everyone keep saying that toris is open to the idea of her mom being a grandparent to the kids, but question do tori or has tori called her mom? in private and met with her talked about their issues ? until that happens this will play out in the public.

Mehran,
I love how you are always such a strong voice when Tori discusses her mother. It's evident that you hold out just as much hope as Tori does that a resolution will one day be possible and perhaps a reconciliation might occur. You said that Tori's children are their "common ground", and you couldn't be more correct. I'm Tori's age and also the mother of two small children. I've enjoyed following Tori's career since her early 90210 days, and I enjoy watching her show now because, her fame aside, I find her so relatable! She and her friends and family have ups and downs, problems, hopes and dreams, just like everyone else. My heart goes out to her each and every time she talks about always holding out hope because her mom IS her mom, her blood. Please continue to encourage Tori to hold out hope. I know it's painful, and she gets hurt so often...but Tori should be comforted in knowing that SHE is the bigger person. SHE is doing the best for her babies. It speaks so much of Tori's character that she is willing to put differences aside in order that Liam and Stella would be able to have a relationship with their only grandparent. Tori has a beautiful heart, and is so honest and brave and strong. And that's reflected in the people she chooses to surround herself with, such as yourself. What a wonderful gift it is as a viewer to be able to "peek" into your lives each week - thank you for sharing yourselves - your friendship is inspiring! Quick question - Tori once referred to her uncle as the only family she had left, and she was upset that her children would not know more relatives. I have often wondered, are she and Randy not close? I've never seen him at an event for either of the children, never heard Tori even mention him on camera. Did they have a falling out after their father's passing? Why is Randy not stepping up and being the uncle he should? I find that disturbing, and my heart aches for Tori, and for her children, even more. Many thanks for entertaining my rambling. Blessings, Melissa

Mehran,

What a great show, and looking forward to this week's episode. It was a very interesting observation on how nobody except you seemed too interested in helping along the Candy/Tori relationship. I really hope you can drive that and it would make a great cliffhanger for this season, although we all know that is probably something better handled behind closed doors.

On a separate note, if "Bela" in your blog above is being serious about you calling Liam gay, they need to get over it...Really? I'm pretty sure it was a joke! Bela...settle down! Everything will be ok, and if Liam turns out to be gay...so be it!!

I felt you handled the matter of the letter most diplomatically. I do feel that Tori is quite right not to force a relationship with her mother or push her to be an involved grandmother. That decision must come from Candy alone and she must make the effort to do so. A letter to the press is at best childish, in that she she may well desire to be involved but wants someone else to do her work for her. As each of you clearly see, in albeit different ways, to have a healthy relationship in requires effort from each person. It seems as though Tori has been encouraging and not dismissive. I am so happy for Tori that she has found comfort, solace and peace with the wonderful family that she has created for herself. Blessings and peace to you all.

ijust want to say how dare you call little Liam gay, Tori and Dean should bash your face in for suggesting such a thing. He a innocent baby, leave him alone.

My mother in law has a lot of issues, I promote a relationship with her and my children so they can know they have each other. NEVER is it allowed to be negative, hateful or she said he said junk. They could do the relationship for the kids -- Deans mother is passed -- he should see that the children need a Grandparent in their lives. HE needs to set the ground rules with Tori and her other close friends and everyone stay on the same page. If she talks about anything to anyone .. Tori and Dean are to be told. No secrets -- everyone wins! Candy didn't know how to be a mother -- being a Grandmother is easy .. all you do is be there when they need you and be there when she is in a happy mood. Done .. not difficult. The mother daughter relationship, not sure if that can be fixed. The mother - grandmother relationship can work. My mother is my best friend, so this is all very hard to do, but it works.

I first want to say you are a great friend to tori.

I think Candy is a jerk!! She is showing the kind of person she is by talking about her daughter the way she has been in the press. Tori should forget about her. She is better of with out her in her life. She has her own beautiful family now and life is too short. she should spend her days happy and stress free. She should just enjoy the family she has and tell candy to stuff it!!

Oh Mehran. You are the only one who truly understands women politics. BTW .. Where do you go clothes shopping?

I agree with you that it should be private. I honestly think her mother was wrong to put an open letter to Tori on her website. She should have contacted her privately. That is none of our business!!!! I HOPE her mom will want to be a participating grandmother!!! It is very important to the children, but it is their choice. I personally have delt with a grandmother who said she wanted to see me and then never showed up, time and time again. I finally met her as an adult but the pain wasn't taken away. My parents tried to get her to come see me throughout the years, but see never did. I know you do not want Tori to hurt, as do none of her fans, but sometimes the best thing to do is let her figure it out. I am only speaking out as someone who understands and cares...