HI TORI AND DEAN LOVE YOUR SHOW TORI HANG IN THERE REMEMBER YOUR MOM IS STILL YOUR MOM AND EVEN IF SHE IS NOT THERE FOR YOU NOW EVENTUALLY SHE WILL COME AROUND JUST NOT IN FRONT OF THE CAMERAS YOUR CHILDREN ARE BEAUTIFUL AND LIAM IS A LITTLE HAM AND STELLA SHE IS GOING TO BE A HANDFUL AS SHE GETS OLDER SHE HAS HER OWN MIND BUT SHE IS CUTE AS A BUTTON AND RED IS HER COLOR BY THE WAY WOULD YOU BE INTERESTED IN HEADBANDS FOR ADULTS AND CHILDREN MY DAUGHTER DESIGNS THEM AND IS JUST STARTING UP HER BUSINESS CAN WE SEND YOU ONE FOR STELLA AND WHERE CAN I SEND IT HOPE YOU ALL STAY ON THE T.V. LOVE TO YOU ALL MARIE

Dean, you are an awesome hubby!! Wish my man could appreciate me the way you do Tory!

Toriand Dean Love you show i just started watching it im toataly addicted to it my 2 kids both love to watch it and there only 5. And tori i know how yu felt when Liam started school my 2 wil start kindergarten this year I dont want them to go because ther my babies It will be easier with Stella starts school.Keep up the good work your kids are great.

Dean, I really respect your decision to honor your wife's fears about your bikes. I know it was a hard decision for you and I know she felt guilty about it. When I was 17 (I'm 39 now) I lost the love of my life to a motorcycle accident. We were to be married the following year. My whole life was taken away in a matter of seconds. To make matters worse, I heard about it on the radio after feeling my stomach flip for what I thought was no reason. I found out later my stomach experience happened at the time he had wrecked. We were that close that I felt him die even though I wasn't there. He wasn't racing, he was driving down the road at 30mph (speed limit was 40). He was driving slowly as a witness said as he had leaned over to adjust something. He hit sand a road crew left behind and the bike went out from under him. He hit a telephone pole that cracked his helmet and ultimately caused severe brain damage that killed him. This happened 3 days after his 20th birthday. Needless to say, I was devastated. This happened in 1987 and even now there is not a day that goes by that I don't think about what happened and how much I miss him. Thank you for not taking that chance with Tori's and your babies' hearts! I shows how much you care and what a great man you are!

Tori; I just finished reading your 1st book and I am now starting on your 2nd book. I truly enjoyed reading uor book. I think that you are a very beautiful person. I hope you do get into writing childrens books. I would buy them for my grandbabies and great grandbabies. Keep up the good work and stay happy.

Hi Dean,
As a wife of a husband who loves motorcycles I can understand what you & Tori are going through with the motocycle issue. My husband doesn't race motorcycles he just has a simple endurosport bike that he rides to work & bounces around in the mountains with. For him it's an outlet for his hectic days or when he just needs time for himself. I respect that 100, everyone needs an outlet. I was not a happy camper when he bought it, I was so worried about his safety. But to help overcome that I went & bought a helmet & a special motorcycle jacket. I didn't care about the price I wanted to make sure they would protect him as much as possible. My best advice for Tori would be to take a minute to really step back & see what all this involves. Show her the equipment you use in the racing & show her the safety features. Yes motorcycles carry a risk no matter what but as my husband says when it's your time, it's your time & there is not stopping that. I hope you can stay involved in motocycle racing. Good luck to you.

Tori & Dean....
dont worry about what these pathetic ppl say on here...you two have it soo goin on!! you both are wonderful parents...and i think Dean did a cool thing by thinking of his family first over the whole motercycle thing...my hubbs and i both ride and our kids are older..(16 & 20) and our son rides...but if i thot for one moment thatit was a problem we would give them up in a second...you two just keep doing what your doing and all will be right...and Tori...do not worry about your weight..you look amazing girl!! i struggle with weight myself and would love to look like you sweetie...i so love your show!! know you have a major fan in NC!!

Hi guys love the show I have been watching since the start,dean you must really love your wife,thats great,your relationship is so real and there is so much love,your babies are beautiful....you should pray with your family and have god in everything u do

Hi guys love the show I have been watching since the start,dean you must really love your wife,thats great,your relationship is so real and there is so much love,your babies are beautiful....you should pray with your family and have god in everything u do

I love your show with Dean. You guys are great. I have 3 kiddos, ages 5, 4 and 1. Actually my baby daughter and your little girl share a birthday.

One question, I have my own photography business that I started about 3 years ago, my question is how do I really make it explode. I am doing okay but am really wanting to make it some big, something special! You have all these business ideas just thought I would ask.

I saw the episode where you gave up your bikes. It takes a big man to give up his hobby for his family. I saw part of the episode where Tori found out. I'm sure she felt very relieved. The apology ring was gorgous. Stella has Great Taste.
I think Tori really stepped up when she got you a bike though. It shows her true care for your interests. So keep it on all 2 and keep being the wonderful husband and father you are.

Hi!!!

I never do this (comment/blog) but I really like Tori and enjoy the show. So many other reality shows don't seem real and make drama out of nothing, your show focus is so real. The drama is just normal family stuff, Daddy is away at work- we miss him, potty training etc. I have a daughter the same age as Stella and I love watching her (Stella and my Sadie).
I guess this is just a mom "shout out" from one mom to another- you are a great mom :)
Love Julie

I have to let you know the best thing I ever did for my child was not expose her to my mother. My mother is a very cruel person and when everyone told me to bring her back into my child's and my life it was the worst mistake I ever made. It's ok to break the ties with your "blood" relative no matter who they are. If they can't respect you your kids will pick up on that and the kids will end up being hurt over it. My grandmother and my mother were always against each other as well. I was torn my whole life because of this. My grandmother(God rest her soul)was more of a mother to me then my own mom. I feel for you when others pressure you into getting back with your mom. Keep up your way of thinking.

I just wanted to write a quick note saying I love your show, it's very cute. You obviously have a very loving relationship and you care about your kids and that's all that really matters. You also treat people with a great deal of respect and I think that's so nice. I understand exactly how you feel when you have to be apart. I just spent a month in Mexico without my husband and kids and it was torture. We did Skype which is such a lifesaver. I thought it was a hilarious when Dean wanted to do "adult" Skyping. My husband was trying to convince me the whole time to do "adult" Skyping after the kids would go to bed. Guys all think alike! Have fun with your show and just don't let the people who try to tear you down get to you. Take care.

Tori,
You have a beautiful sense of style. I just love watching to see what you will be wearing next. Your jewelry is gorgeous.
I just started working for a company call stella & dot. Their styles remind me of you. You should take a look. www.stelladot.com/lis
I would LOVE to see some of the hot pieces on you.
Cannot wait to hear from you.
Thanks!

I love the show :-) So real and honest...and you guys have such a great, happy family with great friends!!!

I have a very silly question but I just have to ask...curious to know where Tori bought a necklace that she wears often. It's a gold circle pendant on a gold chain, very simple, it's probably medium in size but I LOVE IT. Not sure if there's anything on it but it just looks so great on her and everytime I see it, I am just curious to know where she got it. I do NOT see it in her jewerly collection -- maybe older piece but don't think it's a costume piece. ?!?!

If anyone knows wear to buy it...would love to get one! HA!

Thanks for the good laughs and great entertainment!

I just read Belas comment on Tori blog and i agree with her. dean you should have bashed Mehrans nose in for saying liam was gay. You and Tori are going to have to protect your kids from all of your gay friends or they will try to convince those kids one day that they are gay too.

Tori/Dean:

Please stop whinning that you two miss each other everytime you are away from each other.

Its very annoying and childish.

Your relationship will not survive if you don't give each other breathing room.

SHUT UP!!

i think Tori and Dean are a normal couple who faces every day life just like every one else but under a microscope sometimes

THE CHARMED LIFE OF..TORI AND DEAN...Great name for the next show...hehehe..

Tori and Dean, I love your show!! Dean you are like my dream husband! you are so caring and sweet to Tori and GREAT with your kids. Tori you are such a nice person. I love your sense of style. Hope the show goes on for a long,long time.
Also Liam is so cute! he is very smart. And Stella is beautiful. you are living a charmed life guys enjoy!!

When I watched the show of Stella's birth, my heart broke for Tori. I have 2 beautiful grand daughters, and a grand son due any day. One of the girls is not biologically related to me but I was there for both of their births. I cannot imagine any situation that would have kept me from being in the room when these beautiful children were born. All the money in the world is not going to make up for Candy missing the birth of her grandchildren because of her obvious stubborn pride. Are the kids going to miss having a grandmother? No, they won't miss something they never had, but she will miss out on the enormous joy that these precious children could have brought to her life. I cried when Tori cried when she was so scared before Stella's birth. My mother's heart was broken for a girl that obviously needed a mother's love and was denied it. I am so sick of all the negative people who post on blogs. If you don't like the show, use your remote and change the channel. I think they are all cowards with no lives of their own and they have to try to make others as miserable as themselves. If you want perfection, look to God for he is the only perfect being all others are just humans trying the best they know how to live their lives.

I absolutely love your show, it is so nice to see real people with real kids dealing with the hassels of every day life and one that is even more componded by the paparazi. I appreciate your real life and allowing us to watch as you tread the same waters as parents as we do, but with millions watching!

just wanted to say,, 'Love the Show"...u 2 r so awesome..the kids r sooo cute!

Tori,
Love your show. I too had a very very similar relationship with my mother although it did not play out in the public. Just her friends were enough to deal with. I sadly lost my mother a month before my twin boys were born. I did see her and try to do all I could for her after she had her stroke but no true reconciliation happened. I want you to know that I feel for you and am praying for you that whatever is best for you and your family will happen. The pain you carry, the hope you hold out, the extra fear and worry that we have about our relationships with our children, the complete unbelief of how our mom's could have turned their backs now that we know what it is like to lay eyes on our precious children.....all of this I relate to and feel for you. Be strong, you are an amazing mother, an amazing wife, and a very smart and talented woman. God Bless you and your family.

I am somewhat perplexed by the fact that Tori is always talking how important her family and her kids are to her; does it occur to her that she was the reason another family with a child was torn apart?

Truly, honestly, I think Tori is overreacting. If Dean loves to ride his bike, then he should be able to do that. You can definitly tell that he loves Tori so much, to give up his hobby. Maybe he shouldn't do as often as he does, but there should be some medium between them. I think that he takes care of the kids, and he helps Tori. Dean slow down a little but don't give up the hooby and talk to Tori about it, and not at night. Women usually don't want to talk about things that are bothering them at night. Tori, listen to Dean and see his side.. You guys love eachother so much and I think that you can both be happy as long as you hear eachother out and talk. communication is the key...to everything. I am married and a mother of two.

Dean:
True love is giving when it even hurts you and it goes against your needs, wants and feelings in consideration for the one you love. You did that when you got rid of your bikes. Tori did that when she bought it back. Don't get tired of doing what is right...GOOD JOB of setting a GOOD example!

Dean:
True love is giving when it even hurts you and it goes against your needs, wants and feelings in consideration for the one you love. You did that when you got rid of your bikes. Tori did that when she bought it back. Don't get tired of doing what is right...GOOD JOB of setting a GOOD example!

I don't like being one of the masses, but felt compelled to comment on your show. I really enjoy watching the two of you and your family. Dean is right when he says that you are very approachable and down to earth. I think everyone would like to be your friend because of how genuine you are. ANYWAYS, love how you and Dean are so respectful of each other and how much you are in love, it speaks volumes. Also, am moved by your hope for a relationship with your mother. It is frusterating when they give you a glimpse of what you need. Just enough to keep you on that roller-coaster ride. Keep the door open, but just realize that you are changing the pattern with your own children. It is actually hard not to be envious of your own children and the childhood they are getting. Be proud of what you are giving them and focus on changing history. Your story with them. Bless you both.

Hi Adorable Family,
I just wanted to write to say how much I love your show. I'm also a huge fan of the original 90210! I really became attached to your new show last summer when I was in my last trimester of pregnancy with my first child, Ryan, as I watched you survive the last trimester with your daughter. I was moved to tears (alongside with you) several times! Watching how adorable your son is and the beautiful experience of having your daughter made me even more excited for what was about to happen. It's nice anytime you're reminded that you're not going through this alone! Congratulations on your beautiful family! Maybe I'll have a daughter next!

I love watching this show! It is nice to see a little bit of down to earth in the hollywood scene.....On this weeks episode I really liked the lip color that Tori and her friend were wearing while they were sitting on the couch talking about her mom towards the end of the show. I would love to know if it is something that is able to be purchased! Thanks and keep the episodes coming!

Hi Tori and Dean,

I'm married to a man in the Army and he is getting ready for his second deployment overseas. I was watching your episode when Dean leaves for 5 weeks. I know how hard it must be with two little children and a full time job. During that episode all I was watching was how sad and how hard it's going to be with Dean gone. I don't know if you guys ever think about our Military and that there fighting for our Country and putting their lives on the line every single day for us. It upsets me to hear not just you guys but anyone who complains about their spouse being gone for more than a month. I know it's hard believe me I've been there, I am there right now. I've been away from my husband for 15 months, he came back for two weeks and got called back for another 15 months. A phone call once a month, and letter's when he had time to send them is all I get, is all that most military families get where there loved one is overseas.

I had to turn off your show today because I got really frustrated. I just had to vent and I'm sorry if I offended anyone, I don't mean to.

You two have made me realize why we all fall in love. I have been married for 9 years and have two beautiful girls. I still feel so much love for my husband and hope you two will do the same. Love is a wonderful thing!!!! Thank you for resparking what I forgot!!! I never stopped loving, but I forgot the "spark." You guys are fabulous!!! Keep doing what you are doing and you guys will last a lifetime. Your family is gorgeous and you treat each other with the utmost respect. Especially Patsie. (did I spell her name right?) She is wonderful!! So lucky to have her. I also love the way you guys are so hands on with your kids. I'm a stay-at-home mom who knows how it can be. Your children are fantastic!! Stella is so adorable (and so photogenic) and Liam is absolutely hilarious. I love his little running/skipping around. Too cute!! I am in total awe!!!! Thank you for sharing your absolutely amazing family to me every week. I would almost be lost without it!!!! :) :)

Tori & Dean,

I love your show, I was a little reluctant at first because I love the character of Donna on 90210 and didn't want to be disgusted with her if I ended up not caring for Tori, but omg girl you are fabulous. I LOVE that you are so not a homophobe, some of my best friends are gay and I love that you're so open about your friends being gay and that they're family to you. You ROCK! On another note, your kids are so damn cute lol, Liam reminds me of my son at that age and his nickname was and is also monkey lol. He got it because he loves to climb trees or anything he could get on. Awesome show you guys, and one thing though, you might want to not show scenes of your kids in the tub, just an FYI because that's a pedo's dream.

Hey Tori & Dean :) Just started watching your show awhile back there was an all day marathon!! Just one word for ya "addicted" can't get enough. Just wanted to share some fun facts.
My dad had nicknames for all us kids growing up.
"MONKEY" -- Was mine -- @ 38 yrs old still respond to this when my dad calls out to me. lol.
Great to see that people are still giving there family members fun nicknames. It makes life fun!
Now have kids of my own and they all have nicknames also, oldest daughter "7 yrs" -- goes by "butterfly" youngest daughter "3 yrs" -- goes by honeybee. But the crazy thing is my Niece "6" was given the nickname "LADYBUG" and my sister's dogs name is "CHIQUITA" WHOA!! Ok I can see the nicknames Monkey & Ladybug matching up in one family -- but a dog in the family with the same name as your dog :) crazy!!! lol.
Well anyway, don't want to bore you anymore with "Fun Facts"- -- love the show. Your family & friends are adorable. Have a Wonderful Day :)

T & D - I am so happy to see such a respectful, loving, family. Your kids are so adorable. I want to tell you why I'm hooked on your show. Tori, you are a super woman and you work your tail off! You've earned and deserve all the happiness that life can bring. I have so much I would like to say, but I don't want to say it in a blog.
I'm a 41, SWF, Master's Degree, youngest child of 5, 9 nieces and nephews, and find myself at a crossroad in life.
I'd like to come and work for you!
Even if you don't respond with a different email address in which I can pitch this idea to you, I wish you and your family all the best.
Lorelle
"Singing in the Portland Rain"

tori i think u r a great mom and for sure u know how to throw a birthaday party and i like ur book it is so good and dean u r a man for given up the motercycle racing u r a man

tori u an dean r so cute yall r always happy and u dean is always trying to make tori happy i think u r a great dads/husband and i know one thing for sure u know that u lovr ur family well i wish the best for yall

Tori & Dean: I've been watching your show since the beginning and thought it was going to be like all of other reality shows, but then I totally got hooked. The more I watched, the more I felt I had in common with you. Well, other than the fact that you and Dean are actors and I'm a nurse and husband is a fireman... but who's keeping track? We now have a four month old son named "Mason", who's nick name is monkey because that was his nursery theme. He came after several mis-carriages and twin sons that died prematurely after 6 hours of birth last year (Avry & Ashton). I started to write a book about them and ended turning into the kind of style you write , but only about life of infertility. Sex, ups & Downs you name it.. I feel for you that you are in public eye with your issues with your mother. Just know that famous or not, everyone has issues and drama. Family is hard, especially when you feel like you are turning into the parents. My husbands' parents don't visit their grandson often, even after all we went through to have him, They even didn't talk to us for a year once. But, in the end, his father had heart problems and I didn't want to be the reason my husband didn't see his father. So I called up one day and invited them to a party and they have been in our lives ever since. Unfortunately, they pick and choose when they want to come. (When its convenient to them but no matter what, I invite them over almost every other week and for every single holiday. It is what it is. I have no hard feelings because I no longer have expectations of them. So they can no longer disappoint me. I'm no longer stressed when they come over because I know what to expect and I now know how to handle myself. I say just invite your mother, knowing " it is what it is" and after a couple of visits, you will feel more comfortable in knowing that she cannot disappoint you because you no longer have those high expectations. Make peace with yourself and realize that you didn't pick your mother and that you learn from her mistakes and it definitely shows with the love you have for your children. I too struggle with going back to work full -time or part time and end up picking up extra shifts at hospital so I can lend my folks money to buy air conditioner and etc.. when i now have my own family... Learn to except that people are who they are and that everyone makes their own choices. I get the whole Dean and motocycle thing. My husband just turned 41 and now he plays golf, baseball and coaches hockey.. its not dangerous you think but so far this year he came home with fx ankle, strained hamstring and injured neck... Male a pause.... you think?? anyway, take care and I'm on facebook if you ever want to talk! Viv

Tori, thanks for being so open about your relationship with your mom. It makes others like you feel not so alone. I've Been in a similar situation with my own family for the last 16 years and it's really hard to let go when deep down you really wish it could be different and all you want to to is hold on and wish it would change.

I'm not going to blow smoke up anyone's tush I will just be frank. Tori you are great and your mom ( yeah annoying right? Bringing it up AGAIN) but you and your mother's relationship is just that...private & yours. Being in the public eye does not mean everything has to be public. I hate that it makes it 20 times harder on you all. Anything you want to do is your choice and your business. So let people criticize- it's doing nothing but throwing bad karma their way.
And your weight( tired of the same old subjects yet? sorry almost done).. the same exact thing happened to my sister. She had her son and soon after was thin ( the thinnest she has ever been before in her life matter of fact!) and she eats...not even healthy for a majority of the time. Eating disorder/Eating schmickshmorter...Your great.. so eff em! If people want to be ugly then their life will be just that...Ugly. But you are great and a wonderful role model so keep it up. Thx

i'm glad that they did a season three stella has grown so much ... i love the show ....please dean be carefull on motorcycle

To all the negative people.....Didn't your mama ever tell you.."if you can't say something nice to someone, don't say anything at all!!!
Tori and Dean, i think your show is excellent...Tori, i hope you and your mother find peace with each other...you can simply agree to disagree...I have a son in the army and it breaks my heart knowing that we can't find peace in our own families... how are we ever suppose to have world peace?

Tori, my relationship with my mom has always been like yours, I am 50 now and its the same but we have found some common ground. I will never be good enough, but I accept who I am , and if she can't be happy for my life and what I am doing that's her problem. I am disabled and disappointed her a zillion times, so be it. you will always love her, try to find some common ground and don't feel like its your fault, its not, I had to give up rasing my son's because they were moving and would not help me when I needed her most, well I have two wonderful sons and a wonderful step son I raised and you know what? its ok , no matter what hang in there and take your time, it will come love the show your great carol

Tori and Dean,

You two are a perfect couple. You both give each other balance and it's obvious how much you love each other. Your kids are adorable! You're doing a great job of raising them. I enjoy watching your show so much and I want to thank you for allowing us into your life. Your friends are the best and will always be there to support you! Tori...I understand how you feel about your Mom. It's only natural to want that bond. My husband and his daughter from his first marriage don't really mesh either. They both are waiting for the other to call. But neither one will. The sad part is, they aren't fighting, or mad at each other. They just don't talk. She'll say she's coming for a visit and then never shows up. He hasn't seen his grandkids in years. We have a son (age 15) and he says that we are all the family he needs. But I know that he would love to have a relationship with his daughter. I still send out Christmas cards every year along with our picture and a note telling her that we love her and wish that we could get together. Sometimes, you just have to say "it is what it is", and move on.

Tori, you look stunningly beautiful. Don't worry about what others say about your weight. Enjoy your life, enjoy your husband and those beautiful kids, and the rest will take care of itself.

Much love!

LOVE LOVE LOVE all of your friends and family. Tori you were so sweet when you were shopping with Pasty for fruit and the stalker lady (fan) kept following you. You handled that GREAT !!! keep it up . I don't want this season to end I could watch you guys all year.
THANK YOU FOR SHOWING US THE REAL YOU !!!! I am 47 years old and still watch the re-runs of 90210 everyday back to back.. I KNOW get a life , but I watch when I am cooking dinner and I want to relax and it just makes me feel good. Later

Tori & Dean,
There seems to be a curse with reality show couples. They always break up! They ruin relationships for some reason. Nick & Jessica, Carmen & Dave, Britney & Kevin, Hulk Hogan and his wife ecy ect. So make sure this doesnt happen to you! your adorable together! And OMG, Dean, your the best husband in the world! So supportive and hansome!

Hi Tori & Dean! I love to watch your show, it,s nice to see a normal hollywood family! Tori, I feel for you re: your mom. My mother and I have had the very same rocky relationship, if you could call it one,she has been in and out of mental hospitals when she did not want to face life or being a mother. Unfortunatley I think some people are meant to be parents and some are not. It seems to me that she never new how to be a parent and never will, to the grandkids either, sad. I do know as a mother that she does love you she just probably does not know how to express it.
I would continue to try to involve her in your life, but expecting that she probably will not receprocate so you won't be hurt everytime.But I beleive as a mother and for your kids sake, you need to keep trying.I think your family is beautiful and wish you the best!

Love,
Rachel Hermosillo

Tori,
Just wanted to write and say.I am a mother of 2 wonderful daughters.Davia and Katherine. Davia is 22 and Katherine is 19.I love my relationship with my girls.My mom was in our life for awhile.Now she doesn't call,write or anything.So when you talk about your mom.I can totally relate.I dont know what to do anymore. I want her to be in my girls life and in my life,but I'm tired of trying all the time.
I can remember some of the few good times with my mother, she was always to busy for my brother and me. most of the memories are from my grandmother.
I work in a medical office as a referral coordinater and my husband is a police officer.
We live in south carolina.
We are happy and and have a great life. Sometimes I wish my mother could join us in this happy life. I do hope one day that we can see each other again..I have written and called .. but I have had no response from her.

This may sound weird ..but if you ever need to talk to someone..Im a 45 year old mother and I know you have alot of friends...you can call me
it can all be private..864-895-2242 I would love to talk to you. If you have the time.
love the show...and books ..keep up the great work.

your friend...Lisa

Hey Tori,
I am a mom of 2 daughters and 4 step children, I love your show, your very real! No I didn't think you were plastic!lol I have a really awsome family now after I married my new husband and we both cry at times after watching parts of the show. I'm wondering if you know how I would go about talking to someone on oxygen about a new show about our family. Very real, 2 familys trying to become one, I also have a daughter who is autistic, and a husband who is restoring a 120 year old house for all of us. Kind of a homes on homes. Any info would be great. Good luck to you in all that you and your family do. Lynn

Tori, i just want to tell you that i know exactly how you feel with the relationship with ur mom. i am 24, I was taken away from my mother and her husband when i was 7, my step dad beat me and my oldest brother, and my mom was a drunk. Still too this day we don't have a very good relationship, I have a 3 year old son who is my world, and I think my mom has seen him maybe ten times, and I only live a half hour away. Now that my son is visting his dad in another state, she calls to say she misses him, not sure how she can when she never had a relationship with him, he doesn't even really know her. Her reason for not being close to me now is because she doesn't like my boyfriend, which she has no reason not too, she is still a drunk and now has 2 other kids, none of my brothers really talk to her, she never has the time for any of us, she would rather be in the bar. But also like you I always still hold out hope that someday we will be close again, because she is my mom and i do love her, just keep your head up and dont let her get to you, moms can do that cuz they know where to hit us where it hurts. You have a beautiful family, and a great career focus on that and not your mom. I love you guys....always and forever a fan
Jessica

Tori and Dean! I think you guys make the cutest family ever! You are so beautiful! I LOVE ur show and have watched every season religiously! Your children are beautiful and don't worry Tori I do not think you are anything like your mom was to you and that you have a GREAT relationship with Liam and Stella :) You guys are so real and humble and that is what makes you great stars to watch....Dean good job with giving up the motorcycles....I know you loved the hobby, but when it comes down to it you love your family more and you made the right decision--You are a great husband! Seeing you guys on television and the love you have for one another, makes me optomistic that someday I will find my Dean and that I am not going to settle for any other kind of love! Oh yeah and I am finishing Mommywood right now...love it! Especially the chapter on "Poo Up The Puss" I laughed so hard at that! Love you guys! :) Kisses to Liam and Stella.....Keep up the good work and Best wishes to you guys!!!!

and i think its great u gave those up for tori adn that she bought them back for you everyone needs love like that

i think you guys are so funny and i love the show liam is adorable and stella is the cutest baby i have ever seen and i am 13

Tori, you are so funny. So real.
I have caught your show a few times, especially when you did your "inn" shows. My daughter tapes you so when I visit her I can catch up.
My daughter is 48! I am 70! I am still a kid and don't know what I want to be when I grow up.
I have 2 great adult girls but don't have and will not be lucky enough to have grandchildren. I
would have been an awesome grandma.
I am reading Mommywood. Hilarious. All your thoughts, your trials and tribulations. Your insecurities.
I laughed out loud at so many things, one being the swim poo. I am laughing again.
I hope I get oxygen and can catch your shows. I live in a place where I get what they give me...no, no, not a old lady home....
Don't worry about your kids noses! They are darling and Dean is a kick and a "manly man" which is great. He keeps you centered and you can't possibly get "full of yourself".
Your Mom...ooh, she is missing so much.
Look, it takes 2 to get out of sorts, argue etc but just 1 person to make it right again. Go for it! Be big. Be strong. Be gracious. Be forgiving.
You can do it.
You don't say anything about your brother, at least I haven't come across it in this book yet.
Where does he stand in your life.
Be well.
Thanks for the enjoyment of your sharing.
JB
Irvine, CA

Think you and your family are great. I do have a question for you Dean. How many tattoo's do you have? And which one is your favorite?

HEY GUYS FIRST I HAVE TO SAY I THINK YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS ONE OF THE BEST!!!! YOU GUYS ARE GREAT TOGETHER AND DEAN YOU ALWAYS KNOW JUST WHAT TO SAY!!!! I HAVE TO SAY I AM JUST FINISHING UP YOUR FIRST BOOK AND CANT WAIT TO READ MOMMYWOOD!!! ON YOUR MOM TORI I THINK ITS JSUT TIME TO PUT HER BEHIND YOU HOW LONG CAN YOU LET SOMEONE HURT YOU? I KNOW ITS HARD BECAUSE ITS YOUR MOTHER BUT SHE IS THE MOTHER SHE SHOULD COME TO YOU !!! AND NOT ON AN OPEN LETTER TO THE WORLD BUT IN PRIVATE LIKE A FAMILY MEMBER SHOULD!! BUT ULTIMITLY ITS YOUR DECISION AND YOUR HEART YOU HAVE TO PROTECT! I THINK YOU GUYS ARE WONDERFUL PARENTS AND JUST WONDERFUL FUN PEOPLE! I WOULD LOVE TO JUST HANG WITH YOU ONE DAY LIKE OLD FRIENDS...LOL WELL BEST OF LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY IN EVERYTHING YOU DO!!! AND DEAN I DEF THINK GOOD CHIOCE IN GIVING UP THE RACING AND TORI YOU DID IT PERFECT NOT MAKEING HIM CHOOSE WHAT YOU WANT BUT LETTING HIM MAKE THE CHIOCE TO GIVE IT UP FOR YOU AND YOUR KIDS!!! I REALLY HOPE THINGS GET BETTER WITH YOU AND YOUR MOM WEATHER THAT BE NO RELATIONSHIP OR A REALATIONSHIP ASLONG AS YOUR HAPPY AND YOUR COMFOTABLE WITH IT..... GOOD LUCK GUYS IN EVERYTHING!!! LUV YOUR SHOW AND YOUR FAMILY !! XXOXOXOXO

tori and dean i watch your show every tuesday nite I think its a great show. your children are so cute.i think you should just call your mom and talk to her you be the bigger person, as for your weight tori i dont think you are that skinny i think you look great.and its nice to see you and dean always together,i think you should reconsider an let him have his bikes.I have to say this tori but i think Dean is really Hot!!!!.

DEAR TORI AND DEAN
I LOVE WATCHN UR SHOWS I HAVE THEM ON RECORDE O MY DISH.HOW I WAS TOLD ABOUT UR SHOW WAS MY MOM WATCHS IT AND SAID DAT UR RELATIONSHIP REMINDED HER OF ME AND MY SOON 2 B HUSBANDS RELATIONSHIP. WELL.... I SO C WHERE U R COMN 4M TORI WITH DEAN AND THE BIKE MY BOYFRIEND IS WANTING A STREET BIKE SO SO BAD HE WANTS 2 B LIKE JASON BRITTON AND DO ALL THOSE STUNTS IT STRESSES ME OUT JUST BY THE THOUGHT I JUST HOPE DAT HE COMES 2 REALIZE HOW IT MAKE ME FEEL LIKE DEAN DID DAT WAS SWEET 4 HIM 2 REALIZE HOW U FELT ABOUT IT.OK NOW 4 U DEAN YES UR RIT FLOWERS WOULDNT. I SHOULD HAVE U GIVE MY MAN SUM TIPS SO IT MAY CHANGE HIS MIND.LOL

U 2 R MAKE PERFECT PARENTS THEY R VERY BLESSED 2 HAVE U BOLTH AS PARENTS ILL KEEP WATCHN UR SHOW UR SHOW IS A REAL FAMILY SHOW KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK THANK U

Tori:
So sorry your mother and weight became an issue instead of your new book. I have been on both sides of the coin as a daughter and Grandmother. As a grandmother I would do anything to see my grandchildren short of sin. There is no doubt that your family address is public and your mother, above all people, knows how to contact you. "The truth will set you free" Tori you know your mother and I know you are going back and fourth with your emotions. Dean is right in one way, you need to get off the roller coaster it is not good for you, your husband and children. It is easier than you think!
1)Accept who Candy is, by her life and actions as a mother and person.
2)Expect no more than what she is and how she acts. If you expect zero from her, you will never be disappointed. If you get more take it as a gift and expect zero again.
3)Love her. You do not have to approve or like her actions but you can still love her. You can teach you children how to love their grandmother and thankful for what part she chooses to have in their lives. You can't make her do anything or change her. You and your mother can clear the air set guide lines best for your children and you. Go forward as a good mommy and wife. Been there!
D.J.

Dean you seem really down to earth. I am glad to see you and Tori together. I think the reality show is wonderful. I feel like I can relate to alot of issues that both you and her go through. Marriage is about compromise. I have been married to the same man for almost 17yrs. We have 4 children. All girls. This reality show stands out among others. It deals with the more "normal" things in every day life. Be proud of it.

dear tori and dean,
i just found your show a few weeks ago,not having watched television for over 4 years.i must tell you ifell in love with you and your children, they are both beautiful! beind diagnosed with 2 incurable diseases,losing everything,and watching my own children hurt for me,and suffer. watching the two of you made me realize just how lucky i am to have my 3 wonderful children....doctors tell me that i have zero quality of life,compared to when i was healthy,but i am a fighter and watching you,tori when all the news wanted to do was ask about your mother and you,i haven't given up even though i tried,i get hurt from family and friends who don't understand my disease but i keep fighting back,you hang in ther. your'e right most assuridly and that is she[your mom] has to be the one to call and want to see her grand- babies. being a grandmother of two, myself i would die without them.. i truly understand your conflict with dean's riding and racing,but, we all have to be what we are, and he has such passion for you as well as racing,i feel sorry for him. he's right he truly loves you, so he did the only thing he knew to do...i have raised my 3 by myself since my divorce when my daughter was 7,she's now going to be 25.. i cherished every moment with my kids,and still do. they range from 25,18,and11. my only daughter the oldest is my best friend as well as, my miracle baby.. you and dean are wonderful with your kids, never let anyone tell you otherwise. both of you should continue to follow your dreams you are doing fantastic. never let anyone tell you, otherwise.i have laughed,cried,and smiled watching your show,which truth be told i haven't been able to do for such a long time, especially when my life fell apart, but my dad always told me that i was a survivor,fighter, and had his backbone. i thank god for having such a wonderful dad, he's been gone now for 25 years,not a day goes by, that i don't think,love,and miss him...we were extremely close,due to the fact that my mom had tb when she was pregnant with me, so i didn't meet her until i was 2yrs. old.. we just didn't have that bond, but i never stopped trying to get it... i was a big fan of your father's,he was wonderful with making good television... i know what it's like to have to carry such pain, and still go on....god bless you both. i will continue to watch faithfully. i hope to purchase your books, soon. i am still awaiting my disability[going on 8 yrs.] hope to post again sometime. thank you all again. truly wonderful show!!!!! barbara hopkins

I hear you Dean-I couldn't agree with you more and you made the right decision in what you decided to do with your racing and selling the bikes. It was a sad thing-VERY to see them go but yes it was the right thing to do in concerns to how T. felt.

Renate Uhl Colorado USA

Hey T and Dean

Ok i just want to say Hi i love ur show. Hold up a moment and i want to say TKP u need to back off. Tori is VERY good looking and so is dean and together they made 2 very good looking shildren that have parents that love them. Yes tori and dean were married but seperated from their Ex"s when they hooked up. You cant stop love. just cuz u will never have the looks or fame or even money that tori does dont mean u need to be a hater. Now back to what i was writin for in the first place...Tori i understand how u can fear for dean when he is on a bike..i go through it all the time but its a little backwards in my family. I have been riding for years and my husband just started. Both my older girls love to be on a bike but there is no way i would let them ride with him. i can also understand the fear that something is going to happen to him but T dean needs to have him time sometimes. when i go on a bike ride it is time for me to think and just get away. Dean i understand u sold u bikes to make it easier for T and it takes a big man to understand that if something scared ur wife that bad maybe it is time to give it up. Now one thing i do want to say is that Tori there is now way you will be ble to understand the love dean has for his bikes unless u ride one. Now i dont mean the front have dean take u for a ride on the back it will change things for u. heck come out to nebraska less traffic for u to worry about. you guys do a great job with your show and i just want to remind you to still make time for each other i think that is the key to making things work. Dean I just want to say i am proud of how u balance urself with all ur kids. I know that having ur oldest son tht far away has to be hard. Tori u are awesome at being a mom and a stepmom. Keep rockin girl and the best of luck to u all. nebraska

tori,i have to say...you are so awesome i grew up watching 90210 i always thought u were a great actress...i use to work at arclight hollywood...i was in human resourse..did all the new hires suff..there was a few times ..i escorted u and dean..into the movie...u guys were always very nice...i had a chance to see ur guys show today..a few of them...got to see another side of u....u guys have a great family....u are a great mom and wife....i hope it all works out for u and ur mom..im a gay male...of course seems u have a big following..from us.. ;) i think its great that u are helping ur gay friends set up there wedding..cant wait to see that episode..by the way is ur best friend single.. ha ha ha ...just one of many..ur fan ...;)

Dear Tori, I'm really really sorry that you and your mom have different views, and don't get along. Family are the hardest to please, especially between a parent and child. I have the same problem with my own daughter. Most of the time I wonder what I have done to make her not like me or even respect me. I had a rough childhood growing up and I wanted to make sure both my children knew how much I love them. I told them everyday that I loved them and that they are my heart. And I still do and will until the day I die. My daughter changed after she got married. I don't know if that's why, all I'm saying is, that she changed from the loving daughter I had , to a complete stranger. She wouldn't allow me to be a grandmother to her children, and it tears my heart up. I miss MY DAUGHTER. I know that if my daughter said I love you mom and I want you in my life, I'd be there in a heart beat. But at the sametime I understand how Dean feels too. I have been hurt over and over by my own daughter, that I backed away, and I'm scared of being hurt again. My situation between my daughter and myself is totally different from yours, but at the sametime, the same. It's very hard to know how far you can reach out to someone you love and and not get hurt. My situation has even worse things in it than yours, believe me. If I told you the whole of it, it would literally put you in pain. I have even thought of writing a book myself. Tori, only you can decide how much hurt you can take, and also that of your children. Don't let outside influences guide you, not even Dean. Because if you lean on them and later you feel what you did was wrong, you will resent their influence. You need to weigh eveything that has happened between you and your mother, And I mean everything. Words to actions, understand. Also you need to look at it from her view point too. Maybe your both just not communicating everything you feel. Every person has a different veiw of things, remember that. You might see things one way and she might see it in another. Also you mentioned that you didn't see your dad for nine months, and then you saw him right before he died and I know you regret those months lost. Will you regret the time lost from your mom? I lost ten years of my dads life, then saw him right before he died, and to top that off he died on my birthday. I've regretted every moment lost, believe me.And guess what, the samething is happening with my on mother and now myself and my daughter. Sometimes I think It's just a cycle. It's handed down to each generation. And like I said my own story is terrible. If you want that relationship with your mom, then fight for it, and just pray that things will work out or if you think the hurt will be to much then just cut the relationship. But don't keep going back and forth, that only makes it worse, believe me. Especially for your own children. They will only learn that same pattern, whether you try to show them differently. It will be learned. Children don't miss very much, they are very good at seeing things that we as adults don't. I'M REALLY SORRY THAT YOU HAVE TO DECIDE TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR MOM. A mother and daughter relationship should be very special. At least I think so. Just like a father and son relationship should be special. Did I explain any of this rught? Anyway God Bless you and I will pray that things will work out for you. take care of those babies. Our children should always be a Blessing. I wish God would answer my prayers too.

Tori and Dean, I dislike reality shows, but i'm hook on yours, you guys make a great couple and your kids are beautiful, You are doing this show with class. thank you.

Tori,

I honestly have to say that I do not like reality shows, but I do not miss your show on Tuesday nights...I absolutely love your show. I am a mother of 2 myself and I think you are a wonderful person to do what you do and still "want" to make time for your family...
Also, my husband races stock cars and yes, it is nerve racking but I look at it as this is the one thing that he loves to do and when he isnt at the race track he is working on the car, or he is talking about it or he is on the internet trying to learn more about it..he is crazy about racing and I see his passion so even tho it costs a lot of $$ and time I stand behind him and support him!!!

DEAN, YOU'RE ACOOL MAN & HUSBAND.YOU'RE ALMOST AS COOL AS MY HUSBAND OF 15YRS!MY HUSBAND & I KNEW EACH OTHER FOR 12 DAYS BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED & DECEMBER 16,2009 WILL BE 15 & I THANK GOD FOR HIM, AND OTHER MEN LIKE HIM & YOU.WE'RE NOW DISABLED, BUT WE HAVE A 3YR OLD DAUGHTER DESTINEE.SHE IS THE JOY OF OUR LIVES.MY FRIEND IS SERVING 23YRS IN PRISON FOR SECOND DEGREE MURDER.IN 2006 SHE GAVE BIRTH TO DESTINEE & WE WERE THE ONLY ONES THAT WANTED HER, OR SHE WOULD'VE BEEN IN FOSTER CARE.WE HAD NOT MUCH INCOME, BUT WE WANTED HER TO BE LOVED AND HAPPY.SHE KNOWS ME AS MOM AND MY HUSBAND AS DAD.EVEN THOUGH WE STILL DON'T HAVE ALOT OF INCOME WE ARE GOING TO FILE FOR CUSTODY. HER MOM DOESN'T WANT US TO ADOPT HER BECAUSE WE CAN'T PROVIDE HER WITH MONEY IN PRISON.DESTINEE COULD HAVE A BRIGHTER FUTURE IF SHE WOULD LET US ADOPT HER WHENEVER WE GET THE MONEY.WE WANT TO GIVE HER MILITARY BENEFITS THROUGH ADOPTION.IF YOU'RE A MAN OF ANY FAITH PRAY FOR THIS TO BE STRAIGHTENED OUT FOR DESTINEE'S SAKE.SHE DESERVES IT.MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU & THE FAMILY(PATSY TOO).GOD BLESS!!!

Dear Tori,
I just have to say that no matter what your relationship is with your mother, as a grandmother you discard the issues and do just about anything have a role in your grandchildrens lives, these times go by so quickly and their little acheivements only come once in a lifetime. I will not disrespect your mother but I think she is well ove 100 % confused. I feel your mom has jealousy issues with you and your success, you have so much of your father in you that I feel her jealousy begins there, and has grown into a huge issue with how well you, Dean and the adorable babies are able to have a normal family life (hectic) but this is something she could not acheive. You keep doing what your doing, and may you and Dean live together to 100 years old!

Coming from a Grandma in Texas!

Tori,

I just started watching Tori & Dean, it's a pretty good show, I loved back in the days of 90210 and still love you. You are an inspiration to all mom's. What is your advise on having family, fame and fortune. How do we have it all?

Dear Tori: I feel where you are coming from as a mother. Most mothers always want better for or childern ans I as a grandma keep my and my daughter personal promblems behind doors, unfortuanley we our not famouse but If I was your mom I would get on your neverous I love doing everything for my kids snd grandkids thats what I live for but my daughter tells me all the time to get a life and friends of my own. Sometimes it hurts the way she talks to me but I shout my mouth and just keep loving her, I do not have money but time and love I have plenty so if you every need a mom to talk to let me know I will listen with and open heart I love the fact you have your gay friend my cousin was my soul mate we shared everything he was gay but at 25 I lost him in death. Tori your childrn are as sweet as angles and only if I could find love as strong and wonderful as yours and Dean's even when you are mad at each other it is still is handle with love and care take care God Bless you and your wonderful family and yes all your freinds as well

Dean,
i completely agree with you that when your children start school it is bitter sweet. My oldest child is 4 and she will be starting pre-k this year. I am so nervous and at the same time so proud that she is beginning a new stage in her life. take care of your family and yourself
Smiles! April

TORI, I LOVE YOU AS A PERSON & PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING YOU DO, BUT I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR 15YRS & YOUR HUSBAND DEAN NEEDS HIS TIME WITH HIS BIKES. MY HUSBAND RIDES A HARLEY & I SEE HOW PEOPLE DRIVE, IT SCARES ME. I'VE ALSO LEARNED TO PRAY FOR HIS SAFETY, WHILE AT THE SAME TIME LETTING HIM HAVE A HOBBY HE LOVES.I NOW RIDE WITH HIM EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE & IT'S GREAT.I SUPPORT MY HUSBAND IN WHAT HE LIKES & I TRY IT TOO.WE FISH,SHOOT GUNS,PLAY DARTS,&RIDE THE HARLEY,WHEN I GET A SITTER FOR OUR 3YR GIRL.SHE EVEN LOVES TO RIDE THE HARLEY AROUND THE CUL-DE SAC.REMEMBER TO SUPPORT EVEN IF YOU DON'T AGREE SOMETIMES, BECAUSE IT CAN TURN AROUND & BITE YOU LATER,NO MATTER HOW STRONG THE LOVE IS.I WANT YOU TWO TO STAY HAPPY.I'M MORE OF A GUY'S GAL.I DON'T CARE FOR SHOPPING & TOO MUCH GIRLY STUFF, BUT IT'S GREAT WATCHING YOU.ENJOY YOUR BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN &HUSBAND. LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST!!! AS FAR AS YOUR MOM, MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU BOTH,I LOST MINE @8 OF CANCER.DO WHAT YOU NEED TO KEEP YOUR SELF SANE OVER CANDY.YOU MAY HAVE ALOT MORE IN COMMON THAN YOU THINK. JUST PRAY & IT WILL BE OK.LOVE THE WHOLE FAMILY & WILL STAY IN MY PRAYERS.

Your remind me of my husband. He is my rock just like you are Tori's. When I have famiy issues he is there for me to listen and gives me advise and again he is like you. He can cut the cord but I'm like Tori I can't. Keep up being the great husband that you are.

Dean-if you would like most of the excitement of motorsports with a greatly reduced risk of personel injury,look into Radio Control. Any vehicle ever designed by man is now available as a miniature with radio control-including Motorcycles! Also, it is an activity you can enjoy with your family-Check it out. My wife really enjoys your show-Good Luck and God Bless
Chuck and Cheryl Arlt in Washington State

Tori and Dean I just recently started watching your show and its one of the best shows ever. I'm married and a mother of 3 boys Ace 17,Troy 14,and Eddy 7. Its wonderful to see a couple like yourselves very busy with work but still make time to spend with each other and your 2 beautiful children. I watched Liams 2nd birthday episode and could not believe how the fan you met while shopping for organic food was asking alot of personal and odd questions. I feel sorry for you and your family when you have to deal with people like that. I wish I had something to say about Dean riding but I see both your side on this. Just know that theres nothing more important than family, especially one as happy and exciting as yours. I wish you both the very best.
Janie

Hey Dean...just wanted to say you're a hell of a guy...great father and husband and no matter what you always put your families needs 1st! It must have been difficult letting go of the bikes and the passion you had for racing! Being a father of 5 :) and trying to balance work and home and trying to find me time has been a challenge, but watching how you selflessly put your only release aside for other...hats off to you bro! If you ever would like to go on a big game hunt in Idaho...get in touch via email...its on me!(shawn@myinfinitymtg.com) Its a lot of fun to get in touch with nature for a back country hunt...we dont harvest anything we dont eat...I love animals and respect nature too. My wife and I enjoy your show...wish you and your family the best.
Shawn-Boise,Idaho

Tori,
My heart geos out to you and yours. Nothing is more painful then not having a loved one there for you no matter what, especially when it is a parent. You are doing an awesome job with your babies!!! You should have no worries....they both know and will ALWAYS know that their mommy loves them. As far as your mom, I whole heartedly agree with your husband. She is making it difficult...she is building that wall and doing it with total dissregard for the pain she is causing. I went to her site to read the "letter". I call "bull #&@% "! I found it so beyond ironic the plea she makes for private time....on her blog...open to the world....ummm DUH?
You have a beautifull family, a wonderfull husband,awesome friends....it's just time to stop letting her drag you down.

Tori,
I just have to say you looking fantastic these days! I had my kids almost the same distance as yours...my son will be 2 in October and my daughter is 4 months. I am trying so hard to get back to my PPL (Pre preggo look:)), any tips or secrets you might mind sharing about getting fit?
Also, I love the show and I think you are a wonderful mother and wife! Take care and God Bless!

Tori, I am so sorry that your mom won't snapp out of her shell. Some times moms love can be very cruel. So maybe to help you out... tell your children memories of your mom. That way your kids will know her to a big degree. They will know more about her then she will of them. One of these days they will see her and fo up to her and say HI Grandma, how are you. Right at that moment she will realise just how much she has missed. All because of pride. Your telling your children about her, that means that you tried in more then one way to give her a chance to know her beautiful grand babies. She will regret it in the long run. Just keep doing the great job that you are doing with your children. GOD BLESS you all.

Tori, I am so sorry that your mom won't snapp out of her shell. Some times moms love can be very cruel. So maybe to help you out... tell your children memories of your mom. That way your kids will know her to a big degree. They will know more about her then she will of them. One of these days they will see her and fo up to her and say HI Grandma, how are you. Right at that moment she will realise just how much she has missed. All because of pride. Your telling your children about her, that means that you tried in more then one way to give her a chance to know her beautiful grand babies. She will regret it in the long run. Just keep doing the great job that you are doing with your children. GOD BLESS you all.

Hi Tori,
Being a mom of 3 adults now (39, 37 and 36), I can relate somewhat concerning your mom and you. With me & my case, my 1 boy(36) and my "ex" (their father) became distant in 2002 over an argument. just this year, i finally got them back together. Their father is now 79 and not in good health. I am 65 myself and I have gone from hating him, to playing counsler.
Do not listen to people Tori about staying distant with your mom. She is still your mother and she is not getting any younger. You have to be the "better & bigger person" now and open your doors to her. You have to take the 1st step in welcoming her for your sake and her grandkids sake. Someday, you will be your Mom's caretaker.
I know you have regrets about not being there for your Dad "at the end" and it bother's you. Be strong and be able to show her love. She cannot do it, you'll have to take the initiative.
My daughter had bitterness against me for initiating my divorce. (Daddy's girl-she's 39)She would never say "I love you" at the end of our conversation's. It probably took me a year to keep saying "it", but I finally wore her down and now she says "i love you" after every phone call.So just "pour out" the "caring" (mixed w/love) as much as you can....she will come around because she really wants to. Believe me!! i am now a grandmother too, 5 times over. You have the younger and bigger shoulder's and you can do it....you will be happy that you stuck with her, regardless of what she may do to you.
Love will win out !! Oh, by the way, my youngest thanked me for getting him and his dad back together....my "ex" was all smiles too. Between 2 marriages he had 7 kids, my daughter was the only one calling him. (That's terrible!) I kept saying, "he is still your father"!!
Ok Tori, i hope this gets to you....and you "go girl"....you can do it! You will be glad you did especially if something ever happens to you mom.
love and prayers to you! sheryll

Congrats on the new book... After watching this episode, to which I do have to admit that I do not catch the show every week. But I do have to say you have a fabulous family... You are both from what I can tell are very down to earth which is awesome.. and awesome parents...And in watching this episode and a couple others let me just say Don't sweat the small the stuff... Remember to take one day at a time... Most importantly stay true to yourself...

Dear Tori,

Since Dean gave up motorcycle racing, but still needs an outlet, I'd like to suggest he try CrossFit, an extreme fitness program (check it out at crossfit.com).

My husband has been doing it for the past 8 months and loves it. The bonus is that it has given him a lot of energy and confidence, which has boosted our love life!

CrossFit is really intense and somewhat competitive, and since Dean seems to like extreme sports, I think he'd enjoy it without all the dangers you are concerned about. Many police officers and military personnel do it, so it is physically challenging and rewarding.

I love your show and watch it faithfully. I remember meeting you on the set of 90210 and how friendly you were. I'm really glad everyone else now gets to see how nice you are through your show.

Wishing you guys the best,
Becky

Respect is a two way street that's what I believe and if they cannot understand that then they are not good people to interact with.Be the person you are Tori no matter what anybody says. Looking forward to reading your new book.

Dean and Tori,
Thanks for keeping it real on the program. I can see you both really love eachother. Its hard to find that kind of love in a marriage now and days.
Just wanted to mention my favorite show so far is the one when you folks had your house warming party right when you moved in and let me tell you why.
That day Tori you did a loving thing in surprising Dean with his son Jack to join the party, which if you could see Dean's expression just shows with excitement through the tv he was one happy father and the joy it brought to your face Tori when you saw how happy Dean was. It is important Tori to have Jack included as much as you can in Deans life. As you see Jack brings Joy to Dean as a father should be with his son. And you being the stepmom plays an important role in that as well. Just think of it, if you did not have Liam or Stella with you all the time it will break your heart. I can see you too love Jack as you should because he is a part of Dean. So continue to be gentle and understanding with Dean and your stepson Jack for Dean will love you more than you will ever know. Trust me been there done that.

Your show just makes me laugh, laugh, laugh! Tori reminds me of Lucille Ball at times.

I'm a mother of 2: a handsome 11 year old boy and beautiful 7 year old girl. I don't watch much television...your show however is too good to miss.

That episode where your baby Stella vomited (poor sweet pea) and Liam kept eating made me actually guffaw. I don't usually "guffaw" but Liam calmly watching the chaos and chowing on a hotdog made me laugh. Boys will continue eating through anything ...food is King for them!

Dare I say it...I'm old enough to actually remember you on 90210! Egads, I'm creaky old!

Tori: who cares what I think...but you seem to be a great Mom. Mothers aren't supposed to be perfect you know...the messy, confusing part of motherhood is where our kids learn to be real and enjoy the world.

Good luck! I truly enjoy your show.

Dean,
You may have felt obigated to give up your motorcycle. But Santiago was wrong for calling Tori without knowing the whole story. You said the accident was small but just imagine what could have happened.To tell the truth i can't decide who's side to take but i can see where you and tori are coming from. You both have ups and downs.and i think everyone can see you just how much you love tori, stella and liam to give up your also muched loved hobby. Thanks for your awesome show and see you on tv.....

Tori,

I know what you are going thru with you mother. The best thing for you and your family is to let her go. I am not saying to hate or forget, but let her lead her on life while you lead your own. Because know matter what you say or do nothing is going to change how she feels about you. You may NEVER know what it is but bending over backwards won't change a thing.

I though moving out, getting married and even having a child would do it but nothing worked. After my daughter turned 1 year and a 1/2, I finally stopped going to the house. I never belong there anyway and it got worse when I had my daughter.

I have a lot of bad situations in my life and I didn't know how bad until the beginning of this year.

I'll let you go now.

Sincerely,

Sandy

I love the show..okay I can understand your feelings Tori as my husband rides motorcycles and does track days on several different tracks. Yes I worry everytime he goes out; he has fallen quite a few times and my heart has been in my throat with that said I am sure Dean would never do anything he didn't think he could handle. I watched the episode when he had the crash, boy did I understand your reaction..because I have had that quite a few times..although I am there at the track with him so I know right away when he doesn't come back with his group. Dean, I as a fan of the show see how much you love Tori but I also see your love of riding come through...I really hope neither of you let this affect your marriage. As for whether you ever ride again on the track or not that is between you and Tori, but riding on the track is the safest..especially a Ducati..(my husband owns a 1995 Ducati 916)so I truly understand. Best wishes to all your family..the kids are adorable...

Dean,

I'm sorry you felt you had to make that decision. Obviously T must have been going out of her mind every time you went riding.

What if the situation was reversed? How would you cope if T had a dangerous hobby?

Take care,

Ang

Hi Tori and Dean: I am such a huge fan of ya'll. Tori, I think you are a wonderful mother and I think that you are a great daughter. I cannot imagine a mother not being proud of you. I have 6 kids of my own, 17 grandbabies and 8 great grandbabies and there is nothing that any of them could do that would make me treat them the way that your mother treats you. Just keep doing what you are doing, hon and remember that you have a beautiful family. May God bless you and your family and always keep them safe. I am sure that sooner or later your mother will realize what she has in you has daughter.

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Wow, It has to be tough reading such harsh comments not only about you, but about your son! I guess you take the good with the bad in your business. I hated reading the harsh things,but I guess it what drives you, I hope. I hope this positive note helps...I enjoy your series and can say I wasn't a big 90210 fan and thought like most people that you were a spoiled little rich kid who needed her dad to get ahead, but who of us wouldn't be in the same situation if 1 of our parents were in the same spotsoit kinda sounds trivial to have thought that at all now. The series really showed me a different Tori Spelling than what I thought I saw in 90210. Plus, why shouldn't you be different,you were so young. I really enjoyed reading your books and could relate tosome of your pains. Keep rocking it and thanks for sharing your life, its easy to see how a teacher in SC has some things in common with a star such as yourself....you also remind me of someone I would gladly call "friend". So thanks....oh, can I request the song to be back in the show? I thought the song was super cute...I sing it to my nephew who is Liam's age and he loves it and bops around when I sing it to him. "Look how far we've come after all..." You have, thanks for sharing!

I believe that it is really unfair of Tori to make Dean feel so guilty everytime he goes out and gets a new hobby. She really needs to grow up and stop being such a childish brat. Dean is not your servant Tori he is your husband. I never hear him making you feel guilty about you crappy and cheap jewerly or about you extreme weight loss or how ulgy you are without your make up. After stealing him from his wife you really do deserve whatever bull you encounter. You are not a good person, you can not act. Maybe you should spend more time on gaining weighting instead of walking around like you are some kind of goddess. Take a look in the mirror, you are not a great catch and I do hope Dean comes to his senses and leave you for another. Pay back is a BITCH.

First let me say i love your show..my husband and i lay in bed and watch it and just laugh.we have a two year old son and a 5 month old son so we see you guys going through a lot of the things we are going through.as far as the motorcycle racing yes it is important for dean to have his thing that keeps him balanced but i can also see where tori is coming from.i saw a comment on here from the woman named melissa quinn saying how tori is all these terrible things because she didnt want dean to race anymore.i'm thinking melissa doesnt have little ones.you fear that something terrible will rip your family apart and take someone so important like a father away from his children.i get it.my husband races cars at the track and that is the scariest 10 seconds everytime.he is a great driver and i know the car is safe but your mind still goes to the worst!i think people shouldnt judge until they are in that situation.tori just knows how devistating it is to lose a father and she doesnt want that for her babies!we love you guys keep up the great work.thank you for being so real and relatable!

I have been reading some of the things that people say about you Tori. All I'm going to say is keep your head up they just wish they could be you and do the things you and your family do. I call them haters. The question I have for you is that I think you have lost some weight,and look great. I'm not here to talk down about it. Hell I want to know how you lost the weight if you could please let me know the truth please. For all of yoou that are saying things about her father shut up and let the man rest in peace, and have some damn respect. Haters!

You guys are normal. Just in a way where you are very very popular. I hope Tori no longer has those fears she talks about. yall are more down to earth then alot of people I know. And your funny too. Your kids are cute and will grow up just fine as long as you have a great foundation for them. And I think you center eachother. Perfect match.
All three kids are very cute.

I just got to see the most recent show and I am so appauled by Tori's way of thinking. I've never seen ANYONE be so selfish with their husband. EVERYTHING that he has wanted to do she has put a rapid stop to with her constant whining. I would of left her after a week just being in the same room with her ass.What a pothetic, spoiled little B witch you are Tori. You should wake up first and then grow up. Instead of acting like a spoiled little ungreatful school girl. The show would be so outstanding WITHOUT Tori whom literally sickens me.

Dean, I am a mom and a fan of your show. You and Tori have a beautiful relationship. I am glad she lets you make your own decisions. I have to tell you I worried when you picked up that sport/hobby.

I recently lost a friend, the dad of two little ones, to a motorcycle accident, one that seemed harmless enough, he was just riding on a track, just like you do.

Even when you take all the precautions accidents can still happen. My friend was in a hospital bed for a year till he died, his family suffered horrible pain and now they lost their dad and husband.

When a parent has little ones it is just the responsible thing to do. After your children are grown what you do with your life is a completely different thing but right now your family needs you. I am so happy you did the right thing.

Tori! I love the show and can't stop watching it! Perhaps this has been addressed already, but have you ever considered writing a book about throwing parties and etc.? I always see you hosting and organizing these beautiful parties and wish that I could sit down with you and pick your brain for party hints and ideas! Just a suggestion from a fan that would buy the book! Keep up the great work! oxoxox

Tori, get the bottle away from Liam. He should be drinking from a sippy cup by now. Shame on your pediatrician for not informing you of this.
Give that boy a haircut, the long hair does not bring out his cute face. Otherwise, I love your show.

Tori, can I just say that I am so in love with yours and Deans show!!! I started watching it when it was Tori and Dean Inn Love and have been hooked ever since. I don't know why, but I never did read your books. Then one day, I asked my mom to order them on her amazon account because I wanted to see what all the hype was about. I read sTori Telling in 1 1/2 days. I was transfixed! I know you'd rather not be compared to a bi-polar, which I am, but I know how you feel when in comes to inaniment objects. When I was a kid and it was my turn to do dishes, I would wash the silverware one at a time because I was afraid they would drown if left in the soapy water waiting their turn to get washed. I realize how rediculous it sounded, even then, but I couldn't help myself! I am a single mother of 4 and I work full time and frelance for my ex husband. I emphathize with your desire to be with your kids always. I feel that way a lot. Especially when all my youngest wants to do is play a board game with me but I have a deadline I have to meet. You inspire me. Keep up the good work! You are a great mom and wife! Dean, you are a great husband! I hope to find someone as devoted to me as you are to Tori! Thanks for inspiring me and many others!

Tori & Dean,
'This is the second year I am watching your show and I am absolutely in love with it. This is a first for me writing something like this.
Tori, you are a strong and beautiful woman. You have shown other women that they can have it all. You are a wonderful mom to Liam & Stella and also a loving wife to Dean and a good friend to all your freiends.
I know it must be hard to ignore all the rude comments that are made about you & Dean. Dean, I think that you did the right thing giving up the bikes. Your love for Tori and the respect that you have for her feelings is so heartwarming to watch. The bikes are dangerous and your wife loves you so much that if anything ever happened to you, I do not think she could get through it, even with the great support group you 2 have around you.
Just keep on loving each other and your children and all the rest will just fall into place. You have a great marriage and it will endure.
Again, it makes me smile to watch the two of you and the children. You make my Tuesday night.

Tori;
Don't worry, be happy! We have been given a choice to be what we want to be. You want to be a good mommy and you will be by putting your heart wishes into action. You have such a great love for your family and a good balance. You can always have peace when you can look back knowing you did the best you could for the ones you love, with the information you had, at that moment in life. We are not expected to be perfect but expected to do OUR best. Just keep loving them & teaching them wrong from right and set the example and live it before them. Admit on their level when you mess up "I am sorry I didn't hug you but I will do it now and try harder next time, OK? " so they too can know that you don't have to be perfect every time too it, is OK to make a mistake and they can do better next time. It is a joy to see your love for Dean and your children. I see you becoming a stronger woman and a growing and glowing young LADY. Keep it up!
D.J.

call your kids whatever you want! i think it is ADORABLE. i love your show. Tori and Dean you are so cute together i cant stand it and one day i hope my marriage is the same as yours

tori i think you are so neat and a good mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! im fifteen and so in to fashion and ur baby clothes line has made me want to keep it in mind your so good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it would be neat to see ya in action!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hope the family is doing good!!!!!!!!

Tori and Dean:
I love your show and the amazing relationship you and your husband and children have. I am soo scared that the curse of the reality TV show will effect you and Dean the way it has effected every other family that has had a reality TV show. I LOVE watching your show, but PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE if problems start to errupt from too much stress or problems dealing with the show, Please... kick out the film creww and hold on to your family with all your might. Your's and Dean's relationship is the only thing that keeps me believing in finding your soul mate and LOVE that lasts FOREVER, and I would much rather suffer from Tori and Dean withdrawl than have your wonderful marriage and family be ripped apart by the media. I LOVE you, Tori, Dean, Liam and Stella, and the Guncles, And of course Mehran, and Patsy.

Tori maybe if you stop talking about your child hood and your parents so darn much we can find out who you are. Thats all you talk about is your mother i think you are still using the spelling name to make the cash.
And the only reason you feel your life was awful because you did not get millions when your dad died. If you got the money i dont think you would be on your pitty pott,... If i had what you had growing up boy i would not act like. Please grow up and be a mother and stop trying to be not like your mother

Enjoy your show.

Glad Dean decided to quit the motorcycle hobby. My husband died in a motor cycle accident in 2005 and we still suffer. Motorcycles were his passion and I felt it was best to give him his freedom. In retrospect I should have told him how I felt. Again I commend Dean for his sacrifice so one day his family will not suffer the way we do. Best wishes to the family and continued success in your endeavors.

Christina Guillot

Hi Tori and Dean, I love your show, and never miss an episode. I am a huge fan!! I have a question, I hope you will answer me, I absolutely love the gold necklace you are always wearing on the show. Is it from your jewelry collection from HSN? Please tell me the source, I just love it....

Dude! I'm sorry...but you are whipped! I do like your show... I do like Tori and all that, but COME ON. You are giving up way too many hobbies and things that you need (not want: NEED) to have for yourself. Look at it this way, at the rate you're going..you're eventually going to resent having to give up what you LOVE to do. It happens all of the time! Sad to say, many guys would then look to someone else who WILL 'let them' be who they are and enjoy their hobbies. I don't see Tori giving up much in the lines of work (which it looks like is a hobby to her). So what's the deal? Why are you sacrificing things you need to do so that you can have 'check out time'??

Dean,
My older brother rides bikes. So when I saw your passion for them, I understood...but I also understand Tori for being so worried. (I can't believe I'm responding to a blog..)I have to say I completely respect your decision and can only hope that I get to be as lucky as Tori and you. I never watch TV, let alone reality tv and i'm addicted to this show. I find you both adorable, smart, loving, fun people, with a beautiful family.
Good luck with your new hobbie Dean. I'm sure you can find another one out there :) The last thing you wanna do is dwell on your decision. I sympothize for you but you never know what tomorrow brings, so live each day as it were the last dude. ciao!

I HATE TO BE NEGATIVE, BUT TORI SPELLING IS THE UGLIEST DAMN ACTRESS I HAVE EVER SEEN, IF U WANT TO CALL HER A ACTRESS,SPEAKING OF 'MONKEY',SHE LOOKS LIKE A DAMN MONKEY!!! SHE IS NOTHING BUT A HOMEWRECKING SLUT,& WHAT THE HELL WAS DEAN THINKING,HIS EX-WIFE WAS ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS,& I MEAN GORGEOUS!!!!HE DEFINITLEY DOWNGRADED!!!WHAT COMES AROUND, GOES AROUND, HE WAS A DAMN FOOL TO LEAVE HER FOR THAT UGLY BITCH,ANYONE THAT THINKS TORI SPELLING IS PRETTY NEEDS A PSYCHIATRIST,SHE WOULD'NT BE #&@% ANYWAY IF IT WAS'NT FOR HER FATHER!!!!!!!!!!!! MY #&@% LOOKS BETTER THAN HER FACE!!!!!!!!!! TO DEANS EX, YOU DESERVE BETTER,& DEFINITLEY CAN DO BETTER!!!

I love the show! To my diappointment, the tension between the two of you is ruining the show for me. If I wanted to see another bickering couple I would go to my neighbors every Tuesday night for an hour. The fact that the two of you get along so well and your goofy and sappy for each other gives some of us hope that "True Love" really exists. Part of the shows luster comes from the chemistry between the two of you! If you're gonna fight, do it off camera. Don't ruin the illusion that you're the world's most adorable couple. Also, let Dean have a hobby! It can't always be about you, Tori! Men have to do men stuff! Santiago, don't sell those bikes!!!!! Hopefully, he's going to need them!

i think it was a great decision.

Tori and Dean,

First, I have to say that I have never posted to a blog for a television show, so this is a first. I am not really sure if you both will actually see this, but there is something that I need to say.

Dean, you have to be one of the luckiest men around, as being married to Tori has to be one of the most rewarding experiences. Saying that, I have to admit, that Tori, you have completely proved me wrong and I am grateful for that. I just recently started watching your show, and now I wonder why I didn't start with the beginning.

When I first saw you, Tori, it was with the original 90210, and I honestly thought that you were just this spoiled, little daddies girl who just got the part for that reason only. Then, when I became interested in your show, that is when I was completely bowled over and turned upside down.

See you turn into this wife, mother, business woman, author and just about everything else was something that I honestly thought I would never see. Keeping up with Dean, then with Liam and Stella; now two books and a jewelry line; I would like to know just where do you find the time? Oh yeah, I forgot about the clothing line! So, do you even get any sleep? You have turned out to be this most amazing person who knows what she wants, and you have no problem going after just that.

You have actually made me believe the same thing, as I have just recently started school and working towards my degree in Criminal Justice, and this is at the age of 43. So, I have to "Thank-you" both for making me believe once again, that if you have the desire, the dream and finally a goal that you have set for yourself; it is something that you should fight for.

In closing Tori and Dean, again, "Thank-you" for proving me wrong, and that I can actually believe that dreams can come true once again.

Respectfully submitted,

Kennan F. Parish
Port Isabel, Texas

(PS -- This should make you smile, especially Dean... keep up with Skype... It can be fun...)

Hey Dean,

I am sorry to hear about your bikes.
my husband loves nascar. if he would have the money to race... i would be worried to death too!!!! there is always the fear... what if.. what if my child grows up without his dad.

but hang in there...

Hey Dean,

I was sitting here trying to think of a replacement hobby to motocycling for you. Here is soemthing that is definitely behound my means, but maybe you can find a few friends to go in on it with you. Check out the website deepflight.com - http://www.deepflight.com/
And if you get one of these babies, promise me a ride. They are wickedly cool as my 6 yr old would say...

Kevin - More4kids Inc.

I just love you Tori and Dean. I was reading some of what the others had to say and Dean you are doing a great job as a husband and father. People seem to forget you also have a job and you contribute to the family income also. I cant remember who wrote the ugly stuff about you but they are so out of line. I just wish my husband was as romatic and loving as you are to Tori. You always listen to her and treat her so wonderfull. In my book more men should be just like you. Tori you are a very lucky woman. I just love to watch your show Keep up the great work.

Dean,
Well, you certainly made the right choice in marrying up. You weren't a star before Tori, but look at you now. You have turned into the total wimp! She earns all the big bucks only because of her last name, & aren't you living the great life because of it. Doesn't seem to bother you a bit! She whines, & cries at the drop of a hat. How can you stand that? She is afraid of everything. Take your manhood back you sellout! By the way, whatever happened to the little girl that you & your first wife were supposed to adopt when you left her for Tori? Try chess as your next hobby, it's safe, but I am sure Tori will find something wrong with that too!

Tori & Dean--There is nothing wrong with calling Liam "Monkey". What is wrong with "Monkey"? She obviously doesn't know how Monkey got his nickname. I have nick names for my children, as well. Coincidentally, "Bug" is one of them.

PLEASE!!!!!! Tori, STOP calling Liam "Monkey"!!! He has a beautiful name so use it once in awhile! You may think Monkey is endearing, but many of us do not agree. I wonder if he even knows his real name.
It's really so annoying to hear you use that term for him.

Tori and Dean,
I just started watching the show and I love it!! From what I have seen I think u guys are awesome parents! Don't pay attention to the haters. It is obvious your kids are your priorities. I think the two of you seem pretty down to earth and are doing an excellent job raising a beautiful family. I have to say, during this episode, when you were at the farmer's market, that "fan" was border line frightening! I would have ran the opposite direction...lol. We actually have an "A" lister in our family, and I find it so sad that going out and doing the simple things like trips to the park or grocery shopping cannot hardly be done without being mobbed!! Keep up the good work with your two precious babies!!
Mj

Great episode 407, I look forward to watching you an tori's show's.

Which is very strange for me, tv isn't my cup of tea :)

I think the world of you for giving up the bikes, I knew it was hard on you, but it does show one important issue, Dean you love your wife, more then the bikes. yes!

I will soon be 71 yrs of age and soon married for 50 yrs this july, to the same wonderful man.

We have found in our life time that marriage is a give and take by both of us. Yes we battle, we do love and respect each other, and that is all that matters for the both of us to keep this wonderful union going between us.

We also had to limit our friendships, so that they would not interfer in our marriage affairs.

We loved our friendships by keeping them out of our homelife.
My Husband tells me at times that keeping our friends at bay was one of the keys to our long healthy loving 50 year relationship.:) I agree.

I wish you and tori wonderful loving lives together, much love to you & your family & cast

because of who your dad is, and how much he had. always thought you were probably a spoiled brat. i watched your show from day one and my opinion has definately changed. you are a real and honest person. it is nice to see you grow on tv. your husband adores you, you have two kids. you are a great mom. i enjoy watching your show. i think you might have over reacted about dean and his motorcycle crash. woman can do that. you made him quit scuba. either buy back his bikes,or give him something else. golf clubs. another hobby. he seems to need it. give him something to do before he might look for someone else who will let him do what he whats. he seems to love motorcycles. maybe you can make a compromise with them.

Hi Dean,

Look I'm just going to get straight to the point of my post. Dean you should NOT have sold your bikes in a rash decision like that. Yes I understand what Tori is saying but she should trust you and love you enough to know that you take ALL precautions while riding and you KNOW what your doing. I hate to say this but maybe you just need to get her into seeing a shrink so she can conquer all her fears so that YOU can have a life again doing the things YOU love and should be ABLE to do without worrying about whether or not your wife is going to freak out about it every single time you leave the house. In other words just tell her to suck it up and deal with it. By now your probably wondering why a woman would be saying things against another and not taking her side and it's because I've seen it happen to many men in my life and now they just go through motions every day and try carefully to rock the boat because they don't want to make their wives mad at them. I say enough is enough!

GO BACK TO RIDING AND SCUBA DIVING!

Hi, I love the show! It's nice to see that it's not all glamour for celeberties with raising kids. I have a 2 1/2 yo old with down syndrome. He's into everything and when he ges mad at us he tells me and my husband we're mean. The terrible twos are cute and exhausting. I hope you have continued success but most importantly you'll have each other and those precious kids. I can't wait to see the next episode!!

I do watch your show, have for a long time. Honestly Tori, I feel your main concern is to focus on a bond with your daughter yet you are not bonding with your son. He is not going through the terrible two's, he's going through the terrible parenting. Parent's who are not listening to him. His party's do not have to be over the top. The traveling is too much for him, yet I know you have to schedule a show and get paid for it. I watched you and Dean when you moved to Fallbrook, my old home town, before you had kids. You were both entertaining, now not so much. You are both to desperate and hyper and it's reflecting on your son, pretty soon your daughter too. You both are too self absorbed to notice the real emotions that are coming from your children. Tori please get counseling and figure out what you really want from life, Dean stop playing into the acting career of your wife and be the husband and dad you need to be. I know you love your kids but please stop loving money more. Get a grip on reality you two!!!

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I felt so bad when Liam was sick for his party! No parent ever wants to see their child sick. My kids have been taking a whole food supplement called Juice Plus+ for 6 years now and are very healthy! It is 17 different fruits and veggies minus the salt, sugar and water. I am a Mom on a mission to help keep families healthy! Check out the 10 minute video on the homepage and you will see why I love this product so much!

shut the hell up cindy

Love your show and your kitchen chairs. Could you please give me contact info regarding the chairs if possible that would be appreciated.

dean, maybe u will find another hobbie:) i love ur show watch it all the time. <3 yall :):)

Hey Dean,

I know how hard it was for you to give up something you love. We all make sacrifices and compromises for our family. In the end as you realized it is the family that is most important. I have 2 young kids myself. It is important for both parents to have some kind of outlit and hope you find something, but you showed how much you love your family by giving up motocycling and I am impressed with that. To give up something so important to you for your family is a great example for your kids.

Wishing you all the best.
Kevin - More4kids Inc.

Hey Dean and Tori,

Just wanted to share with you my thoughts on the motorcycle issue. I too am married (happily for going on 19 years) to a daredevil kind of guy. He cycles all over town (at the worst possible times of the day), rides motorcycles, rock climbs (real mountains!! not a rock gym, that would be too easy). This is who he is, he was this way when we were dating so I knew what I was getting into when we got married. I 've learned that I can't worry about everything he does or I'll go crazy. My husband is a Policeman and people used to ask me all the time if that scares me. I tell them no, what scares me is that he rides his bike to and from work in traffic. That scares me far worse than the job itself. We all need our outlets and interests of our own. I have my Spinning Bike (which I watch your show as I spin for my hour a day) and I'm a jewelry designer. Those are my outlets and passions (besides my husband and kids).

Your kids are darling, we have a daughter that's 15 and a son that's 11. Enjoy your kids as much as you can, they grow up sooo fast. I hate it!! I can remember when my kids were that age and I loved those times. When my kids turned 9, that was a hard one for me personally. Those first 9 years flew by so fast and I realized our time with them at that point is half over.

BTW, love the show and Tori, your Christian Siriano dress was gorgeous. Green is your color!!

I felt bad for the little guy too, hope he does better next year. I'm not big on reailty shows, but I just want to say I think that it's so sweet how much you (Dean) & Tori love your children. You are really great parents and your kids are adorable. I loved Tori on 90210 and I still watch her on the new one. I wish you guys all the happiness and support. P.S. Tori, you are a tolerant person, some of your "fans" take it a bit far and don't understant boundaries.

love ya

I am so sick of Dean and his constant complaining about HIS feelings and complaints! First he very rarely works and when he does have the occasional "Movie of the Week" we have to listen to "how much he misses his family". Then when he does have a day off, he goes to the track to ride. Now he's acting like a big baby to get rid of his bikes for the sake of his family. I love motorcycles and riding but if it wasn't for Tori, he wouldn't have squat much less a motorcycle. She works 3-4 jobs PLUS full time mom. GROW UP Dean and act like a man. Better yet, get a real job and man-up. You would not have what you currently have if you hadn't married Tori. And I mean the beautiful kids but also the houses, vacations, the beautiful children and everything else that she provides from all of her enterprises.

I would like to know if Tori has any kind of relationship with her brother,I remember him in 90210,..but just want to know why she doesn't mention him nor show him on her show??
I enjoy her show & she has always been my favorite on 90210 ,she seems very sweet & real person.

Tori & Dean love your show, watch it over and over again. To that person who claimed it's the worst reality show you have ever seen, then change the channel, no one is forcing you to watch it. You aren't too bright. And to the one that claims "monkey" is offensive, get over yourself, the show isn't about you.
Tori & Dean, keep up the good work. You both are awesome. Love Tori's jewlery line on HSN. I'm on the fence about the motorcycle issue. My husband and I are avid riders on and off road. Tough call.
Will continue to watch as long as you are on.

I absolutly loved Liams birthday party episode. I have a two year old who is turning 3 in Oct. When he saw Liams birthday cake he loved it. He is a very big fan of Cars. I would love to know where you guys got Liams birthday outfit and cake.
Isabel
Fresno,Ca.

Hey Tori and Dean I love your show and watch it every week and then some. I am so happy Tori is so brave and can talk openly about her relationship with her Mother. I am recently married and my husband and I want to have children, yet with being adopted and not having a "great" relationship with my adoptive mother I am so scared I will not share a motherly bond with my children. I love that Tori is brave enough to be vulnerable and share her fears about the same subject. Thank you so much, I feel that I can now do the same and not let the past repeat itself in mine and my child's life. Thanks again for all of your support!

Dean--

What kind of mic do you use that is attached to your computer for voiceovers? I have the opportunity to do some and was curious which brand to buy (I have a MAC) and if I need to put it next to padded walls of not.

Thanks

Jan--NYC

Dean--

What kind of mic do you use that is attached to your computer for voiceovers? I have the opportunity to do some and was curious which brand to buy (I have a MAC) and if I need to put it next to padded walls of not.

Thanks

Jan--NYC

Are you the Dean McDermott born in Toronto Ontario, Canada. Mother was Doreen and Father Dave, 3 sisters; Dale, Dawn and Danah ?

Dean--I don't think you should have given up bike riding. You need your own interests. Try a compromise. Go to a "normal" street bike that you can cruise around on. Maybe, Tori will see the safety and fun in this type of bike and she may ride with you.

Your whole family, which includes Patsy, is wonderfully sweet and loving.

I love the show.Tori and Dean tickle my heart. I'm 65, and love to watch young couples in love. Sure they have problems,thats what life is about, new challenges, reality. I think its great they share there giggles,tears,love. Thanks Tori & Dean

Dean - can you PLEASE help get this message to Tori!

My daughter has a rare syndrome - Aicardi Syndrome. (You can get information at www.aicardisydrome.org) When she was diagnosed at 4 months old, I was told not to expect her to live very long. She just celebrated her 11th birthday this past February.

July 9-11, 2010 the Aicardi Syndrome Foundation will be holding it bi-annual Family conference in Chicago, IL. I watch Tori's show, have read her 1st book and am about to read her second, watched her on 90210, etc. Needless to say I am a huge fan. However, I am also an admirer of her skills of juggling such a busy career and being a good wife and mom.

Many of our mom's have to juggle careers, non-disabled siblings, doctors' appointments, etc. (For example, personally, I am a teacher, attending college working on my doctorate, being a soccer and volleyball mom to my 17 year old son, taking my daughter to various appts -she has 5 different doctors, and trying to find time for myself.)

I think that Tori would be an excellent role model to have at our "Mother's Tea" that weekend. The conference is actually an informational type conference with breakout sessions on different topics that affect our daughters (the syndrome only affects girls). However, next year we would like to have our first "Mother's Tea". I thought that Tori would be the perfect guest for that. The day of the weekend and time could revolve around her schedule - we would just be honored to have her.

Gay husband is a term that a lot of peopel use--Tori didn't steal it from the "The Real Housweives Show"...duh, where are you from St. Olaf or Eastern Jibip?

any idea if and when a box set for all seasons will be released?

love the show, but can you please stop calling liam monkey, omgosh, as an african american, monkey is not a word to use, and to call your child that is awful.. so reconsider it for the next season.

everytime i watch your show it's somewhat scary...our lives seem to be running parallel. my husband and i started dating in April 2005, married in August 2006, has a son Dalton May of 2007, had another son Donovan August 2008. Dalton loves broccoli, we occasionally call him monkey because he climbs on EVERYTHING! We are madly in love and Dalton is definitely a daddy's boy. he loves mommy though (when he's sick or in trouble). And my husband is a workaholic so our family time is very precious! Good luck with terrible two's....there supposed to pass....at least that's what the grandparents say!

Hooray for you Dean....you put your family first. That's what true men do. Thanks for being a man!!!

Tori and Dean,
I love your show. YOu guys are the perfect couple and absolutely made for each other. Dean, I am so proud of you that you did what was best for your family and let the motorcycle thing go. Everyone has an opinion and while some may say it was not the macho thing to do - it's not thier life and family at stake. And it showed Tori how much you really care about how she feels. You are her Prince Charming. And props to Tori for not demanding that the motorcycle go. The way to a man's heart is not through threats, it's through love which you obviously have. You guys are awesome parents and always put the family first, something we all should learn from. You are truely the face of the new ideal American family. Congrats!

Has anyone else noticed that every episode seems to consist of:
• both Tori and Dean whining because there's too much to do
• Tori whining because her career is too hot for her to spend enough time with her family
• One really uncomfortable reference to their sex life
• Tori using some term for gays that came from another reality show ('my gays' from kathy griffin, 'my gay husband' from real housewives)
• One very obvious producer-written scene where one of then "surprises" the other on-set
• Dean talking about how much he loves/values his wife and then acting like a TOTAL selfish prick:
- flirting with another woman (scuba diver)
- buying a new motorcycle
- being too tired and backing out of a trip somewhere with tori at that last minute

I mean, seriously, look at the life she's given him... wouldn't you think he'd be a LITTLE more considerate?

Tori and Dean, I love watching your show, I think it's great how you guys try to keep the family together no matter what! that's hard to do, you even take Patsy with you, I know she helps out with the kids but I also know that you guys think of her as part of the family. I loved how you handle that "CRAZY" nah "LUDACRIS" fan, when she asked you about Kelly and you said she's out with Brandon I couldn't help but laugh, she also said she haven't seen you in anything, ah! hello what about all the cameras!... anyway I love your family you guys are very lucky you found each other, Dean adores you and you adore him, I love the fact that you nickname you kids "monkey and lady bug" so cute!!! Hope you guys come back for another season... Tori "stori telling" was the first book I have ever read entirely, I'll leave mommywood for when I have my own kids. Keep doing you thing your family is beautiful, good luck with your surgery PAts!

Hi dean's Blog! Please don't give up your passions-or you will regret it! Trust me-been there-done that! terry-

Tori & Dean,
I can definitely see both sides of the motorcycle issue. As a wife, I would be terrfied if my husband raced on any motorized vehicle. However, it seems like Dean needs to be involved in a sport to relieve stress. I love your show so don't get upset about this comment Tori. Tori has her friends around her all the time to confide in. Even her guy friends that are guys still have a female point of view if you know what I mean. I think Dean needs to be around straight guys sometimes to do guy things. These guys are also the ones who understand his point of view. It seems he's a bit out numbered most of the time. That said, Safety is key here. There's got to be a sport that he can be passionate about that doesn't put his life on the line every time he does it. But, Tori needs to allow Dean to lighten up a bit. The manly man side of Dean is probably one of the sides of Dean that made him so iresistable. Men need an element of danger in their lives to feel like a man. Maybe Dean could make a list of potential sports that he feels he could participate in that can meet the "need for speed". You both make a great couple. Understanding each other's needs and wants will just cement your marriage. I have a daughter and a son about Tori and Dean's age. I'm not a counselor, but, there's alot to be said for experience. I find myself feeling maternal for the same age as my children. I guess it's just part of being a mom for so long. Tori or Dean, If you feel the need for a unbiased listener, send me an e-mail.

Love watching the show! You are both awesome people and great parents. Thanks for sharing your life with us. Tori, you were amazing with that "fan" on tonight's episode. When she asked you about Kelly (90210), and you said you were going to meet up with her later, I about fell off the couch laughing. And Dean, you and Liam in the playhouse outside was so sweet and funny. "It's a great place to come and poop your pants." Hilarous! My mom loves the show too. Thanks again for sharing your life on camera.

Hey Dean - time to grow a pair! (not to mention time to tell that guy to myob and leave your wife alone!)

i just cant believe this show is still on...this is the worst reality show i have ever seen...tori looks sooo bad...nothing but skin and bones and them fake boobs look like crap especially with her weight...this is the worst acting i have ever seen....

Tori & Dean;

I think that you should really talk about the motorcycles!!! ,you can get hurt anywhere, walking, runnig,etc. you can also get hurt if you eat a lot of certain foods around here. if you go on thinking negative , then that negativity is going to show up sooner than you think. since Tori is afraid and also she is kind of right ( you have 2 little ones) why not try desert trail ridding, that is something that the whole family can participate( even the little ones), here in california there is a lot of places in the desert that families go to and camp out in their motorhomes and ride in the trails, you can pic your own harder to go places or easier ones, once she sees the 3 year old boys or girls ridding their 2wheel minibikes or quads, she may get it that is not so bad.It is not like seing you go 100 miles an hour on an ama course. my 5year old rides one quad and my wife sometimes rides a quad too. she kind of thought like Tori some time ago, but once she saw all those familes ridding as a family she was totally ok just take your motor home so that you may all have the comforts of a home. Dan; give it a try. good luck make that a family thing and you will enjoy the camping thing with your kids(what kid does not like camping!!, they will always rememner that)

Dean

I know it was a hard decision to make to give up a sport that you really enjoyed and are very passionate about. Sometime we have to make hard decisions in our lives for the good of out families. It just goes to show your great strength of character and the love you have for your family. I also see how much it pains you to walk away from something you really love.
On the other had I wish there was a way that you and Tori come to some compromise. I personally would not totally give up on the idea. If it is something that make you happy inside. There should be a way for Tori to accept your decision to keep with the sport.

I have a tendency of seeing both sides and agreeing with both points. But on this one I am on your side. Good Luck

Dean,

Everyone needs an outlet, but there are plenty where your safety is not at risk and that will not cause undue stress and anxiety to your partner. You did the right thing. I too have found the love of my life after a bad first marriage, and I recognize that marrying at 40, we won't have 60 years together like if we had met when we were younger. We have to recognize that our time together will be all too short and we have to protect and cherish that time fiercely.

I love the show and watch it each week with my 14 year old daughter, 19 year old niece and my (sometimes reluctant) 42 year old husband. I can't wait for Tuesday each week!

i think Dean needs to right a book! something along the lines of being the greatest husband and father ever! or maybe just give my boyfriend a call and give him some pointers! your great with tori. i also overreact and stress and get anxious and i would love for my significant other to respond the same way you do. its very comforting.

i also just have to comment on your gorgeous kids. Liam looks EXACTLY like Tori and stella looks EXACTLY like Dean. i love watching both of their characters grow.

your show keeps me very entertained. even though i am not married or any kids i can relate alot to you guys as a couple. its great.

Dean,

I think you made a mistake giving up racing. You are honestly safer on the racing bike then most people are in a car. I have been into racing my whole life. Every form of racing I love. I started racing a few years ago and I really needed it. It is a great way to get out your aggressions. If you don't have an outlet, you are going to start venting on Tori. I would hate to see you guys fight. You guys are perfect.

Hey Dean and Tori!! I love your show! I just wanted to say something about the bike racing. My husband races stock cars, he's not in Nascar but his car is very similar. It scares the #&@% out of me. I worry every week when he races. We have two wonderful beautiful daughters. we would all be lost without him and i feel entirely the same was as Tori, I could not do this without my husband, however every week I'm there routing him on. It's nerve racking and it makes me crazy. But i let him do it. Because it's something that he wants to do and loves. and i don't want to run his life or make choices for him . If i had a choice he wouldn't be doing it. Sooo I'm very glad that Dean made the choice on his own to quit. I hope eventually my husband makes that same choice. You have a great marriage and family. one more thing i think it's kinda cute that Liam freaks at his cakes, can't wait to see next years b-day, to cute!!!

I just watched your show for the first time and felt compelled to write and say how hilarious you two are. Such cool people with the right attitude to raising kids. Tori, I particularly loved the way you handled the crazed fan... keep up the good work!

I watch your show all the time and I understand that giving up something you love is hard. I have been noticing that you like hobbies that get your heart pumping. So I thought I would make a suggestion that Tori may not mind.

Paintball. Paintball is an exciting, heart pumping sport. It is also very safe.

I just wanted to make that suggestion because I think you would love it.

Dean,

I am so glad you have given up the motorcycle racing. I know it is hard for you, but take it from a person that has been in an motorcycle accident (not our fault)and almost lost my leg. I had a 5 1/2 month old son and the time and can't even imagine doing something that could cause my son to grow up without one of his parents. You made the right decision and I am sure Tori loves you all the more for it.

Keep the faith, you will find a hobby that you can love, but still allow you to be safe. It might be something as simple as coaching soccer for a team that Liam is on. Do something that you can teach your son and daughter, it can be the legacy you leave them.

Michelle

Tori and Dean,
I just recently started watching your show and I was a fan of Melrose place (your dad) and of course I watched from time to time 90210 (I was a bit old for that show).
I have been married for almost eleven years now and I have three beautiful boys ages 9,8 and 3. Yes all boys...lol and My husband Edward and I still are learning with them as they grow every day believe it not...it's not easy to be a working mom,wife,daughter and friend and everything in between...lol anyhow I just wanted to let you both know that you are doing a wonderful job with both of your children. Tori you are a very strong and giving person and add to that a perfect mom! Because of your personal experiences with your own family don't dought yourself.
You show your kids that you love them and you are there with them every step of the way. And that is what makes you a perfect mom, you show and give love...they are blessed to have you and you are blessed to have them!
Positive thinking and purity in the heart is always god for the soul....you both have that.
I will continue watching your show. You both are doing it the right way, the honest and true way for your children. thank you.