Best Show Ever! You nguys rock!

Best Show Ever! You nguys rock!

also I would like to know where I can get a copy of all your dvds from your shows.I don't like when you are not on tv.

Tori and Dean you have a great family and a nice house. I really love watching your show. When are you coming back on and are more kids coming soon.

Tori and Dean you have a great family and a nice house. I really love watching your show. When are you coming back on and are more kids coming soon.

You'll be divorced in a few years. I mean really what couple that has had a reality show stay together? the Osbournes are the ONLY ones. You're a trainwreck-an airhead trainwreck. And your hubby's a doofus-he'll leave you in a few when he tires of your whining.

when do you come back on tv. what time and when does the new season start. its a need to know because you are my favorite show.

May I add a P.s. some people can make babies and not know how to be a mother/father. Others can have no blood but be the best inspiration, support system ,nurturer, and give unconditional love! That's true family!

Tori and Dean,
Let me say u two are fantastic together and have a beautiful family! Tori I am 40 I have 6 kids, 3 of wich thier sperm donors have nothing to do with them, but they have a wonderful dad who loves and cares for them. My kids finally learned that I got really exhausted chasing thier father with no result and learned to let it go as his loss forever! While I would do anything to have Tinks wand and create some magic(because I know that it cuts them deep)I can't. Don't live exhausted and dissapointed enjoy what you have and cherish your memories your kids have a wonderful big family and a great support system and they will have wonderful memories to cherish! As for your mom let it be her loss forever-after all it's her choice, not yours. We all know your choice, but unfortunately you cant choose for her so as painful as it is for you just let her be the one to loose in the end! A loyal fan since 90210, and a caring mother and friend who has played this game too long wich only causes more heartache for you and eventually your kids! hugs to all!

Here is my opinion. And it is just that, an opinion. I don't believe any of "us" are in a position to judge Tori for her decisions concerning her mother. The thing is, none of us where there when their relationship, or lack there of, happened. Therefore all we have to go on is what we hear. Reality? Not much of what we hear is factual. My ppersonal experience with my own mother has taught me that we can only control the actions of ourselves. She knows how her mother is, yet still holds out hope for a relationship. It's her ideas of what a mother should be that keeps her hope alive. Not what her mother will actually do. I had to make a decision in my life, that I knew would affect my children's lives, but had to make it nonetheless. I asked myself if I was happier with my mother in my life or happier without her in my life. It took me a long time to honestly answer that question. When I realized that I would forever be let down and constantly upset over something she did or didn't do- I knew that I would be happier without her in my life. I know I can never change her and I would have to accept her and all her flaws as she is. It was something I had to come to terms with on my own. I don't think it's fair that any of us spectators in Tori's life should ridicule her for holding out hope, or wanting her mother to be someone that she isn't. But I do think that she is consumed by it, and it's something that she thinks about so often that it's eating her up. Once she can finally answer her own question of Is she happier with her in her life or without- she will never be able to truly live. It's not easy for a woman to "cut the cord"... But it's also not healthy to stress out over something so much that it eats you alive. With Dean and the Gunkles and Maran and so forth, she has built a truly wonderful family. One she can be proud of. You shouldn't have to work for love from a parent, nor should a parent have to work for love from a child. Blood relatives does not mean they aren't mean or horrible people. We are all born into families that we didn't choose. Some of us are lucky and some of us end up with a sour taste in our mouths. It's what we choose to do about it that makes us better people. I don't think Tori is a bad person for not having a relationship with her mom... If Candy wanted to see those babies, nothing short of a bullet would keep her from them. Irregardless of her relationship with Tori. I truly believe that Tori is past the anger of her youth, and is looking for her children to the relationship with Candy that she didn't have. There's nothing wrong with that... But I have learned that the connection and bond is not automatic. Just because they are biologically her granchildren doesn't mean she feels the overwhleming sense of love and protection. It could be, that she just isn't the grandma type. Or the mothering type. Who knows. What I think, doesn't matter, but I wish Tori could find peace with it. It's a subject I know SO well. I wish I could help her, and guide her with my experiences to help her make the best decision for HER. The rest will fall into place. I hate seeing her chastized for not knowing what to do. It's not something that is easily decided.
Thank you-
Amy

Hi Tori and Dean:
I love your show you 2 are very strong to air most of your life on t.v. Tori-I only knew you from 90210 and happened to see your show and of course could not stop watching I'm a few years older. It's just that I have the exact mother problem as you-I now exactly what it feels like when the "Grandmother" misses b-days, etc. I have 3 boys 17, 14, 10. She has missed out on most of their lives because her and my (not) stepfather like to "relax". I have been heartbroken and devasted for years my husband had to also see me very hurt all the time-people told me the exact same things they tell you - the other day I asked God what to do cause the hurt and tears are too much and I have other hurt too, something had to go-all of a sudden I was writing to myself and wrote I might as well bury you, well I had never thought of that - I wrote her a letter exrpessed mailed and return reciept don't know if she read it but I've decided they have moved to say Costa Rica, I live in MA. Just wanted you to know I feel the the exact sadness as you (sorry it's really hard). I hope I am strong enough to stick with what I wrote, I too miss my mother so much and am so sad for my boys, but it is her loss that she must live with. L-Cheryl.

Tori and Dean,
I love the show! It is my favorite thing to watch!You guys are so blessed to have each other and those two beautiful children! I also have a wonderful husband and 3 beautiful children. I also have a mother similar to yours.The two youngest ones recently had a birthday and she didnt get them anything at all. Not even a Happy Birthday. Which was heart breaking for me probably more then them because they have no relationship with her anyhow. Keep up the good work, you guys are such an inspiration!

Love Melissa

OKay Tori you are like the highlight of my day!!! i spent 5 hours STRAIGHT just watching your show!!! you are a great mom and i absolutely LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!

Watching you commitment to each other made my heart fill with happiness for you 2, and yes I cried. I am VERY happy for you, and I know in my heart, you will be parents soon! Please, Please give Miss Tori, & Mr Dean a hug for me. I have become a new fan of the show, and am hoping for a season 5. Anyway, I am soooo *&*&#@# at Mrs Candy for not showing up for her grand daughters b-day, I just wanted to reach through her guarded gate and pull her by her hair, just to bring her there to see these 2 beautiful children. But I couldn't my hand's wouldn't fit through the tv (I tried), lol. I just knew this evil woman wouldn't show up, it was all an act, getting Miss Tori's hopes up, then turning her back on her. A true, loving, real Mom/ grandmom would not have done that. I have 3 grand children and no matter if my daughter and I are angry with each other or not, I would never hurt my grand babies. Can you let Miss Tori & Mr Dean,know that I would be more than happy to be a granma to their babies. Oh and I have been in Miss Tori's shoes when it comes to parents not wanting you, she just needs to think about her babies, her husband, her "best friends" and her work, and stop it with the "evil candy" it's not good for her health. Please trust me on that. Oh my goodness I think I babbled on enough. Now it's your turn to write back. Love to you all (the real people) MommaLynn xoxo

Tori,

I wanted to let you know I love, love, love your show, my daughter and I watch it together all the time, repeats and all. I am a mother of three children, 11, 9 and 3 and you give me aspiration of being a good Mom, you have given me great ideas, for birthday parties, the types of food you feed your children,(loved your homemade baby food) or the one on one time you spend with them and your husband. I have to say I agree with you to try and mend things with your Mom, your Mom is always going to be your Mom life is too short. I can certaintly speak from experience , I didnt have a great relationship growing up with my Mom , but as I got older and had children , it all changed. There is hope and I wish you luck and cant wait to see the next season, I think you are a great Mother and Wife...ps my 3 year old giggles at the part when you and Dean say "love ya babe", to each other he loves that part and I saw that to him. Thanks for the great shows you are a very kind person.

Karen

Tori,
I just finished watching your show Stella's first birthday, and family night dinner. I just want you to know that I Love you and your family sooooo much. I cried and cried and cried. Not just sad tears but also Happy tears too! You are the best.
I did not have a very good relationship with my Mom it was always a Love Hate one.Cancer took my Mother away from me but before it did when she was still coherent in the hospital we looked at each other and without either of us speaking the Big Guy upstairs erased all of the wasted years of hurt that the two of us put each other through.
I am praying Tori that your Mother will come through for you,Dean and her Grandchildren before it is to late.
Keep up the good work on making such Beautifull children Dean and Tori!!
A Devoted Fan
Jeri-Kaye
Love you all

HEY TORI IM SURE YOU WILL NEVER READ THIS OR REPLY AND I NEVER EMAIL NE STAR...BUT I REALLY LIKE YOUR SHOW MY GRANDAUGHTER IS THE SAME AGE AS LEIM SO FUNNY WHEN HE WAS HITTING SO WAS MY AMBREANA AND HIS MOODS SO THE SAME....JUST WANT TO SAY I LOVE THE SHOW .....BUT MAKE IT MORE ABOUT ALL YOU AND NOT SO MUCH ABOUT YOUR MOM ....I FEEL SO BAD FOR YOU ...KEEP THAT PRIVATE TILL ITS ALLL GOOD ...CANT WAIT TO SEE THE KIDS NEXT SEASON......XOXO

Tori and Dean, when I watch your show I can't help but think how lucky those of us who find our soul mates really are. My husband and I like the two of you are so much in love (after 18 years) that I can not imagine being without him. We were not as lucky as you to have children but we are blessed with each other and the life we have together. Tori, like you, I have an estranged relationship with my mother and blame myself and feel guilt, anger, and resentment everyday. Although there will always be that struggle with the relationship I wake up each day and recognize the blessings I have and have learned to not waste to much time on the guilt or anger. Life is too short. Dean, I know you live by the same motto my husband does. 'a happy life means a happy wife' or the other way around, you decide. Take care.

Tori, you are an inspiration to me. I am a fulltime working mother who is always asking myself if I am doing the right thing by working. My husband, like yours, is very supportive and is always telling me, you wouldn't be happy not working and I know he is right I love my job. You inspire me and help me realize I can be "Super-mom" just as you are. Thank you for being an inspiration to me.

Hey you guys!! I just wanted to say me and my family watch your show and we love it!!Im so happy for you and dean.I wish you all the best!!YOUR KIDS ARE SO CUTE!! CONGRATS!!

Hey T and Deano!! You guys are FABULOUS parents...I love your show and DVR every episode so i dont miss a thing! You 2 give me the hope that there is a "Happily Ever After!" I watched the surprise Valentine's Day episode, and man i tell you when i saw the look on Dean's face when he looked deep into your eyes Tori..it made my heart go pitter-pat!! To see a couple so in love with each other and in love with their children is just amazing!! I love all the cheezy corney things you guys do as a couple to make eachother smile and your kids laugh and it reminds me so much of my husband and my kids who are my world! I dont care how many times you guys have been married, who cheated on who or how many kids there is from other marriages...the important thing is you found your Soul Mates, you made beautiful babies and you show that even though you are "Stars" you are normal!..baby poop, dog poop, terrible 2's and family spats..its all real!! You are REAL and feel like my family even though we have never met. Please come back for another season! Keep supporting eachother! And to "christian" idiot who's judging you...pi$$ off! Jack, Liam and Stella are beautiful! They are very blessed to have such loving parents! I wish i could meet you and i will be buying your book soon and can't wait to read it!! And most of all, mostly for Dean...ALWAYS support your wife in every decision she makes..supporting doesnt meant agreeing, It means LOVING!! Good luck to the two of you, ALL of your children, to Patsy and her goal for health, to your show for success and to your friends for always loving you for who you are! And you GUNCLES ROCK!!!! Good luck on your new lives together and for the search of your baby together!!! You will be excellent parents! XOXO

hey tori, i have a question for you? after you did the first 90210 show back in the 90's. where did you get your idea for your jewerly line & why did you decide to pick the hsn to sell it on ? from your biggest fan laura

Has anyone thought of what might be best for the children? Tori if you don't want a relationship with your mother thats your decision, but it might in the best interest of your children to allow them to know their grandmother. Life is too short and they grow up fast. It seems Candy would be more receptive if visits were done in private and not related to your tv show. Also, if you don't want to see your mother, have a friend take them for visits with her. Dean, it seems as if you are encouraging Tori to not have a relationship with her mother. I'm just saying how it's coming across to viewers of your show. All in all, I do enjoying watching your show and appreciate your senses of humor. You both seem like good parents.

I love the show I was a huge 90210 fan. Well still am i was so excited to hear you were gonna be on new 90210. I love Donna & Kelly yall are awsome. I pray that you and your mom can somehow make up. Don't let the media win blood is stronger than anything. My grandparets are long gone but i was very close to them and miss them so much. My brother and sister are 18 years younger than me and they did not get to know our grandparents like I did and I feel they missed out on so much. They have no feel of where our dad is from and how he was raised. I hope your kids don't have to go thru that. you have a beautiful family and i hope for you all that youand your mom can make amends. Dean is awsome he loves you so much you are a lucky lady

Tori And Dean,

I too am a Gunkle of over 21 neieces and nephews. Your show is an inspiration to other gay couples. You do not hide anything and your share your life with some of the most amazing people. A few years back I decided in my life that it would be drama free. Anyone who was negative ie my father and stepmother that I dismissed them from my life. It has been 3 years now and no drama. It does hurt sometime during birthdays and holidays but he does not accept my lifestyle or my partner Darin of 9 years. We have never had a commitment cermony but after watching your show it make me want to do it now more than ever. Even though your children love chocolate you and them may need to make your life "Candy" free.

Live, Love, Laugh!

You Biggest Orlando fan,

Tim

I am not a tv person. I really only watch it when my boyfriend has to work the nightshift because I cannot sleep until he gets home. I fell in love with this show. Tori reminds me so much of myself. I watched her in 90210. I never really followed her other than reading People magazine every once in a blue moon. I was aware of her marriage to Dean,and I knew about the children they had, but I never realized how special all of them are together. The children are beautiful and adorable. I pray you will have many more. You both have beautiful babies and are fantastic parents. I know it's rough thinking about having more when the children you have are so young, but when you are older, you will be greatful you did. As for Tori's situation with her mom, my situation was very similar. I just want to say, it is Tori's mom's loss. She is not only missing out on a life with such precious grandchildren, but she is also turning her back on her daughter. I know the money is a comfort to people like that, but we don't take our money with us when we move on. We take our memories and our love. I pity her. I think Tori and Dean are such a great support to eachother. I have a big heart too, and Dean behaves the same way my boyfriend does. They don't understand sometimes, but the truth is they love us so much, they just don't want to see us get hurt and taken advantage of. It hurts them because they love us so much. When we get hurt for going out on a limb that they advised us not to go out on, and we really need a big hug because we tried and failed, they get mad, and that really hurts, but they do not mean to hurt us. I'll go on forever if I do not cut this short now. Please, have more babies and bring Patsy back. I love her as well. I,too,had to develop a new family cause of the lack of mine. She's your mom, and your two friends are your brothers. It is so sad that we have to go find other people to be our family when we are born into one, but I also learned that our created family is truly our family. They are there because they want to be not because they are forced to be. They are there because they truly love us. God bless all of you!

Tori, I have been watching your show for the past three years. You and Dean have a beautiful family. Your children are adorable and they need their Grandmother. Please be the bigger person and meet with her in private.
I had a wonderful mother and my kids had a wonderful grandmother. She has pass on now, and believe me there is not a day my heart doesn't ache for her.
Give your children a chance to meet your mom in private. They need her as much has she needs them. Life is short. Make the best of it with her.

Hi I just want to say that I love this show. I think Tori is a Great mom and I only wish I could be like that. I also want to say that her mom Candy is just so disrespectful. How can she be a mother? I have a 4 year old, and I don't think I could ever stop talking too her. Tori if you read this.. Just give up on her. She is not worth your tears. You have Dean, Liam, and Stella they are the most important. Its Candy's loss..

Tori and Dean, I have to say I have a whole new respect for the two of you and your family, the kids are great and you two seem so happy together, I have been there with my dad, as you are with your mother, I have to admit, Tori, I feel your pain about wanting your mother around, however, I think that deep down your mother is a publicity #&@% and this keeps her in the tabloids, she obviously doesn't care about you or your family, she is just a bitter old woman, someone who needs to find ways to stay in the press since your fathers passing, You need to know that you and dean have a huge fan base, and again I have such respect for you and dean and life you guys are creating for you children.

Keep up the awsome job and I hope the show runs as long as you two want it run.

love your biggest fan

hi there tori!!just thought i would drop a few lines and just say hi.with all the drama in your life and in mine people sometimes just need to breath.i don't have alot to offer but one thing i do for myself just to get away is right my back yard.see i we are like most folks right now struggling with everyday bs that i will get me a cup of coffee or a good stiff drink and walk outside in my backyard and look over the ridge we live on and just breath and clear my head.everyone needs to take some time for them selves.my husband and me have raised our kids,never had a vacation,and so to keep from going crazy we do what we have to do.i thought by writing you and you hearing what i go threw to clear my head you could feel better and not get so stressed out .you and dean are good people not just super stars but actual down to earth good people.sometimes the ridge in tennessee helps you to breath maybe you can find that ridge there,don'
t know if there is cause i have never been there lol lol.....take care and remember "BREATHE"

hi there tori!!just thought i would drop a few lines and just say hi.with all the drama in your life and in mine people sometimes just need to breath.i don't have alot to offer but one thing i do for myself just to get away is right in my back yard.see we are like most folks right now struggling with everyday bs that i will get me a cup of coffee or a good stiff drink and walk outside in my backyard and look over the ridge we live on and just breath and clear my head.everyone needs to take some time for them selves.my husband and me have raised our kids,never had a vacation,and so to keep from going crazy we do what we have to do.i thought by writing you and you hearing what i go threw to clear my head you could feel better and not get so stressed out .you and dean are good people not just super stars but actual down to earth good people.sometimes the ridge in tennessee helps you to breath maybe you can find that ridge there,don'
t know if there is cause i have never been there lol lol.....take care and remember "BREATHE"

Tori and Dean,
I'm addicted to your show. You guys are real, and don't fake it for the cameras. I think thats great. I was wondering how you came up with Little Maven? Maven is such a cute name. Anyway, thanks for being real, and Dean, you are a great representation of how husbands really are.
I hope you guys have another season!

i think that tori n dean shuld bring the kidz ova to her momz house. if she chooses not to #&@% out n c them then there is your answer tori,she obviously has no interest in being in your childrens life.STOP invitin her to all your partys.

Hello Tori, I have to say I love the show! You have an amazing family and are a joy to see. I'm not trying to sound mean but I seriously think your mother is Bi-Polar and out of touch with reality. I just can't think of any other reason why she would act like she is, take for instance the birthday invite where she RSVP'd and sounded so excited and then out of nowhere changed her mind? Weird. I think you should just go over there and hash it out woman to woman. If she's mad at you there is no sense trying to get her to see your kids until her issues with you are resolved. She may want to see her grandkids but she can't get past whatever issues she has with you. Sorry but I wanted to get that out there. You may have to be the bigger person and confront her personally. Don't wait for an invitation just go. Love you guys and can't wait until next season!!

Hey u two, love watching ur family grow.. u r an inspiration to so many people looking to find love , and although in my very early 40s hope some day even on my dying day, that person that looks @ me like u and dean look @ each other.. that would b an awesome feeling.. Dont get me wrong have two awesome kids one seving in iraq and one 11.. I am very blessed, and despite ur mom issues u both r very lucky and so r all ur children.. good job .. cant wait till the show airs again.. till then keep it up u inspire more people than u know...

WHAT THE HELL IS A GUNCLE?
THE FANILY IS A MESS.
EVERY WEEK --MORE BS AND STUPID THGINGS TO WHINE ABOUT!
GAY UNCLES--DRUNK FRIENDS--A HUSBAND WHO CHEATED ON HIS WIFE AND LEFT HER TO GO WITH TORI--2 KIDS FROM ANOTHER MARRIAGE THAT WE NEVER SEE OR HEAR ABOUT---2 SPOILED KIDS FROM THIS MARRIAGE--A TOTAL WASTE OF MONEY EVERY WEEK--A GRANDMA WHO WANTS NO PART OF THE FAMILY---PATSY LEAVING--THE DOG DYING---THE NEW HOUSE--DEANS BIKES--AND LIAM HITTING EVERYONE.
IF THAT WAS ANYWHERE NEAR NORMAL--WE WOULD ALL HAVE SERIOUS PROBLEMS!

Tori, just pack up the little ones, drive over to your Mom's and start anew. Life is to short, so live it to the fullest. Love to you all.

Tori-
HI Tori! I'm sorry how things are going with your mother, I couldn't imagine how it wiould feel to not have your own mom involved with not only your but your childrens lives. I want you to know that I think you're an amazing person and an excellent role model for so many woman out there. I'm 22 and just became a mommy, it's been hard, but seriously you have inspired me so much! You've inspired me to be a better person not only for me but for my daughter Pyper. I hope that I can be half the mom that you are to your children to my own daughter. Thank you for being you and allowing all of us to see your everday life and experiences--you have a beautiful family and such a great spirit!
thank you Tori!
xoxo Amber
i cant wait for the next season!

Tori, I know this is long, but I hope you read it to the end! I want you to know I've had so much respect and admiration for you for the last two decades. I remember first hearing about you with the bad press of 90210 (yes, high school). I ignored the press and judged you for myself - and my interpretation was that you were a sweet, good person, with an awesome sense of style! I think people want to judge you harshly because you were born into money, while most of us aren't. I don't know why people are so envious - you didn't choose your lot in life any more than the rest of us did. We are the same age, and I have to say, that, in our thirties, I still think you're as great a person as you seemed to be in your teens. I feel for you with this situation with your Mom. I've actually been in a similar, but worse situation, and I ask you to listen to my advice. No one, not your family, friends, or even your husband, know better than you what you need. I think, that if you're still needing your Mother, than you should make things happen to see her again. I say this because I know that when you're done, you will really be done, and that will be it. There will be no more worries about whether you should see her or not, you will just not feel any desire to see her at all. Ask your husband - I'm sure he'll agree with that. Also, don't try to push her one way or another with regards to your children - this should be between you and her only. Any relationship with your children will have to happen if she can prove to YOU that she is worthy of your trust. Take care of yourself hon, and enjoy the blessings in your life. I'm very happy for you! :)

Tori,
So sad to hear how things went with your mother. I think she is self centered and immature to have held a grudge against you and by taking it out on her grandchildren by not being apart of their lives. Its all about greed and money. She just cant face you because she sucked up all your dads money and psychologically she cant look at you because she knows she is a gold digger. My heart goes out to you. When your mom becomes older and senile just throw the old bag in a nursing home that isnt to glamourous. Let her eat cheese sandwiches and pray that the nurses bathe her once a week! And if she is really lucky they will forget to give her medications.

Tori,I hope that you read this... There is nothing in this world that you could have done to make your mother ignore you or your family or not come around..To think she refuses to see her grandchildren is so very childish.. There is nothing in this world that any of my children could do for me to treat them the way your mom is treating you..It is wrong not to except an apology from someone and she will have to answer to God for that..You keep doing everything that you are doing and you will be victorious in all that you do....WE can all see who is the bigger and more mature person.... YOU GO GIRL...Amanda:)

kudos to you tori for extending the invitation thats what (most) moms do theyll put them selves in hurts way for their children . once youve given birth you understand the deep depths of what a mom should do and how deeply the feelings go.your mom could have said ill come in the morning or after the party when the cameras arent rolling if you dont mind id like our reunion private. im sure you would have been all right with that. but again you were absolutely a true role model for extending the invitation . you go girl obviously your instincts are right on the money. and dean thanks for apoligizing for the way you handled that. a mom and daughters relationship goes very deep.just think about the christmas vistor. a familys dynamics are quite simple and quite complicated

I have been watching your show since the very beginning and im addicted. Even my daughter back in New Zealand cant get enough of it. Love your books and cant wait for the next one. Kudos to the both of your, you are very hardworking, have an adorable son and daughter and are so well grounded im amazed.I love everything about the two of you,your honesty, humour and ability to throw a great party, you are truly amazing and I would like to wish Patsy well with her upcoming surgery I am going through the same thing. So cheers guys to you, your amazing children and wonderful friends and family.(((((((hugs)))))))

I just recently started to watch your show.My daughters, of course, watched 90210. I'm very impressed at the loving mom that you are and the great husband that you have. Family is very important and I commend you on trying to reconcile with your mom. I have three daughters, that are all in your age range, and I love the relationship that we have. I'm their mom then their friend. I'm so blessed to have a relationship with all of them.I also have a son who is 40, he is the oldest, and we have a good relationship. Please keep him in your prayers as he is currently in Afghanistan. I never had a good relationship with my mom but I still respect her and make sure she is cared for and loved.
I had all my children by the time I was 25, so I was very busy and we grew up together. I've been married for 41 years....I guess now thats a milestone.Maybe one day our paths will cross.
You have a beautiful family and I wish you all the best!

Tori,
I would like to say that you inspire me everytime I watch your show. You are the greatest mom. About your mon I am in the same boat as you. I have a 7 mth old and I have this hope that someday my mom will be an active grandma. You and Dean are the cutest couple and so down to earth. I wish you the best in all you do. God Bless!! From a devoted fan
Danielle

I have been watching your show since day one and I absolutely love you and Dean! You guys are such a cool couple, and you've got the best kids. Stay real, Tori! :)

Rom 1:24-27

24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25 They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator-who is forever praised. Amen.

26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones.
27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.
(from New International Version)

Tori,

I think you wanted your mother at Stella's birthday party so badly that you didn't really consider how awkward it would have been had she come. I watched the episode, not knowing whether or not she'd show, hoping for your sake that she would but feeling very apprehensive and dreading her entrance. Not only were you surrounded by cameras, you were also surrounded by your many great friends who, if they've chosen a side, it would have to be yours. How could you expect a reunion under those cir #&@% stances? No matter what your mother's done, a reconciliation at that time and place would have been unfair to her and would have inevitably been less than satisfactory to you.

I just read her open letter to you and it sucks but her E-mail to you after Stella's party was really sweet. Hopefully, it was sent before the party started but even if it wasn't, give her another chance. Try to put yourself in her shoes at least as far as someone trying to mend fences in such a public forum, especially when the other person has had the backing of her fans and so many opportunites to publically voice her opinion. Find a way to not let it rule your life. You've got beautiful children, amazing friends, and a husband many women would like to clone.

Tori and Dean,
Usually shows of the type of yours is put down as just people trying to get attention and truing to get themselves back into the spotlight. But I have been watching your shows since the beginning when my 21 year old daughter told me about this great show that she was watching. I started when you had the inn and have been hooked ever since. This year's season has, hopefully, helped other people that are trying to juggle home, work, and family, regardless if they are famous or just fantastic. I too can see the love and respect that you have for each other when you look at each other. You both are actors, but I don't think you can fake they way you look at each other and the way you feel about each other. You remind me of my marriage where we are halves that make a whole. His strengths help with my weaknesses, and vice versa. The problems that you are having with your mother is lived by alot of people, being mother or father, but please, please follow the advice of the many bloggers in that you just need to step back away from her, not cut her out, but just put space between you for now. One day your mother will realize what she is missing and will seek you out. God bless your little family and ALL the great and supporting friends that you have!

Tori & Dean

Just wanted to say what a beautiful family you all are.

I am aslo a Taurean and I feel we have the same traits, we love to make people happy and have a nice cozy house.

To tell you the truth I did not like you when you were growing up. I am ashamed to say but that was because I had the pre conceived notion that you were a spoilt rich little girl. I know you did not ask for that but it just happened to be the environment you were born into. However, it now goes to show that lifestyle did not affect you in the way we would perceive it to. You have grown into a very kind, intelligent loving person and this shows clearly on the show.

I will miss tuning into your show on a Tuesday night. I was not born in the USA (born and lived in Scotland, Dean) and I miss my close friends that I have grown up with. You are so lucky to have your childhood and early adult friends around you. It is not easy to make friends when you are older and have the same camaraderie you do with the friends that you grew up with. When I watched your show I felt like I was going round to my best friend's house for a laugh and a good natter (talk).

I hope you come back with another season.

God bless your whole family.

Tori & Dean, you are a class act. Your show, and everything you do and say reflects the style, grace and intelligence of great people. Rich or poor, famous or not so famous, CLASS is something money cannot buy. You both deserve all the happiness in the world. Thank you for sharing your lives with us in T.V. land and being such great examples of human beings.

Dear Dean, Tori, Little Man Liam and Little Miss Stella:
I watched the season finale last night, of course, with mixed emotions! First off, Congradulations on another WONDERFUL season! I wish the show wasn't ending already! And of course, Happy Birthday to Little Miss Stella, my my, what a FABULOUS party!
I would just like to say to you all, that you seem to be such very well rounded, real, down to earth people, celeberties or not. What great parents you both are, to your two precious little people. They are so blessed to have the two of you! As we all know, your just as blessed to have them! The most important thing to teach our children, is LOVE, and not the value of money, but the value and importance of LOVE, and my hat goes off to the both of you for realy making that a point in your show. Tori, continue keeping your head held up high, you are such an AMAZING women, and I know I am speaking on behalf of myself and many of your viewers. So to you, the McDermots,(I hope I spelled your last name right) Thank you so much for a truly real, fun, and inspiring show!I look forward to Next Season! (Is there going to be a next season?) I sure hope so!

I would also like to say to Patsy, my goodness, you are such a big hearted, and BEAUTIFUL person as well! YOU HAVE REALLY IMPACTED TORI and the childrens lives! You come across on the show, as such and important mother figure to Tori, as well as a Grandmother to the children, they realy need you in there lives! I hope we continue to see you on the show, and that last nights episode, was not your last. What a blessed family you must have as well!

Thank you again for such a wonderful show! And to you all, as well as your BEAUTIFUL families and friends, stay healthy and safe and my god bless you all!
Lisa T.

Tori...First of all i love your show it's amazing your family is so funny and goffy and it reminds me of mine....our son can come of with some of the funniest things to say...This whole Candy Crap is crazy i can't believe a mother would treat a daughter with such disregard...She is the one missing out! YOu have a great hubby to support you and two amazing childern she has choosen this for herself she is doing this to your children, not you! I just can't imange who would not want to be a part of there grandchilderns lives...i hope you find peace!!

Tori you need to pull your big girl panties up and wipe the snot off your nose. Your Mom didn't want to be in front of the cameras for a season finale of your show. Running to everyone and getting their opinion if your mom was going to show up.. low class ... you and your mother should of kept this private... not everything is made for t.v. here. You and your mother also need to grow up and quit trying to one up each other, your both at fault for letting it get to this point and remember the way you treat and talk about your mother is and will be the way your children will treat and talk about you! History has a funny way of repeating itself in case you both haven't figured it out! and children learn by example, sight and sound......

Dear Tori and Dean,
I love your show. Its so wonderful to watch celebrities that are so grounded and normal. Tori I am so proud how you handle the junk from the press and your mom. I don't know why she is the way she is , but you must move on no matter how hard it is. You dont want that hurt to affect the kids when they get older. They have you and you are a awesome mom. Enjoy them and Dean and don't worry about your mom. You also have Deans family and your dads brother. I will say one thing. I know you are upset about your situation with your mom, but I know your dad is looking down from heaven so very proud of his baby girl. You and Dean are a joy to watch and remember what you said when Patsy left, she is like your mother. Keep her in your heart, that is the way a loving mom acts, not showing up for a babies birthday is not the way a mom acts. Tori you are not your mom nor will you ever be. You are a great mom. From one mom to another keep up the great work.
p.s. You have a keeper with Dean, what a amazing and loving man. You and the kids are truly his world it shows in his eyes. I love it. Have a great year and looking forward to next season.

HI. I saw Stella's bday show. I just wanted you to know that many of us are going through similar things. My parents were a part of my life and my children until last year. My mother and I had a huge argument and the police were called. She could not accept that as the mother of my children I get to decide what is best for them. As the days past she said many things and sent awful emails to me. I was completely devastated when she said that pursing the man who molested my sister and putting him in jail was embarrassing to her and my father. She said I had a big mouth and was sick in the head. I am an educated woman and I always put my kids first. If she has a problem with me that's her business. However I have seven kids who don't understand why their grandparents who live ten minutes away can't or won't call or visit them. Forget birthdays or holidays. I just feel really bad for them. I have two juniors in high school who know everything that transpired and can't understand. My daughter is gifted and a junior and turning fifteen. IN our tradition she is having a quincenera. Only it won't be this year and it has to be delayed six months. I had unexpected surgery and have been out of work for two months. My job messed up and did not pay me for two months and now I'm trying to fix that up. Anyways the little girl in me thought surely while in the hospital at least they would sent a card. NOTHING. I was hospitalized again with a complication and thought at least my dad would show up, nope. I guess I just want you to know that I can feel your pain. It really pisses me off that my parents can and do see my neices and nephews. I have four adopted kids and now they are being deprived of more family. It just doesn't seem fair.

I just saw the episode of Stella's Birthday Party last night and wanted to cry for you Tori. I know what it is like to have estranged relationships in the family. It is very hard. I think that Dean is right, you need to cut your losses. I have a 4 year old niece, and there is not a single thing my mother wouldn't do to see her granddaughter. The ball is now in your mother's hands. You have put forth the effort for her to meet her grandchildren. In my opinion, if she really wanted to, she would put her pride aside and would have made arrangements to meet with you in private by now if a public reunion is what she is not wanting. Don't get me wrong, I believe family relationships are the most important thing in this life, but there comes a point where you just can't put yourself through the emotional stress it causes. I love your show, y'all are great! Tori, you are a GREAT mother, you have a loving, supportive husband, live in the moment of your lives, don't focus on the past, don't worry about the furture! I wish you the very best with this situation. Only God can soften a hard heart!

You guys are my favorite summer show and I am so sad it's over! I have fallen in love with your family because you are so real. I think you have guts to put your emotions out there for us to all see. I don't see how anyohe can say you are fake, you may both be actors, but it is obvious you are as real as any of my friends! I love your show, and I will miss it. I hope there is more to come!

Love your family but disappointed Tori let Stella get all messed up in the Buggy Cake. Her dress and shoes got ruined. I wish that part didn't happen.

How do you know Larry Birkhead and DannyLynn? Good to see them there. DannyLynn's eye looks better. But Larry Birkhead looked lost without a woman by him and it showed and I think that was what he was thinking. DannyLynn needs a mom also. He is a wonderful dad but that would really make it complete. I am so happy for both of them though.

Tori, Dean, Liam and Stella...

Each week I watch you and admire your beautiful family. Thank you for sharing you family with all of ours. Your so loving and supportive of one another, I only hope my husband and I can become half of what you are!

I cried my eyes out tonight! You guys are amazing! My kids love to watch your kids!

PS- Tori, your books are amazing! I just read both this summer!

to Tori it will come a time that you always be her daughter and she will always be your mother she dose not want to be a part of your kids live that is her problem she will be miss out some cute things with your kids just let your kids walk the ground you will walk on and let tham follow you and dean was right about your mother from Kathy Petruzzella

Hi Tori: Meet with your Mom in private. Let her enjoy her grandchildren and let them enjoy her. You should all be part of each others lives. Even a strained relationship can be healed. I understand your Mom's point of not wanting to have a reunion in front of the cameras, that's a lot of pressure. Your a great Mom Tori, give her to chance to be a great Grandmother. I wish you much luck and success.
Kelly

I just wanted to tell Tori I am so sorry that you do not have a close relationship with you're Mom, I watch you and dean and the babies on you're show and you deserve so much better but I'm sure that things will change for the better over the years just give her time and enjoy you're family and friends because I see they love you very much!!I love watch you're show and it helps me forget about my problems a little so for that I thank you I wish you're family and you nothing but the best in life I see nothing but great things for you.

Sincerly
Judy Estrada.

Hey,
I would like to thank you for sharing your awesome family with the world. You help people remember that your family experiences the same issues as others. Your show is the favorite topic of my sisters and I, we are now currently passing your books around as well. We think you guys are just cute as can be :) Thank you so much

Hi Tori and Dean.
I enjoy your show and love watching you create your success.

I had problems with my mom too. We had a difficult relationship which was never truly repaired. I was blessed to help take care of her as she passed on.

I just want to say that even though I empathize with you I think it would be truly hard for your mom to have to live out your relationship on public TV. I really cant blame her for not showing up to be embarrassed in front of the world. There is only one regret I have with my own mom. I regret that even though my mother sometimes made my life a living hell because she could not accept some painful truths and used me to protect her favorite children, I wish that I had not tried to force the issues at times even embarrassing her in front of her family and friends. I am older and wiser now and I forgive her. She did the best she could at the time given the knowledge she had. When I think back on things I actually feel sorry for my mother.
Perhaps you might try to reconcile in private and then show us next season. You may never be able to change her though. I couldn't change my mother.
Anyhow What blessings you are being given every day in your lives I am happy for the love in your lives. Look how far you've come.

I know this is reality show. Tori at some point you have to decide whether you want to continue this charade of situation you have with your mother. In my opinion, you should decide to cut your mother loose. This is a very difficult thing to do but your mother is clearly toxic and is a entirely self-surrounding woman. A cowardly email after the party is entirely unacceptable!! This is her granddaughter's b-day and any grandmother would clear anything from their schedules to be there and be self involved as to talk about her hair and nails and public appearances!!!! You seem to have alot of people, and a husband, who love you. You have a husband and two lovely babies you need to concentrate on and be a wonderful mother to them! They don't deserve to feel the aura of your pain!

Tori love yourself and cut your mom loose.

Ok I will totally admit that I did not like Tori for the longest. I thought that she was spoiled little Holywood brat. Since I have started watching this show I have made a 360 degree change. I absolutely in love with the "fam". Tori you are wonderful mother and no matter if it is you mom or the press do not listen to a word. I wish that hollywood moms would take note. Thank you so much for sharing your family with us. I have a 4 year old son and I try not to let him watch the show because he wants all the things that Liam has. Hahahahaha. Again you are a GREAT mother and dont listen to anyone. This show has made people change their minds about you in a great way. It doesnt hurt you have a sexy husband to top it all off. Good luck with everything you do. Best wishes to your family!!!

Dear Guncles,
I am so happy for you two!! You guys make me laugh every time I see you on the show. I think Dean and Tori are wonderful parents and I think they are so lucky to have you guys helping when you can. Even though I don't know you, I KNOW you will be great fathers. I love watching you with Stella and Liam. Good luck guys!!!! I can't wait to see you holding your own baby!

I love the show you guys. I really feel the true essence of love between you guys and your family. I even find myself in the show and get tickled. I love the way you and Dean compliment and uplift each other. Its a GREAT MATCH, hold on to what you have with unyielding strength. Because it is truly remarkable. God bless you an love always. For the first time i have watched a reality show that didn't make me depressed or irriataed and I actually want to read your books. I can identify with the stuff with your mom. One person in particular on the VieW, really mad me angry because outsider don't understand how sometimes our dearest love ones can be unhealthy for us emotionally despite how short life is. People have yet to understand that its not wise to comment on things you don't know or understand. Best of blessings and prayers....

I wish you would write a book on how you dealt with the heartbreak and pain from being disconnecting from your mother and how you survived. PLEASE CONSIDER seriously.

Guncles, is it true? Is Dean doing Dancing With the Stars?!?! That would be amazing!!! Just read about it.

Hi Guncles,

I had a great time watching a re-run of your ceremony this past weekend. I hope you find a baby soon! You'll be great parents I bet.

Can't wait for tomorrow's show!

Tammy

God bless your family. You gave me the oportunity to share your family moments with me and so many people around the world.

I am from Puerto Rico and I love this show. It is more real than other reality shows that I saw before. !Exito!

I would have to say that I love your and Dean's show. I think it is WONDERFUL to let America see how people really are, and I have both of your books and loved them both. Its nice to see how money really don't change people, its people that change. Keep up the good work and be thankful that you found your better half.

I always thought of Tori as a spoilt brat from 90210, however she totally shocked me the other day. I am in the Bahamas and while watch a recent show, she gave her husband back one of his bikes.

I thought that was so sweet...I even cried

Good Joke Tori...

what was the name of the hiphop song at the wedding where everyone was dancing?

Dear Guncles,
I am expecting a child, due in Decemeber. I have had help from a wonderful person that blogs called "momerator". As a confidential person, a difficult but loving decision has been made to place the miracle growing inside to a warm and loving family. All medical records, and an opportunity for the Guncles and family to be completely involved in the pregnancy and birth are available. All that I want is an opportunity for this little one to have a loving, commited family. Knowing the intense process of adoption, I am so proud of the Guncles (the handsome newly married couple) for the devotion to each other and toward the adoption. I am aware of the entire adoption process, the filling out of endless paperwork, references, homestudies, etc. Please know that all the waiting will be worthwhile, for when your new arrival is in your arms, you will both know that he/or she is truly the "one" for you. Good luck on your search. Dear Bill and Scout, if you are interested, please let me know. I would be happy to share my background, age, education level, pics of the ultrasounds and anything else you may want to know. Our thoughts are with you and may you have your new addition to your family in time for the holidays.

Dear Tori I have to admit I use to watch you when the original 90210 was out and back then I did not enjoy you and I really did not think highly of you at that time however my niece made me watch your show last season and I have to say seeing you as you truley are was eye opening and I simply ADORE you and your family. Thank You for coming into my life and letting me into yours.
Leslie Fowler mom of Dylan and sheldon!:)

I wanted to add that the friend I wished healthy, although I wish health on everyone is Patsy!
And never let people say you are not pretty...You are very pretty..they are jealous!

I love your show and I feel that you and Dean are twinflames...the correct name for soulmates..my husband and I are twinflames also.
Your mother seems jealous and sad...I hope she grows up soon...you are the better person here.
The person that said that God made Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve is an IDIOT! I'm so sick of that...God would not care about the same sex marriage thing. My Daughter is in a Gay relationship and would love to marry her girlfriend legally. They are married in their heart.
Anyway, keep being happy with your hubby and babies and your doggies...(I cried over you losing Mimi) I know how it feels to lose a beloved pet. And I know you love your other babies too. I also hope that your friend stays healthy.
I don't know if you will ever read this..probably not...be just in case....Best of luck to you all.

HEY! I HATE YOUR F%$*^%) show cuz its suck and get a better life thin this please, its horralbe
and every your family and YOU bothered the #&@% about ME!!!!!! what kind job is that a desighiner it suck! too much girly #&@% i hated and i dont care if you read this in the show, so #&@% off.

BIO CLAN
BLOOOD AND GUTS

Hello Tori and Dean
You have a wonderful family. Tori,I've watched when you was on 90210 and I thought you were just was so cool. What I want you to remember is that you only get one mother. What ever happened in the past should stay in the past. It's a new day and not only you but your mother should forgive! I love the way you are with your children and I feel they should be able to have their grandmother in their lives. I can see that whatever happened between you and your mom still affects you. I am so glad that you invited her to stella's bday party. I lost my mother years ago, but sometimes it feels like yesterday. Life is too short. wishing you and your family the best ( including patsy)

Tori,

I love the show!!! Stella and Liam are adorable! And I love, love, love all the jewelry you wear. I know you have a jewelry line with HSN but I can never find any of the stuff you wear on their website. Where do you get such great stuff??

Thanks!

Tori, I have watched you grow up over the years and I have to say I am so sorry. I just always thought you were a rich brat. You have grown in to a beautiful woman inside and out . who adores her husband, and children.and even more her friends you are an amazing woman who really cares about all issues that involve your family and friends. You are intelligent, warm loving and extremely caring woman. I love the show I have become addicted.

Your Husband Dean, all women would die for someone so careing and dedicated. You were made for each other. God bless you, Dean Stella and Liam. you have a perfect beautiful family. Oh yea and congrats to the Scott and Bill!! Bless you all.

Karen Demme

I writing to let Tori know that I feel for her and she needs to rethink making it a priority to push the relationship with her kids and their "grandmother"... Unfortunetly Candy is not a maternal mother so more than likely will not be a good grandmother. It seems is if her kids will only be hurt by Candy too.. It is hard to sometimes believe that good and love will not prevail, but unfortunetly it doesn't always. Her mother appears to have some unresolved jealousy with Tori and resentment. No normal mother would be sooo unsupportive of their child and hurtful publicly. It is very SAD! I say Tori keep moving forward and living your life and love with your family and don't have expectations.. If your mother reaches out to you fine enjoy but don't expect anymore... Good Luck

It has taken my best friend 15 years to figure out that her parents are TOXIC to her and her family. They have broken the "we will be there" and "we are sending gifts" promises now for 15 years and she has finally told them "No more promises".

You KNOW that blood does not make a family-exibit A and B with "Uncles" Bill and Scout and they way their mothers took to your children. A Grandma's love is unconditional and you KNOW a mother's love is really that way.

Dean is right. Don't waste your time and emotions on a mother who does not know the true meaning of love-It's hard but you and your family will be better off spending your time, energy and love on people who truly love you unconditionally. Remove toxic relationships. If you can't do it for you, do it for your Liam and Stella- they deserve only the best! You will be a better mother when you are surrounded by people who truly love you and your family for who you are.

I'm sure Scout and Bill's Mom's would LOVE to be adopted Grandmas. It will get them prepared for their own grandchild. p.s. Do you think that child will be less loved because he/she is not "blood" relation. No waaay. That baby will be sooooo spoiled and loved to pieces. Take a lesson from them.

I believe Tori and Dean truly love their kids. I thought about writing that I have had family with difficulty getting together. My sister sent me an invitation to a niece's birthday party instead of calling me, after not talking to one anoter for over a year. I had called my sister to say after 4 unreturned calls, next phone call needed to come from her. My sister lives 10 minutes away. It would have helped to talk first to break the ice. I felt uncomfortable, put on the spot, everyone looking at me waiting to see what would come next. My sister never spent personal time away from others to hug and talk to me. Needless to say I left early and haven't come to another party. A relationship needs to be personal and without Tori and Mom talking first, Tori's Mom would only feel uncomfortable. I also think Tori should have delivered the invitation personally, talked to Mom without the cameras even if it was uncomfortable for Tori, to break the ice. This precious relationship with Mom, daughter, spouse and granchildren will never be resolved with blame and not talking privately. I live this now and have tried to have a relationship with my sister. Unless both sides listen and compromise, agree to disagree, there is no relationship. My heart breaks for you and I know how it feels, I live it. Living without expectations and still heart broken, Laurel

I love the show. I liked you Tori, really, for the first time on 90210, when you went to Paris with Brenda, I think, anyway you had ordered unknowingly, brains, and when you spit them out, that's exactly what I would have done.Funny anyway.
I feel that your invitation for your mom was a good move, she is your mom. But like it's been said before, the ball is now in her court.
I believe there is a little jealousy where your mom is concerned, I think she may be jealous of your happiness, your endeavors that you have been very successful in and maybe the relationship you had with your father.
I love the guncles too, and all your friends that are in yours & Deans life. I love Patsy, I hope her surgery goes well.
When you stop an think about it, who cares about the committment ceremony, I think Billy and Scout would make good parents, give a poop what anyone else thinks, they have each other and love one another that is what's important. If you have someone in your life that loves you no matter what and will be by your side through the good times and bad, whether male & male or female & female, it's no ones business but theirs.
God knows and I believe that whether your gay or not he knows your heart is in the right place.
Well, anyway, I hope things work out for you and your family, if your mom wants to be that way, then it's her loss...be proud of your accomplishments. Stay happy and safe.

Hey Tori,

I like your show and try to watch it weekly. Let me commend you on sending your mom an invitation to Stella's first birthday party. I think you did the right thing even against what Dean thought. Remember, that is your mother, no matter what disagreements you have. Children don't come with an instruction manual and no matter how you try to be the best parent, children grow up and still find fault with the way they were raised and sometimes turn away from the parents. Your children could turn away from you even though you are doing the best you now know how.

What if they do, how would you fee? Dean might be able to cut off his father for what ever reason, but don't follow in his footstep. Candy is still your mother and the children are still her grandkids and that's a bond you want to try and maintain if you can. Someone had to make the first move, and you really look great making the first move by reaching out. If she does not accept, then America knows that it's on her shoulders. I love the fact that you come across like just a down to earth ordinary (in a good way) person.

On thing I disagree with on the show is having those two gay guys being uncle to your kids and supporting a so-called union. If you take the time to read the Bible, you will realize the homosexuality is an abomination unto God. That is not to say that God does not like gay people. He loves everyone, He just don't like the behavior. It's a sin and sin is sin. Also, it's one thing to make a decision to be with another person of the same sex, but why bring children into that situation. The child growing up talking about Daddy and Daddy. Where is Mommy. Remember that God created Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve. I understand that they are good friends and there is nothing wrong with having them as friends, but people need to stand up and draw the line.

Everyone of us wants to go to heaven when we die, but while here on earth, we chose to live in what ever fashion suits us.

I enjoy you both...me and my husband try to figure out what you guys comment on outside the cameras...its so funny cause we can relate to it....the personalaites...alpha male and endearing female...one of your episodes....getting a room ready for family guests...making the beds....and Dean trys the humorous come on...oh how we laughed...thats us..if only the humerous dirty talk would be allowed..thats whats fun...especially after having kids and trying to stay in love the best you can...when you learn to flirt with eachother as you two do it drives the energy for the minds and hearts to keep going.We can tell how rightous your love is and the companionship sensed during your roleplay...
I own a Pet sitting company and have a lovely 3 1/2 year old...At 32, I am not going to waste any of these years, I want to look the best I can and feel the best I can. Your weight is just fine.. Being thin is nice and if your husband still trys to take your clothes off daily then i say keep doing what your doing. I hope succes such as yours will be fullfilled for my family with hard work. Luck to you both,

Gwen S. Dellinger
www.hahpc.com
Happy at Home Pet Care Services, LLC

Greetings to Tori , Dean and your beautiful kids,
My husband and I love watching your show.
You both seem so very down to earth and you are so good to your friends .
Keep the show coming ...its great and we love it.
We love Patsy and all the guncles and love watching Tori and Dean.
The show is great !

As a Registered Nurse, I have no concern about Tori's weight. She appears to be small framed and although she would look good with a little weight on, she looks very healthy. She definitely wouldn't be able to do all the things she does if her health was suffering.

I hate the drama in her relationship with her mother and I understand how embarrassing it must be for her mother to try to accept the fact the entire world knows how she has neglected her child and grandchildren but she is the mother and she should make the extra effort (even if it means risking humiliation). I think that the show is a wonderful example of caring, attentive parenting for new parents.

As for the affairs. People make mistakes and forgiveness is available...he who is without sin, let him cast the first stone.

Love you Tori and Dean!

Tori, I'm so sorry that your mother is a selfish *****. You and Dean are doing a FABULOUS job at raising your children and her latest comments are just horrible. This is her fault, if she wants to miss out on her grandchildren life then that is her problem. Sometimes you just can not change people. You have reached out and reached out and she is just not budging. You have done everything you can for the sake of your children. I hate to say it but it is time to just let Candy live in her little world and you and Dean just keep doing what ya'll do best. Thanks so much for sharing your life with the world. It does make it better for other people to see that just because you are a celebrity you are still human too. :o)

I am such a devotee that it has (Was)become a running joke. I tape it and rewatch and especialy now. For MOther's day (May 10th)my daughter Heather(34) brought me in a bag that had a dress in it and then there was Moomywood. I was soooo happy that i did not even notice the chocolate in the bag. "but mom I bought you chocolate also" and we laughed. Heather has bought a house across the strret form me and had lived there 2 months so we could have mommmy/daughter time. Om Monday may 11th heather was on her way home from work and was killed in a horrible car accident. She had called and said she would see me in ten minuetes. I said later. I didn't say I love you. The next time I saw her was in her caskett. Heather was my angel. Her whole back was done in tribal wings. So for one thank you for the best mothr's day!!! And secondly If only for a momment try to patch it with your mom. At least make sure the last words you ever say to her are you love her. And in you jewelry line you make anything with wings please i would love to buy some. And if you ever get to Florida If you could sign the book Heather bought for me. From a very devoted fan who love the way you are raising your kids!!! Peggy

I love watching your show and the love between the four of you is amazing. Tori you are a wonderful mother and I would be "proud" to have a daughter like you. I know it hurts what you are going through - just keep being who you are and maybe your mother will realize what she is missing. Life is too precious!

I do love this show, but concerned about how ghastly thin Tori has become. You can see her bones and her arms are like pipe cleaners. I know that she is naturally think and has been all of her life but she seems even thinner than ever.

just thought I would tell you how wonderful your family is , keep it up, about your mom ,keep trying, because you are right, just remember she is who she is,love you all, Kathy massingale

Tori and Dean,
I want to thank you for your show I am person who is also at conflict with her mother and your show where you were at your book release in New York really hit home for me. As much as my mother has hurt me i will never loose that ray of hope that things will change because you never forget about your blood. You and your husband are an inspiration that even though there are hiccups along the way that you can have a happily ever after. My finance and I are both in the military and have to be away from each other quite often for extended periods of time. It never get's easier but absence makes the heart grow fonder. Good luck with everything!

Someone give Candy a straw because she needs to SUCK IT UP!!! You may be middle aged Tori but she is old and should be WISER! Life is too short to give in to petty squabbles. It isn't your fault that you need to work and that having a reality show helps pay the bills and make a more comfortable lifestyle for your family. Your mom is being totally selfish. How can a mother NOT want a relationship with her own daughter and grandchildren?!? Maybe if she coughed up a little cash for the family you wouldn't have to have a reality show! Then she could visit all she wanted without cameras! It probably still wouldn't be good enough though. The few people I have known in life that hold grudges and carry on like your mom usually end up bitter old people with many regrets. You keep carrying on for your kids sake and let her live with her regrets! Your love for your children is obviously genuine. You can't write that kind of love into a script!

Let me start by saying that I have never been a big fan of Tori Spelling. But since I have seen the show, my opinion of Tori has changed. Now it could all be acting, but she seems genuine and truly caring. She seems like such a loving person who goes above and beyond for the people she cares about! This show has also allowed viewers to meet the rest of her family, and let me say those kids are gorgeous! Stella is so beautiful and seems like such a happy kid (I'm sure she has her moments like everyone- but in general). Monkey is pretty cute himself. Dean seems very devoted to his kids and to Tori. Both Guncles are fabulous, they are so sweet! The obvious family member we had not had a chance to meet was Candy, and I feel like Tori did the right thing by extending an invitation. The best thing Tori can do is always try to include her mother, the grandmother of her children, and just not expect anything. Even if you had invited Candy and she did not show up for the next 7 birthday parties, always extend that invitation. You never know when it is going to click in (my mother's birthfather left when she was in 4th grade. she always wrote letters to him, which he never returned. he finally came back into her life when i was 5 years old and has been a major part of our family ever since. basically he shut her down for 20sum years, but he finally made the right decision. always try!). Other than that my only concern is for Tori. There are times when I see Tori on the show and she looks so run down. She looks so tired, and she cries about every little thing (which is not bad) and lots of other little indicators are appearing that make it seem like she needs to slow way down. I'm sure everyone around her has told her this, but make sure you listen Tori. You are going to get burned out if you don't make some changes. Make sure youre taking time by yourself- Dean has all his hobbies hes been through- where are yours? What do you do for yourself. We see you give so much to your friends, your husband, your kids, just make sure youre not exhausting yourself. A breakdown is not something you or your children need to experience.

Tori,
I have never watched your show and really did not have any desire to either. However after today watching you with your kiddos and your husband... melted my heart! I guess I just never realized that the people on TV are real people with real feelings. I can understand the void you are feeling not having your mother around. My mom has never come to my 3yr olds birthday... we just do not have the same values and it breaks my heart. When I heard you say "Thats my mom" when you decided you were inviting her- really hit hom for me. I have spent many years trying to be the bigger person by inviting her to all the birthday parties, knowing that she will not show. You would think that I would be used to it by now but after all these years it still hurts. All I can do is be there for my kids the best way I know how and surround them with people that do care and see the importance of birthdays/holidays. I have not seen my dad since I was 8yrs old and I have tried reconnecting with him but have had no luck. Long story short "he's a lost soul!' He lives in a homeless shelter in Pittsburgh. According to my aunt he chooses to live this way. I am not asking you to feel sorry for me... I guess I just wanted to let you know that I understand why you felt in your heart to invite her and that you are not alone. I can't believe that I have something in common with you. You and I share a lot of the sames values and views about family. Thank you for sharing your life with me!

Your Friend From Texas,
Jennifer France

Hi Tori and Dean. In episode 410 when you guys are in the playroom, dean holds up a mermaid doll. can u please tell me where u got that mermaid? my granddaughter is 7 years old and she loves ariel and anything mermaid. she would love a big mermaid like stella's. she has been mermaid every year for halloween since she was 3. i would appreciate your response. my granddaughters and i watch your show and we love it! as for your mom, just always be there and do the best to keep the lines of communication open. she will come around, it may take some time, but she will. it may not be on the show, but i think it will happen. how could she not want to be a part of those beautiful childrens lives. i have 3 granddaughters and one grandson and they are my life and i now know that they are the reason i am here. my life was always about my kids, but the grandbabies, well that is a whole another feeling and honor. keep the faith, she will come around. much love to your family. thank you

Hi Tori,
Where did you get your master bedroom furniture?

Thanks!!!

Don't cut ties with your mom! People tell me that about my dad he is an alcoholic! He's killing himself. i've tried every thing to help him! Now I only except the things I can change and the things that I can't change. And the wisdom to Know the differance. Not saying that your mom is an alcoholic. You have to let the things that you want to bother you. its hard to let go! cause its your mom. but you cant let someone else stress you out or hurt you. I hope the best for you and your family.

Tori and Dean, First my wife and I think the world of your program and have been hooked from the start. You guys are so good for one another and so cute...if you don't mind me saying that. sometimes you even remind me of my wife and me. We get along very similar to you two. I admire the sweetness and dedication, love and friendship you openly display all the time. Somewere along the line so many young married couples have lost that and put in its place a sense of self-entitlement. The both of you have shown that it is not lost in the void. The problem I have more than my wife is with your Mother. I struggle to understand how she can be so pureile when it comes to you both. Dean is a fine man and great husband, unlike so many. Tori's Mother should remember that we all have but one life to live and she should be living it now with you both. She should expend more energy in putting behind her all the bitterness and past ugly memories and look forward to building new ones with the beautiful grandbabies she has never met. It is time to put away the juvenile behavior and look at the gift of grandchildren you have given her. Tori that is how you show your Mom how you really love her. Believe me there is no greater feeling of love a child can display than when they give you those babies. It is my hope that Candy will capitulate and showup for Ladybug's shinedig. You guys keep on doing what you love to do so much, love each other. And keep those guncles around they are great guys too. With devoted fanship, God Bless, Rosie & Richie of Spokane WA

Okay first of all I have read alot of good and bad things in this comment section. I find the most appauling comment was about GOD. IF you were a Christian you would remember the saying Thou Shall NOT JUDGE. I dont care who sleeps with who. Who loves who. I care about how people are on the inside. I would take the Guncles friendship any day. They are supporting, loyal and TRUE friends. Hard to come by these days. I wish them luck in their adoption process. If i was younger myself i would offer to carry a baby for them. They are wonderful people and deserve to share that love witb a child. More than I can say about alot of straight people I know. Tori, I had issues with my mom. As hard as it is, you must do this because you will be at peace if GOD forbid the day comes and your mom isnt around to invite her. You have to let your childhood alone and remember if it wasnt for your pains from childhood your children would not be benifiting from your moms mistakes. We all make them as moms. So keep the positive. Your children are benifiting from all those mistakes and the non mistakes too. Everybody just loves differently and its not always the way we want them to. The point is they do love us within their capabilities.

I am confused. Why does Patsy have to leave? Isnt it up to Tori to keep her no matter what the age of the children? Also, wasnt Tori paying for Patsy"s surgery? I dont know. This is weird. Dean also needs to confront these rumors about leaving his adopted daughter. If he did this, he is sick. I will no longer watch the show.

Congrats Guncles! I'm sooo glad that you've decided to become daddies, I can't think of a better or more loving family for a child to be a part of. I wish you the best of luck in the adoption process.
I LOVE the show, and I think that Tori is a great role model, and soooo sweet. I wish you all continued success and much happiness!

Amanda

Tori,
I would like to start by telling you that you are not the only person who has to deal with a mom that doesn't want a part in not only in your life, but her grandchildren's either. Making attempts for her to see you and the kids isn't a bad thing to do, but from personal experience can upset you and let you down. I can understand how you feel, my mom did come to my little girls 1st birthday, but after the party ended, and only to sit and hold my neice the whole time and not speak one word to my little girl. She and I have not gotten along my whole life and favors my other sibilings and their children. I really would like for my mother to have more to do with my children, but I cannot make her do something she doesn't want to. That is very hard for me to understand and to this day I cannot let that go, because she is my mom and from what I learned you are suppose to honor your mother and father. So basically now I kind of just go with the flow, meaning if she wants to call or see my kids that's fine, but she has to make the move. I am tired of trying to make her love and be a grandmother to my kids, that should come natural. I just want for my kids what I had when I was growing up and that was grandparents. Needless to say my kids don't have that from my side or my husbands side. I stressed so much about this that after I had my 3rd child I was sitting in the hospital and was talking to my grandparents and telling them that I wanted for my kids what I had with them and suddenly it hit me, these are my grandparents that were so great to me, they would be great for my children to get to know more of. So figuring this out has made me come to ease with the situation. Your children have people around them that are there for them and will always be there and love them, and really that is what matter's. Your mom's label as a grandmother for your children, doesn't mean she'll live up to that title even if she is around more often. By the way I really admire you and love the show.

Nicole

Dear Mrs. Spelling,
First let me say how awesome I think you are as a person and especially as a mother considering the way you were raised by your mother. Your dad was the real parent in your life and since he is gone, you feel the need to have the other parent is yours and your families life,( which is very understandable). I can't imagine what it must be like to not have a relationship with your mother since me and my mom are and have always been best friends. Your mother has consumed so much of your time and energy, that she does not deserve.She has taken every chance that she can to hurt and manipulate you that she can. She also uses every chance to take a dig on you on all her public appearances, THIS IS NOT HOW A TRUE MOTHER BEHAVES. I'm not trying to be judgemental because I don't know waht you have been through in your lifetime. I do however know that a true mother is suppose to be just what you are to your children. You have extended the olive branch to her more than she has deserved and every time she disappoints you it's like one more win for her. I know it's hard, but don't give her taht power anymore. If she truly wanted to be in your fqamilies life, she wouldn't need a personal invite, she would want to be there with bells on. You are what a true mother embodies, love, time, nurturing, giving, forgiving,and the fearsome protection of your kids and your family that a mother cougar needs to protect her own at any cost. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you are a bad mother, and it kills me that your mother has put that doubt in your mind. Let go and let God, forgive her and yourself and move on with your life and things will work themselves out. Don't give up hope that you and your mom will reconcil at some point, but don't let it consume you like it has been doing, you deserve better and so does your family.

From one of your loyalist fans in Arkansas,
Pam Moody,mother and wife.

Hello Torri & Dean:

I enjoy watching the fashion show episode. the outfits were Great, and the models were cute, but I didn't see an African American models. For the record the African American community love u and will be wearing the outfits too.

Hi Tori, Dean, Monkey, Buggy, Guncles, Patsy :) I have been watching your show since day 1 and I find such inspiration from your show. I see how much fun you have and how much you love your children. Tori I am a huge fan watching you on 90210 since the first episode and I find such inspiration in watching you with your kids. You are a fantastic mother and wife and I learn so much from the show. I have a very similiar situation with my mother so I know somewhat of what you are going through. I have made numerous attempts over years and years and have gotten shut down and hurt over and over. I find it amazing how supportive and loving Dean is and how you never quit. You always work towards what you want in life and I find that so amazing. I am a huge huge fan. I loved both your books and hope you write more and also keep doing the show. I hope you get everything you want in life. Thank you for making such a great show as it really gives me tons of inspiration, faith and hope. You are a wonderful mother and role model for all. What you do for your friends and family is amazing and your family and friends are so lucky to have you in their lives.

hello Tori and Dean! Always rememebr "it is what it is" just move forward, theres no going back! i am a big fan of you guys! haha! you guys are so real and a lot like my husband and I! And after reading bother your books (loved them!) Tori, you are really funny and have some of the same feelings and fears just like me lol. I have 2 little boys and i have all the fears you do about raising children! Your stories in Mommywood reminded me a lot of myself!! You are more normal then what you think!!=) have a great summer guys! From a lovely fan ~Kristi Smith~

Scouty-you were so brave in doing this and I'm sure that Tori appreciated this although now it's in Candy's hands whether she will come or not. We'll see huh?

Renate

GUNCLES ROCK!!!! Love you guys!!!!

XOXO

Patty

Hello Torri! I love your show and I'm always in a hurry to rush home from school to watch your show. I recently got pulled over for speeding, lol... no joke. I just wanted to say that I really enjoy watching your show. In fact it's the only show I watch since I have a busy schedule with work and school. Watching your show gives me hope that if things don't work out between my husband and I, I still have hope to find someone else. Dean is amazing and I truly love the relationship you both have. Your kids are beautiful. May God Bless You All!!! With Love, Christi

OMG! i love this show watch it every week ..... the Guncle's are amazing... u guys are an excellent support system for tori.... and by the way i think it is great that dean always says how sexy tori is he is an amazing husband as far as i can see and i love tht he openly tells her that she is sexy and beautiful i think that is so sweet cuz sometimes us women dont always feel sexy or pretty and it help to know that the person we love thinks we r hot and tells us .... GO DEAN!!!

Watch the show regularly. However, I think Dean's constant sexual inuendos about what a great piece of a__ u r, are very disrespectful as his wife and mother of his children. It makes u sound like a piece of meat.

jsut wanted t ask when and if the new season is beening shown in the uk. if it is what day and time is it beening shown and on what channel. thanks

Hello Tori!
I sure enjoy watching you guys each week.
I just love to look at your decor!!!
I even have a few items like yours smiles...

I feel that your a great mom, so don't worry so much because you show your family so much love and that is just what the Lord wants from us.
The bible says that God is love and that He love
and hornors marriage and family so just keep up the good work!
I feel that you did just want you should have done and that is to invite your mom to stella's party!!! Please let the past be the past and do all that you can and forgive you mom because we do not come with handbooks except for the word of God and His words says that we must FORGIVE ONE ANOTHER 70 TIMES 7 EACH DAY, IN OTHER WORDS DON'T HOLD ON TO UNFORGIVENESS.

Anyone that knows anything about God's agape love,(His unconditional love, MEANS, NO MATTER WHAT, YOU JUST KEEP ON LOVING ),knows that you really need and miss your mom so very much, so just do all that you can do to restore or make a new relationship and enjoy each other while you can.
WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES AND SOMETIMES SOME OF US JUST HAVE TO MUCH PRIDE TO SAY THAT WE ARE SORRY SO YOU JUST BE THE ONE WHO WILL SWALLOW YOUR PRIDE OR WHAT EVER AND DON'T WORRY WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS ABOUT IT AND GO AFTER YOUR MOM!!!!
Life is just to very short to let anything keep you and those wonderful children apart from your mom. I don't care what my mom does, there is NOTHING THAT WOULD KEEP US APART!!
I THINK THAT YOUR MOM REALLY WANTS AND NEEDS YOU GUYS AS MUCH AS YOU NEED AND WANT HER, SO JUST TRUST GOD AND PLEASE HIM BY GOING AFTER HER NO MATTER WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO TO GET THINGS RIGHT AGAIN DON'T LISTEN TO ANYTHING BUT YOUR HEART!!!

MY MOM IS NOW 84 YEARS YOUNG AND EVERYDAY I GIVE GOD PRAISE FOR MY WONDERFUL HUMAN, MOM...

A MOM MYSELF, MEL...SMILES...

Hello McDermott Family!
I just wanted to say that i love your show and watch it all the time!! I have been a fan of Tori since 90210 and when she did other movies on lifetime that i loved!! My favorite lifetime movie was the one that both of you did together! You both are amazing parents and it is very nice to allow "we the people" into your family life. Dean you are right the both of you make beautiful babies! What more could you have asked for. It's is very sad to see tori having the problems with her mom on t.v. & it has to add extra stress to have it for the whole world to see. I don't know what i would do if i had the same problems but you do what's best for you & your family. You guys have a wonderful set of friends and i always say "we can't pick our family but we can pick our friends! =) Christi

Hi Tori and Dean and Liam and Stella,
Just wanted to let y'all know how much I love your show. I've been a fan of Tori's since Troop Beverly Hills! Loved Donna Martin too. Stands to reason that I would truly enjoy Tori Spelling and her family. Tori and Dean, you give the world something to admire in your marriage. It's nice to see that in a world that does not seem to support long term commitment.

You are a wonderful mommy Tori. Don't doubt yourself. You have surrounded yourself with loving people who support you and cheer you on no matter what. They love your kids as their own. Blood ties or not, you have a life blessed with family. I know you know that. It doesn't make the stuff with your mom hurt any less but you are doing the best you can for your kids in protecting them while trying to reach out. No one could ask for more than that.

Blessings to you all...can't wait for next season!
*mwah*

Campbell

Hello Tori and Dean.
I've been watching your show since the first episode and it been great from then til now and the babies are just beautiful,but tori you have a very soft heart and people with soft hearts are destined to be hurt I guess thats what your husband is trying to protect you from,I watch every show how you're trying to get a relationship started with your mother and how she keeps breaking your heart and it's so sad to see you cry but what she does'nt know is she has a fantastic daughter and son-in law who's raising her grandchildren in the best way possible and that is respectful,tollerant,open minded and not prejudiced a lot of people would say that how can they allow their children to be exposed to the gay way of life I say you should tell all of them stop drinking that haterade and try gatorade you and dean are two of the most approachable people i've seen and if you mother does'nt see that then that her loss because I know that you want your kids to have a realtionship with their grandma all kids want that but grandma has to want that also life is too short to have all of this drama going on what with the deaths of farah fawcet and micheal jackson it's time for everyone to get closer to their families and if she does'nt show up to the baby's party at least you know that you extended the invitattion and you wanted to make peace first,and I want to say that the wedding that you planned for the guncles was just great I cried along with everybody else,and thats another thing your mother should get to know your friends they are some of the most special people I've ever seen on tv and the way they help you when ever you need them is just wonderful I feel that everybody should have friends like those,and I also would like to wish bill and scout all of the luck in the world with the adoption I think that they would make some child very happy as parents.my last statement is for your husband dean he is the kind of guy who's into extreame sports the kind where you could get hurt badly I know it took alot out of you to get the motorcycle back and let him get his race license but I saw how strong you were for him and how you and all of your friends supported him thats the way it should be just continue to strong for him and pray for him because I know that jesus will protect him he's the best husband in the world where can I find one just like him.well that's all I have to say I hope that you get this but if not I'll still keep watching your show and I'll be waiting for season 4 so may god bless you and your family and contimue to be a blessing to your friends and family good things will be returned to you.
Good Luck and I'll be praying for you

I watched 90210 but the second time around, not the first. I was a little late to the game I guess. I never really cared to know more about the actors lives especially with all the bad stuff you'd read about them, but then I stumbled on Tori and Dean's show when it first came out and I was instantly hooked. Tori seemed more like someone I would be friends with than a famous star and she was so easy to relate to. Being a single 30-something woman who desperately wants to fall in love, get married, and have kids, I find the show, their marriage, and their life gives me something to hope on...that it can still happen for me. As some of the other bloggers said, I actually feel good every time I watch the show.

After seeing the first season I became more interested in learning more about Tori's other ventures - I now own several pieces of her jewelry, which always get compliments by the way, and I have enjoyed reading her first book. I look forward to reading "Mommywood". I've been waiting for my summer vacation to crack it open when I know I can read it undisturbed.

Thanks Tori, Dean, and everyone involved with the show for giving us a realty show that's actually wholesome and fun to watch.

Kim

Hey Guncles - I'm VERY SAD that the season is almost over but I'm hoping that when it returns we'll see much much more about what happens with your adoption! The ceremony was absolutely beautiful (watched it twice!).

Go Guncles!

Hil

ps...rock on pats!! you are the most loving nanny i've ever experienced in my short 26 yrs of life! the patience you have with stella and liam is amazingly wonderful. you remind me of my grandmother and i appreciate the fact that i'm able to watch your warmth on tv and feel like i'm experiencing my grandmother all over again.

i absolutely love this show! for a long time i thought tori was fake but after watching a season or two i absolutely have nothing but respect for her desire to have a relationship with her mother, her commitment to being a working woman, and her never ending dedication to her family. every time i watch the show it honestly makes me rethink the whole parenting role by how tori is with her children. its obvious that she's 110% commited to making her family happy. each episode leaves me feeling at warm and happy lol lame i know but its true. keep up the wonderful way you guys live your lives tori and dean!! its obvious that your children know that you both love them dearly.

Love the show, you and Dean are so down to earth, the Guncles are awesome, your children are beautiful, and this isssue with your Mom, she's wrong and your in the write, I hope and pray your mom wakes up before it's to late, Keep doing what your doing Tori, and Dean becareful on that Bike
We love you in Alabama

I am 36 year old career mommy (I have 3 little boys - 8yrs old, 5 yrs old and almost 2 yrs old). It is really hard to work all week and try to balance my life with family and work. So, it is nice to have an escape. Your show is my guilty pleasure 1x per week -- I laugh watching your show & yes I cry a little too! You are blessed because you have a wonderful husband, kids & friends. That is what life is all about - enjoying your children, husband, family, and friends. I was happy to see that you reached out to your Mom - and she is your Mom, so never give up hope. But, it is sad when you extend a hand and that isn't returned (for whatever reason). I hope that one day she wakes up and realizes what she's missing & decides to share in your extraordinary life. I can't imagine my parents not being a part of their grandkids' lives.

I will continue to support everything you do - books, TV shows, children's clothing...I think you are a wonderful, down to ear and caring person - you deserve to be successful! Your Dad would be so proud of you!

Thanks for opening up your life to all of us!
Cindy

I think that Tori is doing the right thing in inviting Candy to the bday!! She wants her kids to know who their grandmother is!! And her inviting Candy makes Tori be the first one to make the first move in making the relationship better, or at least to where she can say her kids know their grandmother!! I support her first step and I hope everything works out the way she plans it!!

GO TORI!!!!

I LOVE...LOVE...LOVE the Guncles. Their ceremony was beautiful. THAT'S what love is really about.
As for this show........it's one of my FAV's! Keep up the good work!

Go shove that #&@% back in your mouth & shut up! Don't watch the show then AND don't drag Christianity down with your name & opinions!

I LOVE THE GUNCLES! (So SUCK IT, TCarter!)

Tori, Being a mother myself of a 19year old girl it is very hard for me to understand what your moms deal is. My daughter Julia and I are so close and have been since she was born ( she is my only child and is moving out to go to collage) ahhhhh) anyway when we are watching you and your family I just feel so much love for you. I WOULD BE PROUD TO CALL YOU MY DAUGHTER. YOU ARE SO VERY BEAUTIFUL, STRONG AND INTELLIGENT. YOU HAVE WONDERFUL FAMILY VALUES.. you just keep doing what you are doing. IT IS HER LOSS ... AND TRULY IT WILL HIT HER SMACK IN THE FACE ONE DAY, PROABLY TO LATE..
love love love you and your family
Lisa

Dear Tori & Dean,
Enjoy your series/shows and especially like seeing your children. You are to be commended on your parenting skills. Children are so special and grow so quickly.

However, I do not enjoy the gay guys so much, I know they are your friends but am concerned what kind of message it sends to your children and the whole world. I am old enough to be your mother and know how much children absorb and remember things from early childhood. Children are easily influenced and will never forget events and people from their early years or impressions and things they learn from observing the people around you.

Anyway keep the shows coming, enjoy your wardrobe...of course everything is wonderful....and the children's line of clothing is darling too. Perhaps you should consider putting together a line of clothing for ladies. There is very little out there to pick from for the average women....and you certainly have wonderful taste.

M. Coffey

I watch the show sometimes,but when I see the GUNCLES, It dissapoints me.I'm a christian and being Gay is a sin.....same sex marriage is against what God wanted. Just because you live in a big city and anything goes.....where's God at. Dean is alwaystalking about what beautiful kids they have.....he has every right to feel that.....but for some of us, meaning myself, I have seen much prettier children......Stella is cute, but not beautiful.....she looks to much like her dad, and he is not attractive at all.Tori is much more attractive than he is.

I watch the show sometimes,but when I see the GUNCLES, It dissapoints me.I'm a christian and being Gay is a sin.....same sex marriage is against what God wanted. Just because you live in a big city and anything goes.....where's God at. Dean is alwaystalking about what beautiful kids they have.....he has every right to feel that.....but for some of us, meaning myself, I have seen much prettier children......Stella is cute, but not beautiful.....she looks to much like her dad, and he is not attractive at all.Tori is much more attractive than he is.

Guncles Scout and Bill!!!! YOU ARE BOTH TRULY F~A~B~U~L~O~U~S!!!!! Tori, Dean, "monkey" and "buggy" are so blessed to have you in their lives!! And WHEN you have your lucky lil' one or ones...They will be SO blessed to have both of you! I sure hope that you'll take the time to read the "small book" I posted on Tori's blog (July 30,2009 6:23AM) Hopefully it will give you a bit of insight or perspective from another "yummy~mummy" that has experienced so much of the same "not-so-yummy" mummy challenges!
I know that your being on the show has definately changed some closed minds to being open! CAN'T HELP BUT WONDER HOW MANY PEOPLE MAYBE DIDN'T REALLY "APPROVE" OF YOUR UNION" (IT WAS A WEDDING!)...THAT ARE SO GREEN -LONGING FOR A TRUE LOVE LIKE YOURS!!! Congratulations!!!
~XoXo~

I watch the show sometimes,but when I see the GUNCLES, It dissapoints me.I'm a christian and being Gay is a sin.....same sex marriage is against what God wanted. Just because you live in a big city and anything goes.....where's God at. Dean is alwaystalking about what beautiful kids they have.....he has every right to feel that.....but for some of us, meaning myself, I have seen much prettier children......Stella is cute, but not beautiful.....she looks to much like her dad, and he is not attractive at all.Tori is much more attractive than he is.

I think tori is setting herself up to get hurt i think she needs to do like dean said to cut the ties with her mother. I think tori needs to go on with her life and enjoy spending time with her kids and husband and just forget about her mother.

I feel that Tori did the right thing by inviting her mom, at least she will know that she did her part. I hope it all works out she has been through so much

hi guys!
You wedding was wonderful, and I thought it was so cool that you wanted Liam to do the rings for you guys--and how you obviously planned for a 2 year old's reaction!!! Very clever, and funny!!! I used to work with emotionally disturbed children, and I wish to the heavens that more loving couples like yourself were willing to open their hearts and homes to adoption and foster care. I've been a foster mom myself, and I know what hoops you have to jump through in that process. I swear, the love you feel for T & D's children just radiate off you in waves, and I dont think that anyone could wish for a better family for their child to grow up in!
I wish you much luck and even more joy than that, cuz I have no doubts that you will have a baby of your own someday!!!

Tori and Dean you guys are great. The relationship the two of you have is so inspirational. I am a mother of three and aspire to be the kind of hands on parents that you are. Keep on loving those beautiful children.
Tori I think your clothing line is very chic. I hope to find it in stores near my area. I love dressing my kids up and can not wait to put your clothes on them. Finally someone has recognized that boys can be chic too.
Wish you all the best>

Tori and Dean I must say I have been a big fan of your show since the beginning. Each Tuesday I look forward to the new episode. It is sad to think there is only two more shows and the season is over, but then it gives me something to look forward to.

Throughout each show, I see the love you have for each other, your children, your friends, and extended family.

Keep doing what you are doing and don't change anything. It is what makes your show so successful.

Best Wishes, Wendy

Hey Tori and Dean

I just wanted to ask a question concerning Liam's hair. Does he have a tail on the back of his hair? It sure looks that way on camera.

love u guys so much!!!! tori i read your first book and i loved it so much and then i read your mothers book and i gotta say i didn't like it so much, there was something about it that i just didn't like to much. then i read your "mommywood book" LOVED IT!!!!! it was great. i'm a mom of three and when i was reading your mommywood book i would start to laugh because i'm goin through the same things with my little ones. so just wanted to say that u guys are great and so are all your friends on the show. love u guys so much. when is the next book coming out tori?

As a mother of three I love watching your show Tori! I think you are a wonderful mother! I love my daughter who is 2, it is so much fun having a girl! I have two sons(12,9)they keep me busy too and love having a little sister. Keep doing what you are doing. I loved your book Mommywood too! Look forward to next season and whatver your next venture will be!

I love you guys! And i personally think that if Candy wanted to have a private meeting with her daughter and wanted things private she would not have written a PUBLIC letter. She obviously has Tori's home address, her email and her phone number. She could have requested PRIVATELY to PRIVATELY see the kids.

she didnt she chose to write an open letter to Tori which is the exact OPPOSITE of the privacy Candy claims to want.

you can see Tori is torn, but as long As Tori does the write thing, then when it comes down to it she can say she did the right thing. And in the end thats all she can do!

tori and dean, tori! we know your mother is loosing her war . but remmber you
you still have two great kids, behappy.

r kids are happy and healthy.

Tori and Dean
I'm a teacher of 32 years. I love the way you interact with your children. I love that they eat cake and enjoy it all over their mouths! I love how they play on your bed and have family fun. I love how you don't freak out and demand a spotless house---you're such a normal family in many ways and your children are darling. Dean is a wonderful father and husband and Tori is a loving wife and mother. Yeah to you all ---the most lovable Mom and Dad on TV right now!!!! --a breath of fresh air after watching other parenting shows where we have clean freaks and yelling at children and spouses and sending children to bed without food because they didn't like what was being served! Yeah to Dean and Tori!!!!!!!

tori and dean just want to say i enjoy coming into your life every week.you are two beautiful people and you have beautiful children.tori you should become a wedding planner you have great taste in everything you do.you can see how much your husband loves you and would do anything for you.you don't find man like that anymore.you have been bless with a great husband and two beautiful children and a lot of great friends.I look forward to seeing you come back next year.well take care and enjoy the holidays coming up with your family and friends.from a fan in north carolina beverly gundersen

Tori,
I have really gotten stuck on your show. You have beautiful, well behaved children. I watch your 1st part show last night with you planning the birthday party. Both my girls are in college and are part of Alpha Sigma Alpha. Their theme is ladybugs. If you ever want to get rid of any of the extra things you can send it their way. My husband is ill so I am not able to help them get things for school. Again thanks for a great real show.

Sheri Casero

hi to my favorite "guncles"! Good job Scout!
Love, the PA. Mom

Hi Tori, Dean and Family,
I LOVE YOUR SHOW. I caught it one night while surfing thru the channels. Tori you are so kind and loving to your family. You have a big heart. I enjoy watching you interact with Liam and Stella, and teaching Liam to brush his teeth and save water. And Dean you are a wonderful DAD. You teach them good values and it's enjoyable to watch. Tori and Dean, the love and respect you have for one another shines thru the screen. Take care.

Hi McDermott family love your show so funny love the cute kids!!!! I know you lost Mimi LaRue and i understand your loss,I want to share a poem with you that someone shared with me and it made it alil easier for me and my family.here it goes "Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge(smile).When an animal dies that been especially close to someone here that pet goes to rainbow bridge.There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together .There is plenty of food,water and sunshine and our friends are warm and comfy.All the animals who have been ill and old are restored to health and vigor.Those who were hurt or maime are made whole and strong again,just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.The animals are happy and content except for one small thing they each miss someone very special to them,who had to be left behind.They all run and play together,but the day comes when one looks into the distance.His brite eyes are intent.His eager body quivers.Suddenly he begins to run from the group,flying over the green grass,his legs carrying him faster and faster.You have been spotted,when you and your special friend finally meet,you cling together in joyous reunion,never to be parted again.The happy kisses rain upon your face,your hands caress the beloved head you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet.so long gone from your life,but never absent from your heart!!Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.God Bless You All!!"

Hi Tori,
I know everyone wants to talk your mom. I know what you mean. me and mom don't speak. she has treated me wrong since I was 4, don't know why. the last time I saw her a couple yrs ago, it was the same thing. I'm 37 and have a 14 yr old and 11 yr old girls and they don't know their g-ma. I have a step mom and who I love and treats me like her daughter and my girls like her g-kids. goes above and beyond. And on my g-mas side Neil Hamilton is our uncle ( on Batman), Iknow nothing about him. sometimes I feel like the outcast cuz that side of the family seems to not want to talk about anything.
I am a avvid scrapbooker, so I am making memoreis and happy ones for my kids. I know my girls love me ( yes, even teens love their moms to). it is hard, i know its not easy, and it always will be. there are more, but I don't have lots of room here. Keep your kids happy and lots of love and hubby support, that does keep you going. It works for me. I hope you all the happiness. tina :)

hi my name is jordyn and im 10 i think you guy are cool and you take care of stella i think that so lovin you guy rock

hi my name is jordyn and im 10 i think you guy are cool and you take care of stella i think that so lovin you guy rock

As a grandma of a beautiful 8 month old little girl, Amelia Rose, I would move heaven and earth, change my way of thinking to be part of my little granddaughters life. It is the best of life and a continuation of the love passed down from generation to generation, mother to daughter to granddaughter to great grandaughter etc. Life is too short to stand back to see who is right. Stella is growing older each day, I can not imagine her not knowing her grandmother. Come on Candy get off your butt and go see your granddaughter and grandson. Tori you did the correct thing by inviting your mom to the birthday party, keep reaching out no matter what. She is your Mom. Candy reach out to your daughter she is the only one you have. When the time comes for you to meet your maker, don't look back and say to yourself I should have!!@!

I can't wait to see next week. :) Can't believe it's finale time already though! Love you Guncles!

love the show its amazing!!!!

I dont think she deserves to be invited, like you guys said, she didn't even come to Liam's first birthday party, what makes us think she'll show up at Stella's. She should make the effort on getting close to Tori, Tori you've done so much to show that you want closure with her but she's not doing anything about it.

Hope there's more seasons coming up, i enjoy the show, && Tori and her family of course :)

I don't want this season to END! You should consider filming year round!

Guncle Bill & Guncle Scout -

I just love you guys (gays!). When Scout went to deliver the invite my heart started to race. That must have been scary!

Can't wait until next week's show!

Theresa

Hi Tori,
I wondered why you never mention your brother on the show...Do you have a strained relationship with him as well? Hope you will address this in future episodes, I understand that you can't respond to our questions/comments...thanks!

I just wanted to say I love the show and your two books Tori!
You all are a wonderful family, and made me make a decision, to have a family of my own. Personally, even though life is not fair with everyone, you made a great choice to be the bigger person. Always in the end you know you did the right thing & YOU are happy! As long as your happy you have won every battle. Love you guys, and keep up the great work... would love for you soon to come out with another great book..

Always,
Rea

p.s. Guncles - you rock!

Just have to say how much I am gonna miss you guys on the break!!! I have truly become addicted to the show! LOL! You are an amazing couple and have such a beautiful family!! I admire your relationship, you remind me a lot of me & my hunny! I will be reading your books to get my Tori & Dean fix....can't wait!!! Enjoy a break - you both deserve it!!

Hey!
Love the show!
I was wondering where the tan couch in the living room came from? Or who makes it? The deep seat one that has the blue/turg pillows on it. I love it and would love to know where i could find one?
Thanks
Jennifer

Hi Tori & Dean. I love your show I watch it every week. I would like to know where you got the flower pot invitation's for Stella's birthday party. They were so cute. I have been looking online, but can't seem to find them.
Thanks,
Patty

I am not saying I am a big fan of Tori but I have been watching you for many years. I watched you especially on Lifetime movies because I think you are a very good actress. A few weeks ago I was trying to find someting to watch on TV and ran across one episode of your life with Dean and the children and was very impressed with you. I just thought she was one of those stuck up actresses from Hollywood but not so. After watching a few episodes I got the real sense of who you are. You are genuine person and you are for real. You love your friends, you do not pretend to (as some of the other people on other reality shows do). You are compasionate, you love your family and you sure is not agressive and rude. I was very impressed with you when that annoying woman kept talking to you at the fruit market you handled it with class and a lot of patience. Tori you are what Hollywood should be. Being sincere and being yourself. I hope you make amends with you mother. You have a good husband and two beautiful children keep your family in tact. Keep on being yourself. All the best to you and your family. I do not watch reality shows because they are too phony and tacky but there is something different about you. You even come before the camera without makeup, that is being real. Tori I hope you get a chance to read this. All the best again.

I just wanted to write and say how much I love the show!! I find it amazing that Tori and Dean can have a relatively normal life with everything else going on in their lives.

As a mom getting ready to go back to work after having my second baby (I caught up on this season during my maternity leave!!), I find it so refreshing to hear that Tori and Dean share the same work / family struggles that regular people do. My husband and I really work to balance our careers and our family, trying to eat dinner together, etc, and it isn't easy!

I love that she talks openly about losing her baby weight, feeling good in her body, and not defending that despite the critics. I think it's amazing that she is so friendly to even the dumbest of fans and I think that shows her humility in being a huge star.

Regardless of whether she and her mother reconcile, I think her ability to share openly with 50 billion people on tv about her own family issues must be therapeutic in some way. Tori & Dean's urban family, friends, Guncles, family, reminds me of my own group of friends.

Thanks for sharing your stories with us regular people!

I love that Bill and Scout are so involed in your children's lives... My best Friend Shawn loves to come over and spend lots of time with our family also.. I love my gays....

Tori...Just wanted to say how much i relate to you and I'm glad you are doing so well! Girl, I'd love to be as busy as you are I'm a stay at home mom and it gets pretty boring around here. My husband and I have 2 lil girls Gabi and Sarah. I'd love to write childrens books even thought of it before but dont know where to start. The deal with your mom...she is your mom and she loves you but not the way you need her to and if she cant put aside her feelings and concentrate on her grand-babies then she has a bigger problem than she thinks. Good Luck! Keep going and God Bless you all!

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Love you show!
Tamara

Sorry to tell you , but your mother deserves your private time to deal with the mess you have both created. Do not let your celebrity dic - tate your relationship with the one person who loves you more than anything, you should know how much your mother loves you , it is the same love you have for your children. And remember your mother raised you the best way she new how, We all make mistakes with our children and look back at things and wished we would have done some differnetly, We all make mistakes, non of us are perfect. So quit expecting your Mother to live up to your expectations. You are not perfect either. Would you want Stella to remind you of every mistake you ever made , ecpecially when you thought you did a pretty good job raising her , she might see it differntly. And Dean is allowed his own opinion of your situation with your Mother, but you ultimatly should make the decision on what type of relationship you have with your only Mother. His opinion should be limited and his support for a healthy relationship between you and your Mom should be the only worry he has. So reunite with her privatly ,with your Mother, keep your relationship scared, and your dirty laundry private , embrace your mother, we all have issues especailly with Moms, poor momms I am a Mom, what a balancing act we have to master, and to be critized on top of it ,
and tell me why do we volunteer for such a none paying JOB> Because the love you get, is PRICELESS> God bless and Good Luck Sam

I just wanted to say i am so happy that yall got married and are starting your famlie. We need morer people like you to become parents (kind, loveling). And please tell Tori that her mother is not a mother at all. A mother is someone who supports there children no matter what and is always there for them when they need them. Tell her that her kids are better off with the famlie that she has created for them. The one filled with love and compashion. Her mom will regreat it later in life and all my best wishes to yall.
BE WELL AND SAFE AND ALWAYS LOVE EACH OTHER.

Hi Guncles! I watched the ceremony again & have to say that the love you have for each other shows through. It upsets me that the government gets to make the decision on whether you can "marry" or not. It is so not fair.

I wish I was young enough to have children as I would consider being a surrogate for you 2. I share facial features with both of you. I hope you are successful in adoption; you would make wonderful parents.

As far as Candy; it's sad that she chose not to go. I could not imagine not being in Liam & Stella's lives. She is missing the best years of their lives and no matter how many reruns she watches of T&D she can never get that back.

Please give Tori an extra big hugs from her fans. Please tell her it is time to move on for now. Too much damage has been done in the press. She needs to heal from that before she can accept Candy for what she is.

Tori.....I was hoping to get your HELP!!!! I am currently writing a book. It's about myself and my experiences in working in a veterinary hospital, and now being a stay at home mom with my beautiful daughter and running a petsitting company that I started a year ago. I have come across sooo many dogs that have made a huge influence on me and their owners, and I want to tell their story. I was hoping when I was done, you could help me promote the book, and I would love to give back to your fabulous MiMi fund that you started!!! Please conact me somehow, if you think you could help me at all......thanks so much, and I have really enjoyed this season of you and Dean's show!!! Congrats, and keep it up!!!

Tori..I love your show because it's real and I'm proud of your efforts to form a relationship with your mother. I think you are a wonderful mother and that you do put your children first. It breaks my heart to read the garbage your mother has said about you and all the lies she's trying to spread about you and the show. Just be strong..don't allow her to keep hurting you. Your already surrounded by people who truly love and care about you. Be Blessed

Mother daughter relationships are so complicated. Tori is brave, and I am so proud of her for the courageous effort to invite her mom. My mother would've shown up whether I liked it or not. So Tori stick to your intuition, I know your dad's upstairs helping you steer this vessel. At the end of the day, the best we can hope for is to do better than our parents did for us, no matter how wonderful, or awful our childhoods were, and our children should strive to do better than we are doing. Just as Tori brought Deans bike back, so he could go back to the nightmare of racing, it's going through the motions and emotions that truly define us. Thank you for showing us your human side, so candidly. I get it, and I don't think there are any villains, although through all of this, Tori, you might just be the Hero of Peace.
Love ya

Love, love, love this show. I look forward to your show every Tuesday evening. It's so wholesome, family oriented, a breath of fresh air. The garments (children, yours and Deans) are beautiful. Season Finale ugh, Patsy, oh boy, I love Patsy, what a great lady. Have a safe and wonderful hiatus.

Will purchase your books, congrats on your A list award, Dean your competitive spirit is a true gift from God, and your children are amazing.

Good luck to you both. Can't wait for the next season.

Tori, you are such a triumphant young lady. You manage to stay so positive and to always set your intentions on the best outcome. You deserve blessings and success in every area of your life...I'm rooting for you girlfriend! Be gentle with yourself lady...you're a great gal. As a daughter and a mother myself, I can say I know what it feels like to want to be "perfect." Just be happy; it's the best gift you can give your kids! God bless and take care, MiChelle

It was a lovely birthday party. After all Tater bug through it!!

Kisses

hi i love your show tori and dean you both are fantastic parents and a couple my name is joseph i have 7 kids 4 boys 3 girls 3 of them have autism its hard but we love life and kids we are high school sweet hearts i have wanted to meet you all and fly out there sometime are youngist son is 1 in a half in to everything are you both goimg threw same thing with your little princess? i was a search and rescue vol,in ny on 9/11 i have health problems from that but i love to help others i have ben that way sence i was a kid.i live everyday like its my last and love every min with kids.and tori give it a try with your mom life is to short i was adopted and i wanted to find my real mom and i did but things did not work out but at least i tried.and by you meeting your mom its a shot and you tried as well.i hope things work out for you all love your show hope to hear from you.my email tina.mckinnon@comcast.net

you're so right and I never believe anything I hear either. I'm hoping for the family's sake and Tori's that she'll show up.

Renate Uhl

Hi Tori,

I love your show. You just keep it real. Nobody knows how you feel about your mother but you. If you want to have a relationship with your mother go for it. All you can do is give it a try again. If she decide she doesn't want to she has to live with it. But you can say I tried. my mom died 6 years ago. We had a mother and daughter relationship, but it wasn't as close as I would like it, because my dad raised me and my brother. I love my mom and glad I had her in my life. But I can say there is nothing like having a mother to talk to..No matter what anyone says at the end of the day she is still your mother. I hope your mom get involved in your life now instead waiting for a life crisis to happen. To make peace with your self love your mom no matter what even if she doesn't reach out to you. When judgement day comes, you can say I tried, and I never stopped loving my mom. And if there is any chance you are reading Tori blogs today Mrs. Spelling go to your daughter and grandchildren and embrace them you only have this life time to do it. It's not to late. I don't know Tori personally I wish I did, but I can see it when I watch the show, she needs you and loves you. I didn't see the show tonight but I hope the outcome was good for you Tori and your mom.

From your number one fan
Lisa

Hello. I have become a fan of your show. My favorite parts are when you are party planning. Stella's party looks like a great time. That sad, have you, Tori, ever thought about writting a party planning book? A book that includes everything you know on what to do and include when hosting/planning a party. I am very interested in getting into party planning and have noticed that you have done wonders.

Tori I just have to say I love watching the show and my husband loves it too. Your children are so beautiful. I hope all works out between you and your mother. There's no relationship like a mother - daughter bond and you are so blessed to be on that road with Stella. My parents divorced when I was 13 and in a way it was kind of a blessing because I don't think we would have the strong bond that we do without that horrible event happening. Keep your head high and continue doing what you are doing. You have a beautiful family and the love of a wonderful man. I, myself just found that and we just celebrated our first anniversary. You guys rock!!

Scout, (and Bill)

I think it's wonderful that you two support Tori with her mother situation. I know that it took a lot of nerves for Tori to actually prepare an invitation for her mother. I'm glad that you were able to be the one to help her make sure it got there, because she is someone that she trusts so much. You two are wonderful additions to their family. No matter what happens with Tori and Candy...at least Tori can sleep at night knowing that she has two wonderful people in her life that will support her more than her mother ever would...and not only support Tori...but Dean, Liam, and Stella too! You two are the best!

Xoxo,
Jenny

Tori, You do have family.It may not be a perfect family, but its a good family and mostly its your family!Be proud of opening up to your mom with the party for Stella! NEVER GIVE UP!!!Your and Dean's kids would love knowing their grandparents!
You and Dean are both pretty open people, reasonable people! Let Candi see them if she wants.She wants to see them, she is just trying to be tough.Life is very short, please don't let any of it pass you all by.I know you won't, you two are wonderful survivors!!It's inspiring to me how much you love each other and what kindness you have in your hearts.Sweet People and Kind People. Best of Luck to all of you -Always
Cathy McBryde Gastonia,N.C.28056 ps If you are needing anyone to help out with Pats leaving, I would be honored to help you.I have worked with chidren for 29 years. 21 yrs with my son and 8 with the students at my school. I would love to just get to meet you someday, I couldn't even imagine helping with your kids!I have adored you Tori since 90210.I would love to hear something from you.I have had some deaths in the family and I have really been down, you could help me so much.Also, I could help you all so much.

Tori, You do have family.It may not be a perfect family, but its a good family and mostly its your family!Be proud of opening up to your mom with the party for Stella! NEVER GIVE UP!!!Your and Dean's kids would love knowing their grandparents!
You and Dean are both pretty open people, reasonable people! Let Candi see them if she wants.She wants to see them, she is just trying to be tough.Life is very short, please don't let any of it pass you all by.I know you won't, you two are wonderful survivors!!It's inspiring to me how much you love each other and what kindness you have in your hearts.Sweet People and Kind People. Best of Luck to all of you -Always
Cathy McBryde Gastonia,N.C.28056 ps If you are needing anyone to help out with Pats leaving, I would be honored to help you.I have worked with chidren for 29 years. 21 yrs with my son and 8 with the students at my school. I would love to just get to meet you someday, I couldn't even imagine helping with your kids!I have adored you Tori since 90210.I would love to hear something from you.I have had some deaths in the family and I have really been down, you could help me so much.Also, I could help you all so much.

love the show. you are a wonderful parents. Tori you do what is best for your children . that includes extending an olive branch to your mother even after the pain she has caused you. if all goes well then maybe next you may be able to have a relationshio with your brother randy. od bless and keep the faith.

I think it took a lot of strength from Tori to invite Candy. Their relationship might not have gotten to this point if they did not live under a media microscope! I can't imagine the stress and nervous tension Tori must feel daily from different sources. I think it is really great that she and Dean are able to focus on their kids and not let it drag them down. I have a lot of respect for them. I think their kids have great personalities, or at least what we see on the show. They are obviously doing something right!

I've gone through a similiar situation with my ex-inlaws. They wanted nothing to do with my son. I tried for a long time. One his 1st birthday they chose not to show up. I ended it then and there. I left the line of communication open and told each of them personally that they were welcome anytime they were ready to come to my house, but that I wasn't putting forth the effort anymore. I feel it hurts my son worse to push him on someone who doesn't want him than it does to cut them out of his life! I think Tori has to realize that too. If Candy doesn't want to be around these amazing kids then she is the one who looses! The kids will always have the memories that Tori tells them about her parents. Candy will have no memories with the kids! Shame on her!

Love the show, you just crack me up! I cried when your little Mimi Larue (sorry if I spelled it wrong) passed, I just lost my little Charlie and it's been the saddest time of my life.

I've been living the "mom issue" for the last 48 years (yup I'm old). It took me until I was 38 to say no to her and ever since our relationship has been odd. She has her issues and I've finally had to admit she'll never be the mom I wanted. She'll never be the Grandmother I had hoped she'd be. Her loss.

I have a terrific nearly 25 year old son who is in the film industry (crew-Steadicam op). He is such a joy and I love talking about him and being his friend. You are so right on track with your babies. You and Dean make such wonderful parents.

I heard about your mom's open letter. Putting you in the same breath as other reality shows is so unfair. You don't hen peck Dean and he doesn't roll his eyes at you. I don't for one moment believe that you are using or exploiting your children. I won't say anything negative about your mom - she's your mom and no matter what you'll always love her. You are the better part of her.

Hope to continue watching the show. Can't wait to be back in California, I miss my home so much. Enjoy your family and friends and don't let anyone make you feel less than you are.

Tori in Austin but soon back in Santa Monica :0)

Tori, I have to tell you that I enjoy your

show a great deal. You are an amazing mother, wife, person and friend. I know it has got to be hard to not worry about things the press and your Mother are saying. Stay strong and have faith.

Wishing Gods protection for you and yours.

Peggie

P.S. I wish I had a friend like you.

Hi you guys your show is great. Tori, I totally know what your going through, with your mom. It's almost like hearing my own story, on TV. You keep on holding out because you want so much to have that relationship that you see other people have with thier mothers. I don't know your mother, but I know mine, and they sound so similiar it's scary. Appearances are all that count, what other people think is soo important that it's drilled into your head your whole life, that you should be a certain way, and your made to feel stupid and unimportant, when you don't fit the mold. And even when you think you've done something worth her being proud of you for some reason, it's told to you that you did a good job but it's as if you are the neighbors kid or something, you don't ever really feel that it's genuine. I thought I neaded to have a relationship with my mom for soo many years I put up with everything, my wedding for one was a fiasco, similiar to yours, 325 people and I hardly remember any of it other than it was what she wanted. In the end I felt like it was hers not mine. And when I had my kids I told myself every day I will not do to my kids what she did to me, I will never ever let them think anything is more important in my life than they are to me. I finally realized after the death of my grandmother, that I didn't have to have a relationship with her just because she was my mother it would never be what I envisioned a mother daughter relationship to be. And I would either have to accept the way she was and let her keep making me feel bad, that I was never good enough, etc., and just deel with dissapointment after disappointment, or cut ties. And as much as people say you can't do that she's your mother, their wrong. It's your life and you will do what makes you comfortable, but for me I decided, I had, had enough. Ihaven't spoken to her in at least 7 years now. I don't keep my children from talking to her but I haveto say I could count on one hand how many times they have. I am soo much better off. I'm not gonna say it's not hard, at holidays, especially Mothher's day, but like I said it would never be what it should be so what I am missing never really existed in the first place. Hang in there. You have a great family and a loving husband, and really great friends.

TORI, since I saw you cry on the couch after the wedding Ive been wanting to write you. If there was anyone on earth I could have felt more like it was you. I have been there and felt EXACTLY like you. Even though our lives could be so much different. I felt so much the same. No matter who tells you that your mother should act like those other mothers or she should act a certain way it will never cure that feeling you have inside that YOU want YOUR MOTHER not those others to WANT YOUR CHILDREN. To be the GRANDMOTHER to your children. It just wont go away. So I just had to write to you even though I have never had the opportunity to buy your books or know that much about your past I do know from watching you as a mother and from watching you cry on the couch we share some of the same feelings.
I have been there and have tried and tried to connect with my mother. I completely understand why u do not want to stop trying on getting that approval, response, or any form of maternal feedback from your mother after having your children. I too had a very emotionally detramental mother/daughter relationship. It has effected me to this day.
All I wanted (and was seeking) from my mother all my life (and especially from the time I became a mother) was my mother to just say to me "good job" "the babies are beautiful", "lets spend the day together", "sleepovers tonight," something., anything.! I always wanted her to be proud of me now that I was a mother since I never thought she was proud of me as a daughter. I thought becoming a mother would make her proud of me. That day never came. My ex-husband and friends to this day always told me you are wasting your time trying over and over to try to get her to come around. My dearest girlfriend always used to say how did you become such a great mother since you never had one. That I cannot answer. All I know is I was not going to make the same mistakes my mother made with me. After a very sad divorce, my father's passing and now being alone with my children my mother has tried to say she is sorry for all those years of wrong doings. I did accept her apologies but have never healed. It hurts and I can totally understand your not wanting to stop trying to reach out to your mother. It is something only those daughters that were cheated out emotionally throughout their lives by their mothers will only understand. Take care and the best of luck to you I wish you and your family the best. P.S. My 2 red-headed girls are now 11 and 12 years old. They are happy, healthy competing ice skaters. We love eath other dearly and have wonderful relationships. I get through my life thinking as a survivor of my past not a victim.

Guys, Congrats! I am hopeful for you all...Kathy

I have just started catching up on the season.

I was not happy to see that Dean had to give up another one of his hobbies; first, scuba diving and second, motorcycle racing.

He absolutely should be allowed to have a hobby. Tori needs to get over her insecurities, and give Dean a break.

Well, glad to find a place to leave a message. I'm so glad to hear that Candy accepted an invitation to Stella's party. I just watched Liam's 2nd party tonight, but have not seen the one with Stella's first. I am praying that Candy will show and that she doesn't have a disappearing act again...from your family. I do hope that the 2 of you, Tori, can work things out. I know you didn't have a great relationship with her growing up, so now is the time to work on this. Just remember you can't change people as they get older, but you can ignore the way she is - and love her anyway. As we all get older, we realize our parents had issues too...that we must be the one to show compassion, cause it's hard to change as we get older. I enjoy the show - and your precious ones are dolls. I was glad to see that Liam was crying after you some tonight, cause I know that made you feel good. Do take care of them, and give them the attention they deserve - the talks, and the advise - always be there for them when they get home from school to listen to how their day went. I know you may not have had this growing up, so do give it to them....even if it means not working for a while. You won't regret it. Take care Tori, Dean, Liam and Stella. (just saw some pictures of Stella on this site laughing - don't think I'd seen her laugh on TV - she's beautiful!).

Tori and Dean - It's admirable that you were good enough to invite the absentee gram to Stella's first b-day. Just one question......... I'm a 50 y/o woman - I know who Tori Spelling is - and I vaguley recall your father........ but I really haven't a clue who your mother is.... Candy Spelling? What's she done (other than have you - in spite of her you're a lovely woman)? Maybe that's where the jeolousy comes in........ folks know who you are - maybe there's more than just me who doesn't know who she is and she's aware of that gap. You are a wonderful family and its obvious that you are both good parents and loving toward each other. Keep it up - and God Bless and keep you all. I am NOT a person who writes frequesntly to celebs - but your pain over your mother's attitude and defection make my heart hurt for you. Its no consolation and we will always seek our parents approval - but you are a good, kind, loving, strong, smart, talented and fortunate woman. Hang in there........... a fan from Wyoming

Tori,
I have really been wanting to tell you that I can totally understand what you feel about your mom. I also came from a home where I was a total daddies girl which made life hard with my mom. I do however have a sister and two brothers but it was still never really fair how my mom treated me and only me like she really was always mad at me. Like you I have always tried to make her love me and treat me with love but I am 47 and I since my father died have started to believe and understand it will never happen. I will always love my mom and I will always wish that we will someday find peace but I now understand the problem is hers not mine I have three kids and they are all over 15 and they know that this is true because even though they know she loves them she continued her feelings for me on them. this is hard when my sister and her kids are perfect according to my mom. Please try to see this as a person that has lived longer and hoping you will not have to go through this any longer you have your kids and a great husband I now am divorced and even that my mom made me feel was my fault even though my ex left his family for another woman (good ridance lol)so just live life and be happy you can love her from a distance your kids dont need the rejection that will come. youjust remember what not to do raising your little ones
Lots of prayers best wishes to you and your family

Hi Tori,

I wanted to review what I wrote and lost it...so do I continue to bleed my heart or can you find what I wrote? Anyway, where there is life there is hope...do not give up on your mother...mine is dead..and i can never fix it.....make every effort..for yourself and your family....My best friend had told me., " how would it feel to hate your mother?" For a very long time, I felt she may have been right...but now that they are speaking and we are not....I see the wrong in it....I wish I could have been there...I found out that my mother was a victim of abuse and didn't know how to be okay...if she was alive??? maybe we could be friends??? or who knows? Anyway, do not let the chance for you to know your mother as an adult and your children a grandmother..I was angry with my dad as well...now he is a great granddad and a good guy...there are still regrets...but at least we are trying to fix it...my mom and I can NEVER fix anything...find peace...read How to Win Friends and Influence People and share your love...best of luck to you and yours...to have a family and a soulmate..you have beat the odds....appreciate and share...hope your mom sees that when death is there...there is no here ...peace and love to you all...Kathy

Dear Tori,

I’ve wanted to write you for years just because you are so likeable and funny. I started tuning into “Inn Love,” and got to know you and Dean. I was just starting a family myself and my husband and I really related to your and Dean’s relationship. (We have boy/girl twins that are almost 4). I’ve read both your books and really enjoyed them. I know the pain you must go through with the relationship with your Mother because I have varying degrees of relationship problems with both my parents. Our cir #&@% stances are different but the pain you feel when a parent rejects/hurts/acts selfishly toward you is indescribable. You always dream of the way it could be, etc.

So, that’s kind of what has gotten me to finally write you. I just read a blurb about the latest “reach-out” to you from your Mother and went on to read the whole sordid mess. I really feel for you. The conflict of emotions must be incredible for you. I know that when Dean tells you to just, “cut her off” and forget about her and you reply, ‘but she’s family’ … I truly understand where you’re coming from. You want your kids to know their Grandmother but don’t want all the puppet-mastering that goes along with it.

I’ll try not to completely beat up on your Mother because I don’t know her. But Tori, she is wrong. A Mother doesn’t/shouldn’t behave the way that your Mother does toward you. I can’t tell you what you should do because I see the pain you’re in with regards to your Mom. I know she did some really special things for you when you were a child. That’s what parents should do, however, when you add in the competition on her part that never ceases, that’s a problem. It’s as if she’s raised you living the life she wished she had had, rather than identifying with who YOU are. Please, never ever doubt that you are an amazing woman with an amazing family. My husband is my knight in shining armor! Just as I know Dean is to you. Like you, my husband is my partner and I thank my lucky stars every day that we have each other and our two amazing children.

We all have parental issues to some degree. The idea of posting an “open-letter” to your daughter that is hurtful, self-centered and totally un-Mom-like is plain old shameful. I’m horrified. I’ve got my family here under the roof of my house. We are lucky that our kids have friends filling in the blanks for what they don’t receive from my family. You have an amazing circle of friends that form your extended family too and I know that you’re thankful for that. Besides having you and Dean as their parents, Liam and Stella have your extended family of friends to provide an amazing support system in their life. Yes, the sweet things your Mom did for you give you those fond memories but really, the other things she did/does are not normal and very harmful. (Like your, err, her doll collection.) You are terrific and any good Mother would be proud to have you as their daughter. You are not in competition with your children and I cannot say the same for your Mother. Yes, there are two sides to every story but she’s gone too far, regardless of the cir #&@% stances. We’ve all gone through having people in and out of our lives that are good for us and bad for us. It hurts when it’s family that is bad for us. I’m sorry that your Mom has made everything into “an agenda” with you. Keep strong. Know that you have a lot of fans and other Moms who cheer for you from the sidelines.

Our best to you!

Hi Tori & Family, From the moment i accidentally caught your show months ago, I was addicted to watching it. I even tivo every episode, just in case theres one i haven't seen. i love what you stand for and how good of a mom you are. You inspire me. Best of luck with your mom.

Hi again Just one more thing. IMHO, your mom will use anything she can as far as you reaching out to reject you and hurt you and try and make the world believe you are the one hurting her. She is the martyr in her eyes. She needs to know there are boundaries behavior wise concerning your relationship and hats off to you for setting it even though it hurts like hell. It is hard to long for something you wish would be different. She is so obviously jealous about your dad in the beginning and your wonderful family now. I know it hurts keep a goin. You are very brave You all are. See ya Lynn

Hi Tori and all I am watching you on T.V.now and really feel like telling this even if you never read it. I know what your mom is doing and know how it hurts. And how confusing and easy it is to take on guilt and blame from childhood. I am 52 lost the love of my life my wonderful mother last July. Our relationship was like you and your dad and my dad's is like your and your mom's. Your mom will be dysfunctional concerning you trying to twist everything you positively do even as far as your family friends and in your case the world. It is a jealousy that stems from relationships we had as children with people they wish they would have had as deep a tie as we did. With me it was my dad's folks and it took me a long time to get that. A lot of what you go thru with Candy I go thru with dad and I am backing off from him since mom's death and he keeps calling with proclamations of love but the double standard is still there. For all my life he teased me mercilessly about my being fat and isolated me even as people I loved dearly in our family were dying. I have been treated less than a stranger on the street. He wants the emotional control and when he started using my sweet grandchildren with the venom that ended it. The wall are up. I don't call him and the family thinks I am awful. I write and whenever he does something nasty to my children and grandchildren I protect them. He sent presents to all of my grandchildren and daughter this past Christmas except for my son in law and baby granddaughter named after me because of their being Jamaican. He showed up with my step mom at my moms service knowing mom despised them both. Point being. You are a sweet person. Hang close to the family that now surrounds you. Reach out to your mom if you feel the need but in a way that protects you you husband children and friends. Your mom set the scene with the public letter to manipulate the world into believing it was you and to keep the venom going into the next Spelling generation and Mc Dermott. Dean is right to support you but is right. Be careful. And know that no matter what kind of hand you would have extended to reach out to Candy she would have used the gesture to keep the lifelong feud going and to try and keep emotional control on you as if you were ten again. I do have happy memories of dad but I concentrate on my life and family that really loves me. My father once told me when a family member was killed not to come to the service it was already a big service and there was no room for me. I know your hurt but don't give anyone emotional control over your feelings. Be careful. Think of good memories protect and raise your family you know how your mom is better than anyone be cordial but think of you first. Keep the walls up. She doesn't have the coping tools to put the feud to rest and never will. You tell Liam and Stella about the Hansen cakes and other happy times. Keep it light you are doin a great job. I admire your courage you have a lot to overcome. Dean is great Patsy Susan and everyone Scout and the gang when I watch you I feel like I am part of your group looking our from in and that helps us understand what you all go thru. Thanks for not judging us because of gender choices or looks you all are so cool. Don't let grandma hurt those babies with baggage. Her hubby and your dad would really look down on that. I see your dad in Liam. I send dad notes but don't call him as he is very gruff and hostile if I initiate calls. We don't fit in to his new life. Anyway,you invited grandma Candy to her granddaughter Stella's party has nothing to do with the reality show and if she chooses to publicly capitalize on that to make it another issue between you let it be hers to carry. There are many ways to block cameras and you extended and invite to get together with family not cameras and a show that's ratings don't need her presence anyway. I just had to say this as sometimes my dad has made me feel so low he really lays it on. Good luck I have had weight surgery Patsy not the band and in 97. there is something called a full bar you eat and drink before your evening meal that does the same thing. Don't let your mom put you on the defensive I call it trap with dad and if no one has lived what we are as children of parents like this even though they mean well the advise isn't helpful. You and Dean are on the right track and little Liam and Stella will love you for it. If Grandma Candy wants not to be alone and see them she must behave not run their parents down public or private and you all are protecting them by not allowing it. My aunt waslike my mom, to me. When she was passing my dad drove me away I didn't even go to the funeral I was so upset. I should have went anyway but I didn't. I would do it different today and you are an inspiration to me as I deal with my father and 52 years of crap. Thx Your friend Lynn

Tori, I think that you are a really sweet and kind person all you want is the best for your famnily and to me that's really inspiring. Thank you soo much. Best wishes. Ashley

I just started watching the show and I just want to say you are doing a great job at being a mom and a great wife. I know its not easy especially on t.v. I know you are having problems with your mother I kinda feel your pain, my relationship with my mom was not that great either . I found this small saying that is so true. FRIENDS ARE THE FAMILY WE CHOOSE FOR OURSELVES. just thought you would like it . take care

I have to admit that I didn't want to like the show but from the first episode through today, the love between you guys is just genuine. I hate it that family relationships are not working the way you guys had hoped, but it makes your show all the more real as I see similar struggles in your lives as I have in my own. Thank you for allowing the world to take a peek into your lives! Always know that you tried Tori, everyone saw it and admires you for being the better person. Lots of love and smiles to your family. :)

Tori... I am a huge fan... I watch every week... never miss... I look up to you as a mother and a woman... I think you have an awesome family... Keep giving me someone awesome to look up to... All my love!!

Does anyone recall Tori's brother's short-lived reality show?? Sons of Hollywood or something like that and Candy DID appear on it!!

I have never had to go thru what you go thru with your Mom. But I wanted to tell you that it seems as tho you are trying to include her and she is the one who declines and even tho she is family you have tried again and again and she still doesn't reply. I do think it was a good idea to invite her to Stella's Birthday party. (Who is a beautiful little girl by the way). After that invitation to the party and she does not respond or come to the party I think it is time to sever the ties. That would be a clear sign that she wants no part of her grandchildrens life. (which is so sad). It does seem as tho you have a great extended family who are willing to step in and be uncles and aunts and grandmas to your childern which is a really good thing. I would go with that and I know its hard but forget obout Candy she doesn't seem to want to be a part of your life.

I just wanted to say that I think Tori is right to try to reconcile with her mom. I would. My mom and I have not enjoyed the perfect relationship, she never told me about my biological father, I found that out from my grandmother. I missed out on knowing my grandparents, in the end, I did phase my biological father out of my life, because he chose to have nothing to do with my children, and I could not deal with that as they are part of me and a huge part of who I am. While my mother and I have had our differences, and probably would continue to do so, I know that she does love me and my children. Last year everything changed when she had a stroke and lost her speech and the use of her right hand and leg. Unfortunately I can't visit her that often.I would love to, but my life cir #&@% stances won't allow. I wish I could talk to my mom like we used to. So, I think that Tori should try, and even though it is emotionally hard, if the time ever comes to give up, she will know in her heart.

Hey guncles!
Thought I'd say hi and also that I'm really happy for you two since you commited to each other! You guys are an adorable couple and I thought your wedding (through watching T&D) was very sweet- especially your vows. I wish you guys the best of luck!
Also, I haven't seen the episode yet since it airs in a few hours, but I think it was awesome for you, Scout, to deliver the bday invitation to Tori's mother. Tori is lucky to have both of you as friends, and Liam and Stella are lucky to have you as their Guncles. :-)
Have a great week and enjoy your summer!
~Emily~

Just wanted to tell you a old saying about when our love ones leave us.It might help you feel better.To say you love someone you should never have to say good-bye. You say see you later or see you so.It's makes the good-bye hurt less

Take it from someone thats been married 34years.
From A devoted Fan
Rita Ackerman