. I recently returned to work. I struggle with the guilt of being a working mom everyday. I make a decent amount of money and we need my income, yet I can't help but think there is an easier way. When you said that you live "every day tortured by guilt" I realized how similar we are. You were raised by a wealthy family in LA and I was raised by an upper middle class family north of Boston, but at the end of the day, we are moms just trying to do it all. It was helpful to watch you and identify with you as I was struggling with my return to work. I continue to watch your show. I just finished sTORItelling and am now reading Mommywood. You remind me how funny it is to wear my favorite designer shoes while walking around with baby puke in my hair. When I get overwhelmed and start to suffocate with the guilt, I remind myself that I'd rather have Olivia and struggle with the guilt than to have never had her at all. Keep up the good work, we are raising amazing kids. Let's see if I feel the same when #2 comes along. I can't manage a trip out of the house with one as it is (I belly-laugh every time I picture you leaving your stroller in a parking garage because you couldn't close it. That is the kind of thing that happens to me). What's important is that your kids feel loved.
P.S. A good husband goes a long way. Good job Dean.

I can't believe I just wrote to a celebrity. I can never admit this to anyone I know.

Hi Tori,
Might you be coming to MN for a booking signing? We do have the largest indoor mall in the US. :)
Love you show, love watching how normal you guys are and the love you have for each other.
I also relate to the (lack of) relationship you and your mother have. My Mother chooses not to be involved here too. It is heartbreaking. Hold true to your heart and your friends. They can be such great support.
Love and blessings,
Sara

Tori,
I has always been a fan since 90210 and because of your wonderful relationship with your father. I hate to hear you feel guilty for missing those 9 months before he died, but I understand. Just remember there's nothing you can change about it now except for forgiving yourself!! Also, don't let the CRAP your mom is saying about his dying from grief from not seeing you!! She is running out of things to say, so she's making things worse than they probably were to make herself feel better. If you read her boOk you'd know why I said that! It was so boring with 50 yr old stories and crazy memories that didn't make for good "Story Telling". And those letters to the kids---WTF!?!?!!11!
I am a single mother of an 18 y/o son and it's just been he and I since he was 2 and the relationship we have is AMAZING. I used to be an RN but had 2 back surgeries when he was young and wasn't able to go back to work except fo very short periods of time and now, not at all. I had the same struggles you did with wanting to be a stay-at-home mom, but HAD to work to make ends meet. I was eventually put on Disability, but it doesn't cover the bills all the time, and especially the medical ones. Be grateful you are able to work and provide for your family, as well as take care of your kids with the help of friends and "family", because it may not always be possible!!
One last comment and I'll stop boring you, but you are so lucky to have Dean, Patsy, Mehran, Scout, Billy, Jenny(s), and all the others who are your family! They seem like wonderful people and love you tremendously! Just remember, Candyland was never that great anyway!!! lol
Much Love, Robin

As a mother of 6 (yup, I said 6) I smile when I watch the kind of mother you are-- you remind me of me! I hope you take that as a compliment. You juggle work and home and family and partnership and spousal relationships quite well---better than a number of us who don't have our lives dissected by the media. Regarding your mother, mine is the same way. Always the martyr, cultivating the audience through which to affect "communication" is tough on the target--in this case, you. You will never be validated by her--loved, yes, but only to the level to which she can. I hope you keep it in mind as I have had to for 50 years (not afraid to say I'm 50- I'm also FABULOUS LOL.) She loves to the best of HER capability. Please begin to believe what is so very evident to the rest of the world: YOUR capacity to love and communicate and bond is extraordinary and is deeply felt, appreciated and reciprocated by your husband, your children, and your friends. Many Blessings to you and yours. C

Tori,

I just recently started watching your show...caught up watching OnDemand. I'm not into reality shows and have to admit your and Dean's is the first for me to watch. I laugh and cry with you. I'm sorry but I never watched 90210, but I think I've seen all your after 90210 movies...being a Christmas Nut I loved your take on Christmas Carol. Like a few other celebrity couples I am routing for you and Dean. You are very cute together and are seemingly very much in love. I hate it that you and your mother are not close and wish I had words of wisdom for that one, but I don't. I can not even imagine not having my mom in my life ever...well til now, since she recently passed away. It breaks my heart for you not to have that in your life. I'm glad you have Patsy though. Anyway...never done this before and don't even know if you'll actually read it, but good luck to you and your adorable family!

Tori,Dean,Liam and Stella, Patsy too! Love you Pasty:)
I am a Mom of 2 grown children happily married 27 years and I love your show so much. You guys are so in love and perfect for each other and those adorable babies are too cute for words. You guys are so much fun to watch with your big family you have around you. It is very refreshing to watch. I just watched your newest episode with your book tour and all the places you needed to be Wow! You guys are very busy and doing a great job keeping it together. When that fan that made you cry at your book signing was so touching, I started to cry too! I feel your pain about your situation with your Mom,and I have cried with you:( the only thing I can tell you being a Mom older and a littel wiser is don't regret anything because you can't take it back. Unfortunately, we only have one Mom and one dress rehersal here on earth.. I love you guys and the way you love each other:)
Hugs,
Robbie:)

Tori and Dean,
I just wanted to tell you that I love your show and I think you have accomplished your goal of being a very normal for Hollywood. Your kids seem very happy and well behaved for thier ages. My children are ironically only a couple of months older than each of yours so alot of the issues you deal with on the show I have or am dealing with at the same time. I if your book tours ever brought you close to my home I would be first in line to meet you. You both rock and I think you are doing a wonderful job with not only your kids but your life as well.

Tori,
I have to say that what the press was doing to you and in regard to your mom is disgraceful. Personally I feel what goes on between you and your mom is between you and your mom. I do not know why the world feels they are entitled to know and ambush you the way they do. I have to say and my husband and I both say, if we met you we would never ask that question. I think it is sad that even talk shows will not let it rest and realize that it really is non of their business. I think you handled yourself impecapbly, and you should be proud of yourself and the family you have built. Those who are true fans and friends are proud. I know how you feel I have dealt with very similar situations in my family life. That old saying "you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your relatives" is so true. Keep holding your head high. Who is right and who is wrong is not for public opinion

Hey, my husband and I watch your show all the time. We love you guys! Last nights show was a hard one to watch. I can't believe your mom actually wrote an open letter like that. I honestly feel for you and I personally know what its like. No one can give you advice on what you should do unless they know what its like to be in that position. My mom i that way as well! She is my mom and I love her but we are not close. My dad was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago and my mom didn't tell me and even though we weren't speaking that is something you should let someone know. My dad means so much to me and the way I finally found out is my great uncle on his side called me and told me if I wanted to say goodbye to my dad I should go see him asap. I was devastated. My mom had told everyone that I knew already and they thought I just didn't care. Thank GOD for my uncle knowing better. So I rushed to the hospital,where before entering my mother made me sign paapers swearing that I wouldn't tell my dad any of what she had done and I did because as angry as I was at her all I kept thinking about was the hurt my dad must have felt thinking I didn't want to see him. My heart broke into pieces when I walked into that room. He was so frail and thin and just didn't look like my dad. The cancer had spread and they said he wouldn't live through the night. I told him how much I loved him and how great he was and tried so hard to fight back tears to be strong and tell him he was going to beat this. He had been through three times the amount of radiation in three weeks as other people go through in three months. I sat there holding his hand and when he fell asleep I wrote him a poem and read it to him when he woke up. As tears rolled down his face,he said THANK YOU! and we said our I love you's. Six days later they let him go home. I was there and he told me I gave him the will to fight and he has been ever since. However my mom has once again made sure I can't come around. She portrays herself one way for others so it seems as if she tries so hard to make things work, yet she wants absolutely nothing like that! But like you I always will have hope and like you I am always getting hurt over and over. My husband hates to see me go through that over and over. I know the outcome yet I always hope for something different. I truly feel for you!! I also think you are a great mother and wife. You have a very big heart and alot of love for your family. All I wish for you is great things. Life isn't always easy and love is sometimes painful but you and Dean,Buggy,and Monkey will heal the pain the way only a family can!! Be happy and don't doubt yourself ever! Love and congrats on all your accomplishments in life!
Helana

I was never a fan of 90210 and I was attending UCLA when it was a hit. I remember the People Magazine cover when you both got married and thought...who cares, didn't she just get married last year?!

But, I caught a re-run show last season and found myself being a voyeur of your lives absolutely enjoyable. I'm a succesful business woman who has spent my youth travelling and enjoying my life. I'm recently got engaged (at 40) and look forward to having my own family.

It's so delightful to see all the relationship interactions on your show. I admire your marriage, and adore the love you share with your children and friends. We can feel it through the television. Thanks for being so vulnerable and real - all of you.

Thank you for providing simple entertainment when the world and life seems so complicated.

May you all have much success and many blessings!

Tori or other bloggers,

Where is the gold disc necklace from that you have worn on so many episodes? Myself and many others love it but have googled it and can't find any info on it.

Thanks again for letting me be part of your family and life each week!! You are an inspiration for all of us moms!!

Just wanted to offer my thoughts on Tori & her mom....
We are always seeking the approval of our mothers from the time we are little & throughout our entire lives. My mom passed away several years ago at the age of 84. One of the best & most special memories I have is of the day that she told me that I was a good mother & that I had done a wonderful job raising my 2 daughters (who are both educated & happy). On that day my mom, Sara, gave me the confirmation that I needed about my life.

Tori needs that approval in her life from her mom, especially now that she has Liam & Stella. Tori, I'm not your mom, but from where I sit you are doing an outstanding job with your kids, marriage & career. My best to you all.

Tori, Dean, Patsy, Liam, Stella,
i LOVE your show! It is my FAVORITE show in the entire universe!!!! Liam and Stella are the cutest babies in the world-make that universe. And Patsy is such a saint. A gift from heaven above. Dean, I cannot believe that you sold your motorcycles! Tori, I know exactly how you feel about the motorcycle-crash thing. I hate that he does it, too and I care about him and I don't want to see anything happen to him. Like you said, A family is nothing with out him. And Dean, I know you what your saying, too. I know how you feel. Nobody hears what your saying. No one's on your side. No one understands your side. But, on this, I'd have to be on Tori's side. Its so amazing to see Stella crawling and see Liam talking. I loved it when Dean and Patsy took him to the aquarium and he saw the sharks and he said, "Shark! Eat you!" It was so cute. And when you were in Vancover and Dean started dinner without you when you working on Mommywood, Dean told Liam that broccoli was a little tree. And he said, "Gross!" He was so cute! And so is Stella. I can't wait to see her with hair! Tori, I am SUCH a fan and you are MY IDOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I watched your old episodes of 90210 and the new.
I know your really busy, but try to email me at my email, I typed it in at the top to leave a comment. THANK YOU! DONNA MARTIN GRADUATES!!! LOL THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO

Tori and Dean,
LOVE the show I watch it every week. I have 3 kids and am a stay at home mom and wouldn't trade it for the world. I sympathize with the problems with your mom, as I have had very similar problems. My youngest is almost 4 and she has seen him a handful of times. But, recently we had a heart to heart (after the death of her mom) and are making little baby steps again. It is possible to reconnect and I will pray that you can with your mom. As much as they hurt us, I SO get the feeling that its still my mom!! And my husband is like Dean, wahtching out for me because he has seen me hurt too many times. But, they are our mothers, and we may never be able to let go. I hope that things will improve for you guys, and remember it takes time, and that's ok.

Hi Tori and Family,
I have to say, I watched 90210 as a teen and loved it, but I got sick and didn't watch a lot of the later season(s).. until the last season I watched a few. (Do you even read this stuff? LOL) ... Anyway - the only reason I am writing this is because I had to laugh when I realized that Liam is just a little older then my Nathan (aka Bug) and Stella is just a smidge older then my Kaedyn (aka Monkey) .. I thought that was halarious! Nathan is Bug because his "theme" had be been a girl would have been Lady Bugs (I love Lady Bugs) and because he was of the male variety I went with frogs. Kaedyn I decided early on his theme would be Monkey's and so when I started watching your show (just recently I admit, but I never miss it now) ... I have to admit I fell in love with your beautiful children and your family. You are such a strong woman, a wonderful mother, a great wife - you and Dean are terrific together. I was married once before and I totally understand what you meant when you said that you didn't know who you were before you met him, he's your soul, and everything else. That's how I feel about the man I am with now. Life before him was just motion and now I'm living! I have 4 boys, 2 from my first marriage, and the last two with him. We have an amazing family. We do everything and anything we can for them.
Great Love and Appreciation for sharing your life...
Annissa

Hi Tori and Dean,

I watch your show every week. My husband works evenings and I work days so I know how important it is when you do have the quality time together as a family. You are a real loving family. I wish your family all the best. Both of you are great for each other and I love the way Dean supports you emotionally, Tori (He is a keeper ;).....) You're both great parents and I take something with me everytime I watch your show. BTW, Canadians rock. I'm an ex-pat so I know what I'm talking about.

P.S. I love your kids (Liam reminds me of my little boy as they are around the same age).

Take Care and best Wishes....

Shay

I love your show and I watch it every tuesday night. I was mainly wondering if there is a website for your baby clothing line yet? I love your children clothing line and I wanted to see all the stuff that you have. I have a two year old little boy and hopefully one day I will have a little girl and I just love the clothing line. I have three other boys that are 6, 9, and 10 but I wouldn't think you would have clothes for them, would you? And girl I think you look good, so ignore the people who are just jealous that they can't look good after having kids.

Tori - love your show! Only recently did I start watching it, but I really enjoy that you are so down to earth! I have not read your books, but plan to very soon! I'm a single-mother of a 10 year girl who also loves the show! Keep at it with your Mom - things always have a way of working themselves out!

Tori,
I have read both your books and really enjoyed them. Especially Mommywood. I have a 17 year old and they do grow up fast. There were times I wasnt there for my son when he was in daycare but when you have to work like I do, you do what you have to do. Now he's getting his senior pictures taken for school. I love how down to earth you are and how much you love you kids.
Never listen to what Chelsea Handler says about you she looks drunk half the time!
Love your show.

Tori,

Please take care of Patsy. I have been going through the steps to have Gastric by pass for a year and a half. I still have another 10 pounds to loose this month before my next appointment before surgry is scheduled. I can't wait for the surgery. however it takes a long time and a lot of encouragement to get through it. I want Patsy to be around when these children get older.

I am only 47 and my son is 11 years old. I want to be able to start being a better parent. I want to be able to go bike riding, go to the beach, or even camping. I don't do anything right now being overweight.

These children love her. Please take care of her.

Tori,
I have watched you grow from 90210 to now and think that you have blossomed into a very beautiful woman, wholesome and so down to earth, and a woderful Mom! In this busy world that we live in, you have not forgotten what is important " the family" It is great to see such a celeb. live for the moment and to realize that life with family is the most important thing in life, and that our children are are gift!
i know that you and your mom do not have a good relationship, but she is your mother and always will be no matter what, but sometimes we do need to walk away no matter how much it hurts! My prayers are with you, that someday this to will pass for you and maybe you will never be as close to you mother as you wish, but that she will fit into your family somehow, someway, some day.

HI Tori,
I just wanted to say that I love your show and I look forward to watching it each week. I also have two kids, a boy and a girl, 4 and 2. My daughter is named Stella, too. I think it is so ridiculous how everyone is on your case about your weight...If you were 20 pounds heavier, they would probably be calling you fat and spreading rumors that you can't stop eating or something. You are a full-time working mom with 2 little kids...of course you are skinny....Do these people not realize how much time and effort it takes to work, take care of a house, and 2 kids? My family gets on my case too about being so skinny....So, I feel your pain because I know moms get no time for themselves!!! I wish people would realize that and leave you alone!!!

Hello. I love the gold necklace that you are wearing in the epsoide when you and Patsy go to the farmers market. Is it one of your designs? If not, can you please tell me where i can buy it. Thanks so much!!! Love your show!!

Hi Tori
I just wanted to tell you that I love your shows and both of your books. I would love for you to sign mine. As for your mother do you ever think that maybe she was jeolous over the relationship your father had with you growing up and she has never gotten over how close you and your father was. If she wanted to see her grandchildren she should make the effort private and not in the media.

Tori,
I have to say, you have grown into a well rounded person considering all the things that have gone on in your life. You are truly blessed with a wonderful, loving husband, children and friends. Remember you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. Also, You will love them but, you don't have to like them. You are a terrific mother and so hands on and it makes me think that just because you are raised in a certian lifestyle doesn't mean you can't be a loving and nuturing mother. Keep up the outstanding job and you will have the relationship you want with all of your children.

Kelly

Once again, another great show! I am looking forward to the next episode. I've read both your books and think they're great. Every episode is just as equally wonderful as your books. I think it has been tastefully done. I can see how your family struggles with issues just like anyone else when it comes to marriage and compromise or raising children. Your books follow in the same manner.

Tori I know what you have been through with your mom. It is funny how it is so important to a girl to be able to love our moms. I have had a turbulent relationship with my mom and was taken out of my grandparents home at the age of twelve. My mom was out of my life from that time until I was twenty-three and holding my darling little girl(who is now 18 almost 19).

I have learned that there are a couple of ways to deal with moms and the feelings we have about them. #1 We have got to forgive them for they know not what they do(for the most part). I know that my kids could probably write a book about me and I was a stay at home mom who loved being with my kids and put off getting her degree in Education until I was 39 and would not have done it any different...except now I have uncontrolled autoimmune arthritis and I can no longer teach. #2 You have got to decide if it is more important for your mom to be in your life or is it more important to have peace of mind without her in it. This is a decision only you can make.

I have to tell you...with my mom there is a lot of drama and that is just her...I have accepted that and for now I need her in my life with the drama. Now the mom that had guardianship of me from age twelve till I got married at age 22(and am now getting a divorce which is sad and hard). I have very little to do with her, because no matter how hard I try...she will never get the fact that she misjudged me tragically! The relationship is more stress that I can deal with. I know that is my choice and right now I will not call her, because I need love and support not judgement...I do the judgement thing all on my own as I know you do too.

I hope this helps...email me if you want to talk more. I read your mom's site and I don't think she will ever get it and that is sad, because I think you are a wonderful person and a wonderful mom. I also think she is missing something without having Dean in her life too. She needs to see how much he loves you and what a terrific relationship you have. I hope to have what you have someday!

Love and peace to you!

Hey Tori and the whole Family,
I really love your show!! I have a two year old daughter named Lily, who I think would be perfect for Liam when they grow up!!lol Lily watches your show and says," Liam, is Cutie Butt!!" I also find it funny that you call Stella, " Ladybug" and I call Lily," Lilybug"!!! By the way Lily loves monkeys too!! See it kissmate!! j/k
You got to tell me your secret on stretching yourself to do all those things you do, its amazing!! Your whole family is amazing!! Just enjoy raising your kids and having a wonderful husband and don't let anyone wreck that!!
Have a wonderful Life!!
Vicki

Hi tori,
I just started watching tori & dean Home Sweet Hollywood Before this season started. and now i watch it all the time. I love this show, It shows that just because you and your husband are actors that you have a normal life ( well as much as you can ,make it normal)Your such a good mom,a sweet person, & you can see how much you love your husband & how much he loves you. The way you look at each other.
I'm a single mother that works a full time job with 2 daughters so I know how you feel. But your do a great job, and your children love you and believe me you can see it.
One comment I would like to say is...
I wish the press could get off of you about your weight I think you look fine. As I watched how they kept asking you that questionI said to myself how dare they,u never ask a women about there weight!! I felt how disrespect that was.. I think you look the same as you always do, other then when you where pregnant,lol I grew up watching 90210 so...they need to lay off.

Tori,

I hear where you are coming from regarding your mother. I myself have had the same conflicts with mine. We are good now, but will never be close as a mother/daughter should be.
I see you with your children on the show and you should never worry if you are a good mom. You are a great mother, wife,and friend and maybe, just maybe your mother will learn from watching you with your children.
I wish you and your beautiful family all the best and hope your mother will grow up to be just like you some day soon.

Tori,
i just wanted to drop you a line and let you know that I love your show. I watched 90210 when I was younger and very fondly remember you in it. I am very anxious to read your books. No, I haven't read either one yet, but I am a mother of 3 (a 4 year old daughter and 7 month old twins), and being a single income family in this tough economy we have right now, money is tight, however I am literally saving pennies so that I can buy your books and read them. I look forward to each episode and want you to know that I admire you for all that you accomplish in each day. Keep working hard for what you believe in and you will reap the benefits.
Smiles! April

Tori,

Not all people are born with great parenting instincts. And some of us are actually born with really, really bad parenting instincts. When we are, we sometimes get lucky enough to learn those skills by trial and error along the way, or we are taught how to love a child unconditionally by a loved one who has the patience and love to teach us - and not give up on us.

Your mother never learned how to be a great mother. I don't know why - she doesn't have the mothering genes? her mother didn't show her unconditional love? she didn't any role model to learn from? - but those are the cards your mom was dealt at birth. Not her fault, just her destiny.

But you, Tori, were given this gift.... You are a fabulous mom, an instinctively loving wife and a great and loyal friend.

So....

You can continue to be stuck where you are - a daughter whose distance effectively gives up on her mother, feels hurt, and sees only her own disappointment that her mom wasn't born a better mom -

Or...

You can accept your mom, failings and all, and by doing that show your mom the unconditional love that you really would like to receive back from her in return...

It only takes a first step. But not a public, in the media, with the cameras, first step. A very private first step with just two people in the room - you and your children knocking on her door direcly - and not relying on phone messages or emails..

Then, just hug her. She is dying for a hug from you, Tori. No matter what you think she is saying. Trust me. And everything will flow naturally from there.

By taking that first step, and having her spend time privately with you and your family, your mom will see what a mother's unconditional love feels and looks like between a mother and child by being around you and your family.

And then, who knows?

Your mom may learn how to be a better mother, by having you to show her the way.

Tori and Dean,

I want to give you a lot of credit for the way you are raising your children. It is obvious that they mean the world to you. You follow the philosophy I have always tried to follow: "Live your life as your children are watching." You do that, and you should be proud of yourselves for that.

Keep up the great work with your family. Enjoy every minute with your children because they grow up way to fast.

Recently became a fan of the show...I love the interaction between Dean and Tori. When Tori talks about meeting her soulmate...you know she believes it with all her heart. Tori talked about needing a translator for 2 year old talk, so do the shows producers. In the scene at the end where Dean tells Liam to say Mimi....the translation says...FERRIS..he actually said....FLOWERS. Thats where his focus was.

Tori-

I watched Liams 2nd Birthday episode with my two year old tonight. It was so cute my son kept getting excited about everything he saw. Kept saying vroom vroom and jumping at excitement about the cars. He likes the Truck you pushed the kids around in. He loved the Big Elmo. My kids are exactly the same age as yours. I think you look terrific. I also read your book shortly after it came out on a business trip. My only time to read on a plane. It it is hard being a working mother of two babies. You are motivating to make me a better mom and wife. I wish I knew your baby weight loss secret. Best of luck to you.

I love your show Tori! You are very lucky to have such a great husband and two healthy adorable kids! I am a stay at home mom of four kids and watching your show is a inspiration to me! You are always so busy but you always make time for your children! My youngest son is close in age to Liam and he is going through the terrible 2's also!! God bless you and your family!

Hi Tori, well I'm the daughter of parents who DIDN'T come to my wedding and for 13 years chose to not have me or my two kiddos in their lives (5 yrs old and 2). I watched tonight's episode and these are the same conversations I have with my friends. My saga has gone so far that My dad passed away 2 years ago and I didn't find out until 6 months ago..my mom didn't want me to know. So be blessed in a weird sort of way that the media will keep you in touch. What do we do with our moms? It's passive aggressive, painful and at the end of the day it's not about US but our kids. Grandkids are innocent! Luckily mine have another set of unconditional loving grandparents that will be there for them no matter what. Be blessed by friends and realize that sometimes it is our own family that is unhealthy to be around. I still cry for my mom..no visit to the hospital for births, no bday cards for my kids, no relationship BUT that is their choice to be left out and you cannot blame yourself (though a lifetime of guilt will always leave us feeling this way). Well, good night and know you are not alone.

Hi Tori,
First I just wanted to say that I am impressed with how real and normal you seem to be. Given your childhood you would expect a stuck up brat but instead you are very down to earth. Second, I can totally relate to the mother issue. My mother did not want a girl and so I grew up being raised by my grandparents even though she decided to keep my younger brother. She does not contact me now and does not care about seeing her two grandchildren. I sometimes go years without seeing her. My kids would probably not even recognize her on the street. I think my worst moment came years ago. My brother was in his twenties and so was I and our birthdays are two days apart. He was living with me and she called and when I answered the phone she said that she wanted to wish him happy birthday but didnt say anything to me about mine. Everyone has always acknowledged that she just never wanted me. I know how you feel. I have learned though that with the help of the other members of my family I am able to cope. It is hard though when you see others so close with their mothers and you wonder what it must be like. At least I do. I guess I will never understand what could push any mother away from her child. I have a daughter and a son and we get along fine. Hang in there. I know its hard and unless you are in the same position its hard for others to understand how you feel, believe me.

Hey Just wanted to say that I enjoy your show. I understand where you are coming from about your relationship with your mother. Right now I am having some issues with my Mother as well as with my Father. It hurts to know that they forget that its not only you that is effected by this that there is grandchildren involved. I agree with you on that you will never get those 9 months back with your dad. That is where I am at right now. We are the children (even though we are grown up) they are the parents but they act like the kids. Well keep up the good work as a mother and wife.

Tori,
I've read both of your books and just had to buy your Mom's to see what she said. You had fond memories of the shells on the beach and she didn't get it right in her book. She seems a bit flaky. And she wants you to return her recipies??? "Note to Tori". Really...
Yours is my fav show. Love your gays (I have mine too) and the kids are so cute!

Tori,
I have nothing in common with you except that you are an awesome mom and you NEED to stop beating yourself up about the great job you are doing NOT as a business women but as a mom--you are achieving both and from someone who was not in the postion to do that you are a wonderful role model--so you go girl!! And STOP worring that you are doing anything that is bad for your beautiful children! Good Luck!
Jen Campbell

Tori, I wasnt a 90210 fan, BUT your show Tori&Dean.... LOVE IT!!!Also just wanted to say to you.... As a mother of 2 daughters and a grandma of a grandson and a new one due in November.... You are a Great Mother and a Great WIfe.Please NEVER second GUESS what you should do or shouldnt do...dont sweat the small stuff...enjoy your family.......I understand about not spending time with your dad in the last months... My dad passed away unexpected and i was never able to tell him all i wanted to tell him.....when he did pass my mom was like the enemy to me it took over 3 years for my mom and me to even be in the same room together.. I wont say it will get easier with you and your mom BUT dont let it get you down.. go on with everything good in your life, enjoy life.....especially those two beautiful children of yours.......
penny.....

I want to say I understand where Tori is coming from.She and I try not to get hurt by our mothers.But no matter what we do it comes back to stab us in the back.I never kept my kids from seeing my mom,but she says otherwise.I wanted to say to matter what you say or do it will come back to bite you in your butt.But do not give up ( I never have)she will never be the mother you want,but she will never be the only one,you think about the of older females in your life.They will be there for you,like a mother should be.You also have amazing husband,and two (2) amazing and beautiful children.They will never go with out knowing the love you have for them.

Tori,

I am just now in the process of watching this weeks episode of your show. I just wanted to let you know I know how you feel about all this tension brought up regarding you and your mother. I know the pain that you feel. I have a similar situation in my family. I have had a relationship with my father since he walked away from us when I was 15. I tried to fix things but finally came to the realization that if I wanted to be happy I needed to "Severe the ties" as Dean said. You will always love your mother as I will always love my father. In the long run you need to do what is best for you and your family. I know how the confusion and the hurt you feel would be so much easier if it were not in your face everyday. I am talking about the press of course. You have to find a place in yourself where you can put this away and give you some kind of peace in your life. I know it is hard with all the press and I feel for you every time I see a reporter or a talk show host bring up this pain part of your life. I want to reach out and strangle them and I want to reach out to you and give you a big comforting hug. You can always leave that door open a crack just in case the time comes where the two of you can come to some kind of reconciliation or if need be closure. All your friends with there opinions, should keep them to themselves. I always say walk a mile in my shoes before you can actually sit there and tell me how I should handle this delicate situation.

You are a great mother and you amaze me when I watch you balance family and work. You are a very strong woman. You have good man that loves and adores you and two of the most adorable kids I have seen besides my daughter of course.

Keep up the good work.

Tori,
After watching your show all day and having a difficult week myself, I decided I just want someone to talk to that can understand where I'm coming from. I have never attempted to contact a celebrity before and I'm simply at the end of my rope. I see you as one of the realest people in Hollywood. I'v been keeping track of all the stuff going on with your mom and I know it's probably the last thing you want to talk about after the press has been all over it. I know what it's like to have that distance with a parent. My dad left when I was 6 years old. He was very angry and abusive and the pain he caused me both physically and emotionally was, at times, absolutely unbearable. I grew up with a whole in my heart where my dad should have been. I am now 17 years old and we have not been in a room together for 6 years. I did everything I could to make him proud to be my father and he had no interest. He did, however, have relationships with my two older sisters.
Last week my sister had her second beautiful baby boy... and my dad showed up. I became that 6 year old little girl again begging for her daddy's affection. He now says he has attempted to be in my life all along and he wants it now more than anything. I just don't know how I feel about it..it's like I'm finally getting what I always wanted. But I don't want to be the one hurting again. I would love to be able to talk to you about it and possibly go through this challenging journey together.
Thanks for being you.

Hi Tori. I truly do feel for you in your relationship with your mom. I personally have a wonderful relationship with my mom, but there have been times when we've disagreed and have gone weeks without speaking. I've always been the one that needed to buckle down and make the first move back to reconciliation. Maybe it's a generational thing, maybe it's pride ... whatever it is, if you can make the decision to view your mom as a person, instead of your mother, you may find the strength to reach out to her and repair a small portion of that bridge that got burned long ago. Some parents just don't have the capability to be the nurturers that we see in other parents. You have a big heart and are capable of accepting people for who they are. If you dig deep enough, you may find a piece of yourself that will be able to maintain some kind of relationship with your mother that will benefit you, her and your children. I wish you love, strength and happiness in all that you do and to your family.

Tori, I have never seen an episode of 90210 or any of the old stuff. I started watching your show a couple months ago when my daughter-in-law gave me a copy of your book. I loved the book and now watch (or record) every episode. I love that you are such a kind person and cherish your children so much. Your inner beauty makes you beautiful on the outside as well. Keep on doing what you're doing and hold your head up high. As a grandmother of twelve gorgeous grandkids I would tread the oceans to see anyone of them.

Tori,

I am a big fan and I admire you and your family. You are great! Keep up the great work and stop stressing so much. You do a great job at balancing everything in your life. Koodo's to you and Dean! I hope you come to Chicago for a book signing tour. You are usually in L.A. or New York but it would be great to have you and the family here in Chi-town. I would love to have my books signed by you. I love you guys!

Tori,
I just read your 2nd book! i love it and i love your show i am officially hooked. i have a 10 month old little girl, and there are many things in your MOMMYWOOD book that you talk about that i can relate too, thank you. especially the weight issue ( even though you look beyond fabulous i am jealous) i was a 5 before i got pregnant and struggling to get back to that. But like Liam, my little girl had fibril seizures, it was the scariest thing of my life, and at the time i was by myself. horrifing! anyways you are a beautiful person inside and out and and beyond wonderful mother. You should worry less about making the tragic mistakes your mother made and enjoy your children and husband and your fantastic life. i know it must be extremely hard not having your mother around and then dealing with all the horrible things she did to you and now to your children, but you should try to move past her and be the bigger person. your children have more than enough people to love them that they wont miss her!! enjoy your life and children and relax a little you have no reasons at all to second guess yourself so much and feel self conscious. i am getting ready to watch the new show now. good luck with all your success and your beautiful family. you deserve all this and much more =)

Tori, I am watching the episode where Dean crashed and I want you to know I felt like I was watching myself react while watching you. I would have done the exact same thing, I would have said the same things and I would have wanted him to WANT to stop riding. I totally get you in this episode. Being a mom changes the way you look at everything and the way you react. It's a commercial now so I am anxious to see how it ends. I get this one so much!!

Pam

Tori,
First just want to say its great that you put being a mother as your number 1 priority. I just have one thing that has been bothering me watching your show (whether this behavior is for ratings or not...) him being gone for a few weeks, or riding bikes is NOT something to work yourself up over. I am a PROUD wife of a soldier who has been serving in Iraq for 16 month.. SIXTEEN MONTHS! He risks his life everyday because he loves serving his country.. HE LOVES IT. He loves his children and his wife and his job. This is the life I chose to live because I know it seperates me from the average person.. I am stronger and prouder than the average woman because I am married to a man who risks his life every single day and spends years at a time apart from his 15 month old son (who he has only seen twice.) Please not i am NOT bashing you, just would be nice to see someone on TV put their lives in perspective and realize how LUCKY they are that your husband is only a phone call away, or just at work for a day or even only up to a few weeks.. YOU ARE LUCKY. Anyways, I do enjoy the show and your kids are adorable.. but seriously.. please cut a little drama and put your amazing life in perspective.

I love ur show so much and I just wanted to tell u are a great person and a wonderful mother. On your last season u used to beat down on yourself because u thought you were not going to have a special bond with your beautiful babygirl because of your history with your mom but look at yourself know you have two beautiful kids and a wonderful husband that loves you and I admire you because i just dont know how you handle your self with two kids your career flying here there and you always find a way to take care of everything I have two boys one 5 and one 2 and sometimes i just panic with all that i have to do with them. I just want to say god bless you and your family and i love u guys!!!!!

I love you SO much Tori and Dean! It's amazing to see Liam talking!!! Love it when he screams "Babe!!"...
Hope you are having a great summer!!
Danielle =)